I haven't been on Jow Forums or Jow Forums for the past 56 days. In that time I have altered my life and lifestyle to the point where I'm beginning to feel happy, confident, and passionate about the world. Before that I wanted to kill myself and had anxiety panic attacks everytime my brain thought of something that made me uncomfortable. I would browse Jow Forums, /gif/, and /tv/ for nearly seven hours every day. That was my life for four years. I hate that person and want to bury him for good but I come back here one last time to offer my method for any robots that want to give it a shot. I don't expect much because I would have called me a fag if I saw this OP when I hated my life and myself while browsing this place. I'm still not perfect now but I feel like a new person and every day I feel closer to the person I want to be. I figured I might as well try though since I know how much it sucks.
Alright well here goes
First part is going to sound like an advertisement but whatever. Instrumental to my turn around has been this app habitica. It basically takes all your habits and turns them into an rpg where you level up when you complete tasks and hurt your character and party when failing to do a task. The party element makes it feel like you're letting down more than just yourself when you fail a task. Admittedly this is pretty autistic motivation and if you're less imaginative/more grounded in reality you'll just think it's gay. It has really helped me though because it structures my day and makes sure I don't forget anything. I'm in a party with some other channers and if you want you can post your user ID and I'll add you. I'll ban you if you are inactive other than that it's pretty chill group.
Alright now for some of the specific behaviors I implemented and removed. Some of these I'm pretty sure are memes I fell for but I personally have associated them with value so take it with a grain of salt.
First I'll give some things I subtracted from my life. Jow Forums is first, I quit it entirely. It was a massive time sink and Jow Forums especially would just become an echo chamber for my self pity and defeatist attitude. I do think there's some good stuff on here especially some of the resources on Jow Forums, /ic/ and other hobby boards but I had to quit. It also helped me greatly with nofap. Not everyone is going to need this one but I was a massive degenerate and felt it was necessary. There's so much porn on Jow Forums that you can't realistically browse while doing it. I'm on day 28 of nofap and my weird fantasies are dying out for more traditional one's. I feel like I'm reclaiming part of my innocence. Next I cut down my screen time to 1 hour a day. If I want to watch a movie I'll not watch one day and then use two hours the next. These three behaviors will remove a ton of the reward chemicals you were blasting your brain with for no benefit and add loads of time to your day if you were anything like I was. Now you need to fill that time with more productive and fulfilling behavior.
I unlike most people did not really have any hobbies prior to this. I had a career path though so I could dump more time into my studies (which is miserable at first but as the stimulation you got from Jow Forums and screens is increasingly absent other things become more rewarding) as one part but I added some hobbies as well. This part was shaky at first but I found some I really like. First is Japanese. I love anime and manga and think Japanese culture is really interesting. I didn't want to at first because of weeb shame but I'm glad I did. The whole process is very rewarding and you see progress each day if you stick with it. Next is reading. I won't go too much into this but I recommend Meditations by Aurelius and then just read what you dig. These are just suggestions but you want hobbies where you can see yourself improving over time. It will help give your days more purpose and meaning.
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Owen Anderson
Finally I'll go over mindset. One of my main problems was that I continuously sulked in self pity and would remember every negative interaction I've ever had analyzing it endlessly. To get over this I utilized meditation techniques. I would meditate once a day and do the typical procedure. If my thoughts wandered I would realized it and stop thinking it as best I could and return to my breath. This is hard at first but with discipline you will improve. Now you have a skill that you can transfer into your every day life. Imagine you're thinking about how unfair it is that you're ugly, have no gf, are depressed, etc. Kill the thought and return to your breath. It will feel forced and futile but keep doing it.You have conditioned your brain to respond a certain way to a certain set of stimuli and the only way to improve is to give it less and less control until it eventually decays. I would keep this as a habit in habitica under reactionary. If I dwelled to long I would hit minus and if I felt I succesfully slayed the negativity I would give myself a plus. Over time you will retrain your brain to stop thinkin in such a negative manner.
Everything I've said is obviously anecdotal, but it helped me and I thought my situation was irrevocable. Looks like this is going to 404 anyway kek but I'll monitor it until that time just in case anybody posts their user ID to join the habitica party. Goodbye Jow Forums
Carson Wood
lol youll be back queerbo
Austin Thompson
I'm convinced you made up a story to try to get people off this board. try harder pleb
good for you OP, the cutting down screen time i think would be a good idea for me. im pretty entrenched into escapism
Owen Williams
Holy fuck. I didn't know about this Habitica shit. I just got it. What's your ID? I don't know which part is mine. I'd like to join the channer group.
Dominic Clark
You have to post yours. It's like a 15 character alpha numeric string. You'll find it by going to the party tab. It's mostly a Jow Forums people since Jow Forums ignored my original thread lul. We'd love to have you though man
Christopher Reed
It's a bit longer than 15 characters. Add me quick so I know it's you. 28d24cd1-b8f0-4ae3-b7bc-9dd88a1b7c21
Nathan Miller
Lol sorry I took a quick guess
just sent it
David Cooper
>poisoning you with misogyny Stopped reading right there
Noah Ortiz
lol that's like at the end of the post though
Sebastian Williams
>tfw you wrote that copypasta and you're still here
I wanna join too. Mine's 65c158d7-3f1a-41de-8004-d822922534ea
Ayden Scott
For me, Learning how to skateboard made me feel better for myself. I spend exactly the same amount of time on here and /mu/ as I did before but for an hour or so every other day I'd go out and come back having improved on something. I feel stupid that this is what's making me feel better more social but I definitely recommend more robots take up skating. Today I did a fakie 180 shuvit, and I still haven't stopped smiling since.
For anybody else that wants to join I just want to say that our policy is that if you don't login for 7 days you get booted. Just as a heads up. You can always message me if you go on vacation or something. We actually started with 30 people and now have 8 so it's no easy journey brehs but I know you can do it
Cameron James
That's awesome user. I ripstik so I'm you but lamer lol. I don't think the hobby matters too much just that you have the potential to get better
Parker Thomas
Fuck yeah an actual quality thread for once Ive been reminding myself im going to die and I get one life and if I want something, I have to throw myself into it and do it every day I wanna see what happens when i really do give my all Listening to podcasts to learn and be inspired Gotta go to bed to get a good nights sleep boys big day tomorrow
Juan Green
Nice post OP. I've been trying to do pretty much everything you've been doing, and it hasn't been going that well, but I think this at least gave me some motivation.
Samuel Murphy
I didn't read your garbage because you sound like a fag desu
Jayden Cruz
Yea, fuck Jow Forums, fuck imageboards. Time to leave this place.
This image is pretty awesome. Jow Forums sucks for real discussion, really most imageboards are. I've wasted two days of my life on this shithole.
Elijah Lewis
Try out habitica man. I sound like a shill but when it feels like everyone's in it together motivation comes a bit easier. That was one of my biggest hurdles. I felt so depressed that I never wanted to get out of bed but the more I did the easier and easier it became. Just take it one step at a time user you can do it
That's the spirit user! Eary to bed early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.
Luis Anderson
I love the positivity in this thread
David Smith
Good effort typing up all that unfortunately this shit heads are too content wallowing in shit to listen to reason
I'm not lying but some people do manage to leave forever
Justin Cook
Alright lads I'm gonna go to sleep but if you still wanna join the habitica party (you) this post with your user ID and I'll add you when I wake up. It can get better bros but the path might not be easily traversed. You just gotta make sure you go a little farther down it each day. OP out.
Jacob Allen
i'm not sure i buy it op. for one, this isn't the first time i've heard of habitica. for two even you say you know you've fallen for some memes, and that's because positive thinking isn't any less memey than negative thinking. a lot of times the normalfags are accused of a just world fallacy, well that actually works both ways for us, we can suffer from an unjust world fallacy. anyway i know the truth is i won't have to convince myself to stay faithful to the right path.
how sure are you that your positive thinking is going to have a completely positive outcome, what if, when it all comes around you find you have to suffer some inconveniences still that others didn't. do you continue to think positively, in submission to whatever it nets you? maybe it's not so bad to submit to an injustice in order to elevate our lives from the absolute bottom like they are now, but how much of an injustice, how much can you really put up with while continuing to think positively? and this is before we even get into the topic of self respect and what you're willing to put up with for your efforts.
the truth is, that while nothing is impossible, the world is extremely unfair, and you may not escape from that unfairness with your efforts alone.
