Tfw all your friends gradually stopped talking to you

Yeah, my situation is kinda similar. I've been a NEET for 2 years, then did some post-secondary education and now I'm a NEET again. Going to university in a few months. I can be awkward sometimes. I'm still a virgin and I'm pretty sure they know. Had a job for barely two months in my entire life.

Still, some friends I've known since early primary school. I feel like our relationships were way past social status and ego-feeding. We had some great times together. Now they just stopped responding to me. What happened in their heads? I'm still me and they're still them. I feel slightly betrayed.

People mature and gain new friends or experiences in life. I myself am going to college. I am going to take the chance to gain friends again.

Same. However I don't I'm ever going to be able to warm-up to people the same way again.

I'm actually the one who stopped talking to all my friends because in the middle of a long depression period I felt very anxious answering or messaging on the phone or being around other people so I decided I no longer needed friends. Now I'm still depressed, but so lonely as well. I like to believe that they wouldn't have wanted to hang out with the loser that I became anyway though.

Yeah the last true friend I had kept pushing off my advances to hang out just a few months ago. Every time I would bring it up he would bring up that he was busy and then I realized he didn't want to hang out with me. But I'm tired of making myself feel bad but I don't think I'll be able to be as close to others anymore as I used to be

maybe its you who stopped talking to them

nah it's them

Absolutely. All my hs friends fucked off. I tried to reconnect but they became normie and weird so I didn't even really wanna hang out with them. I feel really lonely. I have one friend I made in college and he lives 3 hours away. Go I wish I had a group I could just chill with and go stupid shit around town like people in decades past did like go to the arcade, mall or bowling or hell even take up skating. I'm just so utterly tired of sitting in my fucking room all day with nobody.

All my friends pretty much went AWOL on me after I had a major depressive episode right out of HS. I was angry at first but later I understood as there's not enough support another person can give someone suffering from their own mental demons before it gets to be a drain on them. As I got older, I would try to get myself together and make friends, only to lose them once I slipped back into that depressive rut. It's a bittersweet feeling because at one of my high points I made some really awesome friends who are in and going to awesome places but at some point I knew I would be left behind and know not to try to drag them to my level when I can't even stay from being on the bottom. At this point in my life, the only people who bother with me are family I grew up with and a couple of shitters who will hit me up when they are feeling like shit and they want someone lower than them to make them feel good about themselves in comparison.

Everyone moves on in life no matter what. I wish I could go back to cruising in a van with the homies and going up the hill to look at the city lights but times are changing. All my friend started working, have kids, went to school and got into their careers while I worked and played games on my time off. Only thing I regret is not going to the pharmacy school I wanted to apply to but then realize I'm better off without that $15,000 debt.

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This is why you ghost them, before they could ghost you. Worked for me.

I have never had a friend in my entire life. There was some kid that was the son of my mom's friend that we used to play with sometimes, but he called my mom on my birthday(I didn't have a phone back then) years back and we just sat there and didn't say anything on the phone until he got offended and complained "I thought you'd be happy to hear from me" or something and I haven't spoken to him since.

>group of friends online made a hangout without me
>realize I wasnt inside of their clique
>try convince some of them to play games or watch movie together but they reject it
>end up confronting a friend about it
>they tell me I was never really a close friend even though we knew eachother for years and gave eachother gifts in the past
>they tell me to leave them alone and to stop forcing them to hang with me
>still alone to this day

I hate being alone and I hate myself for opening up to people I considered friends

I only have one friend that still does things with me, and only sometimes at that.
My other """"""friends"""""" don't bother inviting me to things ever and when I say I'll go get food with them or whatever I always feel like I'm being annoying.

I've tried gaining friends on discord. Joined a server and this is how I feel in it. Of course I get it, groups have their cliques but even online, it is kinda saddening to think that you're excluded.

My old friends stopped talking to me when I quit using drugs, not too upset about it but it was surprising how quickly they lost interest in me.

This is how I felt, I went out of my way to be a friend. I would buy the drinks, I remember my birthday, it was the summer of our graduation from high school. I invited my friends for a celebration, none came. The only ones that came were family. Ill never disregard my family, but I feel alone without true friends. It's a hallow feeling and I'll always be angry over it.

You should read Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki, it's about a guy who has this happen and him trying to figure out what went wrong

Jokes on them. I ghosted them all first.

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What's ghosting someone? I kinda get what you mean but I could use a clearer explanation.

>racist as fuck
>anime fag
>in debt
>no friends

lmao at your life my dude

Same happened to me except we drifted because I'm a late bloomer and slow learner, they were all chasing girls whilst I still wanted to play with toys.

Takes alot to kick someone when their down. You are no better.

It means to cut all contact immediately and never reach out to them again.

>dumb nigger can't read

As expected from a shit skinned nigger with a small brain. lmao

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>tfw you gradually stop talking to your friends
Yes I'm on the opposite side. I don't feel like making the effort to talk to them these days. I have no friends now

I'm 22 now and I have no energy to "make" new friends. I tried using discord but it's just the same shit.

>All my friend started working, have kids, went to school and got into their careers
This is what I struggle to deal with IRL as I know the gf and family part is something I'll never have. Basically everyone in their late 20's has had multiple sexual partners by now and purchased starter homes with long term significant others, some from my old school have even moved in near me.

Similar thing happened when I stopped drinking alcohol (an occasional glass is ok but they always wanted to get shitfaced every-time we met up).

Yeah me too, and I failed to make any friends through uni. I made a couple e-gfs but those didn't last, the past two years I've had no actual friends at all, online or otherwise. The problem with discord is it leads to shitty drama and cancer associated with name faggotry, I don't know why but discord attracts the worst kinds of people, irc never seems to have that problem

I wonder if Jow Forums is to blame for my social apathy, I'm most socially stimulated here, most people I meet IRL are insufferable. Well to be fair so are most anons, but I can scream at them and called then faggot here when they say some stupid shit. I wish I had friends I could do that with IRL.

I ghosted my "friends" in my junior high because I realized they didn't give a shit about me and all they ever did was smoke weed and break into places for fun. None of them ever asked me what happened or tried to get back in contact so I really don't give a shit.

I used to think, maybe it's me maybe I am the problem. Of course I have my faults, I complained about my life constantly and my regrets, I was insufferable. I try not to now, I am going to a few concerts this summer, to finally do something with my summer. But doing it alone is both good and honestly, lonely. Discord was bad because it attracted a bunch of kids in that server, some were my age but they stuck to their group and I was alone. I left within a few days. It's shit. But i still have my account. I just wonder, is this it, is this all to friendship? If so, I'd rather be alone.

>going to a few concerts
ha me too, I worked every summer throughout uni but this time I'm finally free, I was thinking about going to some concerts or music festivals or something alone, at the very least you can enjoy live music. I guess maybe people make new friends there as well, who knows

Those friends are oblivious narcissists.

I had one friend who I always stayed in contact with and invited over to my place and would go over to his place regularly. I noticed it was always me making the effort to hang out, so I stopped to see what would happen. After 6 months of sitting at home by myself after school and every weekend I said to him "hey how about I come over and hang out this Saturday", he said sure. I though that was easy. I then said to him "how come you always hang out with the guys down the road from you but never ask be to hang out as well?" His response was "oh, didn't think". He always was a bit of a oblivious no brainout of site out of mind sort of guy.

Your friends might be the same way.

Yes. Had a normie friend that gradually cut contact with me and I was pissed because I really liked him. Probably had to do with me being a low achiever or being hard right-winged but fuck I was pissed feels bad man.

It would be fun, I'm looking into mastodon, warped tour, electric forest and possibly an anime convention. I'm honestly excited no matter how "normie" it sounds.

If anything I use it to my advantage, I won't go out of my way when hanging out with friends anymore. But I won't cut myself either.

Why is it so hard to find people who don't mind months of non contact but can easily meetup and have a good chat once in a while? All this meeting up every week and chatting everyday online is mentally exhausting.

I'm fine with that if I know the person really cares and doesn't want to ghost me randomly.

I think you'll only find that with true friends or people who want to use you. I used to have a friend I could speak to for a few weeks every summer or winter. We'd have no contact for a year or two before linking up again like time never passed. But he killed himself and now I have no one.

I had one fellow autistic friend like that but his work colleagues keep pushing him to be more normie, which is up to him obviously but I feel it might push us apart one day.

Most people have two types of friends. Those who they see a couple times a year and those who they see couple times a week/month. If you have both types everything is fine. If you only have friends you see regularly that's fine too.

Problems with loneliness happen when you only have friends you see 2 or 3 times a year. It becomes depressingly easy to feel unwated and to just drift away. Even sadder when your so-called friends don't even notice or care that you've drifted away. It's easy to drift away from friends when it feels like no one is trying to hold onto you.

korean friends stopped talking to me because i think they suspected I might be a white supremacist. they're not 100% wrong, but still, I never got political with them soo (I did wear a Burzum shirt once or twice, perhaps that did it)

>they're not 100% wrong

Can't blame them for not wanting to be apart of your next massacre, dude.

You were probably his only friend and those long periods of no contact probably fucked with his head, loneliness and a belief that you no longer cared about him eventually pushed him over the edge.

Actual white people don't really commit school shootings, it's usually mestizos, Jews, or Arabs. Breivik is one notable exception, but I can't really consider him white since he's Christian.

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He had a Chad friend who convinced him that he was a loser who didn't deserve friends until he got his life together. And I'm pretty sure that was the tipping point. He Chad buddy just says my friend wasn't "strong enough" and his suicide was hardest on him. Fucking self-absorbed asshole. I do regret not being more of a busybody in his life though. My autistic insecurity kept me from talking to him more. He's probably the only person who would have welcomed my old habit of randomly showing up and chilling just because.

They probably did and you never answered or wanted to hang out as you where playing video games or here

The last time I saw one of my best friends I turned down his offer to go to a strip club with him and a not-so-close friend and his gf. I told him that I didn't feel that desperate. When I think about it it may have been rude but even though I'm a virgin I don't feel thirsty enough to go to a shitty suburban strip club. I already spent the whole night with him though. I'm probably over-analyzing.

>actual white people, not us

You know most of these shooters were white supremacists, right? Nobody's fooled by the "lone wolf" or "not white enough" excuse anymore.

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damn this is actually really sad

Jews, mestizos, LGBTs can't be white supremacists (all recent school shooters have been at least one of these). I shouldn't even have to clarify that lol. Also, "not white enough," hmm, i guess you can keep trying to shift the definition of "White" to serve your political agenda, but, at the end of the day, this kids aren't actually white, soo. (Do I even have to mention that this most recent kid have a sickle & hammer and fucking Cthulhu pin on his trenchcoat? Really grasping at straws trying to pin him as a "white supremacist)

you have me typing like an ape out here im tired lol

>not cutting them off yourself
I realized I was hanging out with someone just so I would have a friend.

You literally said Christians aren't white when it's the white Christians who want to start race wars in the name of Christianity. You're the one shifting the definition for your convenience, not me.

Additionally, it doesn't matter what you want to classify these shooters as, what matters is that they thought they were white enough to be on supremacist sites to dump and fuel their hatred and anger.

Then stop lying, bitch. That's why you lost your K-Pop friends.

Yes, from 2012 to 2014 I used to have a group of friends that I was a part of and hang out with on a regular basis. Things fell apart and one by one stopped wanting anything to do with me. They literally would stop hanging out if I was there. Which led the whole group abandoning me. I was left with two friends from that point on. By 2017 I was down to just one of those two friends and now this year I haven't talked to him at all. I haven't hung out with another human being since November. My future is seeming very bleak.

Christianity is an Asian, Jewish religion. There's nothing White (European) about it's essence, so I don't see how I'm changing any definitions. I also can't think of a single kid besides Dylan Roof that recently shot up a school in the name of "Race war." All of these kids were just bullied so stop lying and exploiting these tragedies for the sake of your political agenda you sick bastard. Also, I was just referring to a few spelling errors I made, argument is still flawless.

it sucks when life is getting worse and worse...

Yes, I wonder if I'll ever get to hang out with another human being before I die.

live life, breathe air, I know somehow we're gonna get there, and feel so wonderful

This is why I avoid normiebook, too many former friends moved on having families of their own and affording grown up things like houses and good cars.

Even people getting married doesn't surprise me anymore as its been going on for several years now.

wow digits

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maybe you stopped talking to them
take the initiative and call some people

great, now I feel sad about a fucking kid's theme song
youtube.com/watch?v=HPM05dQgdig

I voluntarily stop contact with people for on fucking reason and frankly it's infuriating and I really dislike myself for it. It'll always be triggered by something trivial, like me realizing they have better friends than me. I'll immediately and involuntarily start distancing myself from them even, leaving common conversations, ignoring their calls even though I am consciously aware that I am making a mistake and that this is plain shitty behavior. I wish I wasn't so fucking weird.

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*involuntarily
fuck i'm retarded

I do the same thing. I think I get jealous and insecure when I feel like I'm interacting with someone with more friends and better social skills. I feel like I have so much less power, so much more to lose, but I don't want to feel that way so I cut them off and pretend I'm happy as an island

For me it's more that I feel I'm investing in a very unbalanced relationship. I feel retarded knowing that I consider someone my best friend even though the feeling is clearly not reciprocated and I guess that makes me act autistic about it

I don't know this feel. I've never had these friends you speak of.

haha checkmate

this
sure seeing your old colleagues once in a while to reminisce is nice, but you really dont want to go out with them every friday - for the sake of your mental health, nostalgia is a serious fucking drug

I gradually quit talking to them. All my friends were chads and sometimes their stacy gfs. I got fed up with their shit after about five years.

Happened to me. Lost some of them when we finished college and I lost a lot more of them when I went to uni. We're all busy as fuck, so why would we make the time to talk to each other?

Play some music, find a hobby and keep yourself busy, your real homies will make an effort to see you
Heres

I'm paranoid, but I also know my "friends" treated me like shit.
>Know this guy who talks a lot on FB about positivity, self-confidence, especially body positivity, gets so many comments about being nice and pure and good
>Has so many friends, everyone loves him, they think he's too good for this world
>He's actually an asshole who made fun of me almost every time I saw him for months after I split my forehead open on accident

Another one:
>Friends and I are supposed to go see Fleet Foxes
>I don't get back into town from work until about 5PM
>Show is located in a city 2 hours away, started at 7:30PM
>Would've taken me ~15 minutes to drive to friends' house to meet up and we could all leave
>At 3:30, one of them tells me they changed their plans and are going straight from a hair salon to the city where the show is
>Apparently this change was decided yesterday, but nobody told me, they basically passed along the responsibility and told somebody else to tell me the plans changed instead of someone just telling me directly
>4:45, one asks me where I'm at *despite me telling them multiple times I won't be back home until 5*
>4:51 "IDK we have our phones, let us know what's up" and left town
>Naturally this upset me because, again I explained this to them, I was WAY too tired to drive 2 hours there, see a show, and 2 hours back alone
>Apparently I am "entitled to their time" and "toxic" for thinking it was wrong of them to leave me

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