>tfw a girl you know who you haven't seen in a long time, but you've been fapping to her sexy social media pictures constantly, you suddenly see again, and you're shocked by how much you like her as a person, and you feel bad for the horribly disgusting and degrading thoughts you've had about her
It's so embarrassing to say, but I forgot she was human. I feel horrible now.
> I feel horrible now.
I'm proud of you user.
Physically, I feel like masturbating right now, but I can't get my mind to go there. She was wearing pretty sexy clothes today, showing off legs and midriff. She even jumped on my back and I felt her bare thighs, but I still saw her as a human being, not a sex object. It hasn't been that way for a really long time, just because I haven't seen her anywhere except in her social media pictures for a long time.
>fapping to clothed girls on facebook
why do people do this
Because I don't like hardcore porn, and she's very beautiful.
Remember this feeling, it might help you find a nice gf one day!
I hope so. I've been trying to masturbate less lately, and I've been watching videos about how bad porn is for you. And even though I don't usually watch hardcore porn, I use her VSCO and Instagram the same way. I feel so much better when I've gone a while without it. I want to stop for good. As much as I enjoy fapping to her, today she was just my friend, and I liked that so much more.
>about how bad porn is for you.
Who said you need porn to masturbate? And have you ever heard that /x/ talk about sexual energy as the vital one?
Well, the thoughts I have when I masturbate aren't healthy. When I jerk off, I don't see the girl as an equal, and I need to clear my mind of that kind of thing.
BDSM kind of stuff? Psychology says that is normal, don't they?
>but I still saw her as a human being, not a sex object.
And here we have yet another reason why women reject you guys: you have this bizarre worldview where everything is black and white and you're either a Chad asshole who views women purely as sexual objects or you're the incel user who thinks he's better because he views women in a non-sexual way, sometimes.
Normal people can do both at the same time. When I'm hanging out with my gf, I can want to fuck her and realize that she's a "human being" at the same time. Why the fuck would you even make a distinction like this? Even when I'm in the middle of fucking my gf, why would I suddenly stop thinking of her as a person?
You think you have this advanced view of women and sexuality but it's really just completely fucked up. There's nothing "disgusting and degrading" about fucking my gf's mouth and having her swallow my cum. We're two people in a committed relationship doing things that make one another feel good. The fact that you think that women can only either be humans beings or sex object and anything sexual degrades women from being human to being sex objects says a lot of bad things about you.
Yeah, stuff like that sometimes. It's not right, even if they sometimes enjoy it too. Sex should be loving and tender.
I want to be able to be around a pretty girl and not want to fuck her. I don't want those kinds of thoughts in my head all the time.
This is very wholesome. I have similar problems but I never actually talk to the girls I jerk off to on facebook so I haven't gotten over it.
>I want to be able to be around a pretty girl and not want to fuck her. I don't want those kinds of thoughts in my head all the time.
Then you'd better castrate yourself son because that's the only way it's going to happen. You're an animal and just like any other animal, it's natural for you to want to mate when you're with an attractive female of your species.
You'd do a lot more good for yourself if you started seeing a therapist to try to fix whatever the fuck your mother did to you to make you so ashamed of sex.
Not every guy is like this. It's possible to be around a beautiful girl and not let your mind go there. I know, I did that today. It was great, and it's been so long since the last time I felt this way around her.
You can respect girls and want to fuck them at the same time.
Why can't you both like her as a person and want to use her as a cock sleeve?
what makes you think that your shitty normalfag opinion matters here?
Whatever happens in my room, stays in my room. If I happen to jack off to a girl I know, I don't even think about it when I'm talking to her.
Besides just because you want to fuck her doesn't mean you don't care about her.
>how much you like her as a person
what? not even memeing
Alright no, I don't constantly want to fuck cute girls when I'm around them. That's not the point. The point is that it's really bizarre and unhealthy for you to think that you're doing something wrong when you have sexual thoughts about pretty girls and that you're accomplishing something good when you avoid these thoughts.
What makes you think that this is your incel safe space?
She's actually a really fun person to be around. I just completely forgot.
Trust me, the thoughts I have are very wrong, and I feel so proud when I keep my mind clean.
>nudity is now hardcore