My therapist every week assigns me "Homework" for me to do that'll be the topic we talk about the next session...

What the fuck from that list is unrealistic?
You said TRY some of your hobbies, not force them on them.
>Don't be a fatty
>be well read
>be religious
>Don't expect OP to do all the housework
Are we that far gone of a society where any of those are beyond unreasonable and flat out unrealistic?
Send the list back again as is with an addition of
>will help me find a new therapist because mine is a shitheel

>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
>Doesn't mind that I drink alcohol

I think these two are the ones your therapist is refering to. I'm going to assume these are holding you back in life and are the main topic in your therapy. Your therapist is probably trying to make you realize that you need to work on these things if you want a gf.

Did you go to the therapy on your own violition or were you sent by your parents? Are you the one paying for it?
Depending on these I might have bad news for you. Most likely your shrink is not trying to help you get happy. He's trying to fix you up to the "social standards". In other words he's trying to make you throw away all your standards away and settle for worthless second hand goods.

But I guess by psycho"""""therapists""""" understanding making someone bland social drone is equal to making them happy.

Oh man, this doesn't even include impossible physical attributes like my list would.

>Will give anime a try
That's where I stopped reading

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>impossible physical attributes

Do you mean unrealistic (model) or do you actually mean impossible (is a mermaid)

>Interested in reading, an avid reader
i, except if novels
>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me
i
>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
i
>Will take care of themselves physically, preferably will want to go on runs with me and go to the gym with me
r
>Is a kind person, isn't mean to service industry workers
r
>Catholic, or at the very least isn't adverse to me being Catholic, doesn't mind that I go to church on sundays
r
>Will take her share of the chores, won't make me cook every night
r?
>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
i?
>Doesn't mind that I drink alcohol
i?

you are welcome, nice autism

Depends on how rare raven black hair (which I have never seen irl) and green eyes are. but also being 21 and 4'10" and flat. with huge cute eyes. and a cute nose and lips.

>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me
>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
These are the only two that i think might seem "unrealistic" to some normalfag, but still, nothing really impossible.
Maybe he wanted you to make a list like "someone that i could love, anything with a vagina that is ok with me" since he thinks that you're a piece of shit that doesn't deserve anything better and that should be happy with anything he could get, while at the same time working towards the goal of changing everything about you that it's not "normal" or "good" or "mature" for normalfags standards.
Then again, i'm not inside of his head, so i can't really know.
You should ask him what did he mean by that.

What if she's all that but 20? 22?

For a list about a potential gf it is heavily focused on you, OP. Try to focus more on the specifics of the girl rather than what she can bring to your life.

Does your post come with a key?

She has to be younger than me and older than my sister. thats like a 22 month time span.

May I ask why that is a standard for you?

>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
Never expect a person to understand your social anxiety, you'll only be seen as a big baby to them and they'll grow to resent you for having to leave things early all the time or simply not go anywhere.
>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me
This one is sorta possible, but only with really top-tier accessible stuff like anime movies or the biggest shows of all time. No way a girl is going to sit through episode after episode of some ecchi trash anime catering to teenage boys into 2D.
>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
I had no idea people still played the L5R cardgame, I have an ancient Crab deck from the early 00s, but nonetheless, it is way too obscure and geeky of a hobby to be acceptable to a social creature like woman.

Remove those and send the list back. At the very most, change "will try," to "will tolerate my interest in"

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I===irrelistic
r===realistic
i was gonna write but found it obvious
enjoy

see leninal

Cause I don't like my sister's friends and I don't want her to be older than me. being younger than my sister brings up some kind of mental connection in my mind that makes it weird.

>I have an ancient Crab deck from the early 00s

You're taking of the TCG, that was discontinued, now it's a LCG under Fantasy Flight Games

Tell him he's fired and go see someone else. Don't even bother keeping up with the therapist you're seeing. Either he didn't even try to read your list and therefore isn't worth continuing with, or he's got brain problems in which case there's no way he can help you.

Even that's not unrealistic since it's literally "willing to try new things" specialized to his hobbies. It doesn't demand that she likes it.

I think the part about
>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
is what the DR is talking about, because it implies OP does not want to get better with his anxiety

If he said 'be religious' one could argue it's unrealistic, but he didn't even say that. All he said was 'isn't adverse to my being religious', with preference to also being religious.

If that is your homework OP then just be sure to go in and tell him that you think none of it is unrealistic and explain why. and your therapist will tell you what is unrealistic and why, and you might learn something about how dating works and why you are incompatible with it.

Unrealistic*
Oregano.

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Not a bad list bro. Just try and remove the very specific shit like "give anime a try" or "play X card game with me". Should be more general.

Good luck in your sessions

>Interested in reading, an avid reader

Maybe unrealistic, but not out of the question if you aren't a raging autist and can actually interact with women.

>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me

Unrealistic, forcing your partner to partake in your hobbies is autistic and frustrating.

>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me

Again, keep your hobbies to yourself. This is unrealistic.

>Will take care of themselves physically, preferably will want to go on runs with me and go to the gym with me

I mean...do you do these things? If so, then that's not unrealistic, but if this is just a casual interest then yeah, unrealistic.

>Is a kind person, isn't mean to service industry workers

Realistic. This should be a prerequisite.

>Catholic, or at the very least isn't adverse to me being Catholic, doesn't mind that I go to church on sundays

Realistic.

>Will take her share of the chores, won't make me cook every night

It depends, are you a big fat loser? Maybe slightly unrealistic.

>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am

Realistic.

>Doesn't mind that I drink alcohol

Maybe? If you can't put down alcohol for a girl, you're not ready for GF

"irrealistic"
That's not a word laddy, it's "unrealistic"

It is a real word, but it describes a school of Philosophy (Irrealism)

Those are completely realistic standards to have. Sharing interests or just be willing to try them is a standard everyone has. This therapist is just trying to get you to get rid of some standards by saying "some" of them are unrealistic but not saying which ones. Being in a relationship with someone you don't like and have nothing in common with is worse than being alone. He's actively trying to make your life worse.

Honestly the Therapist will often reject your first draft.

Don't worry about this. It's to make you think about it in a different way.

Also all your comments are about her showing interest in your interests and nothing about you showing interest in hers.

Maybe your therapist may feel that "girls don't game", or even just "far fewer girls game" and therefore you are unlikely to find one that would show any interest.

Anime is a common women's interest, despite what some gatekeeper level nerds will claim... but if the therapist thinks that this is unlikely then let it slide. just soften it to something like:
>is happy to spend time with me, watch movies/TV with me.

be more vague about your hobbies, and talk more about what you can learn from her.

>someone who doesn't think my hobbies are lame.
rather than:
>will game with me.

Though I've gamed with long term GFs in the past... it's often a big ask.

Why are you being honest with your therapist? That's not the point of therapy. You're supposed to say the right words so he will prescribe you your drug of choice -- or so that he will refer you to someone who will. It's a game, that's all.

Actually saying true things about yourself is bad. Very bad. Very, very, VERY bad. These are the kinds of things that can (and will) be used against you. Despite being "confidential", any information can be bought, for the right price. (or if you're low on the social totem pole, it can (and will) just be given away for the laughs)

Any girl will do anything you want from her if you're Chad.
Guys who have mental problems but look good? Needs her so she can take her of him and his dick
He likes t owatch anime?
So geeky. Kawai desu!!!
He likes to play cardgames?
Ofc I join since his hobbies are mine as well.

Face it, a girl will do anything you want with the most bullshit explenation imaginable if you look good enough for her.
Of you don't, THEN she'l see you as immature baby who a shut-in nerd and should be avoided at al costs.

i mean. almost none of those traits are unrealistic, finding a girl with all those traits, thats unrealistic, you are basically asking for the perfect gf

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>Will take her share of the chores, won't make me cook every night

just change this to something broader like "willing to delegate responsibilities around the house".

i dont want to go all SJW but it just sounds like you want her to follow basic gender roles while you sit around. propose a compromise if she's going to take care of everything inside the house you will need to take care of everything outside; something like that establishes a compromise and demonstrates you would take responsibility for chores as equally as she would.

>Interested in reading, an avid reader
What does this have to do with you? This seems like you want something to check off in some "ultimate GF" contest: "My GF is a model?" "YEAH, WELL MY GF READS!"
If you had said, "I love discussing books I've read and hope to read. I'd like a GF who enjoyed this as much as I do" then it would be more "coupley."

>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me
Adults have different tastes. Part of being in a relationship is letting them be them and their letting you to be you around things that aren't of consequence. You don't have to like the same TV shows, the relationship works when both like that the other likes their TV shows.
It doesn't work if she thinks you're a creepy manchild for watching anime and you think she's a stupid female for watching Friends.

>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
Again too specific. You should be fine with separate interests. My brother-in-law plays Eve Online. Does my sister sit there and go on pointless missions with him? No, she does her social media on a laptop next to him, and they talk while they're doing their own shit.

>Will take care of themselves physically, preferably will want to go on runs with me and go to the gym with me
"Looks and me me me me me me me."

>Is a kind person, isn't mean to service industry workers
This is fine.

>Catholic, or at the very least isn't adverse to me being Catholic, doesn't mind that I go to church on sundays
This is fine.
But see how you've only got the, "They should let me be me," part while you've missed the, "I should let them be them" above?

cont.

>Give card games a try
>Give anime a try
If you haven't started dating yet, these are unrealistic. The language suggests to me that you are just unconfident (begging) and it might as well read as "must watch anime".
If you already have a relationship that has been a couple weeks at least you can ask ur potential gf these questions. If she says no, you can choose to terminate the relationship and seek another partner.
What I think is that your therapist wants to you tell him that nerdy women are rare and that you don't want to force a hobby on a potential partner.
With the two above requirements you should be expecting a Tumblr gf but it contradicts your lower requirements of being a Catholic. In that sense, perhaps being Catholic is the only unrealistic expectation.

Good luck OP

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Idk, some catholics don't like alcohol? Girls you met on bars aren't catholics? Most people don't get social anxiety so that is the biggest problem, I guess... I mean, imagine that the anime has the same weight as beeing catholic and drinking, idk

Might want to specify that she merely give the card games and anime a try and if she doesn't like it thats ok in the end.

Other than that the list is pretty reasonable but men are not allowed to have standards in 2018 so its pretty much a shit show. I would think having a male psych would help but he could be a cuck.

Couldn't have demonstrated that you're a disgusting redditarded normalfaggot any better than by making this abhorrent post.

But that's already what OP is saying. I mean, literally so. That's what try and preferably mean.

>Will take her share of the chores, won't make me cook every night
There's nothing wrong with the fundamental "we both share the load," but the way you said it possibly indicates some misconceptions there. First your use of "make me" is odd. Do you think a relationship is combative? It should be, "She should not leave all the chores to me." Your concentration on a single chore also makes it look like you're using the, "Each partner does exactly half of everything" model which is retarded, and since not every chore is naturally divisible (you can't both equally coach your kid's Little League team if you're free and she works during those hours and the idea of two separate coaches doesn't even work well) you can easily end up with misidentification of contributions. (you count everything you shoulder 100% as being uncompensated work while conveniently taking as a given everything they do.)

>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
There's a way to read this that's fine and one that isn't. It's natural to push people -- to provide a safe, nurturing environment along with some coaxing to try to enable them to bloom to their fullest extent. If this is your attempt to say, "SHE MUST NEVER TOUCH MY TRIGGERS" then it's never going to work with anyone. If this is instead, "I am naturally an introvert, and while I can engage in social activities in moderation and am willing and able to come up with social activities she may find enjoyable, she must understand and respect that I have natural limits and she should not hound and belittle me for what I am," then it's fine.

>Doesn't mind that I drink alcohol
Do you mean, "Doesn't mind that I drink socially," or, "She must never say anything about how I drink myself into a stupor to combat my crippling depression"?
If you have a problem, she SHOULD have a problem with it.

Y-you too
Oragami

>>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
>>>Will take care of themselves physically, preferably will want to go on runs with me and go to the gym with me

these dont add up

How can you say you love your waifu if you can't even bench her weight?

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>Interested in reading, an avid reader
Check
>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me
Already like anime (but no moeshit)
>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
Already like MtG
>Will take care of themselves physically, preferably will want to go on runs with me and go to the gym with me
Already run
>Is a kind person, isn't mean to service industry workers
I'm not unkind, not overly kind either
>Catholic, or at the very least isn't adverse to me being Catholic, doesn't mind that I go to church on sundays
Not Catholic, don't mind other people being Catholic
>Will take her share of the chores, won't make me cook every night
Not lazy
>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
Also avoid social events
>Doesn't mind that I drink alcohol
You lost me here

Really, just for the alcohol?

I'm highly against alcohol and refuse to compromise on that.

looks like op forgot to specify whether he wants genuine female anatomy or not

Ask him if he is happy with his career and why.
>separate the realistic from the unrealistic

>anime, MtG, social anxiety
Jesus, it's always the same god awful hobbies and quirks. You guys dry pussy on an industrial level.

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Ayy I hate alcohol, too. When are we getting married?

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What about drugs and natural drugs?

>Will give anime a try, preferably will want to watch anime with me
gay
>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
faggy
>Understanding of my social anxiety, won't try to push me to be more social that I am
homo

If you can find it at a health or vitamin store, it's fine. No to recreational drugs.

I mean just make it way more broad dude.

>Will be accepting of my hobbies
>Will take care of themselves
>Kind person
>Sense of responsibility
>Understanding of me

If he can't accept a list like that then honestly question him about his life. If someone can't meet those requirements then they're a pretty shit person in general.

But you forgot to point out you're a man.

if you want a bitch thats fine, the anime and cards are out the question you fucking cuck

Well, that's what the therapist basically asked for, right?

niggas whomst "IRRELISTIC"

gan-ja?

That's a hard no.

you're my gf now. hope you're okay with that

Lol, hottest girl I knew collected Pokemon cards

inter-racial? race?

What makes you unique, mud butler?

is this unrealistic? a lot of this isn't even you expecting her to like it, just that she'll be open to trying it.
reading often and being catholic are both uncommon relatively speaking, expecially reading often.
it's weird if you don't like alcohol these days.

you can reword this all into:
>willing to try new things
>leads a healthy lifestyle
>catholic
>reads
>respects boundaries
>earns their keep (maybe this is too blunt but you could easily rephrase it if you wanted to)
none of this is unreasonable.

>irrelistic

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>Will give card games a try, preferably will want to play Magic the Gathering and Legend of the Five Rings with me
Well I mean to be fair this one is kind of unrealistic. Girls just don't like card games, in the same respect that we don't like watching indie chick flicks about prison lesbians on Netflix. She might play cards against humanity, but not full Autist tier card games.

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Laugh it up, puppet man

Any one of us would try it if our girlfriend asked us to though. Maybe some of us would even enjoy it.

Honestly women are usually open to try out new things so I dunno why OP even bothered with that nerd shit.

>>Needs to know what's idealistic about his expectations for life

>>r9k

This is why you need a therapist.

stop going to your therapist, don't give money to that shit advice man, listen to your gut lol

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Because that's what (((the)))rapist asked for.

>sexist connotations
get off my board faggolio

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>Catholic, or at the very least isn't adverse to me being Catholic, doesn't mind that I go to church on sundays
Neck yourself

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Do not push your hobbies onto a woman. The first reason is that they will probably ruin the experience for you. The second reason is that it is good to have alone time. The third reason is that if she was interested she would try to push her way into your hobby. Trust me friend.

>Asks Jow Forums why his standards are unrealistic

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I want someone who enjoys at least part of my hobbies, not necessarily all of them or every bit of them.

what kind of therapist corresponds over email

if you're catholic how do you feel about sex before marriage? that weighs so heavily into a catholic-bro friend i know irl. the lack of sex poisons his relationships in this world

this is the most pathetic thing I've seen in a long time.

none of the things you listed are unrealistic, maybe some are less important than others, but if you bothered to list it, it's because you would appreciate it. now do remember that reciprocity is key in any relationship, gl user.

The kind who want to still be in contact with you for the other six days of the week?

OP has an invisible "is not an HRT freak" rider on his list, sorry buddy

It seems like you expect a best bro + girlfriend package.

So... a girlfriend? You know they're not supposed to be arm candy, right?

Every successful couple I know always says "I'm glad I'm dating my best friend"

>me me me
>what can she do with me
>what can she give me
>how much will she tolerate of me

It doesn't say much about what her personality is like.