Been with her for 1.5 years now, things have been amazing in general. Concerning the emotional and other side of relationships, we're on point and I can't describe how happy she makes me feel.
Physically, sex has been less and less compared to when we first met, bordering on 0ish these days. A recent talk surrounding this revealed that one time I put the moves on her and she felt like that was all I wanted (which is completely untrue) - so she's been disgusted by the thought ever since.
We've tried talking about it, I've tried to reason that the rest of our relationship should be proof that I'm clearly interested for deeper reasons, etc etc. She can't seem to get over this weird thought - is my relationship dead? I love this girl more than I've loved anybody, and for good reason, and it's literally destroying me to think she could be disgusted with me in such a way while teasing me with our continued relationship.
all men want women just for sex so she isnt wrong but you can sweet talk her and tell her its not true
I want sex as part of the relationship, but my relations with her aside from that make it worth my time. I quite literally can't help but smile when I see her - it's magnetic to me. I fucking adore this girl...
>t's literally destroying me stop doing things that are literally destroying you, Jesus Christ.
no need to virtue signal on Jow Forums
cringe oh I love her ueueueuueueeeueueee
Also thats bullshit she says this cuz shes fucking someone else or is about She isn't turned on by you to her you're inferior to the man she wants to fuck or has fucked already
Shits dead ,time to move on, the sooner the better
Sounds like something she needs to figure out. Also don't listen to the trolls
It's over bro. Sorry.
The sad thing is, once a woman stops fantasizing about you and is no longer interested in sex with YOU- she has already found someone else. The truth is, you fucked up and didn't satisfy her enough to be happy. In many areas other than sex. It could be emotional happiness, financial status and independence, ambition to be successful in life, habits, physical status, etc.
There's not much you can do about it. You had almost two years to show her what you've got and she didn't like it. She's moving on. In life, you have to be assertive. After a couple months or so, you should have made the decision to marry this girl and keep her forever or move on in life. If you don't make this decision, the default is that she will leave. She has left you bro. Just end it.
I think you're right, as much as I hate to admit. She's denied vehemently that there's somebody else, and I believe her at face value, but you never know. More likely it would seem she's just not attracted to me anymore... And so I'm in my current spot.
I'll have to do some more thinking.
The thing is it's a completely stupid hang up. One time I may have been too forward when she wanted to cuddle and this or that, but instead of using her big girl words she just let herself feel like shit and now uses that as ammo against me for everything since. I don't know how the guy who is actually willing to spend a lifetime with you can be seen as just wanting you for a single aspect. It's fucked. I'm giving her some time - on our current schedules we're running opposite, so we don't really see each other. I will see how she is in a few weeks.
Man, I wanted to marry her too. She's so fucking good to me. She's always been temperamental and moody in ways, but I never had any trouble disarming her and bringing her back. It's such a weird place to be right now... I know what you're saying though.
>I'll have to do some more thinking and observing see if you get dead give away signs and spy in those dms if you can get away with it gotta make sure
>The thing is it's a completely stupid hang up. One time I may have been too forward when she wanted to cuddle and this or that, but instead of using her big girl words she just let herself feel like shit and now uses that as ammo against me for everything since. >Man, I wanted to marry her too. She's so fucking good to me. She's always been temperamental and moody in ways, but I never had any trouble disarming her and bringing her back. It's such a weird place to be right now... I know what you're saying though. She shouldn't have to act like a child. You shouldn't have to disarm her and bring her back. She sounds damaged and not definitely not good to you.
I've perused my share over our time together and I've never had any suspicions. She doesn't hide her phone, doesn't care if I use it, etc. Her phone is always away from her and she sleeps like a rock, so it hasn't been hard to kill that suspicion. She's either hidden it super well (which I think is unlikely) or there's nothing going on with anyone else.
It was the first thing I thought when she was acting weird but it doesn't seem to be the case.
Don't listen to these assholes. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Learn what she really feels. If you really love her and she loves you then you can get past this. Don't let her go.
As others have said , it's probably over. There's not much you can do. The more you try, the more needy you'll look and the more distant shell become. Chances are she's already seeing someone else.
I have done this and continue to do this. I want to believe that love can overcome this little snag, because she tells me how crazy she is about me and I can see it too.
I appreciate your optimism, truly. Despite facing the difficult decision that may be ahead of me, your enthusiasm makes me want to try harder.
I don't know about her seeing someone else. Her phone has never had anything on it (when things got weird initially, this was my suspicion), and when she says she's out somewhere - she's always there. I make surprise visits to see her at school, work, etc and I've never once had a time where she wasn't honest and truthful.
She needs to communicate better. How does she see the relationship move forward without sex? You need to have a serious discussion about it and she cant let shit stew like that. Using it now way after the fact is insane. This is her problem to solve. Questionable if she actually wants to do so though.
The one time I had a girl accuse me that all I want is sex was pretty much an excuse for her to break up with me and hook up with another guy. Take that as you will.
Women are all different but they behave the same way. She hates herself and the lack of sex is just her way of punishing you for not making her get beyond her inner demons. She’s a fucking mess in her head, most likely has a bad history with men too. American women aren’t worth the trouble.
>don’t let her go
Lol he won’t have a choice, she’s already decided to cut out intimacy. Unless holding on means being her unloved roommate I don’t think your advice amounts to shit. Moving on is the only way out of the hole.
Go on, it's worth it. Don't let little things ruin the big picture.
It sounds like she may be concerned that she isn't good enough, or that something is wrong with her if she believes that all you want out of her is sex, especially if you have made it clear that you care about her more than just physically. I don't know for sure but it might be her self esteem. Also, all relationships come to a point where sex just isn't the same as if use to be. So get wild, spice things up. Try rollplay, mutual masterbation to porn, swinging with another couple, ect. Just don't go so far that you ruin sex all together. Best of wishes!
you fucking cuck faggot dont fuck his shit up dont listen to him OP
Speaking personally, women often develop awful complexes about sex that are different/manifest differently between each woman.
If you love this girl, see a couples counselor to improve communication, discuss love languages, etc.
Who hurt you? Have you been alone so long that you have become cold and bitter? Don't let it take you over.
She has low self esteem for some reason
>one time I put the moves on her and she felt like that was all I wanted (which is completely untrue) - so she's been disgusted by the thought ever since. Sounds like a load of B.S. in my ears.
Is she stupid or is she lying? You get to pick one of the two. She is your GIRLFRIEND, you are her BOYFRIEND. No shit you will make sexual advances on her because you're in a sexual relationship rofl.
Sounds to me like she just isn't sexually attracted to you anymore (aka she's lying). But rather than telling you this upfront she comes up with some bullshit story about how she doesn't feel comfortable anymore blah blah typical female bullshit.
Show her the power she holds over you, beg her
"WhO HUrT yOu" i swear it's always those self loathing insecure femanon fags who spew out these statements. Go scratch your pus filled back warts piglet
You know that someone can be made to feel like they’re just a sexual object by their partner in a relationship, right?
It can often come about from misreading a situation. The guy thinks it’s romantic to progress to sex. The girl thinks it’s romantic to just cuddle and have a nice moment. The guy asks for sex, and the girl is unhappy because she’s not in the mood and it feels like a chore, and like that’s what he was really after in having a romantic moment with her.
The truth is the guy has no idea she’s not in the mood or that he just popped her bubble. She has no idea that he thinks he’s continuing the romantic moment to its logical conclusion.
It boils down to different expectations, communication. It’s also why I made sure to communicate to my boyfriend when I WAS in the mood so he’d learn that if I’m in the mood, I’ll either enthusiastically OR initiate— and if I’m not in the mood, I don’t initiate, and he’s comfortable sitting back and not pushing because there’s always next time. And it made me feel respected and happy, because I recognized that he recognized I wasn’t into it in that moment.
If he’d pushed even then, given our dynamic, I’d have been upset and if it was a recurring pattern I’d feel like my feelings weren’t being taken into account.
Relationships take effort to establish a working dynamic.
> The guy thinks it’s romantic to progress to sex. The girl thinks it’s romantic to just cuddle and have a nice moment. The guy asks for sex, and the girl is unhappy because she’s not in the mood and it feels like a chore If you get to the point in your relationship where the events leading up to sex look like this, your relationship is already doomed.