Therapist unironically told me to follow my "heart" while talking to people

it's not free, they're probably receiving money for being there.
i doubt that someone would waste their time talking to a depressive person for free.

>paying a therapist to tell you things you already know and to prescribe you (((pills)))
The human mind is a delicate thing, thinking you can just use "science" to heal someone's sadness, especially someone you've never been, is ridiculous

To be fair, what were you expecting lad? A script you can follow?

>thinking you can just use "science" to heal someone's sadness
Isn't that what therapists claim they're doing
Sounds fine? I don't get why people say this like it's a bad thing. Usually, when you have a problem and go to a professional it's because you can't do something on your own. Medics, lawyers, etc tell you what to do with it because that's their job.

In a way, she's right - but her normalfag eyes can only describe it vaguely. You can't be afraid to project yourself when speaking with others. Oftentimes robots build up a facade based upon what they want the other person to think about them instead of showing their true self.

Eventually you'll break the perceptions you've created and built up inside your head about life when you were alone and become much more mentally healthy than before. Now that you've been trained to "be yourself" around people and have a slightly different worldview, it will only be easier when you go to socialize with others. Becoming a normie is living in reality instead of just observing it.

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tell her that your heart wants to see the two of you fuck

Normalfags don't understand that it only comes "naturally" to them because they've literally had 20,000 - 30,000 hours of practice. Sadly there's really no other way about it, you've just got to spend thousands of hours having conversations with as many people as possible. There's no quick shortcut and you can't boil down something so unbelievably complex as "natural" interaction with socially adjusted people to simple statements like that.

>all of the cope ITT people use to have a reason not to fix themselves

that being said your therapist doesnt sound like they are giving the best advice OP. ask them to elaborate on what they mean by following your heart. if they cannot give an answer that makes any sense to you then dont book any more appointments and see a different specialist. it takes most people a good number of tries before they get someone who works

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what he meant is don't put on an act or lie to people and literally just be yourself. either people will like you or they won't. both better than relationships built on a foundation of lies and deception.

it is genuine good advice for autistic retards that think they constantly have to impress others to find friends. obvious, sure, but it's still good advice.

That's fucking shit advice.

They're supposed to uncover the reasons why you have struggles then help you resolve them so you can live normally. Not just say "be urself"

>just b myself
>be an aloof schizoid-tier social retard who never connects with anyone
wow great advice mr therapist. Normalfags are always putting on an act, they've just become so natural at it they think it's real. Learning how normal people interact by mimicking them and adapting your own personality to what works is the only way you'll ever improve.

>Normalfags are always putting on an act
this is entirely wrong, but you won't believe it no matter what i tell you. have fun mimicking what you don't even understand until you trip and people find out you lied to them constantly. they're gonna love you for deceiving them, i'm sure.

It's the truth, this is how humans learn to communicate with others. Do you think you were shitted out of your mother with cultural norms already in your brain? Do you talk to your family the same way you talk to your friends, and your friends the way you talk to your boss? Normalfags switch personalities so easily it's completely effortless to them, they will even hold different beliefs and mannerisms depending on who they speak to and what group they're in. An autistic social retard who just bes himself and never adapts is going to remain a social retard.

You do put on an act, although it's not necessarily a bad thing. The way you talk to your parents is different from how you talk to your friends, your coworkers, your boss, etc. It's how society functions - by communication based on certain established parameters. Autists don't know what those parameters are, which is why they fail socially.

talking differently to people depending on their status or relationship with is is not 'putting on an act'. you do not have to show any and all aspects of your personality to everyone all the time.
'putting on an act' is when you tell people you're a womanizer (even though you're a virgin) and claiming to enjoy punk rock (when you really just listen to justin bieber), just so that they may like you better. 'putting on an act' is straight up lying in the hopes of making people think you're interesting or making them enjoy being around you.
'being yourself' is when you say what you actually think or feel without trying to deceive people for your own benefit. that is all that is meant when people say 'just be yourself'. maybe if they said 'don't be a filthy insecure cocksucking liar' you'd understand it better.

>Normalfags switch personalities
most don't. they just choose to show different people different aspects of themselves. which is entirely normal.

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Not him, but I have a free therapist too. I don't know the details but he's a graduate student that I see at a Catholic university. The sessions are all recorded, though. I guess that's the price I'm paying?

if you are aloof and socially incapable then putting on an act of having an outgoing and extroverted personality that you mirror from normalfags is the ONLY way you'll improve. Nobody wants to be friends with some schizoid retard who acts like his natural self. Stop giving out shitty harmful advice to people who don't know any better.

>have fun mimicking what you don't even understand until you trip and people find out you lied to them constantly. they're gonna love you for deceiving them, i'm sure.

If I followed my heart in conversation I'd be running, like my heart does when I talk to new people.

Yep, I'm having a lot of fun making a hard effort to improve myself, adapting my personality to be more sociable and finally finding it easier to connect with people and make friends. I took your retarded normalfag "just b urself dude" advice and it cost me several of the prime years of my life.

they're not friends if they don't even know the real you.

Who do they know if not "the real me"? This is the real me now.

Phycology is a scam and not a real science the sooner it is replaced with neruology so we can rewire are brains to be how we want the better, also all therepist and people in mental health fields are evil

>This is the real me now.
you're the one that said you're putting on an act. you are hiding behind a deceptive mask of lies.

Never get a female therapist

I'm no more putting on an act than you are when you talk to your boss as if he isn't a cunt. This deceptive mask of lies makes me more sociable so I really don't give a shit. Every normalfag does it.

>I really don't give a shit
i can see that

>Every normalfag does it.
sounds more like you're justifying your deceptive behavior by trying to normalize it. you are an insecure liar. most normal people are not.

This, women can socially fuck up and still be wanted and socially successful because men are thirsty fucks desperate for female validation.

Women generally dont understand the same doesnt apply to men

If you want to keep being a retard and deny basic human psychology then go ahead

have you tried not living in a shit country? That stuff is covered by mandatory health insurance in europe

if you want to keep lying to yourself by generalizing people you don't know just to cope with your own wrongful deceptions and insecurities the go ahead