Be married to same chick since we were in college

I had a live-in relationship with a girl who was significantly better looking than me and once I started my fitness journey she started to get less and less (she was always a bit cold desu) interested and comfortable with me.

Turns out it was because she couldn't handle the fact that I was becoming attractive. She was always "the attractive one doing me a favour" and when we became equals on a physical level she couldn't really deal with that.

"Hey babe, I've lost six pounds so far this month."

"It's probably just water weight!"

It went on like that for months. And then she started seeing me get attention from girls and then she would talk about which of my male friends were most attractive, petty stuff like that.

Eventually I dumped her ass for a rich heiress girl, made her move out and now she's with some DYEL dork with high-school tier tattoos who installs peoples cable. She also lost her looks, 30 hits girls like a freight train.

Consider yourself blessed OP. You're too good for her and she's realizing that now.

These guys are right, hard bulk or get over the fact that you were nothing but someones fetish for years.

Yes, do it bud.

She’s a gains goblin now, no turning back, user.

This. She likes you as a stable beta provider and is threatened. She’s not more attracted to you when your fat but she uses sex to reward you for staying a docile cuck.

Fpbp, clearly there are more factors involves than just your weight; the fact that you think it is the only reason she is leaving further proves you are stupid, so I don't blame her

High chance shes fucking a bloatmaxxer behind your back op

It's not really about your bloat or lack thereof. Love fades

I'm kinda worried about that too. My wife and I got together and married when we were fat. She likes thicc boys and I like thicker women. We've started to get healthy and I've been losing weight. She flat out told me she doesn't want me to be skinny but she doesn't mind me being muscular. I've been fasting to lose weight but she wants me to go to the gym instead. I think I'll be fine, we both don't want me to be a dyel anymore but I'm still slightly concerned. Also, she's lost weight but it hasn't been lost on her ass or titties which is a pleasant surprise

>married to the same chick since we were in college
Why do you say this like it's not expected to be married for life
Are you a Yankee atheist

You're marriage literally depends on you bloating, man I wish I was you.

this entire thread smells of redpill/incel virgin thinking. maybe she just likes him fat? women can have preferences too

>She flat out told me she doesn't want me to be skinny but she doesn't mind me being muscular
>I've been fasting
Just be burly dude wtf it's a great look

Unironically embrace the bulk. Muscular + fat is still infinitely healthier than just fat.

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Built fat is more attractive than skinny former fatty

Unironically think whoever that chick is is hot. I also unironically think Rozelli is hot too. Maybe I like Greek women?

They hate feeling that you're superior to them

Time to get fat then

This cut your loses, if no kids are involved cut her out of your life entirely.

Kek

>marrying a chaser
Lmao.

>sad that you actually can experience life on your own

People who get married that early are retards

She knows that you can get hotter women now, and she thought she’d secured her beta provider prey

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yeah im thinking the wife must be an average-looking, insecure lardass

and now she’s even more insecure and wants to pull OP down

what is crab mentality

You're right. It's a bunch of redpill/incel "scholars" trying to promote their meme ideology. It's not even consistent to RedPill either. According to RP dogma, a fit, better looking husband would only inspire dread in the wife and induce more sex and attraction.

Plus, since Jow Forums has a huge hardon for nitpicking on appearances, the idea that a woman could genuinely prefer a chubby dudes body is offensive to them. One dude on here actually rationalized it as a 'fetish', which is better than most of their logic.

Projecting, incel ?

time’s up for the wifey

a relationship will never work if the other person is being selfish. your wife is clearly being selfish.

love is nurturing your partner’s growth (emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical)

instead, she’s emotionally blackmailing you into being fat and unhealthy again. that is without doubt, manipulative behavior.

>married chubby chaser
>butthurt when changed

Think of how most women feel when they start to get older and realize they're still attracted to 24 year olds.

Why would you want your partner to be unhealthy and die earlier? Thats not a preference, thats a harmful pathological desire that anybody in a relationship should seek help for.

this

No, but you definitely are.

Life insurance

>getting this defensive
Incel.

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See:

it’s not about the wife’s “preference” for fat men.

the point of contention is her inability and outright refusal to respect and celebrate OP’s efforts at self-improvement.

that is selfish and borderline sociopathic

Protip: Once a woman puts you in the beta box, you’re never coming out of that. Women view men who improve themselves as “imposters” trying to trick them. Whether it’s getting Jow Forums, making money, acting more alpha, etc. Once you’ve raised your SMV significantly higher the only option you have is to find a new batch of women to interact with. The girls you already know will deep down still see you as the same faggot they originally pegged you for.

When a woman meets a man with slightly higher SMV she does what a woman normally does (typical shit tests, shark bumping you, gauging your interests to make herself more attractive to you, etc.). When you’re in the middle-high SMV tier women (especially older women) start to get shamelessly horny around you and the shit tests aren’t as immediately brutal. When the man is drastically higher in SMV relative to her they actually get super bitchy and rude out of bitterness & sour grapes.

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Where is she disrespecting or refusing to celebrate his progress?

You’re such a virgin it’s not even funny

user, caring that a handful of women put you into the "beta box" is "beta".

I'm no incel, but clearly there is an underlying motivation for when your partner prefers you to be unhealthy and is unattracted towards you becoming healthier.

This is more applicable for short term and casual interactions. And assuming he's low SMV for being chubby is shortsighted. He's low SMV for posting on Jow Forums.

She fucking licked her own tampon are you kidding? You're gross as fuck dude.

If she loved you, she would love the best you.

Does that contradict anything I said?

she thinks you're lifting for other girls

you could always bulk and keep lifting

>yes, take that feminist strapon into your ass w/o lube like a real man.
GTFO

Not really

Fucking Zyzz posted on Jow Forums and his SMV was great

did he post sad feel threads about muh marital problems?

if he was so smart how come he died

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No, OP is simply a beta

i.e: the norm for Jow Forums

While I'm not going to deny that relationships are based on relative value, DO remember that individual people have different ideas of value.

Some women don't care about money, but value a bad-boy alpha attitude very highly, and want a tall smoking biker boy with a bushy beard who will treat her like shit. Others are the exact opposite, and want a short, gentle, and caring man with a ripped 6 pack who makes lots of money and will treat her like a queen.

I'm a bislut and I want a relationship with another guy around my height (which is admittedly hard, I'm 6'8") who's just as ambitious and analytical as I am. I don't really care how much money he makes, I don't care about his fitness level (as long as he comes with me to the gym) and I don't give a fuck about how alpha or beta he acts. That would be maximum SMV to me. But that WOULDN'T be max SMV to some random Stacey who needs a bad boy alpha with ripped abs and 20 inch arms. Maybe she thinks 6'8" is too tall.

Expand your mind and allow yourself to consider nuances.

>she licked her tampon
>you're gross
I'm not Rozelli buddy

>I'm 6'8"

is this when manlet memes are taken too far

Only in America to people have relationship issues because one or the other loses tons of fat

I'm actually laughing this is even a thing.

Do Americans not understand it is bad to be fat?

They are too stupid period.

Your country smells like it needs some freedom.

>Giant homo

Lol

Women prefer scumbags when fertile and niceguys when they’re not

It’s the far left wing media and the sjws that spearhead this campaign for fat acceptance. Anyone to the right of Bernie Sanders will agree that being fat is disgusting.

This is not true.
I beta'd myself to death orbiting my best friend for three years. We made out every now and then but she would always specifically say she would never date me. She became my oneitis.
It got bad.
It got really, really bad. Like Jim&pam.
to the point where I was helping set up flowers for her wedding to her Navy Seal fiance. While being madly in love with her. I never gave up hope. Amid scores of emotional breakdowns in front of her begging her not to do it, I just couldn't win. Why would I? I was acting crazy. I was also transporting heroin.
One day it came out she had been disloyal to Mr Navy Seal, and all goes to shit. Days go by and she shows up at my apartment.
She shows me a positive pregnancy test. I knew it wasn't mine. She didn't know who's it was. It didn't matter.
She moved in with me and I took care of her through the pregnancy.
Eventually we got in an argument, she left, and I began to ghost her. I brought the last of her things to get work and she came out and broke down. I said nothing. She wouldn't let me leave. She let it out she wanted to be with me forever and we were together ever since. I had waited years for that moment. Dreamed of it. Could dream of nothing else.
I now have a beautiful wife and an amazing son. We don't/won't lie to him and he was actually introduced to his biological father yesterday, and fortunately we are all adults enough about it for it to be healthy for the children.
We love each other more than I have ever loved anything in this world, and I have never been so happy. I know it's not what people have in mind but I went through hell to get to where I am today. I got addicted to heroin at a young, young age, as did she even younger. When I realized I loved her, I gave up my newly acquired heroin job making about 17k a month, flushing about 1.2grand worth down a toilet in the process. Her story was even crazier. It might not sound like a fairytale ending to you, but it is my fairytale.

literally leaving him for getting Jow Forums?

gay

not true. You can easily come out of the "beta box" as long as you actually change. It has to be actual meaningful change though. It also helps if you cut contact for at least 2 months.

>nowhere OP says he's American
>your obsessed ass still can't contain yourself and look foolish
>implying marriages last in your shithole

At least get her pregnant ffs user.

That is the worst possible outcome to ever happen. I’m glad you’re happy user, but by god I would kill myself to know that the woman of my dreams never loved me and only saw me as her beta bux provider.

Also did you and her ever have sex and was it before or after she cheated on navy seal chad and moved in with you?

she's is fucking a nigger right now user

You actively worked on swooning a woman while her man was deployed.

You're a piece of shit, and if she fucked around on him, she'll do the same to you. Especially once she has financial security and doesn't need you anymore because of adequate child support and alimony.

You're part of the problem. Your fairy tale is paper thin.

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I am as we speak
I didn't know he was and I once I did it pretty much stopped physically. She never has and never will cheat on me. When you know, you know. People change if you believe in them.
After moving in and things settled down.

Again, I know this is not what people have in mind and I figured it would ruffle most of you. I get it. But I do love my life. I'm not a beta provider either, she is incredibly smart all As student and has great income and a great career ahead of her. Much smarter and harder worker than I or anyone else I've ever met.

keep at it and fuck sloots, if she's not willing to support you getting Jow Forums, she's not the right girl for you.

Also navy seal 'chad' was about 5'4".
It's not the end of the world. I'm sure he found or is finding the right person for him.

you done cucked yourself.

>She never has and never will cheat on me. When you know, you know. People change if you believe in them.

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That still speaks volumes to what she's capable of. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.

The blote lmao

I don't think so. I think people can change. How could I not? 5 years ago I was working in the heroin trade now I'm paying taxes and raising a family. People do change.

>wife is unhappy that you're improving yourself

Sounds like your married a shitty woman, user.

Man, I don't mind if YOU stopped. SHE didn't. I'm glad you beat heroin, but heroin will always be a part of your life after having been addicted to it. The same goes for cheating. If she cheats on her provider, you can be damn sure it'll always be a part of her life.

I got addicted at 15, and she got addicted at 12. She stopped sooner. For me it was 21. Either way it's far in the past, sometimes it's hard to believe it even happened at all. Things are so different now. Heroin has no part in my life other than a story or an old memory. She's different now too and i can see it.

My long term experience around addicts is one of rare but occasional slip ups in times of hardship.

Let's break this down.
>Two long time heroin addicts
>One used to smuggle heroin
>One was married just around 20 years old
>The married one cheated
>Got preggo from cheating
>Left her husband
>Hit up her junkie friend/beta orbiter for help
>He cleans himself up, they get married
>Takes bastard child in as his own
>Currently supporting a four-ish year old child he has no blood connection to and the mother who cheated on her previous husband while she's undergoing schooling
>Going to make more money and have higher status then her former junkie husband
>This will work out

Welp.

Goddamn OP.

I hope you make it because I'm a drug addict too and I know how it is. Gotta follow what makes life worth living, so really I hope that shit works out for you.

But fucking lol

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Leave her bitch ass before, she leaves you.

I know it's not a strong forecast but I have made it through much worse unscathed. I believe it will work out as much as I believe that there is gravity holding me on earth. It's not even a question.
Thanks. It know it will. op is a different user though. Good luck in your own path, I know how it is. Life does get better and I wish you the best

I have remained clean while having ounces of heroin in my possession for weeks at a time. I disciplined myself to not slip up, and I will never go back to that job. I'm not saying it's not hard but I have been successful

End of discussion.
Don't get fat again OP, keep lifting and improving yourself, your girl is insecure as fuck and that is dangerous, I wouldn't be surprised if she's cheating on you, or is planning to do it because of the excuse that she's not attracted to you anymore and it was your fault. Women are dangerous emotional animals, beware.

My entire point is that it is hard for you. If you have some terrible shit happen to you then your discipline will falter.

This is the same discipline that keeps your wife from cheating.

i want someone to love me like that

This. General rules to being happy (long term) are:
Dont date anybody better looking than you

Don't marry someone who doesn't love you more than you love them.

Maybe you become bear mode