How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
Basic Recommendations:
- Have a productivity Framework that is flexible. A mindset that gets you going. - Use a calendar, like google calendar. Hours and shit for things YOU WILL DO. - Learn to focus. - Meditate. - Do routines for things you should do periodically/daily, this should cover daily things or weekly chores such as laundry, cleaning, shopping. - Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself. - Focus on identifying the time wasters in your life and eliminate them. - Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Love this thread, actually opened Jow Forums to see if one was up. Good post, OP.
I've been drawing more and posting my art on social media, trying to get my name out there as an amateur professional artist. Some online gallery already asked me to submit a piece, I have to color it though. I'm also doing commissions, and alongside that actually putting in more effort at my regular job this year like I wanted to.
One of my current struggles is continuin on my cut to 175 lbs, I'm 220 now. But I did good today, I think I've stumbled upon a mindset that will work. I DO want to meditate more, perhaps I will do that rn.
I changed my major in uni from IT to occupational therapy. I’m gonna be happier
Dominic Gomez
In the past month or so I've completely changed my mentality permanently. I was stuck in this weird incel mindset, I just kept finding flaws within myself. I would look in the mirror and find something wrong with my face or remind myself of something embarrassing or awkward I had done. It drove me to a really dark place. I was started smoking, feeling sorry for myself all the time, and just not caring about anything.
Then I decided to work out and it literally changed my life. For the first time I saw quantifiable improvement in my life. I went from benching literally only 35lbs on both sides to 50lbs on both sides in a little over a month. I went from not being able to do a fucking pull up to doing pull ups unassisted. I went from barely being able to run a mile to running 2 miles everyday.
I didn't just accomplish my goals, I fucking smashed them and went even farther. Doing that was like a slap in the face, I realized I'm capable of a shit ton more than I ever thought. I stopped being insecure, I started acting like an adult. I had a mock interview for a class that I barely prepared for (really short notice) and I showed up and kicked it's ass, the woman giving it to me didn't stop complimenting me after. I've also started doing my homework days before it's due.
I don't know what made it "click" but I feel like I overcame a mountain. I had a really rough time when I got to college and was dealing with some family stuff that made me very sad. I felt lost and hopeless. Now I look at every hardship, not as something sad, but as a fucking challenge, something to rip into and kill. For the first time I actually love myself, I like looking at my body in the mirror, and wake every morning excited to see if I can run farther, lift more, or be a leader in a social situation.
Sorry if this post sounds retarded, I'm just very happy. Even though my gains are minor, it's made a massive difference in my life.
Daniel Morgan
Joined another gym last week and hired a trainer, been pushing myself physically further than I have in years and I'm happy about that sudden change. Outside the gym I feel pretty miserable. I'm in school doing networking which I find interesting but it's a grind, and the classes so far have been online rather than on campus so it's lonely af. My only drive to do this stuff is that at 28 I don't have a degree or a job and I've been dicking around too much in different subjects so I'm trying to commit to this. I don't sleep enough. Haven't hung out with my friend very much this past month but we're hosting a bbq this weekend so I'm def looking forward to that. I'm all over the place, like I'm constantly trying to catch up to so much at once and just burning myself out yet at the same time I feel I can't let myself stop otherwise I won't get out of the hole I made of my life.
Finally started cardio for the first time in 3 years about a week ago Seeing noob gainz daily has improved my self esteem a bit and it's nice to be able to bike more than 2 miles again. Two months ago got back into doing gigs instead of being a lazy fuck just hating myself and what I've done with my life Possibly found a girl even, pisses me off though because I said I was gunna start this shit 6 months ago specifically so when I saw said chick I would be in pretty good shape. Oh well, at least she'll see a noticable difference in how I carry myself and that I'm working on bettering myself right?
I'll go with the year(since I started college) >biochem major >started working in a research lab this past semester >reading hume and Plato >started the journey to getting Jow Forums >maintaining nylon guitar skills(Bach, tarrega, villa lobos, etc) >began listening to mahler(more than halfway through the abbado symphony cycle) >cut out vidya completely >cook every day
Really trying to delve into my major. I still have a long way to go with improving my daily routines; i tend to stagnate and procrastinate. The only thing that's very constant is my lifting and eating schedule.
Kevin Moore
From january 2017 to right this moment >went from contractor to full time employee >lost 100lbs >got LASIK >replaced entire wardrob >saved $25,000 >paid off decent car >debt free >made plans to finally move out >made retirement goals >making plans to buy house by 30 >learned to groom and manscape >exploring new hobbies and trying to become more social >aiming for higher position at work
Still have no idea how to talk to women and have already resolved myself to dying alone though.
Little by little is interesting. I am seperating things and doing them in segments
Zachary Cook
Dude, you lost 100lbs, improved your hygiene and stabilized your finances, lead with that next time you talk to a woman and have your own place to fuck her, it might take talking to 4-5 of them, one of them will fuck you. Aim for fat chicks until you get more confident, they will hook up with you just to find out how you lost the weight.
Robert Peterson
Fuckin A bro, go for it!
Zachary Johnson
The wardrobe thing is a great idea. I'll have to do that soon.
Gavin Brown
My standards are too high for fat chicks. I doubt I'd even get hard. Also no idea how a date works, what to talk about, how to take pictures for online shit like tinder, etc. No idea how to find woman outside of online, and bars I'd just end up drinking alone. I dunno man.
I did it twice. Luckily don't have to do a 3rd, have a nice mix of medium and large shirts.
Because you find comfort in familiarity dealing with autistic children?
Kayden Robinson
You got to learn to ride a tricycle before you can jump on a Harley user. You don't have to fuck them, just convince them to come back to your place for drinks. This will give you the training you need to boost your confidence to go after hot girls. Plus fat chicks suck a mean dick, you won't have to put in work for it. Meet women at a bar, or find a hobby where there are females. If you are socially awkward, find a local larp, they are generally pretty cheap, vampire larps are full of goth chicks, everyone there is a dork, and you can also make friends pretty easy, who in turn can invite you to more events and parties where you can meet more women.
Easton Smith
I don't know what's wrong with me. I had a whole day of errands to do but I ended up playing video games, cracking two beers and chilling all day. I even skipped the gym.
I've made a lot of good changes the last couple months but it's like everything in me today wanted to revert back. What gives?
Josiah Brooks
You're currently making it bro, don't ever fucking stop
Nathan Clark
As a guy who lost 80 lbs, this is a topic you can use all the time with women and they will become intensely interested in it. Especially if you have a before and after pic.
Give it a shot. Dead ass serious.
John Anderson
>I'm in school doing networking I'm a dude doing Cyber Security and I can tell you right now, it's a living hell for people who relatively extroverted. I really struggled with the loneliness my first 2 semesters, I came from a smaller high school where everyone knew each other and I was used to having people around me 24/7. Honestly, going to the gym helped me an immeasurable amount, I don't feel lonely anymore. I adopted more of a militaristic mindset towards it, I'm not here to make friends, I already have those. I'm here to learn, get my degree, and get a kickass job.
I know it's rough but don't let those negative thoughts into your mind, stay focused on your goal and you'll make it. You can make friends any time in your life, and it sounds like you already have one quality one which is invaluable. Getting a degree is something that requires focus and dedication. It's easier said than done, just don't give up and you'll be fine.
Wyatt Thompson
Nice, I'm going into an occupational therapy program in July. Really looking forward to it. Good luck user! Also, how do you guys deal with too many interests? I'm interested in musical instruments, art, woodworking, ceramics, honestly most creative passions you can possibly think of, plus learning foreign languages and programming. But it's kind of impossible to do all of them (and become proficient at them) all at once.
Christopher Gray
Everyone has a bad day here or there or falls off the wagon at some point, it's human nature. The important thing is getting back on it ASAP.
Zachary Rivera
with how much autism is spreading throughout, ill be making some bank
Wyatt Foster
You should just pick something that puts yourself at ease. I used to have too many hobbies and ended up with only a few that i can really enjoy for sure
Noah Murphy
May I as what job do you currently hold?
Jackson Thompson
Post drawings
William Perez
>Suffered a mental breakdown a while back >Got me DQ’d from the Army before I even shipped to Basic >(probably a good thing though, I probably would’ve had a breakdown in Basic and it would’ve been worse) >Anxiety and depression kept me isolated in my apartment for months afterwards >Couldn’t even go grocery shopping without suffering panic attacks >lost 25 pounds and every ounce of what little muscle I had >started seeing a therapist, didn’t help much though >2 weeks ago woke up and told myself I’m sick and tired of this shit >focused hard on putting myself back together >wrote out a weekly checklist of normal things to do around the house (that I hadn’t done in months) >forced myself to leave the apartment even if it was just down the road, had a couple anxiety attacks but rode them out and refused to go back home until the errands were done >started cooking again >started hitting the gym again last week
I still feel shitty, but the best I have in months desu. I was a normal dude, never had any problems in the past. Just got overwhelmed with several big life changes at once and it broke me down. I’ve lost all my confidence but am trying to stay positive that I’ll build it back up as I put myself back together.
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Anthony Turner
started going to the gym 3 months ago. Seeing gains, my GF is happy, struggling to get Jow Forums herself.
Gave up vidya & porn completely
Practice musical instrument for over an hour a day for the past 3 weeks (using trainig techniques newly learned at gym)
still struggling with nicotine and alchohol, but I'm cutting way down.
Julian Powell
fat chicks give the best blowjobs
Logan Bennett
I am relearning math. I always struggled with it when I was younger but I am thinking of going back to school. So I thought I'd be a better use of my time to get used to math again.
Jacob Ortiz
Shitty deal man, but sounds like you're making good progress. Keep it up and you'll find yourself out of the abyss in no time. You'll be alright in the end
Isaac Nguyen
good shit user, math is underrated in today's society and I respect people that put in the effort to become proficient with it
Easton Garcia
I've quit drinking, and I've quit smoking as well. It's not so much that they were the problem- it's that I wasn't addressing the real problems. And I still haven't so I just feel utterly depressed and I can't hardly motivate myself to do anything productive work related.
I could post about all the bad parts, but the good part is that I've been working out more- and i do have a goal. Kind of. But I can't focus. I don't know if I'm doing ok or not.
But I am keeping track of everything. and the numbers indicate I'm doing better.
I'm just not mentally ok about anything, but physically I'm betting better.
Carter Clark
I feel you. Spent most of the last seven months or so barely holding it together, really broke down in January, been just trudging along at work the past three months.
I finally realized that since leaving school and working, I've only really felt right when I was either directly competing in something, or looking forward to a specific big ticket event. Going in every day and just doing the work isn't really doing it for me. So I'm trying to figure a way to tie my ordinary, necessary day-to-day work into a more competitive or goal-oriented way that makes it feel like I'm achieving real results, and getting fucking paid while I'm at it.
Still working on that but at least the goal of having measurable goals is helping.
Tyler Myers
>Started reading >Started running >Hit 4k in 20 minutes.
Justin Jones
I had a breakup with gf after living together for years in September, was drinking till late Janaury hard. Then i said enough is enough, started running,reading, cut alot of shity people from my life, got myself /fit, got promoted at work, kicked coke habbit with couple of relapses tho, Ran a marathon, shit is good desu
that's good, the physical progress should indicate to you that things get better, not just in the domain of fitness, but in all facets of your life if you work hard enough at it. Godspeed user.
I do this all the time. I think it's a symptom of fear of failure/rejection.
Unrelated but I'm finding out why I go through periods of working hard and then binging on dopamine. Last night, instead of watching some documentary and browsing the internet I paid attention to my senses. Sounds weird but I sprayed some aftershave, made some lemon water, focused on my breathing and watched Planet Earth. Cravings for porn and internet browsing disappeared and I went to bed earlier.
Tyler Torres
I'll try it if I can ever get in contact with a girl at all.
Help Desk. Sounds silly but it's good money. 4% 401k matching and espp.
Juan Long
>currently getting a second masters degree >been cutting like crazy while keeping my muscle, getting abs >looking for internships to be able to get that wage gains next year
On the other hand
>have an interview for an internship I really want >everything goes well until the end, fuck up in an easyish kind of question I've not really approached for like 10 years even if I kind of fixed it/realized the mistake quickly
