How do I know if someone is a true friend? I always treat people like they're my real friends but they don't usually feel the same way.
How do I know if someone is a true friend...
How do you treat them exactly?
You may think that you are nice to them, but maybe you aren't.
I talk to them, I'm nice to them, I ask them how they're doing but they usually seem disinterested.
Sometimes it goes further than that, but it's usually me initiating things and they seem a little closed off.
We sound the same, user. They're still my friends but never initiate with me and sometimes I don't think they care about me. Turns out I'm just a boring person with the persona of a mother.
Sounds like me, especially the mother bit.
I'm just a bit sad that I invest my emotions into people and they shove me off.
I guess that's life.
We can both be sad, lonely mothers together, user.
>I'm just a bit sad that I invest my emotions into people and they shove me off.
I know the feel. It's quite disheartening to add someone and invest to them, only to realize you'll only be a background character for them because they already have best friends.
You will only find out if you hit rock bottom. The question then, is if they would help you out or abandon you..
t. Happened to me
Thank you. Your input made me feel a bit better.
Very true. We'll see.
Sorry, user. I didn't mean to kill the mood.
You haven't given my invitation an answer, user.
I would, but I don't feel like I'd be a very good friend right now. Sorry.
Ah, I guess it's safe to assume you made the thread out of a sudden surge of emotions in the first place. I will respect your decision though.
there are few true friends online. most people don't see online friendships as anything real or serious and will drop you over the smallest thing or get bored and move on to someone else.
True friends will be with you until the very end, at least that's what I think true friends are
You're probably right. I guess I'm the loser here.
Why does that make you a loser? I wasn't trying to make you sad
I imagine shut ins don't have enough friends experience to recognize the difference between acquaintances and friends, which would make sense of why you all always get fucked over. Here's some life wisdom that you can save yourself some years of learning if you accept it now. Most people are acquaintances not friends stop assuming people are friends just because you both are friendly when around each other, 10x moreso online.
Not a loser in that sense, don't worry. I'm not sad.
Though, OP. If you ever have a change of heart, you can email my throwaway to exchange a form of contact. I know deep down you want some attention and to feel like you mean something and I would genuinely like to give someone I can relate to, something I've never had.
loyalty i suppose. but you wouldn't know who was or wasn't unless something bad happened. at least that's what I think. I've never had any.
Okay. Thank you.
Hopefully you will some day.
Oh, I think I see what you mean. Don't worry about it you'll find true friends eventually as long as you keep trying, maybe some of your current friends could even become your true friends
Don't thank me. That's just silly because I want this too.
Hopefully that's true. I'll keep trying.
You could also just ask your friends how they feel about you, or ask the one who seems most interested in you.
I get overwhelmed by my own friends, so I don't talk to anyone in general.
And to answer your question;
I don't know, since I doubt everyone is constantly talking to each other.
Ask them to do a stickup with you, youll see who is down for you.
>can't recognize the difference between acquaintances and friends
Holy shit this might be me.
There are a lot of people who I used to talk to and joke with on a daily basis in high school, but I never heard from almost any of them (except one, who I still talk to) after I graduated.
Same goes for college; I talk to and joke around with them routinely in class and during lunch, but rarely hear from them outside of that. I've never had a social life outside of school.
Are/were these people my friends? Or just people I'm friendly with?