Hello Jow Forums,
I'm from the Netherlands and i'm not almost 6 year active with my own psychology clinic which i started running after completing my PhD in psychology.
I know people probably aren't interresting in this kind of shit, but i'm willing to offer a bit of help with some problems if you explain your situation to me.
i have a tiny micro penis and cant satisfy anyone in bed, therefore it's literally impossible for me to get a gf
Why should I not kill myself?
Can one live a normal life with a very extreme scat fetish?
I am autistic and hate being with people. How to not go on a murder spree?
How does one achieve MAX BRAP?
Depends what your goals would be in life.
To start a family and be able to procreate i have to admit you're in a shitty situation which you couldn't prevent whatsoever. This will sound like a harsh statement, but you might have to settle down for someone in a less fortunate situation aswell (Like a woman who also suffers from a deformity).
But ending your life is never worth. You're sacrificing something you will only experience once.
Does DBT actually work? Is it worth actually seeking it out knowing I'll probably be unable to eat enough or pay rent with my lack of funding if I opted for it, but I'm desperate to become socially apt and less suicidal
Why do I like fapping to dicks even though I'm not attracted to guys?
this one is hard to explain but i'll try as hard as i can.
when i look into mirror i can't make eye contact with myself or i will get scared or something like that. it's a similar feeling to seeing a spider or stray dog creeping up to you. not too bad but you still get that fightor flight reaction
For most extreme fetishes starting something like noporn often helps. Fetishes are often build up from the desire to masturbate to something you aren't used to. When you get used to porn you want something more kinky and exciting, which basically is the slippery slope. Try to atleast lessen the amount of porn you watch.
Do you have a past experience which caused this hate, or is it something you firmly believe is just part of your personality?
Depends on your situation. How much psychological help did you already have had in your past?
You're attracted to sexual reproductive organ of the male body, which means you're attracted to guys.
Is it fear of yourself or are you ashamed of what you are?
Why do i still have very bad social anxiety when i go out into public?
Ive been out there, exposing myself for years but i go through the same anxiety attacks each time im out wether its a new or familiar location.
> Try to atleast lessen the amount of porn you watch.
What if you've had the fetish from a really young age and well before you started watching porn?
why am i only competent and suddenly productive when i am in deep shit?
I can't help but hate and therefore give up on women. For the simple fact that even the most average girl from 16 to 35 gets all the attention in the world. I'm tired of being rejected, I'm bitter, I'm not going to get anyone on my looks level because those girls are constantly validated and admired like Hollywood actors. Please help
I've had CBT from several different therapists and it's never really done anything to change my thought patterns, as for meds they just make me feel worse (dbt user)
>You're attracted to sexual reproductive organ of the male body, which means you're attracted to guys.
Yeah bu I feel no attraction to them outside of porn. I fap to girls, go outside and feel attracted to them. I fap to dicks or traps, go outside, and feel no attraction to guys. Its weird.
>Is it fear of yourself or are you ashamed of what you are?
i'm not sure if it's any of those feelings but if it is it's most likely fear.
What the fuck? a scat fetish isn't developed by porn consumption, but by a deep psychological flaw in development
ignore this "psychologist"
It seems like you are extremely self concious about yourself. Is there something about yourself you are ashamed about towards other people?
Is there an origin story to this fetish? If so it might have to with trauma and a slight bit of stockholm syndrome.
Survival instincts. Even the laziest people will jump into action if their way of life is threatened.
I can't probably give the answer you want to hear, but it's the truth. Women are programmed to pick their partner (In most cases) based on traits she would desire her children to inherit. If you have 0 luck with women you might sadly be 1 of the less fortunate people.
CBT is really low level shit and the jump to DBT is pretty high. It's something you have to carefully consider. If i were you i would ask advice to multiple people who are more informed about your situation.
Then it's a fetish.
Do you feel fear for other people aswell, or specifically the reflection of yourself in the mirror?
This is literally every post on /gif/. being bisexual isn't a meme, that shit happens in real life. It's also normal to be homophobic and feel disgusted by yourself.
>Do you feel fear for other people aswell, or specifically the reflection of yourself in the mirror?
i sometimes feel very uneasy while talking to people especially if i don't know them well.
>Is there an origin story to this fetish? If so it might have to with trauma and a slight bit of stockholm syndrome.
oh wow
>Women are programmed to pick their partner (In most cases) based on traits she would desire her children to inherit.
HOLY FUCK IT'S EVO PSY
>Then it's a fetish.
You suck at this, jesus.
>Then it's a fetish.
It does feel more like a fetish than what I would consider normal attraction, at least if I'm using my attraction to woman as the standard. Its always confused me.
>charging people up the ass to dispense common fucking sense and say (((how does that make you feel)))
You normie faggots profit off the misery of others while in most cases not doing a single fucking thing to help your patients besides pushing pills on them while at the same spouting JUST BEE YOURSELF. Unironically kill yourselves all of you
Well I don't mind being bisexual, but I would think a bi guy would feel attracted to a guy in real life at least once, but its always just been a porn thing with me. I feel like a normal straight guy when I'm not looking at porn.
How do I find the motivation to do anything other than exist? I have locked myself in my own prison and I don't remember the way out.
Hey man, I'm a complete shut-in because of years of isolation and I don't know how to help myself.
I was bullied in middle school, I did highschool homeschooled at my uncle's place because my mother was in a mental institute and my father in rehab. I cameback to real life for college. At the uni, I'm a complete ghost except for some girls who tried to talk to me but gave up when they finally understood that I wouldn't talk to anyone.
Any idea to improve from there?
I used to be very successful academically, but half way through uni I stopped studying. Thinking about it makes me extremely anxious and I always rationalize procrastinating until it's too late, and i end up failing classes. It's been like this for 2 years. I've been to an irl therapist, she said that I'm fine (no depression etc). I dont know what's wrong with me and I don't want to be like this, I had a proper life and I took a steaming dump on it. Family's disappointed and hurt, I've isolated myself socially because I was always the "smart guy" and I can't deal with my failure in front of my peers. I'm tidy, I cook, eat healthy, work out, clean, do my laundry, pay bills, I can basically do everything on time except for studying
Also, I already dropped out one time because of anxiety. This year is my last chance.
>origin story
Not that I can remember.
>stockholm syndrome
It is extremely masochistic.
How can I get over my fear of leaving the house without medication or therapy? Can I just force myself to go out more, or would that fuck me up worse?
Also, is it possible for me to ever form a normal romantic relationship with borderline personality disorder? I'm so painfully intense and obsessive, I can't get over it and end up stalking and creeping on anyone I get close to.
You are literally me in my mid 20s, maybe you aren't bi and just grow out of that phase in a few years and never look at porn again, who knows.
Next time try to look at some attractive guy and think about sucking his dick, and see how you feel. Do it a few times, and if you don't really "feel" the idea when you're horny and in the safety of your imagination, then just stop looking at porn for a while I guess.
I have a chronic phobia of brain damage. I am constantly afraid that I'm somehow losing intelligence due to outside factors like exposure to toxic metals, etc. It makes enjoying myself every day very difficult, because I am constantly in a state of panic. considering all my hobbies require me to be able to think quickly, the idea of losing that trait is terrifying to me. how can I get over it? ive gotten blood tests and they've all come back negative for toxicity, but I'm still constantly afraid. do I need medication?
Hear me out here, but I think psychiatry is a load of nonsense. I have aspergers and severe anxiety disorder and it has ruined everything for me. I cannot lead a normal life because of this. I've seen all kinds of psychatrists and therapists over the years, from teens through most of my adulthood, and nothing about it has ever even remotely done anything helpful. Over time I went to these places less and stopped entirely about a year ago. Every therapy/counseling session I've ever been to has no clear direction or structure and it seems like they're just making stuff up as they go along. They never actually explain how to help. It's always just, talk about any random thing and they don't even say much in response. Most of the time this makes me feel worse if anything. Psych meds are a joke too. I've tried so many different ones I can't even remember all the names. They did absolutely nothing for me other than some had unpleasant side effects, because of which I gave up trying to take any. I desperately wish there was something I could do that would help me but now it seems impossible. What do you have to say about someone with my experience?
I started taking a second look at guys but still no attraction. I recognize guys as being handsome or cute but the pull of sexual attraction isn't there, I want nothing to do with them.
It's just interesting to me, even if I am bi I plan on keeping my sex life hetero, seems I like to keep things simple.
Imagine being a man and talking like this guy, I think I would kill myself.
You fags have no real issue in life, you'll need a natural disaster to become relevant.
How to be less avoidant?
French here, what are the avantages with a PhD (8years here) and a master's degree (5years) ?
I'm almost at the end of my master degree and idk if I would benefit spending 3 more years as a student
Yeah I'm pretty awful loI
>become relevant
imagine having your head this far up your ass
Waarom heb ik zo'n verschrikkelijk attractie tot frikandelbroodjes?
>imagine having your head this far up your ass
imagine having you head this far up in the ass of other dudes.
wtf i was able to understand that and i'm not even dutch
what are frikandel made of btw
I'm 22 and I still feel like I'm never going to find love or hell even get laid.
Please help me OP. How do I recover from a panic attack induced DP/DR. Everything is slow and blurry, like I am underwater, it is difficult to explain. No interest in anything. But the most serious symptom I experience is that I have no inner monologue, I am unable to communicate with myself, like the autopilot has taken over and I have no control.
>being this desperate for (you)'s
how's high school user?
Pretty good, your mom is my favorite teacher.
I feel like I live in a dream. Nothing seems real and my mind has gone blank. I feel as though I'm a robot, everything done without thought. It started 8 years ago. I genuinely believe I have brain damage and have made an appointment with a neurologist, but my GP thinks that it's probably just anxiety. He calls it depersonalization. I've ordered some peptides to heal my brain, but if it turns out to be just anxiety what do I have to do to become normal again?
I just posted a similar question.I guess I should have read the thread.
Bestaan er fembots in dit land?
Waarom zijn er zo veel mannen die eenzaam zijn maar niet vrouwen? Hoe komt dit? Zou het niet gelijk moeten zijn? Wat zeg je tegen mensen die depressief zijn omdat ze geen vriendin krijgen?
Hoe kun je dit plaatje verklaren?
i cant concentrate on anything, even when im in a completely isolated environment. Takes me 4 hours to read a 20 page chapter in biology
also i hate evryone
yes there is fembots in this land
depression is bad
i don't know what hoe kun means but it sounds japanese
is being gay a mental illness?