I'm physically impotent, have been my entire adult life plus my late teens. It barely works, can't get it up enough to have sex. Doctors will not help me, been trying to go down that road for years, I have no money to seek private help and even if I did it's unlikely there's any fix for this.
I have managed to attract a decent amount of women in my life, I even had sex before it stopped working fully. But after it became a dead piece of meat it doesn't matter if you're attractive, if you have a good personality. It's all comes down to your dick and your ability to perform in the end, I speak of experience. Everything else becomes meaningless once that one important thing breaks. It is very likely I will end up alone in the end, the older I get the more I realize this. Should I just give up now to save myself a life of suffering?
I'm physically impotent, have been my entire adult life plus my late teens. It barely works...
Saving this thread from the last page because you're not the only one. My dick has gradually got worse and worse and my libido is practically non-existent. I don't even know what or how to turn myself on anymore. I'm 25. All hormones and health stuff is normal, I've been to a couple of specialists about this. No cure, no real advice.
I look at beautiful women in their summer dresses and I feel horrible.
I can even have a normal libido at some points but that only makes it worse, horny but your dick is just hanging there.
I've only had that a couple of times (thank god). I feel sincerely sorry for you if that is a common occurrence. Guess I'm lucky for losing the mental side too.
You still have the same sexuality as before though? I personally have been so desperate at times to feel anything sexual that I've tried to force myself to "accept" myself as gay or trans or pedo or whatever. But no avail, I'm still "straight", just no sexual feelings.
Still straight. My libido was pretty piss poor to begin with though, crazy long refractory period. I do get horny however, maybe even more so now than before, but my penis is only getting more and more dead. It's quite sad that these two seperate developments are working against each other.
But yes, I've been there. Thinking "maybe I'm not horny or can't get it up because I'm x or y or z". But nope, that wasn't it. I think it's a common thing when you're impotent from the get-go.
Fuck man. I don't really have much to say here.
I'm going to start using steroids at some point though. Just blast 500mg test-E every week until I die. Because this isn't a great way to live. Some deep parts of my brain are desperate for anything sexual but it just isn't there. And as you said already, how could you ever have a relationship without sex?
I probably will too, I have had low tests in period so it might be a reason. But I have a feeling my issue stems from physical damage, so it might not do much for the function sadly. Wouldn't want to have a higher sex drive with a useless dick, that would be even more torture.
And you can't, at least not me. Since I'm straight and still have a libido I couldn't be with someone asexual, and I can't be with someone sexual since no-one wants someone who doesn't function in that department.
People really need to cherish their dicks, life without it is beyond horrible.
I'm sort of with you guys, my dick technically "works " but it's busted. I can get hard but I fell literally no sensation down there, jerking off is pointless and I've never been able to orgasm while awake. The only reason I know I'm not totally impotemt is because of the RARE wet dream where I waje to spooge in my undies. Not as bad as you but I still understand and share your pain somewhat. Knowing you'll nevet have a nornal, healthy sex life no matter WHAT you do is soul crushinh
How active are you, OP? How old are you? Also, do you play with your dick often to try and get it hard through manual stimulation?
I'm decently active in my mid 20s. Depends, sometimes I masturbate and it can get like 60% hard then gets loose again the second I stop. Usually I don't masturbate at all though, can go months without any pressing urge.
Yeah it's kinda shit knowing it doesn't really matter what you do, since you still have this one issue that can't seem to be fixed.
You can't.
When it's like that, even if you find a gf, at some point she'll cheat on you and/or she'll leave you, no matter how she says she loves you. It's just happened to me. It's a fucking shit of a mess
I'm sure you've probably tried, but I actually went through the exact same thing recently and now it only comes in waves based off of how I'm treating myself. First, what I realized is that when I even put the slightest thought into it, my shit wouldn't budge. Second, I also noticed that if I was sedentary for prolonged periods of time, the shit wouldn't work either. So, what I did was make it a point to ramp up my physical activity two-fold and stop even thinking about it. I copped some viagra suspended in wood grain alcohol online and would fill a small capsule with the proper dosage(s). I would take one a day and exercise in the evening.
After about a few weeks to a month of doing this, I stopped taking the hand-crafted viagra and the shit just worked again. So, to the point, if you're sedentary for prolonged periods of time: get up and move around a lot more. In the evening, go for a run and actually up your heart rate to get your circulation going. If you smoke, quit smoking. If you drink, quit drinking. You want to get your body back to a point of equilibrium without all of the garbage if that makes sense.
The issue with me is that I've had this for around 10 years now. During this time I have been active (gym, cardio), I haven't been drinking for years and viagra doesn't do a lot for me at all. I guess I could try, but I figured this is some sort of physical malfunction.
I went to several doctors (an endocrinologist, cardiologist, and urologist) and even had my prostate examined. All of them told me there wasn't anything there. It was pure hell, but it turned out that I was just fucking my head up and doing my body dirty, so it kinda just gave me the middle finger back in the worst way. I hope for your sake it's just this and nothing serious. Also, depression and anxiety can factor into it as well. If your mind and body are healthy, then I believe your dick should come back to life.
Godspeed, user. I really know your feel.
Well, my testosterone levels are not normal. They shift a lot but they are surely not normal, often they flip to the greyzone however, which is why doctors refuse to treat me. They have however gone down to female levels at points (that can be felt, it's horrible), so there's surely something faulty there. I fear for my general health if these hormonal issues persist.
I forgot to add: relax. If you do HIIT exercises like sprinting and what not, you should be able to loosen up what's called your pelvic floor muscle (I think that's the name--something like that). It could be that it's restricting the blood flow to your groin if your body is naturally tensing up down there. If you have issues with constipation then it's more than likely that you may need a muscle relaxer to give your body a chance to function normally for a bit until you stop taking them.
Cop some test-E online and self-dose at 100mg per week or 200mg bi-weekly. It's extremely easy to find. Exercise while you take it. You'll essentially get all of the benefits I've been talking about previously.
just learn to eat that pussy real good or date someone asexual
>it's just this and nothing serious
Ya know, with all due respect to OP and all others here, being fucked up in your psyche at the point of not being able to knock even a pornstar with spread legs IS actually something serious.
This is also my problem and it's fucking up my life. And I'm going to a therapist. I'd be less depressed if it was my body malfunctioning, so it would be a medical issue treatable with some kind of stuff.
I'll take this to heart and give it a shot, feels like I've tried so much already. Thanks user.
Well, so far it hasn't really been treatable. And do believe me when I say this will fuck you over mentally as well.