ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

My bf wants us to roleplay

After thinking a bit I have some ideas but still how the fuck do you roleplay without it being weird or awkward?

What do girls think about guys with self harm scars on their wrist and thighs? I cover them with clothes but if I ever have a gf she will have to find out eventually. I know this is a FAQ but I don’t want to create a new thread.

Your question doesn't fit this thread but I wanna help so:
I personally wouldn't mind, as I went through pretty rough times myself and in general am not an asshole.
If any girl ever acts weird about something that is essentially a part of you and your history, she's not worth your time.

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to perform perfectly. Talk to him about feeling awkward. Don’t be afraid to laugh if you’re not fully in character yet. I’ve never done that but that’s my opinion anyway.

Thank you

No problem, bud! Take care.

men, if a woman went to prostitution for survival, would you think any less of her?

no, but there are conflicting definitions of "for survival"

What should happen to girls when they turn 17 and stop being attractive and have no other purpose?

Should they be put into camps so they can have babies until they're 25 or should they just be aborted?

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Yes

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Yes
In a world that caters to women, prostitution is for the deranged and mentally disabled
You have food banks, therapy, shelters,etc, there's absolutely no excuse

If the girl I’m dating tends not to be talkative, how can I get her to open up more? I want to know what she’s thinking and feeling. I make all the decisions when we go out, I want her to speak up if she thinks differently.

the latter part, you can just talk to her about. Might take a bit of poking, but I've done it before.

define "good guys"
ive been called that and even told "i wish i had boyfriend like you" but im 27 khhv

Ladies: my wife hates the idea of oral (both ways) and me finishing anywhere on or in her. She even dislikes getting precum on her hands during foreplay. Are these normal things that we can ease into, or is my spunk touching her just not gonna happen?

Ladies: this is lighthearted and just dumb fun. My gf and I recently started playing a game where we name each other's body parts, and I made her spit out her coffee when I named her tits Juggs and Judy. (Juggs Judy). Got any future recommendations that can top that?

I have the same shit.
I constantly hear "you're not my type but you should be able to find someone easily". Yet to find someone.
Either they're being nice or every single one thinks she's the exception to the rule.

Same user. I have no idea why I directed that at ladies. Any ideas from anyone

yes

Does it make any sense to define myself or my love life by my lack of success with women? What am I if I've managed to struck out with every woman I ever had a crush on?

I have only known guys with undiagnosed/unmedicated bpd that have cutting scars.. so that depends on how safe your mental health is at the point of dating.
Sounds like germophobia, or ocd-ish. So no, it's not likely to happen sans therapy/sex education.
No, you are attracted to a type of woman that wouldn't be attracted to you. Might need some therapy if you had a bad relationship with your mother.

A guy who cares about you. But personally I wouldn't tell a guy directly about this. Calling someone "good guy" and "blah blah you're so nice and boyfriend material, you'll find someone" only sounds like some way to throw someone into friendzone imho.

Are you her? You pretty much nailed it with the germophobia and ocd-like tendencies. Well then goddamn. Thanks for the honest response. I guess it's something I'll have to come to terms with until/unless we decide to try and have a kid.

Just heard a female neighbor above me talking on the phone on speaker (the sleeping area is close to the ceiling). If I can hear her, then has she been hearing my porn? If so, am I going to be judged? I've never seen or met this person before but it's only a matter of time. Definitely using headphones every time from now on.

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who the fuck watches porn without headphones?

>A guy who cares about you.
Is that why girls keep getting their hopes up and/or hassling me? Because people tell me I'm a sweetheart and I try to treat people well, not because I have a handsome face and work out.

I do when I feel like I'm in the safety of indoors. I don't blast it, it's at a low volume on laptop speakers or sometimes my phone.

>No, you are attracted to a type of woman that wouldn't be attracted to you.
Makes sense. But my problem is that I can't attract women to begin with.
>Might need some therapy if you had a bad relationship with your mother.
That's the thing though. I have some issues with my mother but on the whole, I get along with her just fine and love her very much.

I wouldn't mind, although I need prostitutes to have sex so I am somewhat biased.

Girls, have you got an absurd crush on someone that you just met once for less than an hour maybe and think about themfor months to no end?

Yes. Maybe it's not the end of the world and if I really like you I'd still consider you lifelong partner material, but I can definitely say I would judge you for that and it's a deal breaker for most men.

I’m pretty sure I don’t have BPD, just so you know that not every cutter is one of those.

Lol no, I'm just extremely good at reading between the lines as an empath.
But yeah, there's not much to do with it if she's got a hard boundary. Could try lighter fetish stuff if you wanted a bit of fun. Medical fetishes typically intrest the OCD types.
So then you need to fix you. So you have physical attractiveness as far as having an aesthetic if not two with a functionable personality that isn't purely mental illness.

I know it can happen with pure depression, but I just haven't witnessed that type in my lifetime. Seems less common, as typically I see those with severe depression use "softer" regular old neglect (either eating disorder, isolation, or cleanliness wise) instead of cutting for self harm.

>So then you need to fix you. So you have physical attractiveness as far as having an aesthetic
I feel like I'm legitimately good-looking but no one ever comments on my appearance usually, so I feel like I'm ugly a lot of the time too. So far as crafting a unique aesthetic, I usually just go for tight-fitting t-shirts and jeans, with some tank tops and short-sleeve henleys here and there, which I know is pretty boring. I want to go for a nice punk/goth aesthetic eventually though, I just need to save up some more money.
> if not two with a functionable personality that isn't purely mental illness.
I think this is most of my problem. I genuinely can't see myself getting with anyone I actually have attraction to, which I think fucks up my interactions with them because I struggle with approaching or initiating conversation, especially in a fun, memorable, casual way. My brain usually turns off when talking to them too and I struggle with making women laugh.

It also doesn't help that I don't have a car either.

>If I can hear her, then has she been hearing my porn?
Spoken conversation is louder than low volume sounds from a device. It's a possibility, but very unlikely.
>If so, am I going to be judged?
Yeah. But that doesn't matter because...
>I've never seen or met this person before
...she doesn't know you. At worst, you are "the neighbor who doesn't use headphones", which is more of a nuisance than a menace. Being judged by someone who does not impact your life is the same as not being judged at all. The only person who is really judging you is yourself.
>but it's only a matter of time.
Are you planning to go upstairs and meet her? Why would you suddenly meet her now? I think you are just worried and are dreaming up consequences now that you are aware that people can hear you. If she could hear you, she would have complained before if it was such a bother.
>Definitely using headphones from now on.
You do that. Your neighbors will be grateful and you can move past this.

And if you are ever confronted about this, play dumb. A stranger has no business asking about your porn unless you are making that public knowledge.

>punk/goth aesthetic eventually though, I just need to save up some more money.
Punk rockers got their clothes from thrift stores and milsurp outlets, you poser

People tell me i'm great, smart, funny, i don't look bad and that i have style, but i don't ever see a single sign of interest ever. Every girl i know that i have a good relashionship with tells me they just want friendship even though i'm a great guy and i can't go anywhere with others because i can only talk casually for a few minutes, that when they just don't outright look at me like i am cancer.

I'm not the "nice guy" type... but why does nothing ever work for me? Now at 29 and never had a relashionship my whole life.

Why does that happen? How can i change it?

Sorry if the question doesn't fit the thread properly. I am home alone and depressed as fuck right now.

>I feel like I'm legitimately good-looking but no one ever comments on my appearance usually
Might be a tell that you are not wearing cuts that compliment your body type.
>unique aesthetic,
>I usually just go for tight-fitting t-shirts and jeans, with some tank tops and short-sleeve henleys
This is essentially not an aesthetic at all, it's basic.
Maybe start with your hair, get bangs for goth, try a faux hawk for punk.
>because I struggle with approaching or initiating conversation, especially in a fun, memorable, casual way
Small talk usually isn't any of those things, and it doesn't have to be. No shame in a light Q&A, it's how we gather information. The rest just sounds like anxiety, so you need to focous more on being in the moment when talking to others instead of in the clouds about what the conversation could be like.

>Punk rockers got their clothes from thrift stores and milsurp outlets, you poser
I don't think you realize how fucking cheap I am. Doesn't help that I'm a NEET at the moment either.

do you ever approach women?

>Might be a tell that you are not wearing cuts that compliment your body type.
I am. I do occasionally get compliments but it's not much.
>This is essentially not an aesthetic at all, it's basic.
I kinda figured.
>Maybe start with your hair, get bangs for goth, try a faux hawk for punk.
Already got the bangs.
>Small talk usually isn't any of those things, and it doesn't have to be. No shame in a light Q&A, it's how we gather information.
I feel like I've tried this before but with no success.
>The rest just sounds like anxiety, so you need to focous more on being in the moment when talking to others instead of in the clouds about what the conversation could be like.
How do I improvise about witty things to say on the fly?

Yes, i start conversations, chit chat for a bit, but i can never go beyond that.. and all the times i tried making a move failed. Always get outright rejection of the "friend" thing. This is tiredsome as fuck.

I even have some great friendship with girls, so it's not like i'm too autistic to talk to one, but that's always where it ends... either rejection or friendzone.

It's all so tiresome, user. Sometimes i feel i will die alone. It's starting to get me depressed. Loneliness kills me.

So softer guys (if there are any here even), I need help. This is a long one (1/2)

So this guy and I matched on tinder about 2 weeks ago, and I started talking to him and we hit it off. We both have ADHD so we just kinda have the same kind of energy, and so we didn't really stop talking for a bit. We're both students (he's in grad school and I'm an undergrad) we're both pretty far left politically. We just seemed to have a lot in common. Anyways we eventually decided to go on a date together this last saturday and it was a lot of fun.
Pretty much we barhopped around downtown for about 6 hours, and talked the whole time. Later on he admitted it was his first tinder date and I think he said something like "this is my first tinder date, so thanks for being a good person". Towards the end of the night I started getting closer to him and touching his arm and stuff like that, and at the last bar I was really drunk and i was just holding onto his arm and holding his hand and it just felt really nice.
And here is where i think i fucked up: It was past midnight and we both had a lot to drink and so he decided that we should head home, and he offered to get me an uber home, and I asked him to take me to his place. I asked like 3 times and I feel like that's where I fucked up but he said no and that he's trying to be better than that which honestly made me like him even more. Anyways I kissed him before I got out of the uber to go home and texted him before bed that I had a really fun time and that we should do it again and he said "yeah it was a lot of fun." and kinda avoided saying we should do another thing.

That's what I think this thing I'm dealing with with this guy is right now. I told myself I was gonna be a messy bitch after my breakup but within 3 different dates I ended up finding a crush.

(2/2)
Anyways, next day I text him and he says that he had a lot of fun but that the date was really overwhelming and that he wasn't sure if he was ready to date yet and he needed to think about his feelings, because it was his first date since ending a long term thing. I mean he definitely came off as a softer guy and so I'm really trying hard to respect his space and stuff but I kinda really fell for him just because I thought we got along really well. So I said I understand (which is true cause I'm 2 months out of a 3 year long relationship myself), and he said "thanks for understanding. I appreciate it."
Here's fuck up number 2: I texted him wednesday to see how he was feeling (which was probably too soon) and he said he's still thinking but he thinks he's not ready to date if it's that overwhelming because he already has grad school to deal with too, and he said sorry that he doesn't feel ready. And I said that its fine and that I understand and if he ever wants to talk or hang out to text me and he said "yeah for sure". And its just like god, I still really like him and I wish I had gone a different way of talking to him, or just met him a month from now or something. He's such a fun person to talk to, and I'm honestly really sad I'm making myself let go like this.
But whatever, my question is do you think he still likes me? He said I was a good person and that he had a lot of fun and there was physical contact towards the end of the night, so that's a good sign. But also the "im not ready for a relationship" thing is classic nice boy speak for "sorry im not interested in you". A guy friend of mine said that he could be telling the truth and it really has just been too soon and he ended up falling for me, but I don't wanna hope that much.
Question number two is, would it be a bad idea to text him sunday and just ask if he wants to at least be friends? I liked sending him memes and stuff and we get along in personality and stuff.

Ladies, how do I know if I'm handsome?

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If you've never been cold approached by a girl then you're not handsome

How cold we talkin bout? Does flirting while on the job count?

I want to ask this guy out at work but I'm so nervous. I've never talked to him. We only ever give each other looks and stares from a distance and in passing. I want to just get it over with, but I'm unsure I'm reading the situation right. I always asked guys out and 99.9% of the time I'm rejected. I read the whole "hes looking at me all the time, he must like me" is a ridiculous thing to go off of. But that's all I got at this point.

>I feel like I've tried this before but with no success.
Light q&a is more of a game of conversation starters. Not everyone will bite, that's a given. And some people don't like certain subjects, so you need to make more educated guesses as to what you are asking each person with a bit of detective work in who they are/might be.
>How do I improvise about witty things to say on the fly?
Pay Attention. Use deductive reasoning based on profiles or in person observations, yet don't give it away that you are evaluating them because that is creepy.

Alright. How do I have confidence despite being a NEET at the moment with no car?

Are you cute? I'm a guy and I do the same thing all the time but end up getting rejected. My advice: don't go for it. They say don't shit where you eat for a reason.

Same thing keeps happening with me with my female coworker. I personally like her and I think she might too, but I'm too anxious to approach her and she probably has no idea I like her.

So the guy you like might be just as anxious as you, who knows. It depends on what kind of person he is. There's only one way to find out...and that's by either going in for the kill or just talking to him and becoming friends at first.

may I ask how much did he drink that night?

I'll be honest with you, I'm far from being a leftist and a "soft" person, but the impression that I get after reading your story is that you are certainly not wife material.
This is just my interpretation and this guy might have totally different ideas.
He mentioned you were his first tinder date, you didn't mention anything about the number of tinder dates you have been in, not only that but you also got so drunk and were willing to fuck a guy that was pretty much a stranger. One can only assume that 1. you have been in many other dates, 2. fucked an undisclosed amount of those dates. 3. those previous dates also failed to land you a relationship or didn't last long so you are again looking for a relationship. These just sound like mayor red flags to me. Also think about all those meetoo allegations lately, fucking a drunk girl doesn't sound like a clever thing to do in the modern age.

Again, i don't know what is going through this guy's head, but I don't think contacting him again is a good idea. Maybe wait and see if he ever contacts you again?

I guess I'm just worried for rejection. Especially at work! I don't even know his name, that's how little I know. There's just that gut feeling when I see him and we catch a glimpse. I'm usually great at approaching guys and asking them out / starting conversation but I guess it makes a difference at work.

I'm not ugly or overweight. I'm not Instagram model hot. But I'm damn cute. Who knows maybe I just have bad fucking luck. I've also haven't gone in asking him out because it's work.

>How do I have confidence
Have it.
Do things calmly, even when afraid.
Also don't invest so much emotion into these interractions, keep to platonics if that's your comfort zone for interracting with strangers. You can work on romantic semantics eventually.

I hate to break down this for you, but the more accommodating you are to other people, the lesser is your value for them.
I don't know if it's just the both of us being unlucky and surrounded by shitty people, but... yeah. The times I was the most caring and sweet were also the times people seemed to value my feelings the least. This happens even to my friendships with other girls (as a girl myself).
Prioritize yourself first and foremost. If you feel like you're "being played" and "kept getting your hopes up", chances are you were expecting some differential special treatment that you haven't gotten from the person you've treated kindly. Expect nothing, prioritize your feelings first, be polite but help only in case it costs absolutely zero effort to you.
Maybe I'm pessimistic as hell, but that's how I sympathize with your situation.

>may I ask how much did he drink that night?
The same amount as I did, p much. We shared a bunch of wine at this wine bar and we sipped each others drinks and stuff, it was fun.
>you are certainly not wife material.
Is that what matters when you're both lonely college students on tinder?
>He mentioned you were his first tinder date, you didn't mention anything about the number of tinder dates you have been in, not only that but you also got so drunk and were willing to fuck a guy that was pretty much a stranger.
Honestly? I didn't wanna fuck, I was too uncoordinated. I wanted to cuddle and watch netflix.
>One can only assume that 1. you have been in many other dates, 2. fucked an undisclosed amount of those dates. 3. those previous dates also failed to land you a relationship or didn't last long so you are again looking for a relationship.
1. I've been on 2 other dates
2. 0 sex so far
3. Of course not, I've only been using tinder for about 2 and a half weeks.
>fucking a drunk girl doesn't sound like a clever thing to do in the modern age.
It honestly isn't, and I'm an impulsive drunk (thanks ADHD) and I really respect him for being responsible.

I would advice against taking the cold approach and asking him out.
Instead try to establish and acquaintance relationship with him, find what he likes, what you guys have in common, manage to have a conversation with him and then ask him out based on your common interest.
why you ask?
A couple of years ago, a girl that worked in the same place that I did took the cold approach on me and just told me that she liked me and she wanted to go on a date with me. I sensed from the beginning it wasn't a good idea but I obliged anyway. The date was awful, we just went to some mall, sit somewhere and said nothing to each other for a long time. She still kissed me and tried to keep contact afterward but for me it was such a hassle that I didn't even want to bother anymore and I just ghosted her.

You clearly are infatuated with this guy, but I'm sure you are looking for more than just a simple hookup, so play your cards smart and try to get to know him first before forcing both of you into a situation neither of you might want to be in.

Also, dating at work is in general an awful idea.

You could just start with talking about work related things, I suppose. That's the advice I got when I asked a friend haha. And it does make sense, it's what I see all my coworkers doing and it's what I did with the coworkers I became friends with. That's probably the most subtle way to go about it.

What field do you work in? If it's a job where you never get the chance to talk naturally then oof, you're in a rough spot. Any way you go about it will be more obvious. It also depends on how good looking he is and overall physical attributes. A man who's less confident in himself will probably assume you're just being friendly.

Are girls just unable to admit when they're wrong? Do the fact they have orbiters make them feel like they can replace their significant others so easily?

How do i go from this chitchat to something else though? Seems like i can't move foward from it.

Seems like everyone else starts knowing each other and adding each other on social media but i'm stuck as the guy they talk for 20 seconds.

I have absolutely no fucking clue lmao. Maybe get to know their interests and then one day ask what they're doing on the weekend, then ask if they wanna do said things they're interested in.

The two relationships I've had, I've been approached very aggressively, so I can't really give any more advice than that.

>Is that what matters when you're both lonely college students on tinder?
well the guy is clearly way older than you and his previous relationship was long term, i don't think he is just looking for a meaningless thing.
>Honestly? I didn't wanna fuck, I was too uncoordinated. I wanted to cuddle and watch netflix.
you'll need to be literally brain dead to not take "take me to your place" as a sexual innuendo, maybe you didn't mean it that way but your actions are louder than your words
>It honestly isn't, and I'm an impulsive drunk (thanks ADHD) and I really respect him for being responsible.
you clearly aren't responsible for yourself, why would he want to babysit you?

again, this is just me. But clearly, he is blaming himself for the lack in interest in you, we all know what that means.

I've been struggling to figure that out unfortunately. I'm not getting much results, and i was never approached my whole life.

You right, you right. I dont think I would straight up go ask. But there's hardly a time we have a chance to talk one on one. Or at all. Unless I approached him. Which would be odd to just approach with no other reason to chat right ?

Yeah I'll just have to find a way to catch him and talk to him. Just a conversation. I've been eyeballing the guy but haven't done anything about it. Just checked him out. Haven't tried to get to know his name or anything. I guess I just shy away from the whole idea, especially since it's work and I've never ever dated someone from work. Or really asked anyone I work with out

chat is fine, just don't go with the asking out right away.

How do girls always smell nice?

I have severe back acne scars. Like 50+.

If you dated a very average looking guy and learned this about him, would this be a deal breaker?

I've dated 2 girls who didn't care, but it still scares me.

A good time would be during breaks/lunch. I often see my coworker friends during both of these times. I even see the girl I like from time to time, but anxiety. At the very least, you're a girl, so I doubt he thinks you're creepy or something. Rejection is the worst result, and not trying is basically the same result...usually. Good luck, user.

what things do girls like when a guy does while kissing/making out? stuff like breathing on neck/ear etc? going on my first date sunday

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Friend of mine told me to try the trick where you hand them a fresh made drink order and tell em you had an extra. Lol

now that we established a connection, tell me more about yourself.
how old are you and how long have you been single?

Can a girl be in the friendzone with a guy forever? Is a guy's friendzone as inflexible as a girl's friendzone tends to be?

girl was late for our date. I'm making her pay up for this, but I haven't decided the punishment yet. What do?

>well the guy is clearly way older than you and his previous relationship was long term, i don't think he is just looking for a meaningless thing.
Hes 23, I'm 21 and my last relationship was 3 years long, I asked him why he was on tinder and he said he wasnt sure what he was looking for.
>you'll need to be literally brain dead to not take "take me to your place" as a sexual innuendo
Well yeah, I was being drunk and stupid.

Would it be a dumb idea to ask him straight up if he liked me or not, because its easier to deal with if I just knew,

yes. I have seen it with my eyes.

Ladies how I do approach you at a bar and in public? Do I do a cheesey pick up line or just straight say you pretty wut ur name?

Also my penis is crooked. Is that a turnoff

Even when they stink it stink good u kno.

can't you just simple take the "not what I'm looking for" answer?

What are the reasons women look at a guy? I heard you might also get looked at if they think you're creepy? Is this true?

What if it's someone I've already slept with in the past?

I met a girl in a group where girls post lewd pics.

We hit it off and she lives close to me.

She's a bit busy, but we made plans in 2 weeks.

Should I be more sexually aggressive? She's cool and I want something real with her.

I figure since she posted in that group she's used to dudes thirsting, I mean I got nudes and shit already.

I'm trying it to be too sexual til the first date as I don't wanna seem insincere, is this a good 94 bad idea?

That's not even the friendzone anymore. It's the "I already tried this and it didn't work. I'd rather not get hurt again" zone, which is even worse...but it also means they're still physically attracted to you, which is a plus.

Haha old enough and been single for years. Last relationship was a 3 way and I didn't get much of the relationship