How to build mental thoughness and not let negative matters effect you emotionally?

wtf does "being mindful" even mean? is this some zen shit?

Ultimately based on what?

>be you
>sitting by a river watching the water
>a leaf falls into the river
>the current carries it for a while
>eventually it fades from view
>a new leaf falls and the cycle continues

Treat your emotions and feelings like the leaves. Be observant of what is happening but don't dwell. Let it pass.

Chemicals brainlet

Adverse experiences strengthen the personality and toughen the mind.
I used to be a fragile pussy and now I am strong and mentally stable.
But you don't want to go through what I had to go through.
Short cut is to stop negative thoughts and force yourself to think positive ones instead. You are the single person responsible for your thoughts and emotions. Take control of them.

Why is it cut off abruptly in that speech bubble?

What if there are no positive ones on the horizon?

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What did you go through user.

get mad
you got to get mad

None of your fucking business, user.

Why are you being such a cunt for?

Then you use the power of your mind to create them. Set goals and when you achieve them, remind yourself of them when life gets hard. Just as an example something like couch to 5k. When you've done that, don't think about how slow your 45m 5k was, remind yourself that you set your mind to it and did it. So you will now conquer whatever it is that is stressing you out. Then you plan to succeed and visualise the outcome you want. This is how successful people think and become more successful. Setbacks are learning experiences, not defeats. Problems are challenges to solve.

Have you noticed how some stupid people are constantly happy? Life for them is easy because they don't care about problems or responsibilities and don't realise life's odds are against them. Don't overthink your problems. Be like them. Enjoy simple pleasures and stop comparing your life with other peoples. Get off social media. It's poison for the mind.

You could have been born with some horrific deformity and been stuck in a wheelchair forever. The first positive thought to get you going is that you have the ability to get fit. A healthy body leads to a healthy mind. This concludes your free motivational seminar.

1) Because my personal experiences won't solve your problems and I'm not spending time on here to entertain you.

2) Some people are cunts. That's their problem to deal with, not yours. Getting upset gives them power. A better non-onions response would have been a simple "fuck you". Or just ignore.

get checked for an estrogen imbalance. 100% serious.

i got a gf but we broke up and thinking back to those positive moments together is not pleasant

stop caring is the only way

what's a doozy

>tfw mentally weak

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How do you stop caring? That's like not breathing or not eating.

sauce pls friend

Soft

Not that user but you sound like an edgelord teenager

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Conquering your fears is one way and it can be anything like stepping into a cold shower going somewhere high if you're afraid of heights etc
Running long distances is prob the simplest way to build mental fortitude and it's a battle with yourself of do you quit now or continue to suffer because you can take it

Actual good advice. You mustve reached level 50 zen masterhood.

Noice

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How will you learn if you let it pass so nonchalantly?

yeah thats weird, never seen that image being cut off

Experience pain and trauma

is that the 'shoot yourself with small caliber bullets to build tolerance for the big ones' meme

do you have the original

Literally what doesnt kill you makes you stronger

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unironically this

Read marc aurels meditations. After that read more of other stoics like seneca.

Reading the ramblings of some dead mentally ill people from thousands of years ago will not help you. How they lived bears zero relevance to our society today.

You said it right, user

If you read yourself into stoic it can help you to become stable. The goal is to not become a playball to your emotions.

Let go.

Suffer childhood trauma and experience selective amnesia so your emotional range is limited

Starting Strength

anal rape from uncle larry?

Confirmed for absolute brainlet. Stoicism has as much relevance for modern times as it did in Antiquity. Compatibilism is timeless, faggot.

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Letting it pass =/= not learning.
It's about being aware and not getting caught up in whatever is going on. If you are observant and let things run their course, it should be easier to learn.

i neber lern

Can someone teach me meditation... I just don't understand.

Can you let me know what you went through so I can have an idea of what I need to go through to overcome my weak mind?

Hi are you still there?
Miss爱菲儿

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Find your religion. Or work on your inner self.

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I think you're just supposed to sit and think while focusing on departing your thoughts and intrusive ones

>religion
This is a terrible advice. Religion is a cop out for weak minded people who give up agency over their lives to an imaginary being.

I've read Meditations, it's probably the best self help book out there even though it's not intended to be. You are an actual faggot
for denouncing a book as useless not knowing a single thing about it. The only reason I can think someone would do this, is mental gymnastics to justify being lazy.
>Reading the ramblings of some dead mentally ill people from thousands of years ago will not help you.
This statement suggests you are a non-white and it is understandable why you believe you have nothing of value to learn from your ancestors, because the truth is you don't.

It’s clear you’ve never even read them. Thoughts and values in stoic literature are absolutely applicable to modern society.

You eventually build up resilience or give up completely. You need an inner pride that will stop you from quitting. Even with the simplest things, like opening a jar, you can't just think "well, I guess I'm not strong enough", you try again, because your sense of self-worth won't let you go. Keep in mind you can still constantly switch between hating yourself and feeling like a god.

Simply with Pain.
Get out of your comfort zone.

I mean if you want to be happy then be religous. It worked for me

You need frame control.
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le tipperoo. Religion is accepting the fact that thousands of individuals over countless millennia may have figured out some basic guidelines about how to live the most meaningful and substantial life possible if you would just be willing to admit you don't already know everything. But you'd rather turn something amazing into an easily dismissed strawman so you don't have to confront your limitations. The epitome of weak mindedness is shutting yourself off from every source of wisdom outside yourself because you're too scared to recognize the unbearably inadequate nature of your experience.

>basic guidelines about how to live the most meaningful and substantial life possible if you would just be willing to admit you don't already know everything
And you somehow need religion to realize that?

I’ve read it too before all you faggot millennials latched onto it. It was a top tier book for 2000 years and along come you faggots and reduce it to meme tier “must reads for disfunctional twenty year olds”

why did you post a picture of the grinch with a gun?

I'm not claiming to be an expert at being mentally tough, but I've had to deal with bad shit for years and developed some tricks to keep me sane. Most has been said in this thread already though but here's a list:

>Don't spend your mental energy brooding/worrying!
>Spend mental energy on constructive thinking
>Confidence
>Spend time relaxing
>Set different goals and work towards them
This one is the most important because it'll be your anchor. When shit happens in life and you get knocked down, you eventually get back up and focus on the future. Just have realistic goals ready beforehand, be creative.

To sum it all up: Focus attention and energy on shit that benefits you, instead of running around in circles. Don't fight negative thoughts and emotions when they arise; give your body some time to flush the stress hormones out of your system.

It's tough. Best way I found was to create a superiority complex.
But it's a fine line, you don't want to start acting like a cunt because you think you're better than other people (I mean you are, but you know)

When you think yourselves higher than other people you stop caring about what they think about you. Just don't let that superiority seep into hostile feelings towards everyone.

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what a faggot lol

But you know that it's impossible to be better than everyone else. How do you trick yourself into thinking otherwise?

It's a take on the classic pepe who has had enough.

>All this time spent training my body at the gym only to find that I'm a weak pussy mentally.

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stopping caring only helps you ignore shit it doesn't help you do shit AT ALL

You just think about something you are better at than other people. There's very few people on the planet who are better than you in every aspect of their life, provided you are disciplined and work hard in most aspects of your life. Be humble and don't let others know you are better in these areas though.

>get in a car accident
>cervical spine shattered
>ventilator dependent quadriplegic the rest of your life

Bruce Lee would allow the thoughts and think about them at a set time of day.

then he'd ask a couple questions and based on the answers he'd ask another and so on.

what is the problem?
Can i solve the problem now?
What do i need to do to be better prepared to solve the problem when i can?
If i cannot solve it at all i focus on something i can solve.

see the thing is.... its easy to tell you to do this. But its up to you to handle it.

what i do when i feel like shit i distract myself with something anything will do.
sports is my favorite, but talking to somebody about something can work or you can isolate yourself and meditate or just go to the park and look around you and focus on the senses.

anyways mental toughness is like physical toughness; "it takes training"

>youtube.com/watch?v=3ZxFgRk4u9M

lmao
thanks for awares

The problem is that the training isn't as obvious as hitting the gym or going for a long run like you would to get tougher physically.

Don't go there. It's a shithole that somehow manages to be worse than Jow Forums.

What's youre goals

Religion is acting upon that realization you fucking nunce

is that a grinch, in a mask, holding a gun?

Indeed it is.

Religion is not for empowering individuals, it's a social framework to keep society in order.

You still sound like a fragile pussy

Are you really upset that people read a book, faggot? Yes my jimmies are rustled, I liked Meditations!

I'm not sure I agree with that assessment, why do you think religion does not empower individuals?

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DELET

UWU

how do u keep this up and make it a natural habit? this shit is basically the only thing that lets me enjoy daily life and feel in place in the universe but it takes alot of effort because after a while i will just see mnyself in 3rd person again and think what a retard i am

Discipline, you make yourself be tough. At first it will be just acting but the more you do it the more it will become what you are. There is only one thing in this life that you and you alone have total control, your own mind.
It might sound like bullshit, easier said than done but this is what every other dad should teach their kids, like when you were a kid and you fell on the ground and your dad told you to not cry and be brave. Little you might be wanting to cry your eyes out but you hold it in because your old man told you that you have to be strong and you want to be strong and make him proud. Well eventually you stop doing it just for your dad and start doing it by yourself because it feels good to feel strong.

Like other anons said, meditation works, not because of some zen shit just because taking a time to center yourself and calm your thoughts helps a lot. Even if its just going out for a cig and some alone time, its important to think about yourself and the way you interact with the world.