Girlfriend has a lousy attitude sometimes and seems to be under the impression that I'm wrong and she's right 100% of the time.
Today's episode: >Wake her up at 11am so I can see her before I leave for work >turns out she planned on sleeping in >Apologize, didn't know this and go about my day >She hangs with me anyway >despite getting almost 8 hours of sleep, she's "tired" and has a headache all day, is a total jerk to me over texts >Bitches that my phone call, which woke her up, is annoying just like all the others I call her over >they're typically me calling her to make sure she made it home after she leaves my place at night, only after she hasn't told me she's safe over 20 minutes later despite my texts asking >Insists on me being sorry, wants me to feel as bad as she does >Even tells me I should hurt myself to atone for it >She apologized at the end of the day while also affirming she doesn't take any of it back but is still sorry
The option to break up is not on the table. I want creative solutions to deal with this kind of behavior. In general I don't even like her as much after she does things like this and it takes me a few days to get back to normal. Thankfully I stayed calm this time and just laughed at it privately while I got hateful texts at work.
>Bitches that my phone call, which woke her up, is annoying just like all the others I call her over >they're typically me calling her to make sure she made it home after she leaves my place at night, only after she hasn't told me she's safe over 20 minutes later despite my texts asking
wow you sound like a really nice dude wtf is wrong with your gf
Carson Cooper
Pretty sure she got spoiled by her parents or something, don't know where she gets this shit from. She likes to tell me how much better she is than me and how much I'm a bad guy when she gets this attitude, but I realized I don't care anymore because I am superior in a number of categories and don't need to be insecure about my qualities, good or bad. I know how valuable I am.
Gf is sadly very similar. I strongly believe it’s because she is insecure as most humans are. I am about shit too but don’t display as such. At least not with her or my relationship with her, anyways just stick to ur guns and use effective communication. I am in a similar boat, at times I do fucking hate her, I’m sticking it out and I don’t know if it’s worth it but god she has awful manners and acts like a fucking brat. We are all gonna make it bros.
Eli Anderson
Why isn't breaking up an option? It doesn't seem like this behavior will change if it something that she learned for some many years during her childhood development. I don't know man, sounds like it might not be worth it to stick with forever.
Sebastian Edwards
>option to break up is not on the table
So you’re a masochist that enjoys being treated like shit
She may be BPD or have another shitty personality disorder. Will probably get worse as time goes on.
Nathaniel Cox
She might just be cranky in the morning, some people are like that. She does seem rude not wanting to make a formal apology especially when all you're wanting to do is check up on her.
Elijah Jenkins
I will say that immediately after this incident unfolded and I got to work, I apologized sincerely and told her I'd never call her for a wake up again so it wouldn't repeat in the future. I firmly believe that I handled it appropriately but eventually as she kept whining I fucked up by saying "maybe you shouldn't have gone to bed at 3, then"
Either way, she suffered more today, I didn't really find it anything other than embarrassing for her. I just want creative fixes. She can be nice and giving but also takes a lot in return so it's not fair to say she's giving more than she gets. I just also try to have a life, even while giving her all my days off and then some.
Jordan Gomez
I know its annoying when my boyfriend wakes me up to go get him downstairs from my apartment gate, so I would understand what she would get upset. But if she's continuously bringing it up and whining, I think it might be a cover-up for something more serious. Some girls do try to find minor things to complain about in a relationship to try to deteriorate the relationship.
I think you did the right thing about telling her you won't call in the mornings anymore and giving her heads up if you want to hang before work/etc, but also you should tell her that you don't appreciate the drawn out argument and ask if there is something else bothering her.
Andrew Sullivan
>wake up at 11 am >she wanted to sleep in What the fuck? That is sleeping in. Any later than that and most of the day is gone. Dump the bitch, if this keeps up you'll have a hamplanet wife that lays in bed all day and bitches at you
Thomas Reyes
>Even tells me I should hurt myself to atone for it
Dude. Dump her.
Anthony Smith
She sounds mentally ill and you are a cuck.
Enjoy
Henry Adams
Time to break up, that shit is only going to get worse.
Elijah Wilson
>Girlfriend has a lousy attitude sometimes and seems to be under the impression that I'm wrong and she's right 100% of the time. That's a stance, it's basically how she's establishing her position in your couple, if you allow it or don't debate it she'll be the boss of the relationship.
Xavier Walker
Dude, literally just ignore her. Stop being such a good little beta and stop giving so much of a fuck. If she doesn't let you know she got home safe, what are you going to do, go out in the night and search for her corpse? She doesn't need a dad. My eyes almost rolled 360° reading your post.
Mark my words, the second you grow some balls and start ignoring her she will start coming to you wanting more attention. "Why don't you check up on me anymore user?" This is what you want to hear. Literally do anything except feeding her validation and attention as it's clearly lowering her respect and attraction for you.
Final point: women are always going to be bitches part of the time. Whether that's PMS, mood swings, or actual reasons to be pissed off. You need to get used to it and stop being affected by it. Just say "k smell you later" and go do something productive. The only time you should be arguing with your woman is when you need to put her in her place, preferably followed by a nice hatefuck.
Evan Wright
>The option to break up is not on the table. I want creative solutions to deal with this kind of behavior. Relationships don't work like this. There's nothing creative to do to make her want to act differently. She's not interested in you and is pushing you away. If you love her so much break up with her and let her find someone else she wants to be with and treat better.
Ian Cox
DESU my housemate wakes me up every fucking day with some pointless nonsense and I want to strangle him. Don't fuck with people in the morning if they aren't morning people. Just don't do it.
Do this.
Michael Watson
If you want things to get better you have to stick to your boundaries. If she acts out, yell at her and make get feel insecure in the relationship. Don't take any shit. If she insults you over the phone, hang up and tell her you'll talk tomorrow instead. Don't answer any more texts from her that day. She'll be pissed as hell, but will calm down in time. If she feels her relationship is threatened, she will behave better. Unfortunately there is no painless way to do this, op. And even worse, it will never go away, it will just get a little better over time. You have to ask yourself if you can live like this.
T. Had two girls like this, and the constant fighting and stepping on egg shells killed whatever affection that existed eventually.
Julian Thompson
You're a very kind person but that doesn't mean you have to take shit from her. When she's emotionally abusive, you tell her and hang up the phone, or leave, but without being mean. If you get a chance to give her a talk that she'll listen to (not necessarily easy task) tell her about the behaviour that's unacceptable, and tell her to expose your behaviour that's not okay and she doesn't want you to do. If she doesn't give you an answer tell her to think about it long and hard because when the problems are not identified they can't go away except by accidents - and those don't happen.
Jackson Cook
Sounds like sociopathy or bipolar. Dodge, bruh.
Angel Howard
Not everyone is a morning person OP
Isaac Foster
women get mad if you have sex with them but don't give anything in return. here's an idea. give your gf 20 dollars every time you have sex with them. that will make them happy.
