After a period of introspection and working hard on myself, I'm about to get back into dating around and seeing people

You're welcome, man. Just be a bit careful in the dating scene. Never ever have sex on the first date, keep the conversation rolling, and always split the bill. The other anons, although vulgar, aren't wrong. STDs are a real threat and gay men have them at a much higher rate than every other group.

>Never ever have sex on the first date
Why do you say this?

Mainly because it's a precaution and arguably common sense. A lot of information is withheld on the first date, especially regarding health. The most attractive person you met could be bugged and either too apathetic comprehend that they are a walking health hazard or possess enough malice to ruin others.
Personally I find the idea of sleeping around amoral and disgustingly hedonistic. I'd rather share that sort of experience with a person I intend on sharing my life with. Patience is a virtue and all that.

Just be polyamorous and date both. You don't have to choose if you don't want to.

Woman here
I truly hope you disclose this on your profile in some way. It is something potential partners would want to know about you. It will certainly limit your dating pool to women who are more open minded, but that's better tham dating someone who isn't open minded and then being promptly dumped after disclosing that you're bi.

It only seems that people are "out there" with their sexual preferences because straight/monogamous is default so it doesn't need to be mentioned

>You don't have to choose if you don't want to.
My lady. I already know :). Thank you for the encouragement.
>I truly hope you disclose this on your profile in some way.
I go back and forth about it - hence the advice thread.

On one hand, most dates or encounters whatever you call them don't end in a nice, trusting relationship. You know how most end - one night stands, it not working out, etc. etc. And since I wear condoms, get tested regularly, and am responsible, they're already protected.

So it seems a bit harsh to myself to put myself out there to get metaphorically beat on like people like this when I'm already doing what I need to be doing to protect the people I'm with.

I do more to protect people than most hetero people I've ever met.

So why put myself through all of that bullshit and drama when I'm responsible and we're not going to go far anyway?

I would prefer to tell the truth upfront... but why do that to myself? Because people are ignorant? That's not a good reason for me.

Do people tell me all the times they took black dick bareback before me? No. Do people tell me when the last time they were tested was? No.

Most hetero people I've ever met don't do jack shit to protect their partner besides pretend they don't have to.

>I'm a bisexual male. That seems to turn a large portion of the population away from considering me.

I am bi, and every girl I have ever told has been into it.

No you are being realistic and as open and up front with prosprctive partners. Good for you user, perhaps easing it in as a conversational reference may break the ice. If you can work it in that you are a bi Male (when talking about x number of relationships or dating history..I had a boyfriend...etc) but dont make a big deal out of it. If they question you further it opens up an even more intimate conversation.

Honorable user. My husband did the same and I love him. Was honest, I trust him explicitly because he shared that part of himself. Knowing full well I may have rejected him.

>this is a common myth not based in actual fact.
Is that why groups like the Human Rights Campaign go out of their way to highlight HIV infection as a problem with a "disproportionate impact on segments of the LGBTQ community" because of the staggering 1-in-6 infection rate among gay and bisexual men?

>hrc.org/resources/hrc-issue-brief-hiv-aids-and-the-lgbt-community

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And while we're at it.

>To be Jow Forums about it.... But they get barebacked by black men sooooo what's the difference?
From the same page (which, I emphasize, is published by people who are deeply concerned for the well-being of homosexuals, not right-wing conspiracy theorists):
>For Latino and Black men who have sex with men, the rates are in 1 in 4 and 1 in 2, respectively.
Statistically speaking, yes actually, getting barebacked by black guys is kinda a bad idea.

I'm not having one night stands or dating outside of my race so I'm probably not the kind of girl you go for. Carry on

Please feel free to review the science of the Center for Disease Control to your heart's content.

>cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/overview/ataglance.html
You can review the 200+ pages of reports in the bibliography if you wish, and if you really want to dive deep on the numbers the reports themselves can refer you to further state & local resources about the data collected.

>You don't have to choose if you don't want to.
But the suspicion that he may or may not want to choose is a big part of the whole reason why people are uneasy about dating bisexuals in the first place. Especially among gays, where the big question is often, "Can I really count on him to be faithful, and not just decide he wants to focus on a 'normal' life/family with a woman?"

The OP is expressing an anxiety about feeling like he appeals to what might be a narrow niche of people who won't be put-off by his bisexuality, and your suggestion is basically that he consider confirming other people's fears and try to squeeze himself into the decidedly *narrower* niche of people who aren't put off by the whole "poly" thing. That seems pretty self-evidently to not address his fundamental concern at all, don't you think?

But I guess a good poly enthusiast will never pass up on a chance to lobby for their cause.

Well thank you for following up, and I appreciate the statistics.

My response would be that while it is a fact that the percentage of gay and bi men that have AIDS is larger than heterosexual populations, the same resources explain why:
>Most gay and bisexual men get HIV from having anal sex without using condoms
>aidsinfo.nih.gov/understanding-hiv-aids/fact-sheets/25/81/hiv-and-gay-and-bisexual-men
Obvious solution here... wear a fucking condom yeah?

So wouldn't you agree that the *individual's sexual habits* are more important than the status of *being* gay or bisexual?

So on one hand, yes, I completely concede that the gay community has a greater percentage of people with AIDS... but can you also agree that it's because of behavior and not their status as being gay?

Which would mean that an individual's behavior is the most important thing to judge yes regardless of their sexual orientation.

I was not clear in my "that's a myth" shit. That's what I mean by "it's a myth" - it's a myth that it matters that they're gay because it in fact completely depends on how they use condoms.

Thank you for the advice and sharing. Good to hear about successful relationships concerning this. Too much misunderstanding and negative press out there.

This is fantastic to hear. How sure are you that they're into it as opposed to being polite? If you're still around, would you mind sharing any stories of encouragement or times it worked out well?

Truth is, nobody wants to hear about your sexuality. If you're just hooking up, the other person doesn't have to know, and if you do get into a serious relationship where you want to tell them, they'll already have accepted you.

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>After a period of introspection and working hard on myself, I'm about to get back into dating around and seeing people.
Make sure you do but don't look desperate cause they'll run.