Hello, I am 29 years old, male, about 5' 11" and 170 lbs, none of it is muscle, and I am asexual to the point where I no longer have erections. I have no desire to be with a woman in any context. Because I don't really care about courting anybody, I have no motivation to work out.
However, I do hate the way fat people look. Now I'm not fat just a little flabby, but I don't look good without a shirt off. There are only a few days a year where I'm FORCED to be around people at a pool or beach situation, (like a party or something) and even though I don't care about impressing them enough that they'll want to date or have sex with me, it still feels embarrassing to be shirtless.
So my question is, does anyone here feel any motivational source to work out besides women?
Most people start lifting for women; however those who continue do it for themselves
Daniel Taylor
kill yourself dumb faggot, what a shit thread
Landon Jackson
i'm asexual too and made it.
Elijah Wood
and I should add that I have good blood pressure and cholesterol levels, probably due to good genes; I'm healthy >for themselves yeah I don't get that, even though I've heard it before. Can you try to distill what that means? To me, if you have improved that means you're now better than a bigger percentage of other people but better at what? Getting women? I don't care about that. Playing sports? I'm not an athlete. how
Would you guys all still lift if you were the last person on the Earth?
Chase Jenkins
>better at what? At living. Lifting weights makes you more mobile, improves mood, keeps your mind from wasting away, and obviously makes you stronger. As for why you should improve yourself.. I would reccommend reading more philosophy. You need to find purpose in life. Maybe lifting will help you find that purpose. Not sure.
Camden Cox
Said this in another thread but you almost get addicted to it - it is the only thing in life where your happiness can be dependent on you. Hitting that PR is solely you, sports you depend on a team, some element of luck, the wind, in relationships there are so many factors, but 200kg will always be 200kg no matter when you get under the bar.
Brayden Miller
Low T
Josiah Edwards
Last person on earth means always an empty gym. It’s either kill yourself or try to occupy the time until you die. Why not work out?
Henry Martinez
I am also asexual OP and also lift.
As for motivations there are many >Studies show anaerobic exercise improved cognitive function >Exercise prevents muscle wasting and reduces chances of bone diseases like arthritis since lifting improves bone density and ligament strength >Exercise releases endorphins which give you a sort of natural high throughout the day >Exercise can help reduce instances of depression and also improves your resistance to stress >It opens up other opportunities and hobbies in life. Like rock climbing, hiking, marathons, swimming. Being fit essentially makes every physical hobby easier >Men are more respectful to a physically imposing man I've noticed.
There are likely others, but this is enough for me
Ok OP im not asexual or anything, however I do have a similar background with being the disinterested outsider. I'm just spitballing here, but if you are anything like me you have quite an ego without very much to hang it on. Intellectual pursuits are all well and good. In high school I got off on everyone jacking me off for getting high grades with no effort. Though I came to realize at a glance nobody knows what you are capable of or even gives a shit how smart you are. It is worth it for someone like you to get fit for the sake of being something that your ego can feel at home in. Pleasing the man in the mirror as it were. When you do make it and you are forced to attend those beach days or parties whatever they may be, you can rest assured that you are the best person there. This will earn you potential scorn from thots who may pursue you, and envy from the everyday men who are also there. I can't say for certain how you would feel, but that sounds pretty good to me. Sorry for blogpost i'm just trying to help
Ayden Moore
>does anyone here feel any motivational source to work out besides women?
I think the mood thing is bullshit. I have worked out for a few months in a row here and there, but I always quit. Longest stretch was 6 doing SS. No noticeable difference in any aspect of my life. And I don't think there's any meaning to it all anyway, and I hate reading. Why do you assume I have no other hobbies I work on? I feel satisfied when I complete a painting or rank up in a game, I just don't think hurting myself would ever become something I will be able to look forward to, I hate pain. Yeah probably Again, I never noticed anything, but idk maybe it takes years. And I don't have any physical hobbies. >Pleasing the man in the mirror I don't really care about myself, its the same thing as trying to please others, which is pointless to me.
I was just wondering if anybody did it for a reason other than women or these flimsy "addiction" or "improvement" excuses. My brain will just deconstruct that stuff after a month or two and I won't be able to force myself anymore
David Wright
Motivation is ok, but usually not lasting nor necessary. Everything you actually need is DISCIPLINE. Keep doing what you decide to do not because of some thots opinions, but becase of sheer will to not fail. Not for girls, not for any other reason. Just you deciding to become fit and sticking to it is enough and more lasting than any motivation.
Blake Richardson
Yea most recently I tried exactly what you just said.
I ran every other day and dieted very strictly for about maybe five weeks and lost like 15 or so pounds, from about 185. I was miserable the entire time and never once wanted to do it and never once felt glad that I did it after. I felt sick a lot, physically. My knees would hurt, I would taste blood etc. but I kept going because I knew I could stop anytime, but running for no reason other than the fact that COULD, felt powerful.
For about you know, 5 weeks and then I came to my senses and realized that's retarded and it stopped feeling good.
Idk is there something the matter with me?
Josiah Ross
>I have no motivation to work out. then dont work out, if you dont want you you wont improve.
Wyatt Lopez
I would still lift. But honestly, I don’t know if you need to. Do you want to work out or do you just feel like you should? You’re 9 years older than myself, and I feel like with your level of free time, stable hormones, and lack of carnal motivation you could achieve great things if you spent your time on some kind of academic pursuit.
Liam Morris
It should not matter if it does or doesnt feel good. If you quit everything that stops feeling good, you wont achieve nothing. Thats not discipline, thats just enjoying your time. Suffering is part of the process. If it would be easy and enjoyable, everyone would be perfect.
Carter Carter
>Do you want to work out or do you just feel like you should I said before I hate fat people Also I never at any stage of my life including right now, wanted a family. Which means I have plenty of money which means I have no idea why I would go back to school. I can do everything I want to do except for lift. And no, avoiding being fat is not good enough for motivation because I don't care about what people think, I just don't like looking at fat people.
I don't do anything that makes me suffer except for work because I need that in order to live. After I get home I don't do anything I don't want to do, that's why I'm looking for motivation.
Aiden Young
I understand. Being fat is not to be desired. However, what I meant by doing something academically isn’t just going back to school. I feel like since your brain is unbidden by base urges and you apparently have time to pursue hobbies, you may find greater meaning in putting your mind to more serious use than if you put your body through an ordeal to reap rewards you seem to have no interest in.
Blake Jones
yeah ok I was just wondering. And I feel like I don't understand why people lift now any better than before but whatever. But I don't think my mind is going anywhere serious.
Grayson Wright
it sounds like you have incredibly low testosterone. You should go to a doctor and try to get TRT. Maybe it'll even change that whole "asexual" thing
Charles Sanchez
I think your mind could go great places if you put it to work. But whether or not you do that is just your decision. I think that most people that lift have a certain personality traits that you might just not. However, if you want to get big and muscular and shredded, I hope you recognize that you can so long as you really work at it.
Brody Thompson
I lift because I enjoy it. I'm not entirely sure which part of lifting I enjoy, but I do. Nothing to do in my life anyway. On a side note, I've lately stopped giving a shit about women or sex(and self pleasure), maybe it's the depression meds having an effect on me, or maybe this is just who I am.
Healthiness, strenght, loving what you see in the mirror, being disgusted by mediocrity.
Blake Barnes
Deconstruction of ideas and making excuses are functionally the same thing when it comes to fitness. I don't believe you have no drive or ambition. Else why the fuck do you get out of bed in the morning? Or eat food to say alive? I'm not trying to be an asshole but it sounds to me like you are ready to make any excuse as to why your future self will shoot down the idea. You sound afraid that you might change even if for the better. Thing is when you get about a month in you can't change because it is now what you do. Like stopping a fish from swimming, it cannot be done without outright killing it. I agree that lifting for women or improvement are very flimsy. Though there is something primal in making yourself the most effective being you can be. Some greater sense of happiness that comes around as if all previous generations that lead up to you are glad their sacrifices were not in vain. If nothing else you sure are an interesting character study. Really makes me reevaluate why I do things and I think many others in this thread feel the same. Again sorry for blogpost part 2: electric buggaloo
