>meet a girl >life literally lights up >become motivated enough to do basic things like clean my room and perform basic hygiene tasks >excitedly tell my mom when she asks what I've been up to >then the girl leaves my life shortly afterwards >depression hits >less motivated then ever >feel like a fucking idiot for thinking it would work out and telling my mom >she's gonna ask about her soon and I'll have to once again tell her the bad news
Every. Fucking. Time.
It's like I become a functional human being when I think I have a solid chance at having a female partner. Then when that goes away I just turn back into an empty shell of a person, living for nothing. I wish I could find a source of motivation that wasn't so flaky.
Anyone who says getting a girlfriend wouldn't change anything has no idea. Love, belonging and emotional support like this makes a world of difference.
Jack Gray
Girlfriends are like dessert - if you've had a good, healthy meal and you want to enjoy a little ice cream, it's great and you will enjoy life and prosper. But if you rely on ice cream as your only source of food, you'll feel good at first but it will backfire and turn you into a sickly fat fuck.
I will never seek a girlfriend again until my psychological issues are dealt with.
Noah Wood
I wish it weren't like that though. If my motivation is so dependent on having a girlfriend, then how am I expected to live? No female is going to take pity on me and let me into her life when I have nothing to offer. Usually you work first, then get the girl. How the fuck does everyone else manage to find internal motivation? You're supposed to "love yourself"? Well, I've always felt like I've hated myself, even from a young age.
I guess you're right. I think I'm going to die alone though since I doubt I'll ever work my issues out.
Leo Carter
Dude, just fuck girls. If you ever think girls are going to be your only hope just get off the the floor and stand up for yourself, because girls are biologically made to fucking leave you.
Jose Morris
It isn't, that's just where the motivation initially comes from. Having long-term emotional support turns you into a mature stable mentally healthy person who is more well-equipped to deal with the depression and keep your life in order, which in turn makes you more attractive to women. It's a virtuous cycle. One year of gf today is probably the difference between someone like you dying retired, happy and middle-class with a loving family or dying alone a homeless junkie. This is why state-provided gfs need to be a thing for all 18 year old men.
Andrew Morris
I know that feeling OP. Everytime I meet a girl (which happens aprox. once every 300.000 years) I get all excited and happy and I feel amazing. Two weeks later they cut contact and it's back to the bottle.
>because girls are biologically made to fucking leave you. That explains the huge amount of single fathers
Ethan Campbell
Make a schedule for personal hygiene and cleaning, stick to the schedule no matter what, after a few months it'll just be force of habit and it won't depend on girls
Nathaniel Moore
>tfw my dad wanted nothing more than a family and my mom divorced him for petty reasons and he died alone and unhappy
Well at least he sort of had a family once.. further than I got.
Jacob Robinson
why cant you motivate yourself to do simple tasks? no one wants to babysit your ass
Christian Green
>why cant you motivate yourself to do simple tasks? I think that's called "depression"
Lucas Sanders
depression is a meme, OP is lazy
Justin Sanders
What are you, my fucking mom? She's always said I was lazy.
Sebastian Kelly
thats because you are, it doesnt take much effort to wipe your ass properly or brush your teeth. blaming those on being "sad" is retarded
Michael Young
Guess I'm just lazy, I'll just pull myself up by my bootstraps, gee why didn't I just do this sooner I'm now a completely fulfilled individual thanks for the advice my dude what a life changer!
Blake Harris
I know that feel, just stop worshipping women. On average they find it repulsive when you try too hard for them, or are too dependent. Either you're the one who is wanted and in control, or the relationship will not work, ever. If she doesn't come to you after courtship then that's that.
Austin Watson
being a sarcastic little shit doesnt help your case lmao. im not even telling you to get a job, yet youre making a fuss out of something as simple as basic hygeine
its laziness, pure and simple
Justin Davis
GTFO normie scum. Go enjoy your life which I'm sure has been great so far.
Eli Price
I'm so glad I met you, the world's most renowned expert on laziness. Sir, you are a scholar and a saint. How can I ever thank you enough for letting me know I'm lazy? My god, how did I go so long without this sacred knowledge! The paradigm has shifted. From today on I have all the motivation I need, all thanks to you letting me know that I'm lazy. Thank you so much, I'm crying tears of pure joy knowing the answer to my problem. "Stop being lazy bro". How could I have been so blind all of these years?!
Cooper Martinez
anytime little man. just remember that girls dont like slobs who cant wipe their own asses