I'm a failed true monogamist, I have had lots of relationships none of them progressed, I'm still a virgin and touchless.
>I trained myself to only be sexually aroused by my partners/have a sex drive only in a relationship >I'm a failed true monogamist, you can see what the problem is >I'm single now, I have no one to be faithful to, no one, or even a reason to get back into a new relationship >meeting new people is risky,
I'm also a pure virgin, I want my one and only. Disclaimer here btw; I know my exes have their self-agency and their own lives, I'm not blaming them for my current situation
Tldr; trained myself to only have a sex drive while in a relationship, all my relationships were short-term, still a virgin, meeting new people is risky, its a choice and I can avoid it.
-And.. I'm asocial.
You know guys... being a true monogamist can be self-defeating sometimes. I never thought I would say this, but my own monogamy ruined my life.
Nope, I want to treat people how I wanted to be treated, but its conflicting? like, break ups mean the person has to move on?
Like... if I broke up with someone and we actually talked for a while, and they pair-bonded with me... I would want them to move on? but that conflicts with wanting your relationship with your ex to work out because of true monogamy..
Jeez this is complicated, there's no equivalent to "treat people how you want to be treated" in romantic relationships
Robert Rogers
Go get yourself a Muslim gf. A lot of them are obsessed with their virginity and "saving it" for "the one". As if virginity was real and meant anything. That's probably your best bet.
Gabriel Bennett
No, I want a relationship to happen naturally, this will prove I love them unconditionally, please do not tell me to get standards, it will hurt my ability to love unconditionally
Josiah Torres
Oh btw, this helped a lot, since it made me realize how badly standards would hurt my true love, if I do get in a relationship that goes well, I will write it to myself, no standards ever,
Standards are for horrible people, it means you will only love that exact person,
Whew, that was scary, you scared me a lot user, I don't want a world where people won't love their partners unconditionally, I will make that world happen, with myself
Gabriel Murphy
>Wants the relationship to happen naturally >Doesn't realize he can meet people and things can happen naturally that way
Amazing
Aiden Clark
I mentioned I'm asocial in the OP, not even my own brother can contact me, its that deep.
Alexander Cox
Oh sorry, I didn't realize I was being vague Okay, I meant that its out of my routine to meet people or talk to people, all my relationships were never planned, it just happened.
DISCLAIMER ONCE AGAIN; I understand my partners have their own self-agency and life, they're not to blame for my own failures
Jose Myers
OH OKAY I got a more detailed answer for you, sorry, it takes me while to mentally process.
I have to keep my "contacts" low, so I can be faithful to my partner, and love them unconditionally, and I don't naturally cheat on them
Carter Diaz
You know, I just hope it works out for you user. Godspeed.
Wyatt Anderson
....I'm single.... right now....? Also, its more realistic to be faithful to a hypothetical partner than god, so I'm good.
I have no partner, what made you think that? I'm laying the foundation to be perfect for them, if I don't have many contacts, then I can't cheat on them,
Dylan Stewart
user WAIT EXPLAIN?? I'm obviously single, otherwise I wouldn't post this, omg....
I'm like, already being disrespectful to my partner and I don't even have one and that's realistic.. my life is nothing but drama, its hard being the center of the universe.
Gavin Jenkins
user COME BACK WHY are you talking down to me, omg, I already disrespected my hypothetical partner, this must be disrespectful because I feel like you're talking down to me
God why is my life so full of drama, I /am/ the problem, user EXPLAIN
Aaron Thomas
Oh my god why did that user talk down to me omg
I literally feel like my life is a sitcom, not even user will help and explain, they just love the drama that's my life...
Disclaimer; also I know I'm maybe disrespecting any future partner already, its just too hard living as myself... everything's so hard
Dominic Richardson
I'm trapped... in my insanity... all because user won't explain and I know they talked down to me...
Literally how come everything I do turns into a dramafest
Are you the same user who talked down to me? what's wrong? why am I being talked down to? I just want to be faithful to my partner, most people cheat without realizing it
Sebastian Gutierrez
I don't understand the "cheating without realizing it" thing. Also, how can you disrespect your future partner? It sounds like you're causing yourself emotional anguish over those thoughts. Talking to people of the opposite sex while in a relationship isn't cheating you know.
Camden Lewis
Not opposite sex, are you the same user who talked down to me? I mean I might cheat if I talk to other people, since it happens naturally, I'm ugly though but I got a call out post for cheating, things are so complicated... to live is to suffer after all, but not for normies,
I might get another call out posted added to myself if I cheat, so I have to take extra steps and make sure to tell my partner everything, giving them my account info will fix this. I will make sure to add this to my rules, my partner must know everything, my call out post proves I can't be trusted,
Brayden Ward
What do you mean by call out posts? And why give your SO your account info? Have you cheated in the past on someone and this is why you're hyper paranoid?
Lincoln Bell
Omg, this must be bait! everyone knows what call out posts are, I must be punished like my sins, that's how people learn.
Here's my list of rules, what do you think? I want to be perfect and flawless.
I'm not 100% sure what a call out post is so that's whatever I guess.
Anyway. I get that you don't want to break your partners heart. That's amicable. If you truly are antisocial then I guess not having other friends won't bother you.
It just sounds a lot like you're putting yourself down to "stay perfect" for your SO which I don't think is healthy.
Chase Walker
No, its that people are too hedonistic these days, so I''m putting rules on myself so I'm not like them,
But I'm single, I feel like a normie. Oh well, it only matters if I get in a new relationship, you're right, all this drama was for nothing. I keep forgetting it, I'm just dumb.
James Wilson
OMG ACTUALLY I do need standards, a partner my age, I completely forgot the most everything, Okay, I'm twenty one, so... no one under 18, I should define it by birth year, okay good thank you user for your help
Andrew Bell
*the most important thing How old my partner is, that's the default controversial thing and easiest to avoid
omg this thread did help and wasn't all drama, I completely forgot since I was too fixated on not being hedonistic
Andrew Brooks
I don't know man. I'm a true monogamist but didn't have to do any of that. I've only had sex in long term relationships, and if anything it's taught me how to actually have a good, healthy relationship. It also taught me how to find someone who is equally capable of that. She's had more partners than I have, yet she's the most loyal. There's so much that goes into having a healthy relationship that the monogamy thing doesn't even factor in since it's taken for granted. People can cheat for a variety of reasons, even decades into a relationship. The only things you can actually control are how much you put into your relationship and who you pick. Good luck man.
William Peterson
None of that sounds healthy at all. Confidence comes with taking risk and finding security with the outcome. You need to get that shit through experience and taking risk. If what you find success with your methods then that's great though. Good luck.
Elijah Parker
Its a normie issue ew, gross, who cares about that thanks anyway, I didn't read that because it sounded too normie
I'm just doing it since I hate being hedonistic, but doing it in private for myself, treat people how you want to be treated, common sense
Parker Cox
Ugh OP here, I can't believe I did it to myself, I got into the habit of generating emotional baggage over nothing and I'm single so it doesn't matter, I'm banning myself from Jow Forums, bye guys, I already have a website blocker, but I'm putting a stronger password, gibberish
also please no help or solutions, my OP explained everything, there's nothing that can do, my exes have their own self-agency and life, and obviously I can be the problem, its too complicated, god why can't I stop generating drama for ONE SECOND
