How do you deal with a oneitis Jow Forums?

by graduating from high school

24 and I haven't figured it out. Still like the girl I dated in HS. She moved to commiefornia and I didn't want to go.

I dated others for awhile, even had a few FWB. However sometimes randomly I think of her. Sex wasn't that good, excessive amounts of makeup, and kind of a thot.

>Marry oneitis and had children
>About to lose her if I don't improve quickly or visibly enough
You don't want this pain
I woke up scared shitless an hour ago, mid sleep. Alone. Like I was dying. I shake. All the time. Like I'm a fucking Nokia. She's already moved out. I am horrified and I don't know if I can take this if it actually happens.
I would do it all over again though, these have been the best three years of my life, better than I ever thought possible. It is the greatest love I have ever known and she is the best person I will ever meet
I'm going to win her back

>I'm going to win her back
While she's sucking other dick? Don't do this to yourself.

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That hurt a little

>truth hurts
Poor little fellow.

If you love her so much then why wasn't this motivation enough to not get yourself into whatever rut she wants you to get out of?

Find someone with big milkers to shove in your face. I’ve never dated a woman I’ve really liked, something always gets in the way. Be it me, or just bad luck.

>>If you love her so much then why wasn't this motivation enough to not get yourself into whatever rut she wants you to get out of?

I DONT KNOW

I realized that mine was actually a raging bitch, I had just convinced myself otherwise. I reconnected with some bros, took part in more activities to occupy my mind, and am currently in the process of getting my shit together. Of course, I know that the second I see her ill be reduced to a fucking mess, until then just keep the good times rolling. There will be many more opportunities in the future, just gotta focus on not repeating mistakes

You can do it bro. Remind yourself what you're fighting for every day. The sensation of fighting for a person you love is beyond human

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I sure will user. Thank you so much.

>get oneitis after years of pining over her
>happy for the first time maybe ever
>forced to split up due to outside factors
>every other girl pales in comparison to her

This fucking sucks. I broke up with an 18-year-old qt because I can't get over my feels for her.

Learn to love yourself because nobody is going to care for you they way you do.

Realize why you think you want your oneitis and the reality of the situation. If it's not going to work out NOTHING will make her change her mind and if she changes her mind because lets say you hit the jackpot then do you really think she gives a damn about you?

Tl;dr
If she isn't into you the way youre into her then move on and find someone who is just as crazy about you the way you feel about them.

learn non-attachment

>when you both have partners and you're not sure whether she's into you too
I know this feel, why must I suffer

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oh god I know this feel

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>find someone who is just as crazy about you the way you feel about them.
This will never happen, DELET THIS.

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The only thing you can do is enjoy it but remember it is poison.

Had my gfs friend tell me while drunk that she wished she could wake up one day and be my gf. Oddly I feel I have more in common with her than my gf, but gf is an amazing person.

Why is it that the universe waits until you're already with someone to force another suitable partner in your face?

>hasn't faded for 2.5 years
What did my brain mean by this?

Man, be it you moved with her, you would be complaining about why tf did you go and how much of a slave you feel. There's no right answer, enjoy your decision because you'd be tired of her if you went.

I give her lots of money, with nothing in return. It's not like a piece of shit like me deserves to be happy anyway

>when you both have partners and you're very sure she's into you

Nigga why are we here, just to suffer?

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satan is testing you.

>Fell for my oneitis four years ago in first grade in HS
>HS ended and we will never see each other again
>Still cant get her out of my head
Jesus, it just never goes away does it? I havent liked a single other woman either besides her

Work on your self esteem.

>I looove her
>not enough to change my shitty habits to prevent her from leaving me tho
guess we aren’t all going to make it after all

Chad:
>dump current partner
>confess to oneitis
>either get oneitis gf or solid closure
>if denied, go get new gf

Virgin:
>pine over oneitis while maintaining fabricated relationship
>make no effort
>marry current gf
>live miserable life with 2nd pick because you didn’t have the balls to try

I’ll never understand you spineless fucks who are afraid of living life and actually taking risks.

Same for me. Dated in HS and haven't seen her, had sex, or dated another girl since. Not even attracted to her personality anymore I juat wanna fuck her and get the these thoughts outta my head.

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Congratulation, you are the most stupid fuck in this thread now!

If she finds out, you dumped your gf because of her, there are two options: either she dumps you immediately because she has more spine than you, or she likes that and therefore it is ok for her to dump someone if someone other comes along, so your are fucked.

You will always find better chicks with age, and she will always find chances to fuck dudes. If you are not willing to control yourself, why even bother with a LTR?

Jesus dude, we even got really close towards the end of HS we would just sit down and talk about everything and anything.

I cant believe Im gonna spend rest of my life thinking about one girl. Fuck me

Bruh, my situation is not so simple, or I already would have

The easiest way to get over it is to experience the trainwreck of having it so many times that you finally learn your lesson.

That ugly son of a bitch. Wish he had a corporeal form so I could shoot him.

Dems two different anons, user

This

Repeat after me OP, every time you feel down about it.

There will be others.

therationalmale.com/2011/08/30/there-is-no-one/

Get ripped, go to social even with her and other girls, don't give her attention when other roasties are all over you, this is what I did and it was the best accomplishment of my life, totally worth years of lifting

Go back to your containment board faggot.

This is why I'm getting Jow Forums.

>cope
Make all the excuses you want for why you haven’t asked her out
If you want X, you either go for it or sit on the sidelines like a bitch.

I have a weird situation.
> Have oneitis in engineering program
> She's constantly been dropping hints she's interested
> Because she's a hot single girl in University other dudes basically fall over themselves giving her schoolwork solutions
> She gives me schoolwork solutions, basically letting me fuck around and get As

Figure I'll ask her out after Uni, but right now she's worth more to me as a beta lure.

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Baka. There is no future. Stop deluding yourself like a faggot. The time is now. You might as well be saying "I'll start exercising on Monday".

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Haven't you read any of the advice in this threat. A oneitis is just your brain being retarded. I can just fuck thots and be lazy as all fuck with my current system. If she's still single by the end great, if not no big deal, there are literally 3 billion other women out there.

I haven't had sex in years since moving back in with my parents to save money and I'm lonely all the time now and can't do anything about it because the only way I can get laid is going out to the bars but I quit drinking because I have the worst case of alcoholism of all time if I do

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Happened to me a year ago.

I got her back.

I deeply regret it.

It's over man, move on. You can put a broken mirror back together but it will always have cracks running through it.

This thread is full of dyel aspie faggots. It always has been.

I'm 30. I started browsing Jow Forums when I was 20. I did what you are doing for years. I thought the sluts would keep coming. And you know what? They have. I still fuck all sorts of sluts because tinder is a blight upon society and girls are dumb. But love is something you'll be missing. If you like this girl, go for her. Society is lying to you when it tells you to go for sluts instead of love. And Jow Forums tells you because it's ignorant.

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Bruhs, you're all gonna make it. You just have to realize that oneitis goes away when you meet someone that's actually good for you. This shit is bad for your brain, and there's no way to get over it besides meeting the right person. I know, I've been there.

>I realized that mine was actually a raging bitch, I had just convinced myself otherwise
I know this feel. After my first gf who I dated for 2.5 years, I spent 6 months single but occasionally still hooking up with my ex and still very in love with her and depressed as fuck. Then I got a new girlfriend who was actually nice to me, realized my ex was a spoiled cunt and am pissed I wasted all that time with that bitch. Fuck her, maybe I’ll key her car or something just for the closure since I never got the chance to tell her to fuck off because I was too nice.