You absolutely need to understand that we did NOT get here by magic. If you read on, you'd see that I was a literal loser almost up until my 30's. From that point on I studied and worked HARD for 10 years to basically get to where I am now. We weren't born into this, but had to earn it. From the same piece of shit position you're in, claw our way all the way up here.
I know, this is going to be ridiculous, but one stupid thing that really helped me was Trinity's line in the first Matrix movie:
> Switch : Our way, or the highway.
> Neo : Fine.
> Trinity : Please, Neo. You have to trust me.
> Neo : Why?
> Trinity : Because you have been down there, Neo. You know that road. You know exactly where it ends. And I know that's not where you want to be.
The second I heard that, it resonated more strongly with me than anything before or since has. Not because of the movie, not because of the plot, screw all that shit. It resonated because those words described exactly what I had thought about most of my life. Only I had no words for that feeling. Not before that line in the movie.
I was a NEET, loser, on and off poor jobs, felt like shit, thought about suicide, and everything sucked ass. And there it was: If you keep doing (or not doing) what you've always done, you get what you've always gotten. Nothing will ever change.
Slowly, over time, with enough boredom and being pissed off with myself, powered with the fact that I knew that sentence to be 100% true, I finally kicked my own ass up and made something of myself.
I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm a shill. I just hope it can give you some of the power and determination it gave me.