Is it wrong to joke with my trans gf about the fact that she's trans?
I was cuddling with her Friday night and she started joking about all of the Hatsune Miku posters I had and said it was cute how I was so obsessed with her despite the fact that she wasn't a real girl. So I said "Oh, you mean like you?" and laughed but she didn't respond.
I asked if she was okay and she said she was fine but really sounded upset about it. I said I was sorry if I took it too far and she said thanks but then she said she wasn't feeling well and left. I haven't heard from her since. What should I do?
>What should I do? Put your finger in an electrical outlet to get rid of the gay
Austin Phillips
are you autistic?
Colton Roberts
He has a bunch of Miku posters... Do you really need to ask user?
Leo Cox
Hatsune Miku is based and redpilled
Ian Garcia
That's a clever joke, but... no, don't rib your girlfriend about something that sensitive.
Dominic Perry
Sounds like she was asking for reassurance by tempting you to give an answer opposite from what you gave. Chicks are like that.
You didn’t reassure her in her femininity by aking that remark so she is butthurt.
What do? Contact her and tell her what she wants to hear, that she’s the most beautiful, great, feminine, luscious, juicy and boobylicious woman out there.
Hope it’s not too late.
Landon Martinez
>implying you even have a gf
Connor Wright
>oh you mean like you Does he still have his benis user?
Ryan Gonzalez
>she
Juan Morales
Apologize. If you GF made shit food, and you made a joke about smelling just like her cooking in the bathroom it'd be the same. Life is hard enough for everyone, but when your "partner" undermines you it hurts the most.
Julian Green
Yah it was a bit much. Best approach would be that if you're unsure, don't say it. I would also unironically suggest you research trans issues/topics a bit more so you understand why this statement was considered too offensive to them, and so you can better draw that line in the future. Not that you have to, but I just think it'd make these sorts of judgement calls easier. What you did kind of conveys the idea that you don't quite get the idea of transitioning desu; they don't do it to become girls, they do it because they think they were always girls (from birth) and are trying to better convey their gender to other people.
Logan Perez
Only got here to express my love to miku. And tl;dr, IT is a tranny. You're stupid and stuck your dick in crazy. I guess it's a guy, which makes you... dum dum dum... a faggot. Whatever the problem is, you deserved it.
Levi Cook
Wtf I have a trans gf and I do this same thing sometimes i just cant help myself, she doesn't care that much though only sometimes.
Is this your first time making a joke like that? If so just dont do it again and all will be fine
Aaron Powell
Yes it's ok to joke with your girlfriend. Why you even have to ask this.....
If you can't joke about your problems - you're fucked.
Your girlfriend is clearly insecure about her life situation. It's not you, it's her and her struggle to handle a brick she has to carry in this life. Sure your joke reminded her of her problem, but it's up to her to solve.
She handled it right I think, by not blaming you and trying to keep the problem off of you. But yeah it's obviously killing her and if I was you I would try to spend time with her and listen.
Idk. To me it's like... I want to be a multimillionaire very badly. It's a big thing,but I'm confident I will make it. I'm making so many sacrifices in life to get there. So if my gf cuddled me in bed and I said "that guy in the poster isn't even rich, what a failure" and she said "haha like you", yeah it would kill me. I know I should be able to joke about that, but realistically I know I couldn't.
I would be scared to trust her after that and keep all my business ideas secret from her.
I'm guessing this is what your girlfriends feels, to some extent. Maybe you lost trust with her? You guys need to talk this out
Eli Reyes
virgin tier post
Chase Wood
This.
Robert Walker
>she doesn't care that much I just sat here and thought about this for several minutes and tried to apply it to my own life...
I think what matters is how supportive you are. Like "haha, like you" ...yet ;))) is a hell of a lot different from "haha, like you" .... faggot *eyerolls*
If you are radiating the spirit of hope with your partner, then you can joke about anything, as you should!
But I think in OP's case, this is probably the straw that broke the camel's back. OP is probably inflicting despair, so when he says something like that, it's just not funny, it's cruel.
Thanks OP for giving me something interesting to think about.
Nolan Myers
Ahm, your example is retarded. Unlike your dumb becoming rich idea, being transgender is strictly tied to your psychology and is connected with some existential anxiety about who you are and how society sees you. Ergo, it‘s pretty hurtful and serious to joke about that. Your „you should be able to joke about everything“ remark is also retarded. If her father killed herself would it be okay to joke about it? If you aren‘t an autist then the obvious answer is no and with just 1 example the logic of your post is refuted. Your post was just plain dumb and I can tell you have little capacity to understand what others feel if your comparisons end up being this rudimentary and daft.
Levi Brooks
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Justin Young
Amen.
Nathaniel Lee
Sorry, I don't speak retardese.
Parker Cruz
>if you like joking you are an autist Kys tranny.
James Carter
>wasn't a real girl >"like you?" Jesus christ, user. If it were me, you'd be immediately irredeemable and out of the picture. I hope, for her own emotional wellbeing, she has dropped you. If she hasn't, she will forever doubt how you see her and whether or not you really respect her as a woman, even if you apologize.
I think the best option would be if you apologize to her and tell her that you see her as a real girl and that she's beautiful/cute/whatever and that you really love her. She needs that confidence boost from you.
Luis Price
>"Oh, you mean like you?" chuckled
Jason Turner
>Is it wrong to joke with my trans gf about the fact that she's trans? if you can't joke with your gf, your relationship sucks
Aiden Rodriguez
There's a distinction between just ribbing about and making jokes at someone's expense, about something they're inevitably going to be deeply insecure about. Imagine being unable to do fucking anything without someone invalidating you or seeing/hearing people bring up the subject of invalidating people like you, for your partner to turn around and make a joke doing the same thing.
Anthony Taylor
As an example: I'm trans, for reference. I see this shit absolutely everywhere, and it's beyond exhausting. People really do kill themselves because of merciless, unending harrassment like this. Yeah, "just close yo eyes nigga hahaha just turn off the computer hahhahahaha" I get it. But there comes a point at which you can't do anything you like without it being brought up somehow, or engage in social situations without having to deal with some asshole bringing up "the tranny problem." It's a breath of fresh air to have a friend or a partner who understands. OP's GF is understandably upset and probably heartbroken because she's been robbed of that, and can no longer trust him.
jfc user. It's important to be able to joke in a relationship, but this is downright hurtful. clever joke but I won't be surprised if she drops your ass.