My fiancée and I are suppose to be getting married in 4 months. We’ve been together for 5 years and everything has been great. Until yesterday. We are in the process of moving into a new home we just bought. So we’ve been packing up and moving our things almost everyday. Well yesterday I was filling up a box with random things and also had another box for trash. I was finding in her closet (I moved into her house when we got engaged). I ended up finding a flash drive laying on the floor in the corner of the closet. So I picked up the flash drive and put it into my computer to see if it worked or not. If it didn’t I would have put it in the trash pile. Well. It worked, and I discovered some really disgusting things. I saw 6 different video files and dozen of pictures of my fucking fiancée. They were videos and pictures of her having a threesome with two chads. I checked the date of the pictures and videos and this was from before we first met. So it isn’t like she cheated, but I am seriously fucking disgusted. I don’t even know what to say to her.
What the fuck do I do? I haven’t spoken with her since I found it. She has kept asking me why I’m being so quiet but I literally can’t voice words
So, she had previous sex encounter before you and filmed it And? You need to talk to her about it, or your marriage is already failing Dont ignore the problem, it disgusted you so much that you even stopped talking to her. Talk with her about it.
Caleb Lopez
>What the fuck do I do? have sex with her
Liam Carter
Look man you have to get over it - it's 2019. It doesn't matter if she's had chad's cum on her face, been in some BBC gangbang or sold pics of her feet, it's normal now. She's been through all this and chosen you! That's something special buddy, you must be a real catch.
Hudson James
dump her absolutely disgusting
Hudson Turner
She kept it on her drive, I think that's a problem.
Wyatt Rogers
Sounds kinky. So was she watching porn of herself or was she hoping to sell it? I'm sure you've done your fair of shade of weird shit yourself m8, I'd just use this as an opportunity to talk about those kinks only a married couple talks about
Samuel Gonzalez
Fucking disgusting. Let me give you some advice before you get married and literally ruin your fucking life. End the relationship right now.
Jacob Cruz
Have sex
Aiden Sullivan
The influx of false stories on adv, lately, is worrisome. > I ended up finding a flash drive laying on the floor in the corner of the closet. So I picked up the flash drive and put it into my computer to see if it worked or not. If it didn’t I would have put it in the trash pile. You oversold it, here. 2/10, you can do better.
Samuel Cox
Based schizo poster
Connor Price
This is the wise answer to this thread.
Jack Jenkins
I don’t know what to say I don’t feel special Honestly I don’t even think she knows even remember about the flash drive, because it was in a dust filled corner of her closet. It obviously has been there for a really long time.
Aaron Jones
I don't have the one single advice that will solve everything. But I can tell you a couple things
>I don’t feel special
Dude, she is marrying you. YOU. If that's not being special for her, I don't know what is.
>it was in a dust filled corner of her closet. It obviously has been there for a really long time.
So, she probably forgot it and/or wanted to forget it. You can either try to forget that too (HARD mode) OR talk to her about it (EXTREME mode).
Man, you are marrying a woman: I don't really believe in marriage, but that's not the point; I believe in staying true to the promises I make. And since you are going to make some serious promises during your marriage, you'd better clear this now, instead of growing grudge inside your own soul.
Jacob Howard
I don’t know how I can speak with her when I literally can’t speak when I’m around her now
Angel Ward
leave her so she can find a man who isn't a massively insecure pussy
Charles Turner
This, such a non issue
Oliver Bailey
Take this as a friend's advice, not as an insult:
Dude, if you can't talk to your own wife, how do you think your life will be?
What do you want to do? I see only two options
1)Marry her and keep not talking to her
2)Keep on not saying a word, and just disappear without saying "bye" before marriage
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If you choose not to talk to her, I don't see any other option. BUT, if you choose to talk to her, multiple options will unfold, which I can't realistically list here, because they depend mostly on what you and you woman will say to each other (which is unpredictable for me)
Lincoln Torres
>They were videos and pictures of her having a threesome with two chads Dump her, she's not marriage material. t. roasties and/or cucks
Jace Martinez
t. a little virginal faggot projecting his insecurities on to the fictional OP of an incel bait thread
Just push those words out of your mouth and the rest will come naturally, the less you think about it the better you will be able to express how you really feel. Don't think of a longer preamble, just push those basic 5 words out, let her react, and then say whatever comes out.
Seriously talk about it because you now have a huge chip on your shoulder and if you put off talking to her you're going to absolutely explode at her next time you're actually mad about something, and that will be much harder to recover from.
Samuel Hill
Yea wouldnt you want a wife who keeps dirty pictures of herself around and just the thought of them being there gets her all moist....and she then fucks you?? Better to have a kinky wife than a modest marcy who only fucks missionary and only every 3rd friday of the month.
Jack Sanders
t. cuck
Nathan Nguyen
First of all, Look at the file dating (last modify time, last write time, date created) and video meta-data if there is any, to see when, and how, they were made. Last modified time is likely the original creation date. That will allow you to gauge for infidelity.
Then, look to see if she was a pornstar at any point in her life which will give you an idea of how far she was into it and also why. You should know her past. If she was, I would probably introduce the fact you know that by calling her by her stage name while you're fucking her and she's tied up and ball gagged. That way you can say you bagged a porn star.
Lots of women get the fucking-around out of their system early on. People change, you can't judge them by their past. You should view this as an opportunity to understand this person better and then you can judge them.
William Sanders
>you can't judge them by their past You absolutely can. Your past decisions and actions are what define who you are.
Alexander King
>Lots of women get the fucking-around out of their system early on. Only worthless whores do it at all. Same applies to men. Who cares when they did it? The point is they did, and it's an unalterable testament to their degeneracy. I bet that OP was retarded enough to accept a woman willing to have premarital sex, and now he is faced with the consequences.
Aiden Cox
This is funny if I assume it is said sarcastically which I prefer to think
Luis Bailey
Update
>several hours after the OP >fiancée got home from work >I’m sitting at my desk in our home office trying to watch a YouTube video to relax >she came in, hugged me from behind and kissed me on the cheek >says “what are you watching?” >she looks at the desk and saw the flash drive sitting right infront of me >I could literally feel the air escape her lungs >literally starts saying “no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no” >grabs flash drive of the desk >threw it into the trash can very hard >and just broke down crying >she was in the guest room crying for hours >I think she finally fell asleep
I guess I didn’t have to talk to her about it afterall. But, I really don’t know what to do now, and I’m kind of scared of what will happen next. I think our next encounter tomorrow will be uncomfortable
Thomas Taylor
Have fun making a whore into a housewife, OP. Remember, she cried because she was caught. If she had a problem with it, she wouldn't have done it.
Julian Scott
I’m just going to assume it was something she regrets and forgot about. Obviously this flash drive had been sitting where I found it for many years. So maybe she forgot it existed.
But even still, I seriously don’t think I’m going to be able to marry her now. This is seriously making me sick. I actually threw up earlier from stress over this
Isaac Kelly
I wish you luck on your renewed search for a wife material gf breh
Carson Bailey
yeah i wouldn't get married to her, sorry man. to all these people who say it's insecurity, seriously? this is marriage we're talking about. and not even marriage, this is someone to start a family with, the whole point. she 1) did this shit 2) kept it 3) hid it OP to me this seems like it's different from your own personal morals. that's the whole point. i think a marriage can only truly work if the two partners are on the same page with morals, principles. It's not even about which morals or for what reasons (religious or otherwise), it's just a matter of them being different between partners. if you can look at the other person and say - this is the soul i trust with my LIFE. after something like this happens you can't exactly say that shit. god knows what else she did and hid from you, sexual or otherwise. this is serious shit man.
Luke Taylor
I think I’m done with women. I can’t do this again
Aiden Campbell
My deepest condolences, OP. >I actually threw up earlier from stress over this My dude, I don't blame you for that. I doubt any but the most hardened degenerates would The silver lining, if there is any in a situation like this, is that you found out before you were tied down to someone like her. For the sake of your sanity, call off the wedding--it won't get better, and frankly it shouldn't. I know this will seem really fucked up, but for the time being, you should consider keeping that usb. Your ex-fiance might try to raise hell over the wedding being cancelled, and if anyone gives you a hard time for it, you'll have the evidence. Nobody would blame you if you wanted to smash that thing to bits, but if you're going to be sickened anyway, you might as well use it to get yourself away from the whole thing faster.
I can only imagine what it would do to my mental state if I found something like you did.
Owen Gomez
i don’t expect her to retaliate against me, she’s a level headed woman, so I don’t expect her to go crazy. Just with how she is, I think she’s just going to surrender to whatever I decide I want to do. So when I call it off, she will probably just go into deep sadness and depression, but I don’t think she will flip and try to cause trouble. Based off her reaction when she saw the flash drive. She knows she fucked up.
But yes. I am sick. It’s past midnight and I have to be up for work in 5 hours. Which, sleep isn’t about to happen
Ayden Sullivan
>She kept a USB drive of her getting plowed by several guys >There's 6 fucking videos with a collage of photographs >This isn't simply dashed away and buried, it's been kept, almost cherished like some twisted memory Honestly, if I was in your shoes I would just cancel everything. Sure, it's one thing to do such activities but it's another to keep holding onto it like it's got sentimental value. What purpose does having the USB hold? Is she going to show it off to friends? Is she still promiscuous, or does she look at the files for a reminder of her past (whatever she's changed or not is another thing all together)
As another user has mentioned, since you've viewed the files you won't be able to see the last time the files were viewed, which can be annoying since you cannot find evidence against your fiance that absolves her of actually forgetting it.
I feel sorry for you pal, but the next thing you'll have to do is see if you can stomach being with your wife after witnessing what she did. If you want to stick through it, it'll probably be best to get though all the kinks and reasoning behind it. Don't accept 'I was young and dumb' since that's just a reason to drop her
Best of luck pal
Luke Martin
>she’s a level headed woman Not to beat the point to death, but a level-headed woman doesn't whore herself out on camera, let alone save it. Cover your ass is all I'm saying. If you don't end up needing it, throw it off a bridge.
I hope you aren't living together. If you have your own place, maybe you could adopt a doggo to take care of and take your mind off of everything.
Ayden Rodriguez
Well it’s clear that she hasn’t touched the flash drive for years. It was in the corner of her closet in a pile of Ethernet cables and an old keyboard and mouse. All of it was covered in dust and it was obviously a junk pile. I’m living at her house... and as I said in the OP. We literally just bought a new home together. We are in the process of moving into it now...
You said 'we are in the process of moving' in the OP, I was thinking that you might still have somewhere to go. I really hope you can cancel the purchase and get out of there.
Aaron Perez
Maybe she wasn’t aware it was there. I don’t know. I mean, she knew I was cleaning out her closet. If she knew it was there, i imagine she would have hid it or dealt with it prior
Chase Murphy
Cool story
Joshua Ross
It's normal to try and rationalise this and create an elaborate scenario in which it makes sense that she's genuinely forgot it. You'd destroy that kind of content if you didn't want anyone to know
Moving on, I think the better thing to do is interrogate her about it. Sure, it'll be painful but just get it out of the way before you commit
Jaxon Hughes
hahaah what the fuck is wrong with women
Oliver Carter
I think this an ironic post. Hmm..
Wyatt Smith
>before you commit There's nothing left to commit to besides getting the hell out of there.
Connor Lee
OP's got a mortgage he probably co-signed with the whore tho
OP the way things look I assume you should listen to what she has to say but take it with a grain of salt. 1. If you decide you want to try and work through this call her on the phone instead of face to face if you feel uncomfortable talking with her and well tell her what went through your head when you say this [if this success personally make sure this people won't be a problem to you] 2. Well if you're gonna don't feel fine being with a woman who's done this type of thing, perfectly understandable, just copy the pictures so just incase she tries to manipulate the situation to make it seem you are at fault [OP most of the anons here are single myself included and it would be better for you to see someone who's experienced in this like a love advisor or something]
> love advisor Those types are very often completely full of shit, spouting stuff like "getting cheated on can make your relationship stronger". It's emotional masochism to put OP through any effort to 'repair' a mess he didn't cause after his dreams were unceremoniously shredded and dumped into a cesspit.
Gabriel Rivera
You can opt out in the first 20 days typically
Tyler Flores
Man lucky break! Dump her asap!
William Carter
op seriously just talk to an actual person about this, or if worse just post it on one of the advice Reddits. Most fags on this subreddit don’t care about women’s well beings and would be ok if you called her a cheating whore at the beginning of this thread
>the past doesn't matter only the future the past creates the future.
Christopher Price
Why are you literally disgusted, the video itself or the fact that she threesomes with two Chad's
Jason Smith
>tfw had porn actor career in the past and my fiancée found out about it in similar circumstances - bonus some gay videos too Aaah, brings back memories. OP is such a melodramatic weiner. Muh I threw up in stress bit is top kek.
Jordan Watson
I feel you OP. This shit is fucked, don't let this cuckold faggots tell you otherwise. You must confront your wife about this and demand to know why she kept it. Then teach her a lesson.
William Moore
I'd suggest you end it. She sounds like an Impulsive thrill seeker
Chase Powell
>imagine being so cucked you are OK with your wife being a porn whore who fucked multiple guys (at the same time) B4 you Lmao if you guys Dong start boycotting trash like that they will actually belive this is normal
Carson Powell
You're wife is a filth Whore; Fact.
Do the world a favor and smack that cunt
Adam Jenkins
Everyone knows not to put a strange flashdrive into your puter
Never i have heard such a cuck statement in my life , so she was whoring around in her younger years been in threesome's and now she got a dork who ask about this on Jow Forums really? Who probably hit the wall.and now wants to seatle down she probablly still cheats on him fkn cuck like you are disgusting ,,oh what if she was in gangbangs , and had 30+ men now that shes wasted wants a stupid cuck to take care of her . Yea hes a real catch op try to fond out if she cheats on you, im certain she does
Asher Johnson
It's over. Find a new woman.
Juan Howard
She deserves to feel ashamed for a month or two. Drop her.
My dude, this is the shit that keeps me from ever viewing women as human. She's obviously fine being used and abused. The only option for keeping your "relationship" together is to simply use her as a sex object and baby maker. If you wanted or expected something deeper than that you're out of luck and I think you know that. It's good to see the cucks telling you to stay with and respect this whore getting btfo'd. Stay strong, op
John Thompson
Do you really want your wife, and the future mother of your children, to be some ho who got gangbaned by chads and kept the evidence? Drop her ass like a rock
>fiancée confronted me before I left for work this morning >she looked like a disaster, I think she was crying literally the entire night >she tells me she has never lied to be >but does admit she did stretch the truth >she had previously admitted to me when we first started dating that she had 1 short term FWB when she was 21 >she had told me that was the only casual sex she experienced >all other partners were boyfriends (which there was only 2 others if you include one from her high school years) >tells me she stretched the truth because she was terrified how I would react since she already knew that I was not a fan of her having a past FwB >explains to me that her FwB partner has a mfm fetish, and he convinced her to let his friend fuck her with him >she did it and they wanted to tape it >I guess a few weeks later her FwB ended up being her next boyfriend and they were together for almost 2 years. >sometimes when they would be in bed together he would put on the videos of their threesome to watch before having sex >they ended up having a bad break up and she kicked him out of the house and threw all of his things outside >she swore she had gotten rid of that flash drive and was shocked it was still in her house
I don’t think she’s lying. But I still feel sick. I can’t unsee what I saw in the pictures
Carter Miller
hahaha dude dump that sorry ass bitch. She deserves it
Cameron Murphy
she's lying to you. She did not misplace that flash drive, you were just never meant to find it. Let her go, man.
Mason Mitchell
How do you know
Jose King
That’s a dileberate hiding place
Samuel Stewart
But it was with a pile of old electronic junk
Isaac Cruz
Would YOU just forget what that was when you put it there? She’s a self admitted liar.
Nathaniel Green
Well it depends, what if it was placed in the electronic pile before they broke up or in the middle of it and she forget to throw that stuff out
Robert Reyes
Stop coping OP. Your fiancée is a whore. Ditch her.
Easton Young
She lied to you man. It’s one thing to do some shit in the past and not bring it up, it’s another to intentionally obscure the truth like she did. Do you really want to marry someone who lied to you? I personally couldn’t believe what she told you after this, especially when her motivation to lie in the first place was out of her fear of the consequences. Really seems like you are trying to rationalize all this because you don’t want to deal with the headache of cancelling everything and finding a new place.
Juan Wilson
Like we said, it's over. Stop updating us, and update your mortgage by backing out
Mason Evans
Get the fuck out now. Call off work, call me the bank, call the state. You've got more important things to set straight
Evan Bennett
Nobody forgets about something like that unless they do it often.
Owen James
I just have two things.
Are you surprised about her having a threesome? If not then you knew and it didn't matter and about to marry. If you are surprised she had a threesome you should have done more investigating when you first met.
The second thing that should be your major concern. Other people also posses these videos. She obviously had no plan to distribute them but the two guy may already have or watch with friends for a laugh.
Dominic Green
You’re god damn right I was surprised. >should have done more investigating into what? There wasn’t much for me to dig into. Plus I didn’t have any suspicions. She does not strike me at all as that type of girl. She wears her head on her shoulders and she surrounds herself with smart friends
Liam Gomez
Based and updatepilled
Well nigga she settling for you and your prime ability to pay for a mortgage. Up to you if you can somehow live this down in time, damned be the consequences of whether she loves you more or thinks she can get away with more, or you just leave her right now and move on completely.
But she lying tho. I can remember the lingerie ad I stashed in textbooks I hid nearly two decades ago and only keep now for sentimental reasons. She didn't forget about it.
Whatever you do, you can't love or trust her the same way. And you really oughta consider if you want too cosign a mortgage with someone you need to treat like shit. Because she has lied to you, again.
Samuel Bennett
listen to yourself you fucking cuck. in any case, this is going to eat away at you and eventually erode your relationship. Either drop her or wallow in your misery.
Henry Hall
>She does not strike me at all as that type of girl Ok I get it but next time you can be more careful. A proclivity for threesomes is generally common knowledge if you ask around. I know you assumed the best but.......you got a kinky girl masquerading as a good girl.
Anyway someone else has those videos
Mason Harris
why is everybody telling him to leave her what the fuck >it happened before they were together >it was literally just sex >they took pictures cause, you know, you're not really gonna do a threesome many times in your life so they just wanted to have fun or whatever >she is clearly sorry and ashamed >didnt tell him before cause embarrassment
OP dont listen to these woman hating sexually frustrated incels, just talk to her and work this out without doing stupid and impulsive things
Landon Moore
kill yourself whore
Jaxon Bell
>OP dont listen to these woman hating sexually frustrated incels, >Listen to me the giant cuck