I'm with a girl and we're really happy together, wet get along, her entire family likes me...

I'm with a girl and we're really happy together, wet get along, her entire family likes me. The issue here is that we want to move together, but for that to happened I want to make better money overboard, so that we don't have to worry about anything from the start, I will be gone only for 3 months, she told me she's ok with it and will wait for me, won't leave or cheat on me. I don't know if I can truly trust her, after seeing what women do to their men. I'm 100% sure that I won't fuck around or meet with other women, I'm not that type of a person and I really care about her. But I'm still afraid and don't know how to resolve this.

She:
>always texts me where she's going, she also sends me pictures of what she's currently doing
>I've met her best female friend and she's fine, she isn't a whore, nor she ever cheated on her current boyfriend, supposedly
>my girlfriend doesn't go to parties or places where she can get dicked easily because of being drunk
>she mostly hangs out with her female friends, sometimes also with their boyfriends, but together and only when they are at home
>she paid for a lot of things, even for the holiday we spent in the mountains, because I had tough financial situation that time
>when my phone died completely she gave me her older phone for free
>there were more situations of simple human kindess on her part
>she loves to shop for silly small things and claims it will be for our home
My issue here is that I don't to lose here, I want to trust her, but I feel afraid that my time abroad will crush every plan we made. I truly want to trust her, but I keep hearing how women are. I don't know what to do. It may sound like ramblings of a depressed drunktard, that's because it is.

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She's sincere, but women are in-the-moment. So when the situation changes, so will her reality and the genuine expression of her desires may alter.

If she's a keeper - take her with you. If money is the issue, isn't it cheaper to live together provided she works?

>I want to make better money overboard,
abroad, why the fuck did it seem the same when I typed it.

In order to move out together, we have to have some good money for the start. Which is an issue in the country I'm living in.

Could you borrow from both of your parents?

Unfortunately, no. Father left us when I was young and my mother has a small child. So borrwing isn't really an option.

If you're in a situation where it's impossible for you to move in together at the moment then it's not something to greatly stress about - nothing to be done.

Here's the good thing then : if she's loyal to you after 3 months of absence - then you know she's trustworthy.

If she's not, then it means she's untrustworthy and it's a good thing that you found that out prior to moving in with her.

Obviously it's preferable that she's trustworthy and you move in immediately, but because it is impossible - you do not need to entertain that scenario.

Trust can be intimidating because there’s always the uncertainty. You need to uphold your end of the relationship, maybe reciprocating some of the gestures she does for you- like texting her where you’re going, sending pictures, could help establish trust on her end too. Video chat will be a godsend to your sex life overseas.

Thank you very much. Really helpful.
I already told her, there wll be nothing outside of work, I will even fucking work more hours to make more money. We will speak on video chat, at least once a week.

But there is always that feeling of uncertainty. Thank you for your answer as well.

let me evaluate the likelihood that she will cheat OP
>female
nigga she cheatin

OP if a girl wants to cheat she can cheat with you being in the country as well.

Trust literally means you think she will do what she says, so if you trusg her to not cheat in general 3 months wouldn't change a thing. If she would be cheating, she is already doing it now, is she isnt 3 months wont change her.

haha wtf man. Yes I know what "we hear about women" and between you and I, we both know they are true. But one must not jump the needle to throw away a completely wholesome (and arguably wife material) girl. These things that women do are easily predictable by their actions; none of which are evident in your woman. Perhaps this is truly the time you need to swallow your pride, fear and all your bullshit and trust a woman for once in your life. After all, its unfair to be so untrustworthy of her considering she holds you very near and dear

>3 months
She will cheat. Women hate being left alone. Even if she consciously believes it's best for her to stay with you, even if she wants to be loyal to you, she is a woman. Women are extremely impulsive. She will get lonely, she will resent you for it and she will meet men who will try their hardest to capitalize on the opportunity.

If you want to do this you just have to accept that it's going to happen. If you are a man worthy of her you can look past it.

>If she would be cheating, she is already doing it now, is she isnt 3 months wont change her.
extremely dishonest tactics by a treacherous female right here

Separation is one of the biggest incentives to cheat. Every woman is far more likely to cheat when her man is not around for extended periods of time because women are people, and people reason in terms of incentives and disincentives.

>If you are a man worthy of her you can look past it.

A worthy man looks past a woman cheating on him? No. Go fuck yourself.

If OP wants to stay with her and build a life together, he will have to do this. She is going to cheat, the only thing that he has control over is his own reaction

Because you're a person with no impulse control does not imply that everyone else is.

You do not trust her. Break up.

Well, denial is one kind of response. Just believe in her always, then. She will cheat but if you don't know about it and believe she didn't does it matter?

This. Every woman should be trusted unconditionally by her partner. Yes, she might end up cheating, but if you suspect her you never trusted her to begin with and the relationship was doomed from the start.

Trust means you believe her and believe in her, period. The moment conditions enter the question it's no longer trust.

There's somewhere in between depending on the circumstances.

No. You either trust her and want to be with her or no.

yeah it sounds like you trust her, you just need to spend less time listening to dudes on Jow Forums who havent spoken to a girl in like 15 years

just go with your gut feeling BASED on your experience with this particular girl not the experiences with other girls

honestly its like the dudes on this website is 50%beta guys who date gutter trash women who throw themselves at any half decent dude and 50% edgy teenagers in their parents basements who arent getting in school reading greentexts from the former 50%

my favourite thing is when you impressionable retards post shit like
acting like they did a scientific study into the fucking subject so they can pretend that the reason they dont trust women is literally because they feel like inferior men cause they didnt/arent fucking random chicks

you arent inferior you retards you just havent grown up enough yet to form a relationship with someone

i fucked up the post im going to re do it fuck my life

honestly its like the dudes on this website is 50%beta guys who date gutter trash women who throw themselves at any half decent dude and 50% edgy teenagers in their parents basements who arent getting it in school reading greentexts from the former 50%

my favourite thing is when you impressionable retards post shit like
acting like they did a scientific study into the fucking subject so they can pretend that the reason they dont trust women is because they are "InFeRiOr HuMaNs" and not actually because they believe they are inferior men cause they didnt/arent fucking random chicks

you arent inferior you retards you just havent grown up enough yet to form a relationship with someone

fixed
im actually a retard also

Yes I am sure your super special snowflake gf will never cheat.

am single

You’ll sabotage the relationship if you don’t trust her without any warning signs.

Three months is a long time but nowadays we’ve got phones and Skype and whatever so you can still chat all the time.

It’ll suck but you’ll survive if the relationship is as strong as you suggest, but not if she realises you don’t trust her or if you become super controlling while your away.

> man worthy of her
> after she cheats
God damn user, have some dignity. You sound like a fucking beta provider.