Guy keeps sending my gf texts like "I want to fuck you" and stuff like that, she ignores it but keeps texting to him about unrelated stuff. Am I being controlling by saying I hate it? IMO I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who keeps making sexual advances on me, especially if they both have a partner and are knowledgeable of them. I really like her and don't want to upset her. So the question is, am I a dick, and what do I do? Thanks. Would pay him a visit IRL, but he lives far away from me.
Things I've considered: I'm being controlling I'm being immature I'm worrying when I shouldn't.
I just really like this girl. I'd like her to get some friends that don't want to have sex with her.
If he keeps saying things like "I want to fuck you" then you are well within reason to demand she cut contact with him. If she keeps talking to him something is seriously wrong.
Parker Lewis
I've been there. Ask her if it would be OK if you'd stay in contact with a girl that regularly makes sexual advances on you. Answer is obviously no. Ask her to stop it. If she continues then break up
Jace Martinez
This.
Anthony Johnson
She said she wouldn't mind.
Liam Walker
That was my opinion. I don't know how you can maintain a friendship with someone who doesn't respect either your boundaries or your current relationship, unless you don't either. I get the "you have nothing to worry about" argument but it stills feels like dissrespect to just ignore it, at the very minimum she should tell him never to say that kind of stuff. After I said that to her, she said "but guys get angry when you say that" Then I said "Why do you want to be friends with someone like that" I maintain good friendships with the opposite sex, and I've put only 1 of them down sternly.
Isaac Mitchell
You have to beat him up to prove your masculinity
Luke Carter
These. This "only an insecure controlling asshole would ever care about anything" meme needs to die, it's absolute bullshit. Young men have enough on their plate trying to figure out life and love without also being bullied into putting up with crap that a self-respecting adult would never tolerate.
Luke Brown
Do you think you could take him in a fight?
Levi Wright
If this is actually OP and not just bait - it's time to run my dude. She's either (1) Bullshitting you because she wants to stay in touch with this guy badly enough to lie to you, or (2) Means it, and just feels casual/flippant about your "relationship" in general when you thought this was something serious.
Either way, it's time to dump her and get a gf who won't gaslight you for being uncomfortable with her blatant monkey-branching.
Irrelevant. The issue is that OP's girl keeps texting dudes that want to fuck her, not that she's being hit on.
You want a rollercoaster metaphor? This chick doesn't respect the OP at all, and he needs to get off the ride that she's taking him on.
Jack Taylor
you didn't watch the video, it is relevant
Lucas Torres
No doubt. I've been thinking and I think I just have self esteem issues. Thanks to all for commenting but I really don't have anything to worry about. She doesn't text him often and I trust her. It's not like she wants to get with him, or is even a realistic option. He's highly autistic and a bit of a creep.
It's my fault, I haven't posted everything here so it may not seem like it, but it really is. I'm going to go and realise my self worth.
James Kelly
Haha, my dude, you've been rused by the current year. Women have labelled anything other than being a subservient spineless cuck "abusive" or "controlling" yet at the same time desperately need a supportive and trusting relationship with a strong, guiding man. They want their cake and will happily eat it too.
Ignore it. Put your foot down. If she cries to her friends and they give her the whole "yaaas queen, live your best life" then sorry user but you have lucked out by getting rid of a girl that will fuck you up in the future.
Stay strong man. It's a hard learning path. You will come out stronger and more certain on the other side, which makes you more attractive to a worthwhile woman that will put your relationship above her petty needs for validation and attention from other guys.
Lmao you must be super young and inexperienced. she doesnt care about you and wants to fuck the other guy, and either already has or will soon. You tell her I'm dumping your ass because you keep talking to this guy like a whore. Peace. go no contact until apology or she crawls back. Anything else will leave you destroyed hardcore for a long time and ruin a portion of your life. Listen to me and succeed or don't and get wrecked.
Isaiah Flores
She never called me controlling or abusive. Those are terms I used to describe my own behaviour. I'm shit scared of ending up like my dad, who was both those things and some. How very redpilled.
Thomas Baker
just break up. you can't change her. once a whore always a whore. but make sure to make it an elegant breakup. i.e. no screaming, no complaining, no drama. just tell her have a good life and leave.
Xavier Baker
Good for you my dude. Honestly she's probably just shit testing you for insecurities and you're going to pass with that attitude. I had the same problem with my first gf in high school and when I ended the relationship she didn't even get with any of the guys I was worried about because they were all dumb and ugly. It's honestly probably just fun for her and an ego boost, lord knows I enjoyed seeing girls who didn't want anything to do with me get jealous of me when I got my first gf. So yeah just stay trusting and secure. If she actually cheats on you you'll be able to tell eventually one way or another and being trusting and secure will motivate her not to. Don't listen to the incels man I think you're doing the right thing.
Ryder Thomas
Ouch. That’s not good. That she didn’t cut all contact immediately is a big red flag. Sorry.
Oliver Fisher
So I'm in a similar boat. My GF of a years friend group is nothing but people,. she admitted, are just her beta orbiters. Now this is odd and weird but whatever, but the fact she dated one of them, exchanged nudes with him, and has constantly left them on the hook and they think they'll have a chance the second i'm out of picture and she refuses to just cut them off has me worried. I'm starting to go back to college soon as well (25) and will be losing a lot of time with her too. She also likes sex significantly more than I do, I tend to be fairly low libido (always have been), and shes a nympho. I have no idea what to do or whats gonna happen.
Jayden Miller
It's the soundest choice without making me look like insecure bitch. I should be comfortable and confident with my gf. If I can't trust her not to get with a fat autist then that's on me. Keep an eye open but don't act out. Don't assume guilt you know.
Elijah Gonzalez
she's probably a slut in hiding op shes banging dudes on the side
Luke Kelly
Leave her, kick her ass, or become a cuck, those are your most basic approaches. I think the first is the best
Carter Powell
>Writing off shitty and disrespectful behavior from your partner as a "test" and not only accepting it, but making *yourself* jump through hoops mentally and emotionally to try to "pass" Dude. No. Are you a fucking trained dog?
I get that the PUA crowd is onto something with some of its "don't be put off by little jabs from a girl you're flirting with, it's all part of the game" advice, but applying the same framework they use to a relationship is suicide.
>I'm not going to be phased by that little jab, because I frankly don't even care that much if you like me or not. You could walk away right now and I still wouldn't sweat it, I'd just flirt with someone else. Sexy. >I'm not going to be phased by your blatant disrespect, monkey-branching, and gaslighting me about it if I ask any questions. Whether you treat me well or not, I'm still going to be your boyfriend. Absolute disaster.
usually girls keep guys around like that because they make them feel good, they spend money on them, they are backups in case you guys break up, or they are fuck buddies.
Owen James
this. make her block the number or you block her. if my gf is friends with an ex then she becomes my ex. conttrolling? nah dobby is a free elf now
