how does one recover from a broken heart? just work on improving yourself to no end? i dont want to become bitter and jaded
How does one recover from a broken heart? just work on improving yourself to no end...
once you attain wizard status, your heart is no longer capable of being broken.
hang in there.
he have a fuckin Pedobear t-shirt wtf
I had a 4 year relationships and then we broke up so it's been rough. Also it was my first love so it doesn't help either. I think I didn't fully recover up until after 2 years when I've met another girl.
What really helped me to move on - destroying absolutely every piece of everything that connects you to your ex - photos, trinkets, gifts, online profiles.
Before I did it I was always reminded of her by everything, stalking sometimes. You will never move on like that.
On the bright side - I'm now dead inside and mostly immune to woman magic so it's easier to date since they think youre confident and strong. In reality you're just empty.
let your heart return to the darkness from which it came
Thanks user, I needed one of these threads, im broken hearted as well, im still on despair and feeling hopless but i guess only time will heal us, the problem for me is that I still love her
You try to cope that is about all you can do.
Past lovers aren't ghosts. They're just part of who we are
Replace your pain and isolation with hate. Once filled with hate, your heart will never be broken again.
Dude just never fall in love lmao it's that easy.
What if you can't fill it with hate?
What a edgylord, yes hate helps sometimes but in the end you are still miserable, and I think you know that
Fill it with something else, just know that as a presumably straight man you are an island and your feelings don't matter to anyone, especially not women.
is that a pedobear shirt you're wearing here?
Let me introduce myself: I'm a man of hate and disgust.
OP I'd just think of the good times and instead of gain pity or despair from it, gain positive strength from it and seek to find that in a new person.
been there to, i just drank it away
Come join the ranks brother, we're all full of hatred.
Just be happy you had a girl. Not a lot of lads on r9k can say that they been loved
Just cope by distracting yourself.
Ur prob better off without her
honestly the secret is to start lifting and getting into peak physical form, in other words reaching the natural limits of your body. after you have reached the limits you push your boundaries and break through your shell to master ultra instinct.
I have no regrets so I won't say that I wish I had started my training earlier but I did wallow in pity for 5-6 years after a heartache instead of going to the gym and loving myself more.
this is my advice to you, friend
Is she improving herself for you? Is she spending every waking moment of her day thinking about how to please you, how to get your attention, how to help you and how to make your day? Let me guess, it's an resounding NO right?
So fuck her.
Honestly, nothing can fix the young virgin heart except years, even decades of time or lots and lots of experience. But either path you take, you'll end up in the same place. You'll understand that unconditional love is a fucking pipe dream piece of shit bullshit. You'll understand that every moment you spent on trying to capture the interests of someone else, YOU deserved just as much attention back. You'll understand that love, real love, is not a fucking one-way street.
That could also be the time when you understand that you've spent 25 years and tens of thousands of hours trying to love others, while nobody ever gave a shit about you. And that tells volumes about everyone else, and how shitty they really are. You're honestly much better off by yourself.
Idk man. First gf ever broke up with me last month and I still think about her daily. I don't have the motivation to improve myself, and I also try very hard not to be mad at her, because then I would just be bitter and a dick.
I can at least tell you this though. Overtime, the original, constant pain starts to go away, but as soon as your depression kicks in, it makes things worse. I think the only way for me to get over it would be to get rid of my depression, and I tried, but I couldn't.
Good luck user. Hope you don't get as fucked up.
*inhales brutaly*