I started using Tinder. At first I tried and started conversations. After losing my personality, it was mostly futile...

exactly the same as you user
actually feels worse, because when you think it's just about attractiveness you can say its not your fault

I can still say my personality is not my fault, but it certainly feels more personal.

I don't feel any ego boost. I feel the opposite. Every match that I get I start thinking "she's really beautiful and seems nice, I have no chance with her because I am a shell of a man with no redeeming qualities".

There is a fear, but I don't know of what. There are a bunch of tiny steps which I struggle to name, but all of which eventually lead to the same conclusion and same feelings of despair.

I feel so many inadequacies, insecurities, hatreds for myself, hurtful memories and realizations, mostly hurtful memories. This inane Tinder behaviour is just one small part of it, but it's all I can put to words right now.

What's the point if you have a partner? You're just asking for trouble if she finds out.

i fucking hate you ego boosters. i match with someone and they dont even give enough of a fuck to write back. fuck. you.

Yeah I do this just to see if I can get matches and see what I can get. I never talk to them though. It's not worth it.

this.

i know literally nobody in the town i live. moved here for work and commute an hour to get to my job, so it's really far removed from my life.

i still manage to go on dates and hook up with a fair amount of girls despite having no real social base.

tinder has made dating way easier. back in the day you needed to go out and enjoy yourself with friends, socialize, and then meet people that way. it was a lot more work and required a lot more confidence.

I only use tinder to passively aggressively bully fat and desperate girls

I'll have periods of ups and downs where I'm either highly interested and motivated or highly disinterested and unmotivated. I still swipe but I'm less likely to go for the throat. It happens. The matches are still usually pretty receptive to being hit up later on.

I get tinder matches but they never reply to me when I do message them, and most of the girls I match with are BPD tumblr/art school girls or have shallow pop culture interests I know nothing about so I don't really care about them.

>easy mode
>girls don't respond

The worst part about tinder is you always have to have some cheesy "funny" pick up line and act like a dancing monkey

Tinder is fucking retarded. I have no idea how it hasn't been shut down

some girls don't respond, but all you need to do is send a message or two and not take it seriously. if you're halfway attractive you'll get a date, and from there you just need to be confident and engaging.

i'm nearly 30. when i was in my early 20's, a "successful" night going out was talking to anywhere between 5 - 15 different girls and hoping they liked you.

at least with tinder you're sure of that. even if they don't respond, it's literally just a messaging app for dating, so why are you getting so hung up about it?

So I have to message or talk to 20 different girls before I find one that says yes? Fuck that, if 20 other girls said no why the hell should I believe this one would say yes?

I know I shouldn't care so much, I should try harder...

>chubby ginger
yes
>lover of pizza
yes!
>horror fanatic
YYEESS!
>mother of 2
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRR

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It's the opposite here. When I started out, I tried exactly those and no girls responded. Then I tried "not boring" starters, like random questions or observations. They don't respond to that either. Then I used the boring "hi, how are you?" and it worked.

I just don't understand it.

for me it averages out to be probably around 8 girls before i get a response/date.

that's just the nature of the beast.

the thing is you've got two options:

- advertise a slightly more interesting version of yourself
- advertise a person you aren't

the first step to picking up isn't talking to girls, it's hitting the gym, joining social clubs and improving yourself. getting pussy should always be secondary to improving your life.

it took me way too long to learn that, but ever since i did, i've found a sort of freedom. picking up happens, but what matters is picking yourself up. you're nothing without you.

Probably cuz you swipe right on everone and there is an algorithm that hides your profile if you do. Done in an attempt to combat bots I assume.

I'll let you guys in on a little tip of mine.

I open with this line EVERY single time and it works every fucking time, I swear.
>What's your favorite band?

And if you've heard of the band, it automatically starts a convo. And if you don't, respond with
>never heard a track, any recommendations?
And then she starts going on about the band, etc. and you listen to new music. If you're a retard when it comes to music and don't know ANYTHING then head to /mu/.

I've been on tinder for a good two weeks and already have two dates lined up. Wish me luck today lads.

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this is very stupid
you are very stupid

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Just out of habit and I'll admit I like the feeling of validation it still gives me.

>yfw have two dates lined up this week

Whatever

I found a qt nerdy gf last year. She likes anime, board games and works/studies. Just keep at it and don't match with people you have no intention of realistically dating.

I don't message girls first much either. Feels like a waste of time. When I get message first they never reply with anything interesting. Always just a quick response to what question I send or some 1-3 word garbage reply.

When they message first, in my experience, I get back way better replies and they seem interested.

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what am I supposed to do after they respond to my joke intro line with 'haha thanks' or whatever

this
it's always "haha thanks" or "just chillin hbu? cool" wtf do you even say to that

I uninstalled tinder a few months ago when I realized how soulless and unhappy it made me.

Lately I realized that at least when I got 1 match / month it made me slightly excited and nervous that there are girls out there. Now I just feel nothing. I work in STEM and I've talked to 1 woman in the last 8 months.

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"Cool"
Is the worst
Here's a normie meme which makes sense

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Huh maybe that's why girls dont like me because I say shit like that "I'm busy" and I take like 2-3 days to text them back. I'm legitimately busy though, I work and go to school all day then I get home and just want to relax instead of checking my phone constantly. It sucks you have to be instantaneous and always on social media to keep girls interested these days.

>Northern Dutch guy, 18
>6'3", doesn't matter here because it's fairly common
>Dark haired nordic, doesn't do much either because most people here are a similar phenotype
>Average looking irl but I have flattering pictures which make me look above average to good looking, this helps a lot

I get 30ish matches a day here in the first couple of days, but this drops a bit once my fresh account ELO boost drops off. My bio is always short, with my height in it. My pictures are a mix of selfies and social pics. Even though I get some matches I've never been on a date because I always blow it off for a fear of getting flaked after disappointing them, I'm unsure about how much distance there is in my looks from my pictures and real life. I'll probably stop giving a fuck about this next time because I'm in some foreign country then.

I'm going to Bavaria, Germany and Italy next week. Considering Italians are probably worse looking and shorter than the Dutch, would I do better in northern Italy? Or is this not the case, and do women want a guy looking like them? How about the southern Germans?

I tried Tinder in Turkey/Greece 3 months ago but I did way worse, making me think that they were either looking for a Turkish/Greek looking guy or Turks/Greeks don't use Tinder much. Maybe I was in a bad area; some eastern Greek island extremely close to the Turkish coast.

Also: I have a lot of Italian designer clothing, is this a big status symbol in Italy and southern Germany? I have a couple of good pictures with it but I haven't tried it out yet, neither in the Netherlands or Turkey/Greece. Thanks frens

You sound really obnoxious and insufferable. Good luck.

This. It's all a numbers game and you can not get infatuated with one girl. You have to keeping messaging and seeing what sticks. I meet a fricking weeb girl who is a hot skinny blonde on Insta, and it took me fucking years just to get this lucky.

>tfw weeb girls are attracted to you but you dont want them because they're all legitimately insane

Jealousy must hurt. Relax, I'm not a Chad, I don't look good. I'm also a virgin after countless approaches irl, proving this statement.

Any advice for dating dutch girls?

>justifying yourself to random strangers
>being that retarded that you think it's jealousy and lacking any insight to consider that you might actually be that obnoxious in real life
There is no hope for you.

It's just some info I forgot to mention, I don't need to justify myself to anyone that won't reply seriously. Don't cut yourself on that edge pal, for your own good

No idea, it doesn't seem to be all that similar from American girls. They look similarish but better, they all speak English anyway, they consume lots of American culture. I haven't really been in another country for a longer period of time so I'm not sure how they compare. Haven't really had any success yet either.

*all that different from American girls

Just literally be yourself user. I used to be a complete NEET living at my parents place. Started going to the gym, made some chad friends, and now I'm at a party on someones rooftop in NYC.

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pls tell me you're gonna slam that pawg on the right

Tell the guy in blue he looks like a gay cunt

>rooftop in NYC
Yo, hook it up, my dude. You in Manhattan right now? That blonde on the right looking kind of thicc (ponytail nose covering girl).

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Any women at this party that aren't chubby to overweight?

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Thats you're problem user. Once you unlock your kundalini, you'll realize T H I C C is the only way to go.

I appreciate thicc, but that is only obtained via the gym or exercise. Being chubby due to age and laziness is disgusting.

That girl on the couch has an alright body type.

this was me until recently
there's a certain pleasure to getting matches especially if she's attractive (which happens to me more than others because I'm a selective swiper)

>You're both on tinder, aka you both want to meet someone and are physically attracted to each other.

Well, the women have zero intention of dating anyone. They just want the self-esteem boost from matches.

>Have a fairly handsome face and some good pictures of me, from selfies to hanging out with friends
>Make my profile a genuine, pretty good profile about who I am, what I do
>Not many matches
>Change my profile to basically just being a condescending shitshow where I point out how vapid everyone on Tinder is
>Get matches with girls who, I shit you not, tell me that I can't be ALL bad and that they want to see if they can get to the "real me" beneath the surface
I hate this planet and want to die. The real me is an edgy cunt who hates himself and women.

I used tinder for 2 years, and every time I've gotten close to something good I get royally fucked over, now I just swipe out of boredom

most of the time when i get a match they dont responde when i message them like then wtf did u swipe right for??

Lol why is that motherfucker wearing a Zora Tunic?

Mine shows me the same girls despite me swiping them 10 times. Tinder plus is a scam and I took the bait.