>not so easy
Nothing is easy, except for spaghetti.
You don't need to fear rejection.
You can only be a man by stating what you want, the only time you can be brave is when you're afraid and that's what counts.
If she understands and wants to do it, she deserves another chance, if not, it doesn't matter.
It's important that your gf understands your feelings about this. Women aren't good with facts and logic, tell her how you experienced and felt these 6 abortions, don't back down.
The manliest thing you can do is to spend time with your own children.
Don't allow yourself to be stopped.
You see, according to Socrates, humans used to have two parts that fit perfectly together, that lived in a constant embrace and a state of full satisfaction.
But then, the split came and each androgynic human being got split into a two new humans, a male and a female part.
This human being needs to and wants to be reunited with the other perfect part, the one that fits perfectly. The sole goal is to reunite, just to enter again that state of cosmic happyness for a few minutes in the bed of marriage, where you can be one again.
There are thousands of females that are genetically your unknown cousins, 3rd to 4th generation removed, the ideal mate.
You only need to find one of them, the one who fits in just enough aspects.
If you didn't find your counterpart, don't bother to waste time.
It's not a choice between two things, it's the decision when to go forwards, you see.