How do I get people to like me and be interested in me. When ever I’m hanging out with a group i just can’t talk...

How do I get people to like me and be interested in me. When ever I’m hanging out with a group i just can’t talk. My Brain just freezes. I want to be well known but I’m too afraid to let people in my life. I’m tired of being lonely

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You're insecure because you likely haven't accomplished much
You need to force yourself to get out more and do normie activities even if you're alone and make some cool stories

not OP but this is absolutely true in my case, im literally afraid to meet people because outside of work im more or less a shut in and i dont want anyone to see or know about how i live. hell the only people i really know are my coworkers and i tell them ZERO details about my life to the point that its a big joke at work how they know nothing about me even after working with me for over a year. its just a cocoon i build

Let your actions speak instead. Be the strong silent type. Say little, but always smile, and always offer to help and protect. If you have to talk, but aren't sure how to put it, stand there and figure it out. If you do it right, instead of coming off like an idiot, people will see it as being wise, being absolutely certain you're saying the right thing.

you were probably socially stunted as a child by not talking enough so now you have to make up for it by A. watching other people talk and noticing certain things like body movement and dialect and then B. trying it yourself until you feel comfortable and then continue practicing until you feel comfortable. Push yourself, even if you dont talk just try your best to stay in the conversation by adding small things like ad libs or laughing. It is just experience there's no trick or youtube video.

What do you mean by well known

Get out there
I was you but I started thinking man I don't want to be 60 and regret not taking advantage of my youth so I forced myself to do things now I have acquaintances all over the country and hundreds of cool stories, girlfriends and friends come and go but your own personal experiences are what matter

I usually just stay quiet but people have called me boring for that reason. Every time I try to tell someone about me I feel like I’m bragging or coming off as too full of myself. I noticed people talk about normie movies or tv shows a lot like the office. I guess I gotta start watching things like that.

That was me for a few years op. Just don't worry about being quiet. Stress will make things worse. Take pressure off. Be comfortable with taking shit slow. Comment and participate when it comes naturally. No one likes a nervous try hard. Act like you are in your house totally chill, wherever you are. People will like you if you like yourself. No lie. You will get better man. At least you are out there getting it.

You could let it happen naturally and eventually you’ll get lucky through enough patience and practice to simulate being outgoing
Or you can do what I did and start doing drugs to loosen yourself up and build a new personality around being a party guy, this is the fastest method and it worked for me,
Went from having no friends to going out every night with plans
I’m not super popular or have a bunch of friends and girls but it’s a lot better now than sitting at him every night and day

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have you tried not being such a fucking dullard? If you were interesting people would be interested in you. God I fucking hate this place

I don't know.
>acting friendly and casual comes really naturally to me
>typically can come up with good banter or make people feel like I'm listening to them sincerely
>it's all 100% an act, doesn't even feel like "me" doing or saying things, still a completely analytical sperg in my head
>tons of casual acquaintances, literally zero friends
>freak out and fail to pull the trigger any time it feels like someone is actually trying to get close to me
>such is life as a 33 year old boomer

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I had this same problem op and the only solution is to just speak up and interrupt their stupid conversation with some equally stupid comment. Repeat every 20-30 seconds and boom, now you’re a social creature

what kind of normie activities? not OP, but i have no friends and i'm quiet in groups too

tbqh, none of my coworkers have activities they do alone. everything they do is with friends
>weekends at the cottage
>parties, weddings, bars, clubs, movies, board games, all with friends
>traveling with friends
no one really accomplishes anything tbqh

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I play pool and golf, hike, mountain and road bike, ride dirt bikes, weekend beach trips, day trips on my motorcycle, go to concerts parties and cookouts, shoot guns, and garden all pretty regularly
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these are all things you do with friends though, which is my point

Find a meetup group or something. Ask people you know to do these things and tell them to bring anyone else along. Expand your friends group. Say yes to more things even if you may not be that interested in doing it.

I went to the pool hall alone last night, shot around by myself for 20 minutes and then some guys came up and wanted to play me
I do golf with my dad and his work friends but I also go out alone
I go to open mic on tuesdays alone and I know the bartenders but I always meet and hang out with someone new
Garden alone
Go to the beach and on my motorcycle alone
Hike and bike alone
etc etc
They are "group activities" but can easily be done alone, less hassle and effort than planning and having to deal with other peoples wants and needs

You're just scared that they'll think you're weird for what you say. Just say what's on your mind and if they don't like it find new friends.

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If you ask people questions about themselves, they'll respond. People love to talk about themselves. Show genuine interest and you will receive it in kind.

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whats the "it" on the bottom right corner of that image for?

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