Hey guys. I'm not feeling very good right now. I'd like to vent and talk about it and maybe the pit in my stomach will go away so i can sleep. I'd like to start by saying you guys probably consider me a failed normie and a bunch of you are gonna make no-content posts telling me to fuck off. Just because i have a job and live out of the house doesn't mean I don't have problems you guys can relate to, and I really need to write about this.
My flatmate is irresistible to women. We'll go out together and meet people, and it doesn't take long before the men we meet to respect him and the women we meet to start flirting with him. The guy has a commanding personality, unshakable confidence and has always been placed in leadership roles. While I've been plagued by self-doubt as long as I can remember, this guy is as close to a natural leader as I've ever seen. It is clear that he doesn't care what other people think about him, but he obviously cares deeply of the well being of those close to him. The first time this hyper-masculine type guy expresses concern for you, it is very endearing and reassuring and people respond to it immediately (myself included.)
Of course what this means is, when we meet women I am basically ignored as a sexual prospect. what hurts the most is, I'll meet a woman, have a long, extended, interesting conversation with her about world politics, psychology, or biology or whatever, and then she'll fuck my flatmate. Whatever connection I can form with women seems to lack a sexual component entirely. My flatmate will foster a sexual connection with these women even when there's no other component to their connection at all. He's having loud sex with an intelligent, professionally driven girl who expects no commitment from him right now.
the worst part is, what makes him so successful and makes me so unsuccessful has nothing to do with how good looking we are. I'm not ugly and I'm significantly taller than him. If I behaved a different way, I could be irresistable to women too, and if he behaved a different way he would have less luck. But we come to this earth wired to act a certain way. I'm wired to be a limp-wristed intellectual who spends most of his time analyzing social situations without participating, and i'm invisible for it. my flatmate is wired to not let people fuck with him and to scorch his name on the earth with whatever means available, and people find him irresistible for it.
I wish i was someone else.
Nathaniel Sanchez
Stop going out with your Chad roommate, obviously. Also conversations about politics, psychology and biology aren't exactly the most sexually stimulating subjects to talk about when courting a woman so maybe change your approach and be more light/casual and you may have more luck.
Kayden Flores
pseudo intellectual midwit detected
Nathaniel Jones
I know this exact feel too bro, the pain of this is never going away either because you can't fundamentally change who you are underneath no matter what you do. The answer is unironically just stop going out and worrying about 3DPD and then you can just ignore the outside world. Or find friends who are big losers like you so you can feel like the Chad of the group and it gives you confidence and then suddenly women find you more attractive.
Aaron Young
i work construction m8 i'm willing to admit I'm not very smart
I don't really have other friends. I was hoping I could find a girl that likes talking about these things because they're what I like to talk about. I find it very hard to be 'fun' so I settle on being 'interesting' instead, but clearly this strategy doesn't work like I want it to. I don't know how to be 'light' and 'casual,' it's never come naturally to me
Alexander Kelly
maybe these dumb bitches are just nodding along to your prattling thinking >god I wish this loser would stop droning on about this boring shit so I could go suck Chad's cock
Grayson Bell
Fuck off and get off my website bitch I have no sympathy for you when you voluntarily go out with a Chad and unironically invest time in worthless cum dumps, thereby giving them validation. Wanna know why women are such garbage nowadays? Because beta cucks like you go out to bars and have hour long conversations with them about pointless shit while buying them free drinks (they're there for the drinks, not your cookie cutter basic tier thoughts on politics). You see them fuck Chad every single time after this and yet you keep doing the same thing. You have no one to blame but yourself and I'm willing to bet that you're the type that mocks people like us for seeing the meaninglessness of such a charade.
Honestly I don't blame women and Chad's for taking advantage of you because the guys who perpetuate the cycle by being willing cogs are laughable.
i've had really engaging conversations with some of these girls. super animated and interesting. but the voice in my head-- the one that hates me-- tells me you're absolutely right.
nah i think i'm gonna keep posting bro thx tho
Ian Thompson
I know that feel Me >not ugly, in good shape, six feet, smart, well read But my roomie! >inch taller, broad shoulders, deep voice, commanding presence, quick wit I never knew what charisma is until I met him. I would meet a girl, get all the clues she was interested in me, she would meet him and boom! She had to be with him. He never even flirted, just a quiet >nice to meet a friend of user and she wanted his children. He got engaged >his fiancee is the embodiment of feminine beauty and women who just met him were visibly upset he was unavailable He has a superpower
Dylan Watson
Frankly, you should just go suck his dick. All I got from this little treatise is that you're super gay for him.
Samuel Brooks
i don't really know why i expected constructive discussion here. I'm sorry for you that you've never had a friendship where you admired qualities in someone without wanting to fuck them. The qualities worth admiring in my flatmate are the ones I lack, and the ones that ensure he gets lots of female attention and I am ignored.
Xavier Allen
Difference between us and chads, lads >rooming with a fellow virgin, call him Bob >I had already given up, but Bob had hope >every Friday Bob when to a strip club near our place, he dropped over 100 bucks in tips each time, always with the same dancer >he even paid for the buffet and ate dinner there, usually paying for her, too >after 3 months of this he is calling this date night >he begs me to come along, says he will pay. Get sick of the noise, go >she is gorgeous, just amazingly beautiful half Korean with an hourglass figure and D cups with no lie green eyes >she is very nice to Bob. Sits with him between dances, laughs at his lame jokes. Even holds his hand as he walks her to her car after closing. >Bob is always talking about Rick from work. No idea why, but Bob wanted Rick to think well of him >After 5 months the dancer, call her Candy, actually goes on a date with Bob on a Tuesday. For three months it is every Friday at the strip joint and every Tuesday on a date. >Bob tells me she strips for money but is waiting for a husband after losing her virginity to her only bf >I think Bob is crazy, but he might get laid More
Isaiah Ross
i'm still here user, interested in reading more (although I can kind of see where it's going)
Jack Perez
not him but (spoiler alert) Bob gets cucked by Rick from work, wow what a shock right?
Sebastian Foster
>after almost 10 month Bob tells me we have to see her together; he is going to propose at the club >I am freaking out at this shitty plan >decide to be there for his utter humiliation so I can keep him from an heroing It is worse than you think >get there and there is a guy that looks like 22 year old Pierce Brosnan, but really, REALLY handsome >it is Rick. Bob asked him to come, did not say he was proposing. Bob said he thought Rick would be impressed by his hot stripper fiance >we go in, Candy immediately waves from the stage. We get seats. >after her dance she puts her robe on and comes to sit, like the other times >things are immediately different. She is real quiet at first, blushes when Rick introduces himself and shakes her hand >then she is giggling a lot, laughing, and staring at Rick >after her next dance she talked to the manager and went off- Bob said she was leaving early like they planned. >she came out in a tight black dress, sat between Bob and Rick. Waiting for the buffet. >she is soon talking only with Rick as Bob gets more and more confused. Rick says he is getting a smoke, she says she will, too (she did not smoke) and they go out back together >20 minutes later they come in; her lipstick is gone, her hair is tousled, her dress is wrinkled >Rick says goodnight and leaves >Candy says she is not feeling well and is going home >she goes out front, not back where employees park, obviously leaves with Rick >I took Bob to a dive bar and he drank until he passed out and pissed himself He kept the stupid engagement ring for a year.
Carter Thompson
>but he obviously cares deeply of the well being of those close to him what kind of chad apologist faggotry is this fucking leave
Liam Martinez
yeah that's bad but proposing to a stripper you're not even fucking is a REAL bad move. I mean, I'm clearly a fucking loser considering my OP but at least I understand the difference between actually dating and paying a stripper to hang out with me
good on you for being a good friend tho
Nathan Parker
he's a good friend man, I don't hate him because girls like him more than me
James Nguyen
Just focus on self-improvement and becoming more Chad-like yourself.
Ian Bell
how do you suggest changing the immutable qualities of my personality that make me a non-confrontational limp-wristed charismaless piece of shit?
Ryder Perez
you have to leave him. You have to break up with your Chad bro. He is bringing you down. In fact, even though it's unconscious on his part, having guys around him that are less chaddish is an aspect of his own mating strategy. He is, in a way, using you.
Connor Thomas
>midwit kek. stealing that.
Daniel White
what makes you think they're immutable? try looking in different places.
