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previous: It's the weekend bros. Take some well deserved R&R, you've been doing some good shit lately. But remember! get back on That Horse come Monday. Or Hell, keep on improving through the weekend for all I care. Just be fucking awesome.
YOU GOT THIS BROS! WE ALL GONNA MAKE IT.
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How does /SIG/ spend their R&R time this weekend?
I'm planing on doing some out door climbing and getting some reading done.
Sounds like someone who is having a hard time making it. Hang in there user, I know that you can reach your goals too if you try.
Who do you want to be?
The best I can be, and also to be able to accept the things I cannot change.
>things I cannot change
Such as?
Tried to start some long ass homework before I go out in the night but ended up lurking this fucking site.
>/SIG/
>Sad Incel General
Fuck off back to Jow Forums where your kind belong
Can I be the chad but dress like the other dude? Other dude is much better dressed.
Not that user, but someone could have an amputated limb, a face they don't much care for, a small dick, freckles they find unappealing, some kind of chronic illness, uneven breasts, male pattern baldness, or any of a number of other traits that working out and eating right won't change.
Life is rough right now friends.
Summer is here. It takes me hours to get out of bed in the morning. I feel alone.
I have goals but I feel powerless to achieve them.
What do I do
Getting out of depression starts with pain, suffering, work and persevance. Sounds wonderful, doesnt it? But unless you start working towards something nothing will change.
When I started working full time I wanted to kill myself, it was incredibly stressful, I received had no status or respect, I was nothing but a burden and I hated every minute of it.
After a while though you learn to tolerate suffering. I spend 55 hours a week working and commuting and have less free time than ever. But I spend more free time being productive than ever. I get out of bed earlier than ever. And its no longer painful, because I've become resistant to pain.
The point is Chad doesn't care what other people think about his choice of clothes. He's confident in his own choices, and just enjoys wearing what he likes without relying on the approval of others. Not that what the virgin is wearing isn't bad, if you lookmax yourself/get fit. It's just that, Chad dgaf.
How do I work on problems with letting myself get intimate with girls?
Girls are often attracted to me and flirt heavily, but I have a very very strong blockade when it comes to acting on it in any way.
A woman would have to be basically forcing herself on me in order to get intimate.
Lack of any experience whatsoever obviously doesn't help this.
Trying to cut more aggressively for the first time, its a bit hard and I fucked up today but i'm sure I will get better at it over time.
This basically, plus other bigger things, like, you can't change the world by yourself, you need other people's help, and I think the opposite way of thinking gets in people's ways sometimes, makes their egos too damn big. Be humble, but know you're awesome and you can do kickass things in life if you just try.
I actually have had the exact opposite experience. I was cutting at what I thought was -500 kcal a day for over a year, lost 70 lbs in a year, but after the first year I bounced back HARD and gained 45 lbs back. Only now, a few weeks ago, I recalculated my TDEE, using my own formula I came up with myself, and the online calculators had been off. I actually ADDED 400 kcals per day to my diet, and the results started happening again, I am not thinking about food all day, I am actually satiated and full feeling again,(partly because I'm eating more nutritiously and drinking fuckton more water), and I've lost 5 lbs in 3 weeks. So, if you're cut is too hard, you might need to add some, you might be slowing your metabolism too much. Just my two cents.
Yeah you are not wrong about all this. Maybe I should go easier and up my activity level instead of cutting more cals. On a lifting day its super hard not to give in to that voice in my head saying "come on nigguh you been liftin hard didntcha go git yerself dem dere cals brah you earned em nig"
I've been doing IMF for a year now so my fuck up wasnt too bad today only 500cals above my goal for today. Basically i've been eating maintenance plus 200 cals. These surplus cals came from the fucking candy bars I stole from the store when bought groceries today lmao.
Its probably best to chalk this day up as a refeed day instead of feeling too bad about it. Pic related: dinner.
Baby steps my man. I'm sure if you think for a bit you can find lots of simple little things around you to improve, even if its just taking out the garbage or cleaning your bathroom sink. Do all these little things one after another and you will feel a little better. Most people are depressed because of one single reason, and that is lack of movement. Find ways to move more and you can rid yourself from these feel brah.
But I get it dude, shits hard and everything is fucked up. Life has always been that way, gotta do your shit regardless.
I’m tellin you dude, recalculate, I can give you the equation I used myself, it’s based on how much weight you have lost previously instead of your stats and activity level. I feel like the “activity level” based ones will be off usually because they divide the activity levels so widely. Respond if you want the formula, I’ll try and remember it.
Also, burgs looks great, I basically mad the same thing a few weeks ago, pic related, 2 half pound burgs with tomato, red onion, melted bleu cheese crumbles and sriracha aioli, with butter grilled sesame seed buns, and homemade Cajun fries with garlic aioli. Was fucking dank
force yourself to exercise in the morning, or to get out of your house for some hours.
Sure man go ahead, I've lost 50lbs in the last year, starting 250lbs.
Damn man your burgers sure as fuck were way more tasty than mine. Still, a burger day is a good day.
*starting weight 250lbs
Ok, I’ll try and remember it:
In my case it went like:
[70 lbs lost]/ [52 weeks]
=1.35 lbs lost per week
1.35 lbs lost per week x 3500 locals in a lb of fat
=4711 kcals lost per week
4711 kcals / 7 days
=673 kcals lost per day
673 + 1500-1700 kcals per day (an HONEST estimate of how much food you eat per day)
=2173-2373 kcals per day TDEE
2173-2373 - 500 kcals
=1700-1900 kcals per day for a cut
See, easy, if you’ve been keeping track of your lost weight and average calorie intake. Try it out for yourself.
I'm going to continue building some website during the day to continue learning web development, then I'm going to get wasted with my friends at night.
My 5 foot tall, double D Asian gf is also coming back from China today and will be seeing her this weekend, unfortunately we both just graduated and still live with out parents so no sexy time, but I really enjoy spending time with her so it'll be fun regardless.
Past authoring. what is that.
>HONEST estimate of how much food you ate per day while cutting
Also, so that means I wa sable to add 400 kcals per day to my diet, which is 2800 per week. I have way more energy and focus now, while still being able to cut.
Bump
Jordan Petersons self authoring program. Basically it asks you questions and you make a self bio about your life. Determine who you are what what your story really is. After that you can see the path to a better life much more clearly.
Interesting, I'll check this out. Thanks man.
What would you recommend as somebody who is reasonably fit when it comes to getting into rock climbing? Want to find a rock gym but legitimately anxious at the idea of a bunch of good climbers making fun of me internally or me making a fool of myself :(
Have you already purchased his program? Just looked it up, very interested but the FAQ feels a bit ...fluffy?
My cousin's wedding is tomorrow. I've had trouble initiating conversations and controlling conversation endings for quite some time, so this will be good practice, I hope.
I've let myself go. Bad.
Short. 5'9"
A little over a year ago I was bulked up to 205 and kinda lean.
That's big for my height. I got compliments often.
Life happened in a bad way and depression made me lose motivation so I quit lifting.
At first I just kind of lost size and weight. I dropped to 175.
Then I started putting on weight (fat) and now I'm 195 skinnyfat as fuck.
Arms the size of a normal weight guy that doesn't lift and gross gut.
The worst thing about going from a good bulk to skinnyfat? You dont lose your squat booty and thighs. Arms shrunk and shoulders lost size so they look narrow. Compare that to my big legs. Like a fucking woman.
I went from Thick to thicc
Jesus christ
I'm in a better place and life and now have the fire to start lifting again.
Going to be a long journey but I'm hoping to get my body back.
No friends haha coworkers invited me to a party haha said i should bring some friends heheeheh gonna tell them my friends are all busy haha xD
The questions are online for free
Lets count all the 'lets for a second
manlet
lanklet
chinlet
jawlet
dicklet
posturelet
voicelet
handlet
that should just about cover it
I'm two of these.
Now that I think of how bad it would be to have more of these i dont feel so shitty.
If there's one thing that I've truly absorbed from about a year and a half of therapy, it's that exercise is one of the realest, most literal "antidepressants" you have access to.
(And interestingly, "antidepressant medication" is considered by some a spurious term: frontiersin.org
A big step towards making change -- especially when it seems impossible -- is to fortify yourself against the worst outcomes. Learning to push through the lethargy of depression and other low moods is crucial: you don't necessarily need to fix your life at those low moments, but keeping up your exercise regimen will help you in more ways than your depressed-mind can possibly imagine.
Agreed 100%
That was my biggest mistake was letting depression interfere with the hobby that honestly had the biggest impact to my happiness.
I feel like I can get back to my old self. Hell I'm aiming to be better than my old self.
I quit smoking cigarettes and weed and I quit drinking heavily. I dont touch liquor anymore but I enjoy beer with meals time to time.
I'm getting my old job back working with the best boss I've ever had and some of the greatest coworkers I've had.
Also my parents are back to their old athletic selves and my brother who has been fat his whole life is down to healthy weight.
Things are looking up.
I won't masturbate nor deprive my sleep today
Don't want to start my own thread, so maybe this is relevant here... Literally all I've done for the past two months is play DOTA, fap, shitpost, cook basic meals, avoid dishes, clean 1/10th of my room and started going to the gym a few weeks ago.
I don't even know where to start with doing better for myself. Every time I try something I used to enjoy or should do some chores I just end up convincing myself how pointless it is to even try to change. At least I haven't watched porn for a week but I think that's only because my depression is also suppressing my sex drive which just makes it seem negative anyway.
Fuck how do I out of this? I considered taking only a backpack and hiking along the beach for a week or two to clear my head but I know I'm being too much of a bitch to actually do that.
I was in your situation several years ago. You can improve, it's just hard. The two things that I found most important in turning my life around was 1) surrounding myself with a supportive community of like-minded people who are also in shitty situations and want to improve. Even if it's just some internet forum, having a place where you can air your frustrations and get a sense of camaraderie is a huge help mentally. They have to be geared towards self-improvement though, otherwise you just end up with a community of lethargic losers like Jow Forums.
And 2) break down the path to your goals into steps that are small enough to be manageable, but large enough to be meaningful. When I was obese and decided to start eating right I didn't start eating at a deficit right away. I took one week to just continue eating normally while using a calorie calculator to keep track of it because even that was a strenuous effort to my useless piece of shit self back then. The week after, I slowly started eating less food until I was closer to a deficit, so I could get used to eating smaller amounts. Then I started swapping out the shitty food I was eating for better, cleaner alternatives. Implement new behaviors in steps like this to promote long-term habits. Eventually I was able to just make a hard swap onto a clean and strict diet but it helped at the start to break it down.
>Sounds like someone who is having a hard time making it. Hang in there user, I know that you can reach your goals too if you try.
I needed to hear someone say this. I feel like I will never become who I want to be. I won't give up though.
this is a great pic
there is literally no difference there between the chad and the virgin in their surroundings, chad just don't care about what inferior beings think about him, even if they are praising him
I am completly addicted to that one camgirl. Like I wake up and I have a boner thinking about her, and have to immediatly get on my computer and jerk off to her. How the fuck do I stop.
>I won't masturbate
Too late.
>nor deprive my sleep today
Hopefully.
>Who do you want to be?
a human
You can change you posture though
>tfw got a notification saying that my bank account balance is now under 100€
How do I learn to budget and stay on track? Of course, I know the answer, but help me with some advice.
I go out to eat with friends 2-3 times a week because of dem social opportunities but shit's expensive as hell. It also doesn't help to have a gf.
Help me, Jow Forums. I asked Jow Forums once but they were too busy talking about cryptoshit to care about my thread.
When you don't go out to eat, cook your own meals. Usually pretty cheap. Other than that, limit your spending on frivolous things. Also, explain to your gf that your account balance is low, so for now she might have to put up with less "gifts", for the good of both of your futures. She probably will understand, if she doesn't, then she needs some help herself.
>wake up at 10
>talked with gf on the phone before her flight
>went to gym from 12:00 to 14:00
>went home and cooked some meat with tomato sauce
>washed 1 week's worth of clothes
>currently cleaning room while listening to the heavy rain outside
I get so depressed on the weekend. Since I have no friends or gf there is nothing to do except clean my room and car which seem to get absolutely disgusting after 1 week
I've considered becoming a weekend warrior or even just a job at a cafe, anything to get out of the house. What do
get a job. Even if its a shitty one.
Get a job or get a hobby. Alternatively get some friends.
That was me for some years, wanna know what I did?
Read books, leanred stuff, I had a goal. A goal I worked towards too, something that motivated me. I didn't care if I was at home alone oon the weekend. I had something greater I worked towards.
Acquire hobby
Forgot to say I have a full time job and hobbies that I do Monday-Friday. It's the weekend when I get depressed. I'm so restless these days
gym
what are your goals
Already do
I've hit my 1/2/3/4
Got social skills needed for management stuff, understand how peoples mind work, psychological stuff.
Am about to be self employed.
I sound like a faggot now but I've put myself above 95% of all people.
Fuck normies, now knowing how business / politic / the world general works.
Let me tell you this and you will hear this from other anons too.
Hate is the best motivator out there.
Struggle and pain is moving mountains.
Not a comfy life were everything is ok.
As soon as everything was pretty fine, I started to decline.
Fortunately I did it
Go out and try to pick up chicks? Or try to find something your passionate about and work on that? Or get a hobby, even if its as autistic as tabletop wargaming?
This sometimes happens to me too. My best advice is to just keep doing your hobbies, or get some new "weekend" ones. You're restless because you want to be doing something creative/productive or interesting but have, seemingly, put away weekends for R&R, which is fine, but can get boring if you're used to doing intensive stuff. So, just keep doing stuff, and you won't get restless.
I see, that's great. I'm building a business too.
Where did you learn most about how the world works? Books (which books?) or practical experiences?
This is all fine and dandy except
>I sound like a faggot now but I've put myself above 95% of all people.
>Fuck normies, now knowing how business / politic / the world general works.
>Let me tell you this and you will hear this from other anons too.
>Hate is the best motivator out there.
>Struggle and pain is moving mountains.
NGMI. Love, respect, and honor for the yourself and the world around you is an infinitely better motivator. And you still get struggle and pain, you just aren't pissed and moody all the time, you are happy.
After getting out of a relathionship, did anyone feel for a short while that they will never find someone as good looking and as compatible as their ex?
Sup Jow Forums don't post on /SIG/ much, just mostly lurking, but I need your advice on this.
>Finally gain courage to ask her number
>Got her number and ask if she wants to meet for coffee, she says yes
>Almost spill the spaghetti when she gave me her number and accepted the invite (she was nervous was well)
>Meet her to drink coffee and talk
>Turns out she was from the ghetto but moved with her family to a new place
>Her dad is in prison
>Have a sister who's 15 and already pregnant
>Her family is related to some scum who used to bully my friends and have a shitty reputation around town
>Says she doesn't even know them, never met them but she knows their reputation and she suffered in past because of them
>Say I can't deal with her problems but know it's not her fault
Next day felt like total shit. I like her but I not sure if i can deal with all this. I haven't talked to her in last few days since I usually eat at the restaurant where she works it's only making things worse. Really don't know if I give another try or simply move on.
Considering I'm a fucking autism who barely approach girls and thought finally I had found someone and this shit happens.
What happened to the Jow Forums guild for habitrpg?
To be honest, over the course of 3 years with sig and lit (fit, biz sometimes pol related) threads
Jow Forums is a huge pile of crap with hidden diamonds every now and then. The ability to find the gem in that mess is important.
A lot of screencaps explaining things and further self research.
Stoic and the greeks helped too.
The correct mindset is a needed foundation.
Rational thinking, not beeing emotional.
Working towards a greater goal, not for yourself but for your future children. Wanting to leave the world as a better place.
I was able to ditch gaming / movies / self pleasure in order to work on myself.
Motivation threads also helped a lot.
Now comes the part most will hate me:
"Jow Forums was right again"
Self improvement has critical thinking and having an own opinion as side effect.
That's all to say there because inb4 "back to Jow Forums".
My mindset just swiched from "consumer normie" to "creating value / achieving something meaningfull in life".
I just have my eyes open for certain articles, events, people when there is a gathering, all that stuff that a normal person would ignore.
>The most important part is to learn to love and respect yourself.
>How can you expect from anyone to love you if you don't love yourself?
Maybe I described it a bit wrong. Yes I am happy but I am mad that the world is how it is and I want to change that. That is the hate that motivates me.
Got back to practicing kung fu after 8 years of sitting down all day, having constant back pains and not being able to motivate myself to exercise Everything hurts now but I'm pretty happy about it.
If you can give someone like that a second chance in life you'll have someone extremely loyal. Thats how male-female relationships work, shes attracted to you because you can pull her out of her shitty circumstances.
Unless you got a bad impression of her I dont see why this stuff should stop you
Never forget:
> If you marry her, you also marry her family
No Matter what, family is always involved.
In that case it doesn't sound like the stuff for a great future :(
Even though she will probably love you until the end.
She was really nice but yeah... like this user said it's her family that worries me.
She was really sad when I said that to her, later texted me saying she was sorry for feeling inferior to me and never was really related to her family. She was struggling to find someone who could accept her.
That gives me the feels man. A nice girl deserves a good guy. I suppose all that matters from your perspective is whether shes worth the hassle or if you think you can do better.
How is your spiritual self improvement coming along anons? It's not for everyone, but those that pursue it usually reap the benefits.
As someone who exercises 1.5 to 2.5 hours every day and has been for the better part of 2 years, I can say right now that it long ceased to help with my depression.
Now I'm seeking therapy myself to try and fix it. Hoping something will work.
How do I make my sleep schedule normal
My goal is to go to sleep at 10 and wake up at 7
Right now, I go to sleep at 12 and wake up at 8
If I go to sleep at 10 or 11 i can't fall to sleep for an hour
How do I unfuck this?
Go to bed at 10 anyways and set your alarm to 7.
Be consistent with this for about 2 weeks and it should have fixed itself.
Make sure you have a completely dark room and no pc/mobile for at least 1 hour before bed time.
Invite friends over to eat at your place and cook. Or go out with them and share something, eat a small plate, or just grab a water or drink and chill
Why can't you do your Hobby on the weekend? What's stopping you from going out and being social?
This week:
Wrote 9000 words of my novel. Sitting at 25k total (100 pages).
Took a beating with a friend on a political issue along with the major of my town and offered my side because i can take the most beating.
Squatted 291 pounds.
Said goodbye to a friend who has gone back to die of cancer in her home country, after i hosted her for 2 moths. Helped her son and talked quite a bit with him, helped her partner.
Started learning Will The Circle Be Unbroken piano version (slacking a bit, i don't like this particular arrangement, but finding piano sheet for free is impossible).
Talked to a few girl.
>no good deeds go unpunished
I also stopped listening to my favorite music and tried out something different. Trying to reprogram my brain....
Have you done the past authoring things? Ave you at least purchased it?
Holy shit this is very me. Except I'm more focused on cutting my gut than building the big lifts.
What's B-Lizenz? does that check mean you did it?
>differentiating the voices in your head
fuck that critical voice of my family that I've internalized that always judges me. It's just me beating myself up and I need to get better at shutting it the fuck up.
Yes, I think it is a sort of buyers remorse like you got freedom and peace but you focus more on the things you lost than on what you gained.