What do girls actually want when they send nudes? Like do they just want to know they’re turning you on? How do I show that? Cause I feel like they never send nudes just to trade nudes or shit like that
What do girls actually want when they send nudes? Like do they just want to know they’re turning you on...
Sending nudes is a perfect entrance to sexting. Describe how hot she is . Ask suggestive questions etc
What are some examples of suggestive questions that aren’t forced or awkward for the girl? I have virtually no experience with this shit, so anything I try to come up with ends up weird
Reverse it. If you sent a nude picture to a woman would you just want her to say, "thanks I'll add it to my collection," and leave it at that, or do you want compliments?
Honestly hard to tell. Depends in the nudity and what she shows. Is she a girl that likes to laugh a lot? Make a weird and silly joke. Is she very serious? Try to make an honest and true compliment.
I honestly struggle to wrap my head around the idea that someone would take a picture of themselves naked and send it to someone. I keep hearing that it happens but it's just baffling to me. Do people seriously trust each other that much?
I’ll preface this by saying these are just my thoughts, I don’t want anyone to read this and get confused thinking this is some matter of fact shit, it really depends on the type of person you’re speaking to, and what they want from you and what you’ve told them priorly (either explicitly or indirectly through how they’ve interpreted something you’ve said) about yourself.
It’s less about trust and more about being comfortable with the other person. Like you being insecure about sending nudes out of fear of the other person sharing them tells people you’d likely share nudes if they sent them to you.
You can’t take nudes seriously, if you do, then girls assume you’d get over excited about it and get clingy and shit if they sent nudes (which isn’t why they’d send them unless they really wanted you, which they likely won’t if they think your going to be clingy) and if you take it that seriously you’re more likely to share them with people and judge her for it, and while she probably doesn’t care that much unless she’s insecure, it’s not middle school, no one gives a shit about their tits being seen, they still don’t want to send nudes to someone who’s gonna be weird about it.
Character limit so I’ll make another post
She has to care about you and feel comfortable around you to send you nudes. She also needs to both be provided with the opportunity to send them and realise this is what you’re getting at. So be straightforward, you can’t make it all half assed because you’re afraid of her not sending them, if you do it properly, it ends up being her choice, and if she doesn’t send, don’t get upset, maybe she’s shy, maybe she didn’t realise what you were getting at because she’s autistic or something, that’s for you to figure out though, you can’t ask her directly unless it’s to talk about it when you’re more comfortable with each other and it comes up in the flow of a conversation.
You need to understand what a girl wants and how to give it to her, and in return she’ll be more open to giving you what you want. If you’re on great terms with them then you could probably be more direct, but based off of the fact we’re both here on Jow Forums I’m guessing you’re not at that stage with a girl right now.
Feel free to ask questions if you have any, or just correct me if you feel like I’m wrong. don’t worry about stupid questions, if anything it helps give me perspective and understand other people better, which is what I need right now honestly. And don’t worry about being weird obviously, it’s Jow Forums, the weirdest thing you could do here would be to care what anyone on here thinks of you or has to say in response to what you post, no one gives a shit about anything else.
I don't see the point of trying to get nudes.
Just have sex with her and you'll see her naked IRL.
Sending nudes to build up anticipation for sex and her desire to see you irl is the only reason I could think of, and it comes with the bonus of getting to jack off to someone you like.
Only really works if you’re talking through text more than you see her/you don’t have any mutual places to see each other casually without making a date of it
I do it to get a guys to come to the club and spend some Benjamin's
Yeah that’s a good point.
I think it’s about creating lust. Ensuring the guy wants you. That’s why girls don’t send nudes for approval. They send it to hear you say how good they look, because they want you or something from you.
What is it they want you for? Your money? Your looks? Your social position? Maybe they’re just seeing how you react? Like poking something with a stick.
Based there's literally so many generic picture out there everyone's pretty desenitised already
Do they honestly think their vanilla pics are going to turn anyone on
If a female is sending you nudes, then she obviously is ok with the idea of you looking at them and beating your meat to them.
She's probably also hoping you'll come over and beat up her pussy with your meat too, so there's that.
She's also aware that nudes can and probably will be shared between you and your friends and the internet and she doesn't care. Which makes her a slut
She's 80% got a VD and doesn't care.
"You're gorgeous." Then aggressively make plans to meet up and fuck. If she sends nudes, she's interested in fucking you. Girls don't want to feel slutty, they often want you to be the one responsible for the sex, so she might say she'll meet up for a date, but she's not going to fuck you. Say okay. Invite her to your place. If she turns you down, bring it up a couple more times. If she still won't fuck, say you at least want to see her beautiful tits. Then ask if you can see her pussy. PLEASE? Keep pushing. Start playing with her tits. Play with her pussy. Eat her out. Fuck her. Ask her for a blow job. Finger her until you feel her pussy juices all over the place. If she leaves her panties, she didn't forget them, she's giving you them as a souvenir (kinda like how dogs piss on their territory). Sounds retarded, I know, but it's true.
Either way it’s about gauging your response, not seeking your approval. If a girl isn’t confident about her body, she won’t send you nudes unless you’re in the awkward position of her valuing your judgment, but also not caring how you feel about her, so you probably don’t want this as it means she doesn’t see you as someone who has much to offer, if not she wouldn’t risk sending nudes if she was worried about rejection because of her nudes.
Every girl knows that a guy isn’t gonna reject her nudes. They also know that it devalues them however, as it makes them seem easy, you’ve gotten what you wanted, they probably don’t want to see your dick, and there’s no real societal value on a mans upper body. I guess a girl might want to see your dick if she can’t use her imagination. Or if you’ve piqued her interest and now she’s imagining what it looks like. Like how you always imagine how a girls tits look like. They know how to do this. Do you know how guys make girls wonder at their dicks?
Wear tight fitting clothes that hug the crotch. Maybe not skinny jeans necessarily, lotta guys from where I’m from where tight joggers that a of a colour that shows shape well (so not black) But she has to care to look. A lot of girls don’t care about dick size as most guys they’ve been with don’t know how to use their length to make sex better and how to manipulate the angle of penetration to stimulate a girls pussy so they just don’t care unless it’s exotically large. Plus a lot of guys don’t show dick length unless they’re hard, so it’s not really possible for a lot of guys. it’s the same with girls with small tits. They’ve got they’re pussy yeah, but who actually gives a shit about pussy pics, they’re all the same. But tit size, like dick size, varies. most guys don’t know how to make their dick visible in a nonchalant way though. If a girl sent you tit pics out the blue you’d probably just laugh and show someone
If she wants you, make it about what you want without being demanding or begging. she’ll send them.
(Don’t use this to assess whether she’s interested in you or not. She might be shy. Don’t feel like you should try and make her not shy just to get nudes either. She’ll realise this and think your just a creep who collects girls nudes and that it’s not really about her.) or she might not send you for a range of reasons. It’s your job to find out why at this point (if you really want to, don’t make a big deal out of it tho) without explicitly asking why. Be playful about it, like “aw but I bet they look great” if you think she’s being shy or something (it depends on the situation, like I said it’s up to you to figure it out on your own at this point, you can’t pause the interaction like a video game and look up the solution on a wiki, as much as you might want to.)
Everything else is dynamic, you can’t really set up for it, you just have to recognise it and respond accordingly
>Like do they just want to know they’re turning you on?
Yes. I have a female friend who sends me nudes whenever she's feeling down. Then I throw some compliments her way and add it to my jerk off collection. She knows that I'll jerk off to her pics and it makes her feel better about her looks, especially when she breaks up with a guy, gets rejected or gets into a fight with her boyfriend. And I'm okay with it because I enjoy jerking off to private pics more than to random porn.
I’ll condense this so you guys can actually read it.
>Don’t ask.
>DO let her know you want to see them
>don’t be demanding or begging
(nobody, guy or girl, wants to put up with either of these, people only tolerate this kind of behaviour. you’re likely not in the position to be tolerated if the girl has any self respect and if you are it’s probably only temporary, because let’s face it, you have nothing to offer her that other guys can’t, so if you’re not giving her what she wants, she’ll move on. I’m gonna expand on this because if you’re reading this, then like me, you probably need to understand this as well.
>It might look like this “You look like you’ve got great tits”
this shows her you want to see her tits without asking to see them. It’s up to her to decide how to respond to this.
>if she really wants you, she’ll send them
And depending on how badly she wants you, it doesn’t matter how shy, insecure or uncomfortable they are with sending nudes, if they really want you, they’ll go out their comfort zone for it.
>don’t try and manipulate things
Girls will recognise this. Girls don’t like this. Don’t try it, if you don’t care about the ethics, you’re probably not smart enough anyways. And if you think that doesn’t apply to you, then ask yourself why you’re reading this in the first place. To manipulate you need to first understand and respect what you are trying to manipulate. You can never do that if your goal is to manipulate to compensate.
>I’m gonna expand on this because if you’re reading this, then like me, you probably need to understand this as well.
girls and them tolerating (or not) your shit:
Sorry for the essay (not really, just don’t have time to condense this)
If a girls being a bitch, she just gave you a reason to not care what she thinks right? That’s one of the easiest ways to deal with rejection. Dismiss her judgement and rejection because she’s a bitch. It’s the same for girls. It’s just instead of bitch, they’ll say dick or asshole. And they view rejection differently. If you seem like you don’t care about what she’s saying (because your either an autist who can’t show it or a dick) they see that as a rejection. Honestly, you should probably approach girls like this too, but girls don’t want a guy that wants to be catered for emotionally. They want a guy who doesn’t need them for anything, but keeps them around because they’re interesting. So don’t take a girl not being interested in what you have to say as a rejection, maybe your just talking too much and listening too little. And let’s be honest, you likely don’t care what she thinks about what your saying because your not out for an emotional connection. Maybe it would help you if you were out to do that, but you need to at least understand it. Like I said if you want to manipulate something because your intentions don’t align with the other persons, you need to understand how to meet their needs which means respecting these needs and not freaking out if they catch you out on something you say. Just play it off. For example, you’re talking to a girl you wanna fuck, she isn’t intending to initiate and she says:
>you just wanna fuck me dont you?
You, instead of freaking out at a playful comment just because it has her correctly assuming what youre doing, play it off and own it with something like:
>can you blame me?
If she said this to force you to initiate, this is you initiating.
>You're gorgeous
Never say this to a girl holy shit
Never compliment women when send you nudes. Instead compliment the fabric of her lingerie and the quality of her photo. But not her directly. It makes her wonder where you stand towards her. And don't respond with nudes. Just leave it at that.
Please don't confuse your word salad stream of consciousness for worthwhile input. I don't have any questions for you because you are clearly unable to structure your thoughts at all.
Don't assume I want to listen to you just because you are a woman.
If anything it would turn one off. I guess the thought that someone did it specifically for you counts, but I still can't grasp how someone would go out of their way to compromise themselves like this. What is there to gain from nudes? For what purpose would you do this?
I think it's ultimately one of those things normalfags do without thinking about it at all.
It's situational. Don't say it to some random girl, because it's creepy. But if she literally has her tits out and is signaling for you to fuck her, then it's fine because she's seeking your approval.
Cringe answers.
What answers would you prefer then? Answers you like? Or the answers we gave which were as honest as it gets. Nudes are a tricky game surprisingly. Just cause you get a couple of titty and ass lics doesnt mean you're a shoe in for that pussy.
I'm not OP, but your posts are straight out of a playbook of a r/TRP poster who never actually saw a vagina.
Are you serious? I just met up with a whore from tinder this past friday, and she wants to meet up again. Before that I got my ex girlfriend off of tinder as well. Yes when I was 15 i read these techniques online, I wont lie, but so far, they've only proven correct
lol you're incredibly full of shit. If she sends nudes, she's pretty much greenlighting you to fuck her, but she expects you to be a man about it and be a little forward/aggressive. But compliments help, since she's seeking your validation. Negging isn't a thing.
I didnt say neg, dipshit, I just said dont directly compliment her. Negging would be insulting her. You clearly have no clue what you're talking about. And no, I know plenty of guys who have gotten nudes from attention whores but sex was never actually an option.
Took me a while to come to terms with it myself.
Think of it this way: Any time you hear about
>Person's nudes got leaked! Outrage!
on the news or in clickbait articles or whatever, the outrage is about the fact that someone leaked the nudes, not the fact that the person has nudes of themselves on their phone/computer/"secret"-internet-profiles in the first place. That part is apparently normal/acceptable, it's just the breach of invisible rules, trust, and power of the person doing the leaking that is outrageous.
That is the situation we are in today in modern Anglo societies. We sexualize ourselves more out of social conditioning than actual attraction/arousal at this point. "Sexy" = normal. Nude phone pics are so normalized now that it's actually becoming a point of concern not just in high schools, but middle schools, and even rarely in elementary schools. Celebrities have always been children's role models, it seems many have forgotten that.
honk
t. Canadian teacher
You're unbelievably dumb.
I consistently meet up with women, and fuck them, no strings attached. But I'm dumb? What are you doing? Hows your sex/love life going?
Better than yours.
Please provide a little tidbit of it, I'm curious.
Yeah I almost had a girl send me nudes when we were in elementary. If I’d wanted that and known how to ask her to send them I’d of probably ended up sending nudes at the age of 8 lmao. Two girls at my elementary literally talked about their older sisters showing them how to give blowjobs lmao. Thot conditioning starts young.
If a girl cares about you, she’ll want to do things you want her to do.
Like if you’ve ever liked a girl enough to want her to give her a good time just to provide her with a good time because you care about her then it’s like that but switch the genders.
You can get girls to care about you by just showing/pretending to have a genuine interest in what they’re saying. It can be difficult if you lack social skills to approach people and not fuck up, let alone show them you’re genuinely interested in what they’re saying, and if your always pretending to care, maybe you aren’t doing it well enough idk.
Yeah I know, I realised that typing that shit out. Not a woman, get why you’d think that though lmao.
was just on elvanse I get prescribed (uk equivalent to adderall) also I’m autistic as fuck so I don’t have any clue how to do what people want, even if I realise what they want. Like I know I sounded like a retard faggot when I wrote about you having questions and shit, but i genuinely can’t think of another way to say things properly. I tried just not talking, but I can’t get by like that, so I’m in the process of working on myself so I can interact with people properly.
No idea but they aren't very smart women if they do that.
You know what, I realise I’m being incredibly insecure and self conscious and just throwing out everything as a result. I think I’m afraid of what I’m saying being misinterpreted, so I over-explain everything. Like I am now
How do I avoid this and not deviate from what I want to say?
What confuses me the most is the motivation for it. What does one gain from doing this? It's not even sexual gratification. An extremely fleeting shot of validation, perhaps? Is it really worth immortalizing your flat ass and pancake tits for? The average woman is quite repulsive naked, at least compared to the practically infinite amount of porn available on the internet.
Just get to your point and don't sweat the details. Know what you want to say, say it and only elaborate when absolutely required.
Don't underestimate everybody's intelligence. We can infer things if necessary. Perfect information is not required if ambiguity doesn't alter the conclusion.
How can I aim to provide perfect information?
Of course we don’t read nudes just to trade nudes. Mostly not all girls do it for validation, because we want to fuck you or we love you. Honestly I could care less about getting a fucking dick pic back as it doesn’t do shit for me. Like seeing a dudes dick picture isn’t going to get me wet or horny.