ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Men don't care about your hobbies, period.
Men won't find your personality/quirks interesting (for long, at least), period.
Showing kindness and other virtues will impress healthy men.

But as you can see from the other responses it varies, I really can't see how anyone would care about a girls hobbies irl tho.

>Ride or die
That's sick, foo. Glad you could like, find a chiquita like that, holmes. Prouda you, ese.

she has deep interest on anything besides normie shit like partying, drinking, travelling and such.

Don't listen to the other user. I think it would be absolutely amazing to have a girlfriend who likes writing books, drawing, or composes music. Stuff like that builds character and shows a certain kind of drive a lot of people don't have in addition to just making you overall more interesting.

As for personality that's way too broad.

Sadly I have found this to be true. I have a more "masculine" 4channy sense of humor (for lack of a better term), I'm educated and worldly, I've had a lot of interesting life experiences, I have hobbies that I am passionate about, I'm friendly and open-minded and can talk about anything. I always get told by guys that I have a rare personality and I'm unique and interesting etc etc. These guys always end up friendzoning me and dating basic normie girls instead.
>inb4 ugly
I'm skinny, dress well, get told I am pretty reasonably often so it's not my looks. Guys just insist they want a quirky cool girl when they don't actually.

Boys or girls, whatever, as long as you can give me an answer
A few months ago i started noticing this girl at the gym checking me out regularly, i later found out we go to the same college.
Eventually, she struck up a conversation with me, nothing special, just chatter, but she seemed invested, from there on, we talked a couple more times, and she always seemed friendly, we would greet each other on college, even if she was far away she would wave enthusiastically at me.
Problem is, i never got her number, so when the semester was over, we spent more than a few weeks without so much as bumping into each other. Now that we're back, i keep seeing her around, but don't know if she even remembers me, should i try anything or would it just be awkward? Like, i'm afraid she might think i just ghosted her, i don't know

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You described yourself as pretty "masculine" personality wise, and that's a big turn off for many guys.
I like my girlfriend because she is caring, nurturing, loving, affectionate, motherly, kind. I don't want someone who is *just* a good buddy, she has to be someone I can see being the mother of my children. I like hanging out with Jow Forums shitposters but wouldn't let them raise my child.

>i'm afraid she might think i just ghosted her
You don't have her number, I assume she knows that. So long as she's not a complete idiot she'll understand that you couldn't contact her even if you wanted to. Talk to her, a few weeks is not that long.

> Men don't care about your hobbies, period.
Factually and completely false. If your hobbies are similar to mine then we can connect over talking about those things. I would be reluctant to date a girl I didn't have at least one or two shared interests with. Even moreso a girl that doesn't have any interests beside "netflix and hanging out with friends" or whatever normie girls do with their free time.

>Guys just insist they want a quirky cool girl when they don't actually.
We do, they're just either out of reach or we've learned to avoid their specific type like the plague because another girl with a very similar personality was crazy.
One I just recently caught up with again I've changed my mind on and definitely don't want to pursue anymore because of how similar her personality is to the girl who made my life a living hell.

>masculine
There's your problem, nobody wants their gf to remind them of a man.
>I'm educated and worldly, I've had a lot of interesting life experiences
I'm not trying to knock you but this is word for word the exact phrase "basic bitches" use to sell themselves as interesting. Maybe it's accurate in your case, but when most people say it it's a load of shit and makes me immediately suspicious.

I think I have an even balance of masculine and feminine traits and interests. I present appearance-wise as totally feminine and am very comfortable in my femininity, and I tend to be very caring/gentle towards the boys I date (bordering on mommy gf status sometimes). Also, I'm not looking for dudes who want to raise children with me...I'm a little young for that. I'm just baffled as to why these guys who get along with me superbly and have fun spending time with me don't actually want to ever date me.

Maybe this is it. I usually get friendzoned before I can even do anything "crazy", though I'm overall pretty conflict-avoidant and not very clingy or jealous in relationships. Maybe these guys are trying to get out preemptively because they assume I'll be a wackjob or something. I have struggled with depression on and off for years but this is not info I volunteer to people until I know them for a long time and you can't really "tell" (I put effort into my appearance, no visible cuts or anything etc).

Guys, every time my bf tries to out his dick in me it bends and just wacks into me because too much wetness. Guiding is way too hard since I can't see. Wat do?

I guess this is probably it too. It's funny that guys will make fun of girls for not being funny or understanding their sense of humor, or for having girly taste in movies/music/what have you...then when someone comes along that they actually have that stuff in common with...it's a turn off. That seems weird.

I know it seems braggy to say all that and sounds very Tinder bio but I had a pretty unique upbringing and have a background that I don't share with most people in my area, and talking about it tends to pique people's interest/leave an impression on them. I didn't know how to better phrase all that lol.

I'm confused, do you not know where your vaginal opening is?

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>Attempts to go into hole
>It's small
>He wide
>Bumps into hole and it won't spread
>Dick bends

>I'm not looking for dudes who want to raise children with me
I don't see the point of dating someone I don't consider a possible life partner. If I just wanted a fling, I wouldn't bother making it official.

Do you make yourself available? Do you make the guys know you're interested in them? If you act like a buddy that will certainly make them "friendzone" you.
Friendzone is the cringiest term anyone has ever invented.

If it's as you say up here then I dont' really see an issue. As long as you have feminine traits, being kind and caring towards your bf and all that then there's no issue. Maybe you don't show that side enough?

I'd phrase it as you just did. It's more specific and reveals that you have done some genuinely interesting things in your life. Saying "i'm interesting" is boring as fuck, but saying "I've done this and this and this" isn't.

Lmao. ACCESS DENIED.

Huh. I mean, if it's aimed correctly and you're lubricated it should be able to go in unless you have an underlying medical condition that wouldn't allow it. Are you comfortable putting things in it that aren't penises? Maybe you're just a little nervous and it's making you tense up?

He went ahead and fingered me, but fuck it hurt and I bled a lot. I was a virgin with an intact hymen btw if that matters

That makes more sense. It honestly takes practice to be comfortable with having things in the vag. It should not hurt very much though, so that worries me a little bit. Be sure to take it slowly and don't let him rush you into anything. It really helps if you're comfortable inserting things in yourself before you let anyone else put anything in you.

How the hell did this trend start where straight women claim that penises are disgusting abominations that they'd never want to look at? How does one unironically claim to be attracted to one sex, but then go on to say that sex's sexual equipment is revolting? Are they just afraid of being called sluts for liking dicks?

Guys
me and my boyfriend have been going through a bit of a rough patch and our relationship has been a bit on and off over the last 6 months. We've been having some conversations about where it might be going and whether we should stay together. He recently told me that he's decided he loves me and he wants to be with me and everything seemed to be picking up; we stopped arguing, started spending more time together and planning for the future. However, we haven't had sex in over a month and there is very little affection in our relationship. He seems to actively shy away from it and it's become the elephant in the room. We don't even sleep in the same bed now. This never used to be an issue and he always used to be extremely affectionate. I didn't bring it up because I was hoping things would improve but as they haven't I confronted him this evening and asked whether he would rather just be friends as it seems that the sexual and romantic element of our relationship is gone. He freaked out and didn't give me a straight answer and when I told him I need some truth he told me he wanted to get engaged again and would love to have sex with me. This is even more confusing and I have no idea what to do.
Help?

Maybe he's having trouble correlating romantic feelings with sexual feelings and doesn't want you to think he only loves you for your body.

>I didn't bring it up because I was hoping things would improve but as they haven't I confronted him this evening and asked whether he would rather just be friends as it seems that the sexual and romantic element of our relationship is gone.
So you skipped addressing the problem until you jumped straight to "do you think we should break up?", and got a panic answer.

It’s usually dumb liberals who think hating all men is a personality. I’m a straight woman who leans left and wouldn’t be considered a slut, and I personally find a nice penis to be very visually appealing and a turn on.

We don’t, we just don’t want dudes to send them to us, and they’re really disgusting when we see them on a dude don’t know, aren’t interest in, and aren’t with.

Think of it this way. Penises are only hot because of the person they’re attached to. Without the person, it’s just a weird floppy thing that kinda looks like an alien.

I loved my ex’s dick because it was attached to him. I loved playing with it, seeing it, and experimenting with it because it was attached to him.

If it were just a random penis on a dude I’d never met before, and didn’t want to see it, I’d just feel revulsion. Context matters.

>tfw can't even fit the smallest sized tampons into myself

Thanks for making me fear my first time, I guess.
Anyway, men: if area 51 held every man's perfect woman captive, would that make you attempt to storm it/join an organised raid?

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These guys in question, I met expressly for dating purposes using dating apps. So there was no question as to my intentions and we didn’t start off as friends before they decided to friendzone me. I agree friendzone is a corny term but I can’t think of anything else that captures my predicament as succinctly lol.

You might be into something. I’ve had guys tell me they hated clingy girls but then go on to date girls that they complained to me were too clingy. They might have misconstrued my lack of clinginess (I’m more introverted and independent) for lack of interest? And say that they don’t want clingy girls when they actually enjoy the attention?

You might have vaginismus. Had similar issues. Couldn’t get it in...

Yeah, I'm glad that there are women around who aren't afraid to say things like that. It's really demoralizing for men when everyone tells them all dicks are gross.

But a lot of women will go so far as to say they wouldn't want to see the penis of anybody they aren't in a relationship with. They supposedly never find themselves staring at somebody's bulge, even if they find that person attractive. It's like they're trying way too hard to radiate that they're a pure maiden.

I think if we could all agree to it knowing none of us would chicken out we would do it.

I wouldn't though because I already like a girl

This sounds strangely accurate, but I also can't help feeling there is more to it than that.

I didn't want him to feel like he's trapped with me if he isn't feeling it any more. I wanted him to be honest and tell me directly if he thinks the relationship isn't working for him which is what I have been sensing for a while. His behaviour correlates so strangely with what he said.

Damn it user, stop making girthy men like me even more worried than we normally are.
>if area 51 held every man's perfect woman captive, would that make you attempt to storm it/join an organised raid?
No, pussy isn't worth getting shot.

I’ve been seeing a guy and I’m going over to his place tomorrow. I think we might have sex for the first time and I’m wondering if I should make it a point to shave or wax down there beforehand? I don’t exactly have a forest growing, I keep it trimmed, but I’m worried a guy would find any amount of hair down there to be repulsive. I don’t tend to remove the hair down there because it’s difficult to do and hurts like a bitch to grow out in between shaves.

Would the average American guy be bothered by it? I’ve only slept with one guy before and he didn’t mind my pubic hair in the slightest, but he was Asian and used to Japanese porn where the actresses usually have bushes.

>Pussy
Nigga if we all get out dream girls that's like an additional 5-6 billion good women/humans on the planet and a bunch of happy families.

>But a lot of women will go so far as to say they wouldn't want to see the penis of anybody they aren't in a relationship with.

I mean, I can sympathize with that. But that’s usually because of the context in which they’re likely to see it— namely, some guy is exposing themselves to her, either in person or via text, and that’s a shuddersome thought.

Many of those women enjoy porn, or drawn penises of fictional characters. And if they had to help a dude while he’s naked for medical reasons (such as bathing him, helping him change, or changing a bandage in a sensitive area), many of them would grin and bear it because it’s more important to help the dude (especially if he’s family).

The thing is that the context in which you see the penis matters. When a guy exposes himself to you, it’s a power play: he’s expressing sexual interest in a way that DELIBERATELY crosses socially acceptable boundaries, and that conditions us to be EXTREMELY averse to seeing penises.

It’s why porn is often fine, because we’re looking on our own terms and the dude isn’t coming into us. But yeah, I have a reflexive feeling of revulsion and violation at seeing a dude’s penis when I don’t want to see it. But when I’m with the guy and we’re getting naked, I think his cock is beautiful.

And the dude isn’t coming onto us, fucking autocorrect

Bipolar and panic from what I can tell.

To add: when I went to nude beaches or saw people skinny dipping, I didn’t feel revulsion because it was nonsexual. The dudes were just existing, they weren’t trying to intimate sexual interest or throw their weight around or talk about how much I want it/how they’ll MAKE me want it.

It’s just that most women are conditioned to find penises revolting because the circumstances under which they see most penises are unfortunately revolting and sometimes frightening. Men weaponize their sexuality and genitalia, so of course we don’t like them except under specific circumstances.

>But that’s usually because of the context in which they’re likely to see it— namely, some guy is exposing themselves to her
I get that, but I'm referring to scenarios where the guy isn't willingly exposing himself. Like if a guy walking down the street has a pretty obvious erection, or a male friend gets their pants pulled down, or somebody's in a swimsuit that does a horrible job of hiding their bulge. A lot of women won't admit to enjoying such situations, even if they don't find the guy ugly.

>Men weaponize their sexuality and genitalia, so of course we don’t like them except under specific circumstances.
Women do the same thing with their boobs but you'll have a hard time finding a man who thinks they're revolting.

>But a lot of women will go so far as to say they wouldn't want to see the penis of anybody they aren't in a relationship with.
I'm 100% that kind of woman.
I wouldn't say I'm repulsed by dicks, and have no problem touching one if there's a medical reason as the other user pointed out.
On the other hand, I'm not sexually aroused by the sight of a random dick and I've never spent time looking at someone's bulge or anything like that. I love my boyfriend's dick, everyone else's is just a fleshy appendage.

>Women do the same thing with their boobs but you'll have a hard time finding a man who thinks they're revolting.

That's not the kind of weaponization I'm talking about. I'm talking about rape and sexual assault. I don't know if it's possible for you to empathize with this, but women often associate penises with the fear of sexual violence, which is why (in an aroused state and sexual context) boyfriend's penis = good/safe, all other penises = bad/potentially dangerous.

>I get that, but I'm referring to scenarios where the guy isn't willingly exposing himself. Like if a guy walking down the street has a pretty obvious erection

Yeah, I don't enjoy that either. There's nothing sexy or arousing about it on my end. I get why some women would be disgusted, but if the guy's just acting normal and clearly doing his best to will it away/pretend it's not there, then I feel pretty neutral about it. But I'm not interested in it. It just doesn't DO anything for me. The implication that some random dude I don't know is aroused does absolutely ZILCH.

>male friend gets their pants pulled down
That's not sexy either, that's just awkward and/or I feel bad for the guy who was unwillingly exposed or humiliated.

>somebody's in a swimsuit that does a horrible job of hiding their bulge
Usually, that's a dude who deliberately chose a swimsuit that doesn't do a good job (speedos come to mind) and it's generally gross, it feels like they were kind of hoping to show off their package.

>Women do the same thing with their boobs but you'll have a hard time finding a man who thinks they're revolting.
Talk about the dumbest argument ever. When has a woman weaponized her boobs toward a man?

Also, just my opinion on the main topic, but I love looking at penises and I'm a girl.

Ladies/Girls/Femoids:
I (as it turns out) have a very powerful gaze, hypnotic you could sometimes say.

What on earth am I supposed to do with this

>What on earth am I supposed to do with this
Stare in a mirror forever and become Narcissus.

going on 4 hours no response :'(
every time.

to my text, not that post. just to clarify.

>Talk about the dumbest argument ever. When has a woman weaponized her boobs toward a man?
Yeah I'm sure they wear low-cut tops and push-up bras for their own enjoyment.

I mean...I do, yeah. You sound like a bitter incel.

That's not weaponization in the way that was meant, and you know it.

Put some ball pythons on your head and turn people into stone.

Oh, so it doesn't count because you say so. Got it.

Seeing a random dude with a boner makes me uncomfortable and scared. I just feel in danger and want to get out ASAP.
I don't think seeing cleavage makes you feel the same.

Penises can be weaponized to literally rape people, retard. A woman cannot physically harm you with her cleavage. You're being dense on purpose. Take the L

You feel in danger over something guys have no control over?

You don't actually believe that. You just want to whine.

So sexual assault only counts if it's physically painful?

Yes, if I'm alone with him and he's horny, I'm going to be scared as shit.
If my boyfriend is there, I'm just uncomfortable. Someone having a boner when the situation absolutely doesn't call for being sexually aroused feels out of place.

Physical is enough. Pain is implied, either physically or mentally.

I don't even know why you bothered to ask your question. I guess you were hoping to get a circlejerk of girls talking about how much they looove cock and how all those women who don't are just prudes/secret sluts trying to pretend to be pure and maidenly.

You didn't get that. You got an honest answer. You don't like it, so you're hung up on a random piece of info and your argument doesn't even make sense.

No point in arguing with you, you're just whining over semantics. Have fun.

If anyone else has an actual question for the thread, go ahead.

You don’t have that. You just think you do, but you look creepy doing it. And sadly you’re not the only one who does this.

Your question is asinine. I'd rather you explain to me how seeing a random woman's cleavage constitutes sexual assault

>You got an honest answer. You don't like it,
I appreciate the honest answers. I don't appreciate people treating all dicks as inherently evil things because some assholes use their dicks to hurt people.

Anyone? :(

BeCauSe iT mAkeS mE HoRnY

Or something like that. I bet he'll use the phrase "aroused against my will".

When did I say simply seeing cleavage constitutes sexual assault? The people I'm talking about aren't talking about just SEEING penises as sexual assault, they're talking about rape.

>I don't appreciate people treating all dicks as inherently evil things because some assholes use their dicks to hurt people.
Do you feel uncomfortable and maybe even scared if someone is walking towards you in with a knife? Knives aren't inherently evil, some assholes use knives to hurt people. But in general people don't appreciate seeing people walking towards them with a knife, especially if they're alone, it's dark outside, etc.
It's the same thing for women. If I'm alone, and there's a dude with a boner, I'm going to be scared that he might rape me. A stranger being sexual around me makes me feel scared.

If a dude cares about you, he will absolutely not care in the slightest if you don't shave. It's such a small thing to worry about and if the guy DOES care, you know he's not a good one anyway.

Women:
How often do you masturbate/why do you masturbate?
I know for a lot of guys it’s a bored/general horniness/seeing something ex’s but I don’t know why and how much women do it
I’ve caught my wife doing it a couple times but that’s an awkward question to ask

Hair can be annoying if the guy plans to do a lot of oral, even if it's not very long. But it's not a dealbreaker, generally.

Dubs confirms it.

And I can, too. I have a "powerful" gaze as well, but all it does is scare people off.

>Do you feel uncomfortable and maybe even scared if someone is walking towards you in with a knife?
So the appendage that 100% of men are born with is now equivalent to a deadly weapon?

>I don't appreciate people treating all dicks as inherently evil things because some assholes use their dicks to hurt people.

No one here said all dicks are inherently evil. It was pointed out that:

1. In extremely neutral situations, such as a nudist beach, where nudity is expected, a man with an exposed penis doesn't trigger any feelings at all.

2. In most situations where women see penises and they're disgusted by it, it's been pointed out those were situations in which the man had no business exposing himself to her, or where it can be reasonably inferred that he's doing a deliberately bad job of covering himself (the example given was a speedo).

3. In most situations where women saw penises and the man didn't mean to expose himself, they didn't feel anything about the penis itself.

4. If a woman has to bathe or help a family member or loved one around his groin for medical reasons, they're more than willing to do it, and if they're uncomfortable, it's because they're not used to "invading" their family member's privacy this way.

The conclusion drawn is that most women are neutral toward penises, but find them disgusting when exposed at an inappropriate time, place, or without the woman's consent.

>How often do you masturbate/why do you masturbate?
Several times a week. I do it because I'm horny.

Girls can be horny too. It's just that our sexuality works on a different curve than most guys', I think. If you're horny, it's like an itch/compulsion you want to scratch, and scratching it feels good.

Why would we do it for any different reasons as you? We might not have your drive, but we’re not really that different. It’s bananas that you even ask us this while you have wife, what horrid childish relationship do you have?

Someone takes a knife and uses it to chop vegetables: good.

Someone takes a knife and starts walking toward you with it, makes eye contact with you, and is grinning. How do you feel?

Someone sends you a text with a picture of a knife for no reason, totally out of the blue. How do you feel?

Your fist is a deadly weapon, too.

If someone walked up to you with their hands calmly by their sides, you wouldn't think anything.

If someone walks up to you with their hands raised in a fighting stance, I bet you'd be pretty alarmed.

>No one here said all dicks are inherently evil
>The conclusion drawn is that most women are neutral toward penises
And their reasoning for being neutral is that some guys use them for evil, so they're naturally averse to them. I'm not saying that's a stupid reason, I get it, but it's dragging down perfectly good dicks thanks to the few people who use them for bad shit.

It's called repeated trauma of being flashed online by gross weirdos on dating sites, and nearly every female has had the experience.

This Get it through your head that penises can, and often are, used for violence, usually specifically against women, and women are wary of that reality. Exaggerating to imply that penises are DEADLY doesn't make your argument any stronger.

>Someone takes a knife and starts walking toward you with it, makes eye contact with you, and is grinning. How do you feel?
Oh yes, I'm sure guys with erections do that to you all the time.
>Someone sends you a text with a picture of a knife for no reason, totally out of the blue. How do you feel?
I feel that they sent the picture to the wrong person by mistake.

People don't assume the fighting stance thanks to friction or a stiff breeze.

>Exaggerating to imply that penises are DEADLY doesn't make your argument any stronger.
I'm not the one who compared penises to fucking knives.

>And their reasoning for being neutral is that some guys use them for evil

No, their reason for being *afraid* of them in inappropriate situations is that some guys use them for evil.

But dicks alone just don't make us feel anything. Even if I lived in a society where I wasn't afraid of sexual assault, I wouldn't find dicks sexy on their own. I don't know how else to explain it to you. They're not like boobs are for you guys, just seeing them doesn't trigger sexy feelings. You're imposing how you feel about women on us, and you seem to think that if society were different, we'd love dicks the same way you love tits. But most of us just aren't wired that way.

Dude. I'm barely 100 lbs, 5'0.
Any guy I meet on the street could overpower me and rape me if he wanted. A man who is visibly sexually aroused is a bigger threat than a man who isn't.

Beside that, in general, I don't want to be around people who are sexually aroused if I'm not intending to fuck them. It's just weird. I wouldn't want to hang out with a girl who is grinding against the couch either.

She was obviously saying they're both threatening and can be used for violence. She never implied that penises can kill people, that's stupid and you're extrapolating that to make the argument seem ridiculous.

>A man who is visibly sexually aroused is a bigger threat than a man who isn't.
It's not like men who get random boners are more likely to pounce on innocent bystanders. And if a guy was planning to rape you he wouldn't have a boner on his way to do it, his adrenaline and fear would negate any erection.
>I don't want to be around people who are sexually aroused if I'm not intending to fuck them
Men can't control when they get sexually aroused. Some guys just have really high libido and don't have time to jerk off all day to keep it down.

>I'm not the one who compared penises to fucking knives.
I said that because you can't relate to the fear of being raped, apparently. But anyone can relate to the fear of being stabbed.
I was barely making an analogy, I wasn't equating the two things exactly. Knives, much like dicks, won't make you scared in most situations but will, sometimes.

>Oh yes, I'm sure guys with erections do that to you all the time.

You know, I honestly don't see very many erections at all. Most erections I see are either from my boyfriend or in porn. And like I said, if the guy has an erection and it's hidden in his jeans, and he's clearly trying to hide it/will it away, I'm not scared-- because I know that can happen, and I know it's not intentional.

None of the women here have unreasonable expectations of how men should behave with their dicks. If you get an erection at a bad moment, just adjust yourself as discretely as you can or go to the bathroom and rearrange yourself.

But if we see some rando on the packed subway with an erection, and he's sidling up to us, and trying to make it so that he can grind on us, then yes, we're scared. If we were having a party and some dude got an erection, and was finding every excuse he could to hug us or grind, we'd want to get away as quickly as possible. If he followed us into another room and then pulled down his pants, we'd fucking run or scream.

And if some dude sent me a picture of his dick out of the blue, I'd be unnerved.