ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Around 4. I was and still is very hyped about scented body butter. I’m old af, but my skin is still like velvet.

Anyone? I'm losing faith in dating apps. Someone tell me they like the shit I'm talking about.

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Compared to guys, they are like dirty ass monkeys growing up. Their version of advance is using shampoo when bathing that one time during a week.

>Girls who went through a "I'm focusing on school/career and not going to date anyone" phase:
that's code for either "I'm not interested but I'm also spineless" or "I'm going through a hoe-ing phase and trying to justify it"

>And girls, do you also feel this way with male friendships?
Nope.

Can't help with your other thing. I dont know how guys and their friendships work, but I can easily just be interested in a friendship with a guy if we share interests, just like I would with any girl. I know a guy I play a lot of video games with. Platonic friends through and through, but my girlfriends dont want to play video games, so..

Though I will admit, I dont know what his intentions are. I dont plan on investigating myself.

Well the thing is she never told me directly she was focusing on school. Hell, she never even told me she wasn't interest, just "I'm busy" (which I just took as a rejection).
I'm just assuming she believes that from her social media posts. She posts a lot of feminist stuff as well.

I am the above poster. I'm slightly worried I might be becoming too picky because of abundance of choices.

I've met 4 guys off bumble. I haven't kissed anyone, have gone on 1-3 dates with all, and have ended it by texting to tell them I'm not interested (not ghosted).
Guy #1- lost interest because he seemed kind of mean and got angry over silly disagreements
Guy #2 - 40lbs too heavy but otherwise a p good match
Guy #3 - had bad BO on the first date that progressively got worse
Guy #4 - is the above guy.

I think I might be too picky? I'm middle shelf. Not going for Chads or guys out of my league. Maybe I should write down all of my flaws to maintain humility? I've stopped swiping while I figure this out

don't trust social media, they contradict themselves all the time there.

>To that she said, "I just follow people's lead."
So you'll have to lead. Money's tight, anyone can relate, but a nice gesture that shows she's not just a convenience or passing fling would be to buy her a piece of jewelry like a necklace or bracelet of sorts (within a reasonable budget; it doesn't have to be jewelry, at all, but a gift know she'd appreciate) and tell her
>I want us to be exclusive
Or however you'd phrase that to your diction. Maybe you know her well enough that your words would suffice and you don't need to buy her a gift, but my point is a gesture of sorts with a declaration of exclusivity will probably get you laid all night.

Dont use dating apps.

The guys there are rarely looking for a relationship, just random sex. That's why you never feel any proper connection. They dont care about you.

The guy she describes here sounds super into her, but she's not into him. Them's the ropes.

Yeah, had a no bois phase during the last study years. No social media, no texting. I would flirt a little, maybe make out with someone on the rare event i went to a party. But mostly i was in my pjs, sipping te, re-watching every disney movie on loop while just studying. Totally worth it. Did not compromise with any guy.

I don't see anything wrong with 2 and 4

I'd argue that you're exaggerating, but the number of times I had to go to the nurse in highschool because the guys that would take axe showers constantly set off my allergies tells me it must be true.

So you think I should buy her a gift/take her somewhere fancy and then tell her I wanna be exclusive?

Also, she has no explicit knowledge I'm still sleeping with other girls and seems to pursue a don't ask, don't tell attitude to my prior and present sex life.

Thanks for all these responses btw user.

>sisters fiance asked me if I could give him a blowjob for his birthday present, because my sister refuses to do so for him
>obviously a joke, but it is outright uncomfortable to be around him now, and I made up an because of being super sick at his birthday to skip it already, probably only making this even more awkward
I dont even know what advice I need, but I am seriously considering asking HR at work if I can get relocated to a different country right now. God this made all interaction with him and my sister awful to deal with.

Why the fuck would he tell me this. I almost want to grab a banana and make my sister choke on it so I don't have to even think about that comment again.

Maybe his interest is too strong for me too soon?
Idk my close friends say I'm really cold to people at first then warm up. So I can't tell if it's my natural tendency to be stand offish or if there is no connection. We seem like a decentish match and I was excited about him until Midway into the second date when things seemed weird

That happens too. You can't be into everyone. But dating apps give a significantly lower chance of working out.

>girl confesses to me, we go on a few dates
>explain I want to take things slow, she's ok with that
>go back to hers, stupidly don't make a move and spend all night spooning and talking
>try organising another date, start getting hit with the excuses a girl makes when she's not interested
>get drunk and text her to see if its over
>"sorry, I just wanted something casual"
>I reply "no worries, just wanted to know where we stood. Take care!"
>decide to just ignore her and move on
>start seeing her everywhere I go, events that she didn't use to turn up to
>she's friendlier with me, always sits next to me and finds any opportunity to touch me
>starts texting me again, asks if I want to check out a bar together
>tell her I have plans, stop going out for a month
>texts me and says "Why are you avoiding me, I miss you!"

She just wants attention from me, right?

I sadly had brothers. And any honest guy would tell you the same. They were gross. Any parent of a boy will concur.

Okay, thanks for your insight user, I'll have to try and be less horny then

Kek. Sorry, I would have died laughing if my sisters boyfriend said that. Don't be so prudish, it was a joke.
>I almost want to grab a banana and make my sister choke on it
That, or if it seriously bothers you that much, tell her either she gives him that blowjob, or you will. Who raised you two, a lone super Christian mother? There is nothing wrong with blowjobs, if the taste is terrible, doing it in the shower works fine. Fix it, it's her fiance, don't let it ruin your ability to function with your family because chances are he'll be around for the rest or your life.

And you are sisters... is this really that awful to talk about? I mean I get it sucks that he dragged you into it, but you are seriously overreacting here.

For guys - - my crush is hesitant to invite me out. He displays all signs he's into me like spending extra time with me, touching me, inquiring about me, and the only reason I haven't asked him out myself is because I'm too shy and fearful of rejection. He had made attempts to ease me into group activities before, but he always suggests we go out with a common friend. I don't get it. Is it possible he thinks I'm into our common friend? After all, our common friend introduced us and I've known him for quite awhile and am usually acting friendly without being flirty towards him. Is this some male specific way to display he's not really interested alternatively?

like 10, I plan to educate both genitalia type of children that I could produce on these things.

I have only had 2 BFs but from previous experience I have a high libido/enjoy giving head fairly often and if #2 gained any more weight I would be too repulsed to have sex with him and things would be dysfunctional sexually. He is right in the edge and I'd want him to lose 20-40lbs if we started dating. Talking to him he is a foodie and enjoys eating alot so I'd be changing who he is, which would be wrong. Everything else seems fine and I do feel mean for thinking that
I eat healthy and Im in the healthy BMI range btw

>So you think I should buy her a gift/take her somewhere fancy and then tell her I wanna be exclusive?
Whatever you think she'd like + commitment.
>second paragraph
Like I said, you fit the statement of exclusivity to your words. You both are on don't ask, don't tell? Don't say the word exclusive, but tell her you really like her and aren't seeing anyone else. A bald faced lie, but it gets the point across with no mess.

user, sounds to me that you're looking for women on the wrong places, though I have little experience in dating, I severely doubt that most/all of the women your age that you invited on a data never showed interest in "just enjoying each other's presence"
Maybe try looking irl for women in different places, I never used dating apps but I don't think they're a good place to find a partner desu

Tell him privately you didn't like the joke.
Prudish? I don't want my boyfriend making "haha woo how about a blowjob?" jokes at my sisters or girlfriends.

Let alone complaining about our sex life to anyone that isn't me.

I don't want to be on dating apps but I'm not sure where to meet men who are similar to me. I joined meet up groups but none of the guys in the groups are my type or seem into me. Also I am very very shy and reserved. I don't warm up to people quickly.

Where else could I meet men who are educated, reserved, and not into anything crazy?

My family suggests church because I'm socially more similar to Christians (my whole family is very religious. I am not but have retained some of the values I was raised with-in terms of how I life my life personally) but that seems unethical bc I am not religious and people need to be in church for spiritual growth. I would also want my partner to be sexually active with me so Yeah.

Absolutely fucking terrifying tbqhfam

I've had chances to get into relationships with women but ruined them because 1) I'm shy when I talk to girls I like
2) I back out because I look too much into the future and worry about family, financial situation, distance, etc.

I know I can overcome 1 with some alcohol and practice. I'm more concerned with 2. How do I stop overthinking about the future and just focus on the present? Do I just "go with the flow"? "Do now and worry later?"

Tell him that you didnt like it and talk with your sister about it, this sounds like something that would concern her more than it would you

Also, don't let your relationships with them end up badly because of a stupid joke, yeah it might have been distasteful, tell him that and move on

I seriously dont find this funny. He basically told me he thinks of me sexually, and that is extremely uncomfortable.
>it's her fiance, don't let it ruin your ability to function with your family because chances are he'll be around for the rest or your life
But this is the problem. I now feel like I am stuck in this family with a guy my sister will marry, who even entertained the thought of having me give him a blowjob. That will never go away, no matter what I do.

Oh he knows. But that doesn't really change the fact that he asked, and I am pretty confident he would have readily accepted it I had agreed to do it, which is what bothers me so much.

Not a goddamn clue

>t. Guy in the same boat

Sounds like she's more confused than you, or realized she felt better being with you
Honetly user, try talking more with her, and i'd honestly suggest asking her directly that, not in a rude way ofc, somewhere along the lines of "i know we distanced ourselves, but now you seem to be interested in me again, did i get it right? Do you still have an interest in keeping a relationship?"

Its always good to be direct with girls, especially if it might lead to a relationship

>He basically told me he thinks of me sexually
All guys does. Dont be an idiot.

I'm with this poster: Just fucking tell your sister and get over it. It was a bad joke, not a family ruining revelation.

You're being an attention seeker on this one. But I didn't read the whole reply chain.

Did he proposition you for oral sex, or just admit he finds you hot?

Worst case scenario, you break up. Best case scenario? A long and happy life together. Go for it. It's not as if you'll transform into a clingy fucker for suggesting being together.

The guy in your first post isn't into you, he's just very very desperate and was trying to tick all your boxes and those sorts of guys tend to think "If I'm exactly like her she'll want me". I can guarantee that you didn't get to know him at all, merely who he was pretending to be and that he just wants to get laid or have a girlfriend. Got to r9k and you'll find thousands of guys exactly like him.

He sounds extremely cringe but that's just me, perhaps you would be into that. he also sounds very very insecure, especially if he's making jokes about you talking to another guy as being the competition.

Ignore all advice about not using dating apps, you're on Jow Forums which means the majority og guys here are loners with no social skills who used Tinder once, had a terrible profile, got no matches and think that's always what happens. Whilst apps like Tinder are mainly for hookups you can find gems on them, you just have to sift through it all. Don't use dating apps as your main way to find guys, but it doesn't hurt to keep them in the background as an alternate avenue. You will get A LOT of guys swiping on you so you can afford to be picky. One friend of mine had over 2,000 likes in 72 hours and honestly she's not that interesting or good looking.

If you want to find a genuine guy then explore all your avenues. Dating apps, meetup.com, church etc. I'd even look into if your local city has a Reddit board and see if they do social outings and such. It's going to be a lot of thirsty guys, but once again you can just afford to be picky.

Girls, what is worse balding or shiny forehead?

This

>mfw I have been in this situation, only it was my sister that asked because she gagged at the mere thought of doing it to her boyfriend, and he really loved getting head.
Weird story. But you basically have two options:
1. Tell him to please never bring that up again, and that is made you very uncomfortable. How old are you? Just sit down and have a proper grown up conversation.
2. Tell it to your sister. This risks causing issues between them depending on their relationship, but this would at least force her to act on it.

Balding. Like, not even close.

Clean shave always looks better than some guy who refuses to accept that half his head is bald, and let's the remaining hair stick around like unkempt weed he refuses to remove.

Idk if Im weird, but I have several female friends who Im not attracted to or interested in at all. When I told them as such it came as a shock, so I guess its odd. She not even unattractive or anything, just not my type.

On the other hand, my best friend is a girl who I was interested in at one point when I was younger (was 16 am now 24). I didnt initially become friends with her due to attraction but it developed fairly quickly. I think this is sort of inevitable on some levels. Youre friends because you enjoy spending time with her, so if you find her even a bit attractive it makes sense to see her as a desireable partner.

That being said, in my case I got over it by realizing that relationships are more involved than a friendship. A ltr requires you to share life plans. My best friend adamantly wants kids and I adamantly dont. While we may pair up really well in all other areas, we want different things out of life. While I still see her as a good potential partner on some level, I dont feel any grief over it because I know it just wouldnt work.

Idk if my experince applies to your situation, but its some food for though.

>Is it possible he thinks I'm into our common friend?
It is possible, though I wouldn't say it is likely, wooing you like that just to send you to that friend sounds pretty unusual and kind of cuck-ish in a way, for a guy I don't think that is normal

To me it definitely sounds like he's interested in you but is afraid to take the next step either because he's shy or isn't sure if you feel the same (aka, he's on the same boat)

I suggest you trying to invite him out to places like a coffee shop or a park, somewhere you can spend more time alone but also around others if you don't wanna make it too obvious, use the excuse of "i just wanna hang out", or if you wanna go a step further, say "i wanted to spend more time with you", that should definitely hint him what your intentions are

It's not easy for a guy to take the lead at first, but sometimes they might simply need some signals like the ones I described above to know it's safe to take the next step

If a guy constantly makes fun of me and uses me as the butt of his jokes when we are around friends, but is very nice in private, it's safe to say it's not worth trying to get any closer to him, right?

>half his head is bald
nah nah nah, I mean starting to bald like stage 2 maybe.

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>Showering daily and using conditioner is apparently way above the norm
>Still no gf

Are gay men/shemales with large dicks more masculine than a straight male bodybuilder with a small willy?

Maybe he just treats people differently when in "public" and in private, he wants to keep it separate

I try not to do that, only treat certain people differently in private because there are intimate things I'm not comfortable saying around others, but the way you're describing him sounds a bit extreme

Does he ever display affection towards you when you're with friends? Maybe he doesn't want them to tease him for trying to get close to you

I honestly dont see an issue with dropping someone over these things. All of the things you liated are either immediate drops or major red flags if a girl did them to me.

One thing you may consider is not running at the first sign of a red flag. For example youre #1 guy. That sort of behavior is a bad sign for a lot of reasons, but you could always try a couple more dates to see if its a one off thing or the red flag is actually an indicator of a shit personality.

That being, said youre not being too picky.

Guess I'll just tell my sister and see what happens... hope this doesn't come back to bite me.

>All guys does
My sisters fiance better not.

>Did he proposition you for oral sex
Not exact wording (not English speaker), but I just casually asked what he wanted for his birthday present (he had just invited me and given me the date and place and everything), and he said
>I dont have much in terms of gift ideas, I have most of what I want. Well, you could give me a blowjob [haha], your sister doesn't want to do that

Would you consider coming back and letting us know how it goes?
I like to learn how these stories turn out.
Still waiting to hear the response from
>Guy is out at work event drinking
>One co-worker can barely stand, him and a grill conclude she was drugged
>Took her home, couldn't go in her phone to call anyone because it was dead

Hmm, I guess its possible that I simply approached only girls that are my type romantically/sexually, in a way, thats why i feel so strongly towards then, could be merely lust, i dunno, havent grown out of puberty hormones i guess

Could be simply memories as well, since some of then I'm not nearly as interested as I was when I first me them, but these old feelings keep coming back for some reason

>think this is sort of inevitable on some levels. Youre friends because you enjoy spending time with her, so if you find her even a bit attractive it makes sense to see her as a desireable partner.
I think you're right

I do understand that a relationship requires a lot more commitment, thats what turns me away from considering that with some of my friends, i know it simply wouldnt work, though that best friend I said could still be a good partner, do you think i should ask her if she feels the same one last time just so i can move on? I confessed pretty early in our relationship, like less than 2 months, we've known each other for over a year now and have been through a lot, maybe she changed? I'll also consider whether or not i want that sort of commitment with her, but it definitely seems viable

Your situation does seem a bit weird, but helped me think, I'll cut off those with whom i dont share any real interest/enjoy being around other than lust/romance, and tey to get to know the others better and set boundries if needed, keep the friendship while also knowing a relatio ship could not work

Thanks user

Is it possible for men to actually love other humans, and not just tell them what they want to hear for the sake of getting sex?

I love people all the time.

Is it possible for women to love humans and not just tell them that for the sake of getting gifts/dinner/$?

ffs yes, but the way I see it, men are much better at drawing the line between a relationship and casual sex than women are.

A friend I used to have kept saying she was looking for a long-term relationship but kept fucking on the first date and wound up with a ton of obvious fuck-buddies that she insisted were (at the time) boyfriends.

Most guys are like this. They either start friendships with girls because they are hot, or are already friends and eventually grow to think they are hot. Like it will just hit them one day. The only exception are friends they make through friends or work, etc. Those might just be a consequence of time and life.

The problem isnt that you want to date friends. It is rational to want to check someone put before risking STDs or sharing resources.

The problem is how you go about it. You need to flirt with them before you confess feelings. You need to flirt and judge interest from their reaction. This can be very hard as many of us never actually see people flirt before puberty. Young men do not watch romances and our parents might be pretty dry, afraid to be sexy around their kids.

Not really, it feels like he's constantly looking for something to comment on negatively.
I know I'm being stupid for still crushing on him but it was only the past few years he went from joking a lot to being plain mean.

>hope this doesn't come back to bite me.
How would that happen? Realistically speaking, what is the worst that could happen? As long as you're being honest with them both, there is very little that could negatively impact you

Also this
Kinda curious to know as well

Stop hanging out with niggers and sexually frustrated teens, have a personality, interest and plans for your future, and you'll have no problem finding better guys

Dont want to scare the poor girl, but
>sister goes ballistic on her and makes her the villain, alienating her from the family entirely
>sister goes into a depression, breaks off the marriage and disappears in a pit of regret and self pity, and unable to get back on her feet again
You are not paying attention if you haven't heard of his these situations can end up in outright tragedy.

More likely than not, it will just be a bit of raises voices and arguing back and forth, and then it'll settle. I can't imagine a guy that autistic, without his fiancee already knowing of this. I can't help but feel like her response will be more on the line of
>oh, dont worry about it, I'll talk to him
With a voice thick with pity, and a deep sigh, like this is the 50th time she has had to have this talk with him.

Well if he somehow thought that was a proper way of showing interest, it was pretty stupid
Tell him it bothers you if you feel like it's worth it, or simply cut ties if you fee like that's better, it's up for you to decide

Glad you realized you were being stupid by crushing on him, I know love just happens and there isn't much to control, but that doesn't excuse bad behaviour to be called out

How much time does a girl need to cum? Is 15 minutes pumping her enough?

>He basically told me he thinks of me sexually, and that is extremely uncomfortable

I've got bad news about 80% of your Male friends.

You do bring some good points user... Guess I havent't considered this

However, I stand by what I said, if this is truly bothering her and starting to deteriorate their relationship, she should be honest with them both, tell the guy she found that distasteful, and her sister so she considers whether or not she's okay with it, and what she'll do about it
It might not be easy or go smoothly, but I believe that being honest is the best she can do now

T. Didnt read the postchain literally above yours

Are you a girl? Or a bald dude that shaved his head to cope?

I'm a dude and I have combo - balding II and shiny forehead. Don't know how to fix neither of them.

I guess it makes me more relieves knowing its normal, even if it's still shameful to admit I did it out of desire

In regards to the best friend who I said I could probably start a relationship a few posts above, we did flirt before, but nothing ever explicitly sexual, though I don't have problems talking about sex, I always feel like a prud talking with her, like I cannot talk dirty without feeling a lil embarassed, we never talked about sex so much, maybe thats why

I'm not sure if it's romantic interest, it could be, as I said here I confessed pretty early, maybe she's grown fond of me? Should I try to flirt a little more to show that I'm interested?

>This can be very hard as many of us never actually see people flirt before puberty. Young men do not watch romances and our parents might be pretty dry, afraid to be sexy around their kids.
Oof, that hit really close to home user, though I've been starting to become interested in romantic stories, mostly anime (yeah I know anime isn't the best love guru, but still)

Thank you for the analysis and advice! If he:
>takes extra time off his lunch breaks to speak to me
>touches me more than before even if it's subtle stuff like pushing me forward through the door etc.
>interested in my clothing, accessories etc
Not even talking about common interests and traits. Is there a possibility that he's not interested? I'm unconventionally afraid of being rejected for some reason, hence why I haven't invited him out yet.

How do I own the fact that my only real hobbies are video games and watching pro wrestling without driving a girl away? I'd hate to be disingenuous by pretending I have other interests but those are both pretty much THE go-to manchild hobbies.

How can I tell him without cutting ties or making him feel defensive or uncomfortable? I just want things to be like before I guess. I could put up with the superficial stuff at least.

There is always a possibility for anything, really, but given how you're describing him, it truly seems like he's taking extra steps to be with you and get to know you better, to me, he is interested

I know it's easier said than done, but if your relationship is as intimate as I assume it is, even if you do ask him and he rejects it, you can still resume to being good friends, right? It's what happened with me and a girl who I still talk with today, but ofc your situation is different, and I'm merely a random guy speculating what you can do, keep that in mind before taking any action, you know your situation better than I or anyone else here, I'm just working with the information you gave me

Worst case scenario (i assume) it will break your heart but you'll get over it
Best case, a partner for life

Does teeth whitening make any difference for male? I know America is all about cult of blinding smile, so I'd appreciate if a European user answers.

You know how the advice for guys is "just talk to girls like normal people" maybe you can try that.
I feel _____ when you _____ because _____ in the future I'd like ______.

Depends how yellow your teeth are. If tou are at "I smoke 2 packs of cigs a day and drink 5 coffees" level, you should look into it. Otherwise, meh.

You're criticizing a behaviour he's been doing for quite a while and supposedly doesn't see any problem with it, he will get somewhat defensive

It may be hard, but you have to tell him the truth if you care about the relationship and your own well being, don't be another girl that ends up in an abusive relationship because you couldn't woman up and take a stand

Tell him what is annoying you, tell him how he used to be and why you preferred it, and be completely blunt and honest with him, any sort of lies or sugarcoating could only make ir harder for any meaningful changes to happen, but thats just the opinion of an anonymous guy online, take it as such, I'm giving you advice based on what you told me and my personal experiences/knowledge, you ultimately know better the situation than I
That is not to say you shouldn't take a stand and be honest, just keep it in mind that what I'm saying is nothing but a opinion, I have no way of guaranteeing any satisfying result, but I'm trying my best to help you user

My teeth are yellowy on tops and medium white on bottoms. Ultrasound cleaning doesn't help much.

How old are you? Be urself

I look like I'm balding when my hair is wet but my hair looks fine when dry. Should I be worried? 21 asian male.

What exactly is the issue? I mean, ny hobbies aren't much better (vidya, anime, shitposting...), but even I could get the attention of a few girls, granted my looks aren't bad and I know what I want for my life, but I don't think these hobbies would be much of a turn off, though a femanon would probably be better giving an opinion on this

Maybe you should try having goals and taking care of your looks, or maybe look out for new hobbies or girls who share them

I'll try being upfront about it then. I've been putting off confronting him about it for way too long. Definitely better to talk to him about it in person rather than texting right? I just don't want to lose all the motivation I have to speak up now.

In person, definitely
It will feel more genuine and you'll be able to articulate your emotions better
Good luck user, I'm rooting for you

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Thanks for all the help, appreciate it.

>Taking advice from a nigga who faps to loli porn

ishygddt

Your input has been invaluable in terms of giving me the courage to move forward and while I believe I won't ask him out to a date directly, I'll definitely tell him I like spending time with him and that I find him interesting and see how he reacts. Thank you once again!