Would you recommend losing your virginity to an escort? I feel like it would be a good way to be able to approach women without worrying about how she'd react to your virginity or being anxious about it.
I really just want to get it over with but I dunno if it's a good idea.
>Would you recommend losing your virginity to an escort?
No, I would not recommend it.
no. do not support escorts, do not fund financial inequity between sexes.
I want to lose it to someone special desu. Won't happen probably but I prefer it this way.
Why not?
I gave up on that honestly
Oh I'm giving up as well, but personally, I'd rather remain a virgin.
Unfortunately I still want to have sex even if it will never happen how I want it
losing virginity to escort will not accomplish anything. You will feel worse than you're feeling right now.
I lost mine to someone special. Turned out she had BPD and I lost my mind and had to break it off before I killed myself
>tfw back on Jow Forums
kill me now boys
I want sex too, but I tend to deny myself from stuff I want so this one will be something similar.
I'm sorry to hear that.
At least I'll go from behind a virgin hopeless loser to a hopeless loser
I see.
you really think that hooking up with a hooker will help you ?
I mean atleast try to go out there and meet people. If you feel like you're missing out,
then please remember, sex is great but don't lose your mind because of it.
I dont want to burst your bubble but your life won't change after having sex one time buddy
Not him but
>20 yo khhv
>neet loser with bad social anxiety
>going into CS next year so won't meet girls there either
What are my options? let's be realistic
you're still young, 20 is just the beginning. One way is to start to lift,
It's kind of a meme but it will get your self-esteem up.
The simplest and best advice I can give you is become the guy a girl would like to date.
I believe in you.
>you really think that hooking up with a hooker will help you ?
I think it'll mean I don't have to worry about be a virgin or how anyone else will react to it, and that I won't be as sexually frustrated. I can't really see a downside.
>become the guy a girl would like to date.
What do you mean?
I can't change who I am, or I'd be lying about myself to others.
And either way I'm not gonna meet women
Yes, do it. It's just sex. Even if you do manage to get a girlfriend, you won't truly respect her, because all you'll want from her is sex. Have sex so that you'll get over the virginity meme.
simple become the best version of yourself. Eat healthier, read more books, try to learn a new skill. I bet you have something you wanted to pick up like playing guitar or smth. Just do it.
I already do all these things. Just because I'm a virgin loser doesn't mean I don't take care of myself
>something you wanted to pick up
Not really, I'm already doing everything I want to do
then maybe your approach to women is wrong idk . Have you tried going to more parties or tinder or any activity outside your friend group ?
>parties or tinder or any activity outside your friend group
m8 I told you I'm a neet right now, I don't know anyone. no girl would want to to anything with me, I'm basically a ghost
which is why I was referring to escorts being my only hope in the first place
25yo aspiring wizard here.
Stupid question (haven't thought about this before), but how do you go about finding an escort?
It's probably worth doing but don't think that just because you aren't a virgin you'll suddenly be able to have a meaningful relationship with a girl
Not OP, but:
>parties
not fitting in; having to endure normie conversations and all the 5+/10s going for chad. no thx
>tinder
Tried, didn't work. Only got ghosted by 1 match, and dropped spaghetti to another 1. Didn't even get to see any of them.
>activity outside of your friend group
Guess I'll try this now
I don't expect it to change my life I just want to get rid of some anxieties that may be keeping from success in relationships
Also curious
you're on the interent. Google up local escorts. Call their number. Get the money. Show up. Pay them. Fuck.
I'm honestly tempted to get one just to see if people notice that I don't "behave like a virgin" anymore since for some reason everyone can see it.
as someone who lost their virginity to an escort.. i say fucking do it. cus you might not get pussy again and it's better to go through life knowing you had some
I lost mine to an escort at 21. Have fucked a few other since, including one "real" girl. Losing your virginity won't change you as a person but it's good to just experience something. Do your research beforehand.
How was losing it to an escort? Did they know?
dont give away advices if your life is shit pls.
well that's something. Godspeed user.
What's your anxiety? Not being good at sex? Being called a virgin? Having sex once wont change absolutely anything about you, but doing it with a hooker will only get you disapproval from some people
Do you not think you'll get another anxiety, when that person you're in a relationship with asks how you lost your virginity or the topic of hookers ever comes up?
It'll definitely help with your anxieties, you'll probably also end up a bit more confident after having some experience behind you.
All I'm saying is it's not the silver bullet you probably think it is. I was in the same boat, and now I just fuck prostitutes on the reg because I'm too fucked up to form an emotional connection
>I'm honestly tempted to get one just to see if people notice that I don't "behave like a virgin" anymore
How autistic do you have to be to think that this has anything at all with whether or not you've spent 30 seconds with your dick inside a woman? Paying for sex will not change your personality. Your PERSONALITY is why women are not attracted to you and people can tell this by interacting with you.
NO ONE CARES ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT YOU HAVE LITERALLY HAD SEX OR NOT
WHEN PEOPLE SHAME YOU FOR BEING A VIRGIN, THEY ARE SHAMING YOU FOR BEING INCAPABLE OF CREATING EVEN ONE PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WHICH LED TO SEX
THIS IS WHAT THEY CARE ABOUT
AND THIS IS NOT SOMETHING THAT DISAPPEARS WHEN YOU PAY A WHORE TO FUCK YOU
>Not being good at sex? Being called a virgin?
Both
>Do you not think you'll get another anxiety, when that person you're in a relationship with asks how you lost your virginity or the topic of hookers ever comes up?
I'm less anxious a conversation that may never happen then having to lie about not being a virgin when sex inevitably comes up or just being anxious about it in general.
Nice trips desu.
Original oregano.
depends on the type of guy you are
if you're a horndog that just wants to hump, then you'll enjoy it
if you're the emotional type that needs to be validated and touched lovingly, you'll hate it
>actually believing personality has a say in physical attraction
>actually believing people shame you for the lack of personal relationship which led to sex instead of status and stereotype of being a virgin
are you retarded ?
this sounds the most right, i lost my V's to a whore and realised I don't want sex just an interesting conversation.
Literally start talking to women
Just force yourself to do it
Yes its going to be awkward and they'll think your weird, but its the only way to get your shit together and if you have the attitude that you KNOW you're fucked and actively try to unfuck yourself, you can only improve.
I'm responding to a guy who says that people say he "acts like a virgin", not that he "looks like a virgin". Are YOU retarded?
I understand that you guys are all hopelessly dense autists but the "status and stereotype" of being a virgin has nothing to do with the physical act itself. This is why women will not be any less disgusted with you if you tell that, "Hey, I saw a prostitute last week so I'm not a virgin anymore!" and will likely be more disgusted. The reason why there is a "status and stereotype" to being a virgin is because it is a sign that not even one woman has ever considered you worthy of having sex with her. It is a sign of something defective in you and no amount of paying for sex will make that go away.
Yeah but how the fuck do they notice
I dress like a normalfag and I think I act like one
Doesn't count it you pay for it. You gotta do it with a human, no paying, and it can't be oral.
Sorry, user.
They can't literally tell that you're a virgin by your behavior, they just mean that you have the kind of meek, non-aggressive personality that fits the virgin stereotype. This is 100% something that you can change and the first step is identifying the ways in which you're acting strangely and working to change them.
Why is it correlated to virginity though? Can't I just be introverted?
>identifying the ways in which you're acting strangely
If I knew, people wouldn't know I'm a virgin
>I'm less anxious a conversation that may never happen then having to lie about not being a virgin when sex inevitably comes up or just being anxious about it in general.
Bro it doesnt work like that. You'll go out a couple times and talk about random shit, and then if she likes you you'll fuck. Talking about sex doesnt normally happen until after you do it
What she can ask is past relationships, that's the question you're afraid of, and fucking a hooker doesnt count as a relationship so you'd have to lie either way
You can come back from being bad at sex, but paying for it you'll have to hide it in shame for life
Talk to which women m8
I know literally no one, I'm not in the US where talking to some girl in the supermarket is seen as acceptable
you're still a social virgin, you didn't earn it by attracting a woman normally you had to cheat and pay, getting your dick wet for little bit won't change anything at all because physical virginity doesn't matter for men, its all mental. You'll just be back at stage 1 afterwards and nothing will change.
>You can come back from being bad at sex
not if you never get the chance
If abnormal to be a virgin at your age, then any girl you date in the future will think that's kind of weird and sad assuming you don't keep it form her. It's weird anyways, so don't, and it won't give you confidence lol, sex doesn't change you. You'll probably be disssapoitnted and ashamed lol.
retards,after you bust a nut you will realize sex is not some big things.
that's what i did, get it out of the way.
That is the point you dense fuck, "acting like a virgin" and "looking like a virgin" are real, that's where the stereotype comes from. Never noticed in movies the weird, awkward and goofy looking kid is always the virgin ? There are stereotypes for the way virgins dress and the way they behave, this is a fact, stop ignoring it to defend the point having sex for the first can't affect you in any level whatsoever.
Also, the second paragraph shows that you are autistic. Depending on the guy, losing your virginity can influence your mood and behaviour, even when you pay for it, there are thousands of stories about guys that lost their virginity, to a prostitute or a girl, saying losing the status of a virgin made they stop worrying about it, or having more confidence. You are brainlet.
i decided not to tell her. but i did tell her i've never done anal before, so she knows she's the first girl who took it up the butt from me
I did and I'm totally ok with it. 10/10 would recommend.
>InB4 Fat thighs
I know.
Ok user, you got me, you have it all figured out. All you need to do is pay a girl to fuck you and then all your crippling social problems, awkward behavior and ugly characteristics will just melt away and you will emerge as the chaddest of chads. It's literally all about the physical act of stciking your dick in a vagina. Once you do that, everything will change.
Good luck, little buddy.
Where should I go to find whores?
>no photo
>takes a photo
Also your thighs are thicker than theirs.
Become Chad basically
yes and no.
No because that's not the same as getting feelings with someone you meet and then ramping up to the moment where you guys fuck for the first time. Might not even be losing your virginity, really, since there's so much stuff you didn't do in the way of courtship and "love".
Yes because maybe it's something you just need to get over with so you can get that nagging out of your head. The sex you have with a prostitute is not the same kind of sex you have with someone you share mutual strong feelings for though and it may give you the wrong idea about it.
My 2nd sexually experience was with a hitchhiking hooker.
I felt extreme guilt after it I was a wimp back then.
what the fuck is a hitchhiking hooker
Hey everyone - look at me - there is a lot of fat on my legs. That means I am more betterer than somebody without a lot of fat by their legs. I get the first choice with everything. My opinions trumps everyone elses opinion. This is how things work. Don't you know how things work? What, you think integrity matters? You could be an axe murderer, but have lots of fat by your legs, then people will be like "Wow, that person who never did anything for society is the most important person in society. We need to protect them from the evil victims of their crimes."
This is literally how the world works. Great job!
A hitchhiker who will fuck you probably
Those things still exist?
i never said having sex is a magic pill that will fix all your problems you retard, i just pointed it out that it CAN have a positive effect, learn to read before talking shit
Thailand is a pretty good place to start, super cheap.
Nigga, I just said InB4
>can't even afford a white girl
pathetic
>being a virgin is because... not even one woman has ever considered you worthy
Common misconception
Depending on what kind of background you come from, girls can be uptight and scared about sex. They get flaky if a forward guy initiates, and they sure as fuck won't initiate if a nice guy is too shy
I lost my virginity to a prostitute. But later I learned how to talk to women and date them. Yes, decent physical fitness is like 50%. DECENT. Not ripped, but obesity is not attractive. There is a bare minimum. Just meet that and maintain it and you're good. Yes, even if you're an introvert, you gotta have some level of assertiveness and balls to ask her out and CAREFULLY make a move.
>tl;dr
First time with someone you love > First time with prostitute > First time with someone you know but don't love romantically
It will change literally nothing except you account ballance
>t.virgin
Only good answer
Also
Protip: lots of guys are in ok shape but have a big gut. You can bang out crunches on the couch while watching tv. I don't even count. I just go until I feel the burning. About every other day. A flat(ish) stomach is pretty much the bare minimum. Meaning most women around your attractiveness would fuck you. Not that they will, but they could.
t. Guy who went from beer belly to skinnyfat but with flat stomach. Huge difference in dating
Literal retard mentality.
Absolutely. Get it out of the way then you can go find a real gf without the pressure and awkwardness of virginity.
BASED Thailand poster
>Tell escort I'm a virgin.
>She acts like I'm scum the entire time.
I don't recommend it at all.
>Telling the escort you're a pathetic virgin
Why?
lol escort sex is so much different than real life sex. It's actually scarier because usually she will have a bodyguard wait outside
I thought it was funny too, I didn't even know it was there until I looked at the photo later.
Definitely an American posting this one. No point in picking up an escort in American since it's practically a 3rd world country where sex is considered literal evil.
Just go to a party or club, drink and gain some liquid courage and try to hit it off with someone. I would say it's absolutely the shittiest way to lose your virginity to a hooker. Youre young enough still, maybe once you hit 25, then yeah, stick your dick in some strange street walker. You also risk being arrested, robbed, beat/killed, and/or catching an std.
Oh, and you lose money. IMVHO please just jerk off and think it through. Being a virgin is NOT the worse thing at your age. Work on yourself and your confidence, socialize, be friendly, be happy with yourself first and don't treat women like they're just walking fuck holes. I can guarantee if you do all this and just befriend women in a non creepy ass way and make your intentions clear that you want a relationship, it WILL occur naturally and be a better outcome for your life than obsessing over this whole virgin stigma thing and knowing you lost it to some nasty ho for a buck fitty.
My 2 cents.
>Youre young enough still, maybe once you hit 25
I'm 27 this year
if she'd freak out over you being a virgin, she'd probably freak out way more if you lost it to an escort
ab isolation doesnt burn fat in that area you fucking retard, now heres it dumbed down, DOING CRUNCHES WONT LOSE YOU FAT ON YOUR STOMACH
stomach fat is entirely a bodyfat issue, just eat less and lose weight
FOR ALL R9kTARDS WHO WANT A DECENT (garbage shit tier by Jow Forums but by normies its ok )BUT LOW EFFORT PHYSIQUE
BUY AB ROLLER AND DO IT EVERY OTHER DAY 3 SETS TILL FAILURE
DO PLANKS AND PUSHUPS WITH PROPER FORM AND EAT LESS
THATS IT
and another thing
>reddit spacing
go to reddits bodyweightfitness subreddit and look at the recommended routine, you dont need gym
you want to do these following exercises
>hollow hold
>front plank
>side arm planks
>pushup progression with PROPER FORM
BUY A PULLUP BAR AND AB ROLLER
you dont understand how simple it is to maintain a decent physique with this combined with dieting down to 15% bodyfat
But fucking a pussy even once makes you less fearful of women.
Oh thought you were 20 my bad. I turn 27 this year too, lost my v to some chick on CL at 23, steadily worked my way into an escort addiction, and am currently recovering from it after get caught in a sting. Look. The whole virgin thing sucks, and I would give that same advice if you were 50, just change the numbers around. But if I could go back knowing what I know now, I woulda never slid down that slope.
Life is much, much more than who or how often youre sticking your dick in something. Alot of people here have basically said the same thing, it IS a social deficiency, whether conflict in personality, thought or belief that is holding you back. That's why I give out pretty much the same advice, work on mastering who you are as a person, understanding yourself and the world around you, are you afraid of what people would think if they knew you were a virgin? News flash, people suck, and if they judge you based on one aspect of yourself among any number of things they could judge you on, would it really be a big fucking deal? Fuck em.
The issue is positively not knowing or having the experience in interacting with others or in social environments, NOT because you haven't busted a nut between some random hoes cheeks.
My 3rd cent.