I'm in love with my best friend, but she's in a relationship. I've known her for years and years...

I'm in love with my best friend, but she's in a relationship. I've known her for years and years, and she's been having trouble with her boyfriend, and she comes to me for advice. I genuinely value her friendship and just want her to be happy. But I'm honesty think I love her in a romantic sexual way.. Am I an asshole? A moron? What should I do?

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ask her for a fugg you fucking faggot

what's up with all these dudes having female best friends today
is it really such a common thing?

Welp
Friends support each other
If you love someone, you try to get closer
If you like someone with a bf, you respectfully get away or wait for your turn
If you have a friend with bf problems, you try to help
If you love your best friend but she has a bf, then you make a movie out of it, followed by comedy, drama and never a broken heart
Sorry, your problem needs a personal solution, do whatever you seem right

sounds like you can just wait it out desu. dont try to fuck her while she has a boyfriend

I was there, amazing girl. Weirdo guy. Always telling me her problems because I understood her. Flirting occasionally. She never told me the good parts, because she knew I didn't want to here that. So I never understood why she wanted them and not me. The answer is cause they were hot.

>and she's been having trouble with her boyfriend, and she comes to me for advice
you never had a chance with her romantically if she does this. I'm not trying to be a debby downer or some shit either, I've been there a few times and if a girls doing that to you they don't view you as "threatening" enough to worry about romantically

My best friend is a girl, I feel like I can open up to her and she does the same for me. One time she got real drunk and asked me to spank her, I said yes and we ended up fucking for 3 hours. Girl best friends are the best.

I’m a girl who has had this situation happen. Wait your turn, after the relationship is over continue to be a good friend. However, if she doesn’t start to show signs that she likes you please do not abandon her

Notice that you're seeing the threads asking about problems related to the friendships. Whether it's common or not is beside the point--it's still degenerate and a bad situation waiting to happen.

I would tell her how you feel. Just staying friends and setting boundaries might help. You can't control how she feels, and it might not work out. But living with regret is shitty too.

YOU
ARE
AN
ORBITER

This is just your place in the world. Enjoy being a cold lump of rock that never touches the object it constantly circles. If you were going to get with her sexually it would have happened a long time ago. I can tell from your picture and the fact you posted this thread that you are a long way off from being viewed sexually. The more she leans on you for advice, the lower her attraction for you becomes. This is old instinctual law, the same law that keeps you begging for her attention and makes you want to protect her despite getting nothing out of the deal.

My only advice is to separate yourself from her emotionally, focus on self improvement, and start dating other women because that's the only way you'll ever change her opinion of you. But by the time it works, you'll be dating a better girl and won't want her anymore. Ironic, isn't it?

Men and women cannot be friends

Kinda true
If I want to pursue a guy I avoid telling him anything about my relationship status, as I always have orbitters
I never bring up another guy to a guy I wanna be with

Now what I WILL say is that this could change when im single
Meaning someone i asked for advice before could be romantic interest in future

I asked a girl out a few weeks ago. She said "I have a boyfriend... but we can be (((friends)))" then she gave me her number. A few days after that she broke up with her boyfriend. Depending on the context, "friend" can be the end of the road or something else entirely, it's quite malleable. Women will do what they want to do.

Point is, I never orbited or even talked to her about her ex. I literally just told her "that's a pity" and within days she was all over me. I don't really believe that acting caring and giving thoughtful advice is ever going to make a girl wet. Never.

Ohhhhh
It mighta been a test to see if youd go the shitty route and try to talk her into a relationship/out of her current one

If you dont, it means you arent desperate
People arent desperate when they can handle their own needs
This is hot cause she dont have to mommy you

Also being thoughtful turns women on WHEN IT IS A CONTRAST TO OTHER PARTS OF YOUR PERSONALITY

My bf was thoughtful and it really surprised me because he gives no fucks about almost everything (lack of emotional reactivity is great for me because I have cptsd from abuse, thats not to say that not caring gets you laid)

So when he gave even a single half fuck about me I was flattered

Forget her. Everything else will fuck you up long term.

I wish "tfw no mommy gf" posters would get this through their skulls. Actually, no. Mo fa me.

Yeah absolutely. Caring doesn't mean shit when you care about every female or male that you meet on the street. It's too easily mistaken for weakness in a man. She's the emotional one, I'm the stoic one. She cries out for validation and if she's been good I'll give her some. Affection means so much more when it isn't handed out like condoms at an STD clinic.

My best friend is a girl, I also have other female close friends too.
We both had feelings for each other but at different times, I love her with all my heart.
However we had many arguments lately and that has complicated things quite a bit, but since yesterday it seems to be getting better.

Lotta cucks out there. Take a look, there's a general for it on /b/ at all times. Some men would honestly rather orbit forever than take a risk on being rejected.