Wife-tier girl shows up in my life right in the middle of one of my most broke slumps

>wife-tier girl shows up in my life right in the middle of one of my most broke slumps

Why couldn't she have waited a month? I can't deal with being in love on top of getting my shit together.

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Just fake it til you make it user. If you dont have money, just offer other stuff like walks on the beach or a picnic, that way you dont spend a whole lot and you come off as romantic

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Problem is, she's a new girl at work, and I have no idea if my feelings are reciprocated. She's all nice and stuff around me, and talks to me in a different way than the other people at work.

Get a feel for what she likes (music, or vidya or what have you, remember you're on a budget) and offer to do that with her. If you want, you can invite other people too so she doesn't get weirded out. While there, just hang out and get to know her better

Yeah I'm kinda working on plans for something like that, but it has to be VERY casual in the beginning.

Problem is that I'm a fairly degenerate person compared to the way I present myself at work, and I'm not sure how she would react to knowing that.

Make a move fast because once she lose the attraction for you you're done.

dont rush it makes everything awkward and weird
t.female(female)

I literally can't rush anything as it'll be at least a month before I get my shit together, but then there's still the awkwardness of working together in case it doesn't work out.

absolutely rush it because is trying to deceive you

I'm not telling him to ask her to marry him. Just to show he's interested in her. Anyway, are you cute?

idunno like
weird question to get asked i guess people say i am but you can never really trust anyone yknow
lol okie fren
yeah which is why you should just like chill and develop a friendship naturally as you get your shit together or whatever

Nothing weird about it, user. We're getting to know each other. It's only natural to ask things. Well, I tend to trust people so if they say you're cute I'm inclined to believe them. Why don't you trust them?

id be way more of a normie and socially successful if i didnt doubt everything people said most of the time its really annoying honestly

Yes, that does seem like a problem. Is it insecurity or is it driven by something else? And would you want to be a normie though? To me they seem pretty bland.

You're not in love. You just met her. Calm down.

yeah but itd be easier
probably insecurities i guess idunno

I know what you mean about it being easier, but is the right kind of easy? I would like things to be easier but I don't want to be a normie either. I don't think those are the only two options. About your insecurities, it's not really my place to mess with your mind but if you don't consider these things you will be stuck in the same problems forever.

like theyre there
my current girlfriend thinks im really pretty and is always making me wear my hair in different ways which is silly i guess.
being a normie is boring though i just wanna get better at trusting people and still be a weird little dork
probably besto outcome

>my current girlfriend
Don't you think you should have mentioned that earlier, femanon? My heart is broken now and it's all your fault. I think the secret is not to feel too invested about other people opinions. They have no reason to lie but if they are then it's not the end of the world. If you trust in yourself and the people who you're intimate with then whatever think the rest is secondary.

didnt mean to break your heart sorry ; _ ;
i guess i just gotta work on it

No reason to feel sorry for me, user. You're the real victim here. Are you a lesbian?

ive dated a boy but id say i strongly prefer girls
ive been hurt by every male in my life more or less so not great
girls are nice tho

So I still have a chance then. Yeah, girls are nice. Not all of them, but some. Hurt in which way? How old are you by the way?

im 19 and hurt in a lot of ways starting with dad and brothers stuff and yknow more gross stuff
boys are pretty gross sometimes

We're gross to some degree but your experience has skewed your perception. Make no mistake about that. Grossness is not the rule and there are some qualities that you will only find in men. Were you always attracted to girls or it was a response to being hurt?

im not sure ive always liked girls a lot though

The thing, user, is that if you like girls and you don't really like men then you're not really in a place to advice OP about these things, so I think he should rush. It's pretty late so I'm going to bed now. Godspeed, user. It was nice to speak to you. I hope you can mend your relationship to men. That may be the core of your lack of confidence. And if your girlfriend tells you you're pretty you should trust her.

ill try my best!
everyone has bias advice to some extent though!
sleep well

>have never met a wife tier girl in my life

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