Findind someone in the real life is HARDLY an option. I'm completely introverted and live in the middle of absolute normies that never have similar interests or want someone to do heartwarming or cute things. Online, it's easier to find someone you click with but they're always 3574 miles away... And sometimes don't take it serious by not believing enough on it and ending up "cheating" with many people at the same time.
There must be a way... I don't want to go on tinder and subvert myself to fit in with other people and have a relationship but be unhappy in life. But LDR's have a 0.001% chance of working. I don't know where to run...
>and ending up "cheating" with many people at the same time. I do this. It's not like there is a formal relationship in place, so its not really cheating
Ryder Smith
>It's not like there is a formal relationship in place, so its not really cheating Yeah some thing like that...
But some people are pathetic? serious enough to put faith even in a LDR. I think the few LDR's that work happen when two pathetic? serious and faithful people meet each other and are loyal and believe in it enough to fight barriers.
Jack Perez
I also put my last hope on ldrs but first I don't believe in pure-ldrs (we must meet soon) and second too many people cheat so I now try to achieve one success among multiple candidates. If any of them inform me that they're serious or want to make this serious I would immediately drop all the others but until then I'm assuming they're just messing around.
Elijah Williams
faggot you just have to find your waifu. all problems solved. no cheating. no awkward interactions. you can do anything with her form cuddling to gore. so be a degenerate and find your true waifu. I wish you a good life
Juan Lopez
It's not that difficult to find quality people. Just let go of the notion that you can only meet new people in clubs because that is just a normie meme.
Julian Cruz
t. normalfag who found the board after r/incel died
Austin Miller
idk. as it turns out i'm extremely good at helping others and being devoted to them only if i'm NOT in a relationship with them. i've finally accepted that i am too different and i will never find someone to be with, only people to help and support and share philia love with.
malebot btw.
David Bell
so where do I find those quality people
Wyatt Miller
>Don't believe in pure-ldrs (we must meet soon) Yes! At some point it truly needs to happen, preferably becoming a real life relationship.
>Too many people cheat so I now try to achieve one success among multiple candidates. I won't judge you. I can't do that myself, but if i weren't helplessly autistic about loyalty i would, it's just the equivalent of meeting many people in the real life and looking if it'll go well with someone. Specially that if you find that person you'll drop the rest, so that's ok
>so be a degenerate and find your true waifu. Waifu or husbando i don't care i just want to find it and do things from cuddling to light BDSM... The problem is finding someone What you meant with being degenerate ;-;?
I wish you a good life too user
>Just let go of the notion that you can only meet new people in clubs because that is just a normie meme. I myself think club people only want one night stands and most if not all of them are the kind of people you should avoid
I know you can find people in most places but any hint? I waste my whole day in college but have no idea, there aren't clubs, i barely socialize with people there to get things done but still i'm friendless and loveless... It's been a year. At this rate i'm going to graduate in loneliness
That sounds harsh user... Maybe you just didn't find the -special- person you'll feel devoted and caring to even in a relationship?
You either find someone in real life or you find someone via a dating website/app.
Finding someone off Jow Forums is statistically imponderable.
Elijah Price
you're fucked if you're not a girl lol
Jeremiah Nelson
Malcolm X had this idea, which I think might help you user.
He looked around at the situation of the black community at the time,and found that "justice" was simply nonexistent. What type of justice was there in a world of racism and lynch mobs, and firebombs? What do you do in a world without justice?
His answer was, in a world without justice, a man must create justice within himself.
In a world without peace, a man must create peace within himself.
In a world without goodness, man must create goodness within himself.
The situation you and I and everyone else have found themselves in is similar. In a world without genuine love, or fidelity, or chastity, you must create these virtues within yourself. If you want to change the world, you should change yourself first: right now focus on making yourself noble, and ethical, and strong, and brave, and honest. Try to become a little better of a person every day.
That's all well and good, but at some point you have to recognize that "fixing oneself" is also used as a deflection by a system which attempts to defend its own civilizational issues.
Luis Cooper
>How find meaningful relationship?
Do drugs.
Julian Diaz
How do you meet people when you fix yourself?
Dylan Garcia
I'm in a similar situation, introvert and live in the middle of nowhere. I've been trying my hand at LDRs, and had some good successes with a couple, though one ghosted me after 6 months and the other went a different way in life after 2 years.
Gabriel Collins
This Nothing as meaningful as dating LSD
Where are you from op
Aaron Robinson
Dating websites aren't an option... How do you find someone nice in a dating app? Tinder looks like a complete shitshow where they only want to share nudes or use your ass and leave you with AIDS.
I'm always working on that, i do think it's important. It would be unfair to say my own qualities because it'd sound biased, but i had people tell nice things about me... At least loyalty is something i can promise with my life
I drink a cup of coffee every two days
Sorry to hear that, user... At any point was there plans to meet irl?
>waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh I can't get a 10/10 Chad to commit to me my life is so hard Kill yourself you piece of shit. You know nothing of loneliness or suffering. I would kill to have a life as easy as yours.
Charles Morris
Why projecting user i never said i wanted a 10/10 Chad or Stacy. Just someone that takes care of themselves and got the qualities listed (being loyal and trustful and not a sick dog) is enough.
I don't have friends and never had a relationship so i pretty much know what loneliness is about.
Joshua Gonzalez
Germany? bottom text
Angel Brown
Just kill yourself and make the word a better place. You're like a billionaire going to a bunch of starving kids to bitch to them about how his $2000 lobster was overcooked.
Adrian Taylor
WiII date a girI in NZ ayo
Owen Ross
I met the two year girl in person a couple times. It was pretty great, and I'm always working towards it in every LDR I try, but most people don't seem keen on the idea. They see LDR and think memes LDR, then when I push for meeting/etc. they peace out.
Dylan Ortiz
I don't even care much about romance I just want a friend I platonically love and flap my hands in excitement whenever they get online.
Owen Bennett
Well of course, but it is no accident that Aristotle's Politics is read as a sequel to his Nicomachian Ethics.
You are in a much better place to institute political and social changes after you have developed your character, and generally I feel like most of the people on Jow Forums generally and R9k more specifically have a lot of work they need to do in terms of virtue. I do agree with you that there are many systemic problems which need to be addressed, first and foremost being the absolute destruction of communities where virtue can be inculcated in young people, but I feel like OP what OP needs right now is to focus on his own ethical development.
I don't see where im doing that. Work on your issues user. I'm pretty sure you can find someone too!
>They see LDR and think memes LDR, then when I push for meeting/etc. they peace out. Every, single, time...
Ha that sounds good too, i hope you find someone user
Gavin Bennett
>>Every, single, time...
Absolutely. One in particular I tried from here, she really seemed to like me, enjoy my company, etc. through text. We started doing calls/video calls on skype and it was nice some of the time, but then I noticed she was ALWAYS on her phone texting someone else, any time we played anything together she was alt-tabbed more than half the game, and so on. Made a comment about it once and she tried playing it off in that obviously guilty way. Made a push to meet since she was going to be visiting my area, and she immediately recoiled and made a bunch of excuses/stopped wanting to do any sort of calls. I'm guessing she had several of us on the hook and was just dancing around all of us.
Asher Garcia
if youre even postin ga bout this on r9k you obviously don't really want it
Xavier Walker
op are you from southern europe? just taking my chances cuz i get a good feeling about you
Wyatt Mitchell
This. Malcolm X also said: "If you can't find a girlfriend, you must become the girlfriend."
Mason Hernandez
Sometimes I fantasize about finding an online gf and becoming the perfect bf that she desires but I know it'll never happen for a number of reasons...
For starters girls don't want to talk to some weirdo like me on the internet... or irl
I had someome do exactly the same to me, like wtf. If the person said to my face about that i wouldn't be that affected and just move on. I ended up discovering by luck that they kept being distracted bc they were talking with other people in romantic ways even when they were the one to invite me to play and all. The worse isn't that. It's all the promises and lies that they kept telling, all the love bullshit that i believed... Then the same happened, the moment i pushed it and said there were real expectations of it working out, the person freaked out and stopped being the lovely dream until it died out.
That really sucks, and i'm sorry to hear that you went through the same user.
I posted here because i have no idea on where else to ask or what to do... I dont have social contacts and don't go out if not for college
Not close ;_; but thanks
What if the person becomes the girlfriend and realizes now she's lonely with no boyfriend
and why would she if you're not a 10/10 model-tier chad and she has hundreds of guys trying to talk to her every week
Samuel Moore
>I know it'll never happen for a number of reasons.. You'll never know if you never try user, it seems impossible but sometimes people hit a luck spot
Bentley Torres
You never can no matter what All it is is sex, and it doesn't matter how good at sex you are everyone wants something new sooner or later No one wants a "serious relationship" that doesn't exist
Bentley Cook
It really does suck. I'd like to ask why did they even bother getting my hopes up, but I know it's almost guaranteed to just be because they like the attention or whatever. Though I haven't given up yet, and intend on still looking for the right person regardless of being hurt in the past. It's really important to never give up after all, you know user?
Owen Baker
I don't even know how to try when everything I do has the same result but maybe I'm just low-key retarded and deserve to be removed from the gene pool.
>then can't you find someone else who's a genetic failure? I have but it's platonic and he's a male.
Easton James
I only want a serious relationship and I would be perfectly fine with a relationship that has no sex before marriage at all. But no fembot wants to meet or give it a chance at least.
Tyler Thompson
Yeah 95.12% of people are like that and it can't be helped. Most of the ones who want something meaningful probably lost hope by now, so its really hard...
>it's almost guaranteed to just be because they like the attention or whatever I think it's something like that too... I refused to believe that there were people like this but i fallen directly into the bait once. Lol.
>It's really important to never give up after all, you know user? Keep it strong user. I hope you find someone, you sound like a nice and serious person! I lose hope sometimes but my mind always comes back to this, so i guess it can't be helped.
The gene pool is a meme tbqh
Jackson Reyes
what you're asking for is a rare thing but not unobtainable first, you have to realize that relationships are difficult for almost everyone second, you need to be the person who really does have something to offer third, work on the little relationships before you decide to go full on relationship and social skills are skills and can be learned and mastered even it you aren't natural at it.
Ayden Baker
who do you want to spend time with?
Nicholas Martin
>Meet new girl >Have same job >Both like video games (she genuinely likes them, not a gamer girl type) >Both very casual >Both like stupid memes >Both do the same sport and coach it >She recently broke up with some guy, he doesn't seem like anything special at all >She's cute to me but definitely not what most guys would consider "hot" >We've hung out with our small group of coworker friends a few times and had fun Fuck I might actually have a chance, can't wait to fuck this up and wanna kill myself after.
take your time don't worry about screwing it up, you most likely will but you need the practice just enjoy the ride until it's over be honest if she asks questions but be too forward or too emotional about it invite her for a cup of coffee and tell her you like her and would like to get to know her better while you are at coffee, tell her you think she's attractive If she responds positively, invite her for another non sexual one-on-one activity (movies and zoo visits work really well) after a few times of that, invite her to your place for vidya and dinner while at you are at your place ask her to be your GF remember to focus on the friend part of gf and lex the sexytime thing develop on it's own if we could meet irl I would coach you may fail but how will you learn if you don't try
