>be me
>a friendless NEET, living in isolation for the past few years
>realise that you actually long for affection and human company despite all these attempts to prove myself otherwise
>since can't make any friends IRL, decide to join a discord server
>feel like an alien on Earth, barely say anything, mostly observe
>notice that one person who you can relate to a lot and share similar interests
>PM them, have somewhat a decent conversation
>immediately like them (which is something that happens rarely with me), want to talk more
>after a few conversations start feeling like I annoy them with my presence
>decide to message them less so that I don't come off as clingy
>since they're invisible all the time not sure when you can message them and when not, unless they message me first
>the fact that they only get on Discord somewhere around 11pm-12am contributes to that as well
>wait for them to get online whole day, but when they do feel hesitant about messaging them
>feel lonelier than before, feel real fucking pain when you see them saying something on a server and not to me
This is my first and only online friend in 2 years... why am I like this, lads? What should I do to get over this unhealthy attachment but still manage to be friends? What would you do in my place?
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You could tell them you like talking to them and want to talk more but don't want to annoy them. Also if your presence is annoying, learn how not to be annoying.
Well where do I learn that, user? I have no social skills and I can't really tell what most people find annoying. This annoyance is a thing I feel, but I feel many things and don't know if that's true, you know.
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>meet girl off of r9k
>shes busy all day and messages me at specific points in the day
>she claims to be too nervous to message me sometimes
>I take this as a sign that shes upset at me
>act extra clingy
Its a match made in heaven, a perfect relationship.
This is why you never worry about what youre saying to someone because likely they wont care if its weird as long as they like you.
When I get back from shopping with family at Christmas, or when I get back from some other sort of family outing, I always have a massive wave of despair when I get home to my miserable little room after seeing all the people and all the lovers out there in the world. Isolation helps because you start to become detached and even forget about the world. But when you have a brief taste and return to your pit, you are reminded of how pointless and hollow your "life" is.
Aren't you afraid that she might abandon you?
This. How do you deal with it?
Im horrified of it yes. Absolutely.
There's this Finnish girl I've been speaking to online since 2013 that I became obsessively attached to for a few months, all in secret. I even made JOIs about her that I masturbated to and had a photo of her on my phone. I'm still disgusted with myself for that period, and while we still talk she doesn't know. She's one of the only people I talk to, pretty much every other online person I've met has abandoned me. I wish her the best.
The person that I got attached to is also Finnish. What a coincidence, eh?
If you mind, what do you talk with her about? You've known her for quite a while, and sometimes when I meet people online I run out of things to say in a matter of weeks.