>parents always protect me and buy me everything I want
>only condition is that I need to keep getting good grades in college
>no friends or gf
>no connections
>no job
This isn't going to end well, is it
Parents always protect me and buy me everything I want
Hudson James
Ethan Perez
what are you studying, user? you should join clubs, one for an interest you have (or just something like board games or vidya) and one related to your major. The former will solve your no friends problem, the latter will solve your no connections problem.
Also talk to your professors. Even if you have no problems in a class, make excuses to do it. They like when you do that and if you're in STEM you could get into a lab doing that.
Elijah Reyes
Law. I don't know how it works in other countries, but my college doesn't have stuff like "clubs". I guess I could talk to the teachers, but I'm pretty sure I have undiagnosed social anxiety or autism or something because everyone seems weirded out when I talk, I don't know if I speak too formally or if they can sense my fear somehow (I can do oral presentations pretty well tho, it's strange)
Gavin Ross
Just finish school. I'm sure your parents just want to give you incentive to do well
Tyler Kelly
>tfw no Celestia Ludenberg gf
Why did she have to be one that died? She was best girl.
Michael Carter
All my favorite characters survived except for her. She should change places with weedman honestly, no one likes him anyways
Jose Mitchell
Amen! It seems great minds really do think alike user.
Jordan Phillips
>Law degree with social anxiety
Yeah you're fucked to be honest. Aren't social skills like a big part of law practice?
Aaron Green
>>only condition is that I need to keep getting good grades in college
>>no friends or gf
>>no connections
>>no job
That's how I lived until late HS and now im a minimum wage nightshift warehouse worker. Of course it won't end well because you MUST become more social as time passes by unless you're a savant at some STEM discipline that allows you to mostly work alone, but you mention you're studying law so yeah you're pretty much fucked unless you magically turn out to be a naturally social and charismatic person that can quickly make up for the lost years of no socialization.
>I can do oral presentations pretty well tho
That's relieving, maybe you'll be fine. I guess law works more or less the same in all the world, you need to have the right connections but being able to talk eloquently in front of others (even if you hate their guts and would never think of befriending them) is very important too.
>tfw toaster can't run the shooter game with Touko
Speaking of poverty I seriously hope you're not getting too indebted to get your degree user. Take it from a near 30 wizard apprentice, the feels of most people on Jow Forums are only a fraction of the feels of the plight of poverty.
But if you or your parents are rich don't worry too much, worse that can happen is you drop out of life and live the neet life forever.
Hudson Bennett
Well yeah, user, there's a reason I'm worried, you know. Again, it's not so much about talking in public or talking about technicalities, colloquial conversations are the ones that scare me
My parents aren't rich but they are actually paying for everything
If you like Fukawa the game is great btw, it's not a good fps, but the story is fun
Gavin Russell
I am same as you but I study finance. It is a bit less social but I'm still pretty fucked.
Jacob Taylor
it's very similar with me, but I made it to phd while all those years trying my best to hide my problems (I also supported my unemployed father with my scholarship) so I managed to avoid that weird kind of attention I'm still so scared of
from this month I'm a neet with pespective to become min. wagie, not good at all
It's good you have both well functioning parents who can still support you
Also try to seek professional help (I was too scared to do that myself, still I am) maybe it'll work somehow
just keep in mind that time goes by very quickly, so fon't wait more
Isaac Hernandez
>also try to seek professional help
I have been going to a psychologist but he really isn't helping, he just says basic stuff like "just don't think about other people" or "it's all in your head". He can't give me meds, but I feel like my parents wouldn't give me money for them anyways, they think it's a scam to make people retarded zombies or something (maybe they're right, who knows, never tried)
Luke Baker
do you have self-sabotage tendencies concerning your future life?
it's easy to have them if you lack motivation in your life (for example no friends and gf)
Ryder Peterson
>self-sabotage tendencies
Oh boy, user, I really don't know what you mean. Could you give some examples? I don't cut myself or anything of the sort
Easton Thomas
no self harm but something like neglecting your preparation for life after graduating
thinking something like 'I won't have a good future anyway, so why even bother'
just something like that
Elijah Russell
I was in the exact same situation until I dropped out of college. Then I was a NEET at home for 4 years before I found a job. Those 4 years were the worst. They were always telling me every day to finish my degree.
Luis Perry
What made you go into law user? Isn't law like the chadd-est field of them all, where you pretty much have to be a god tier social communicator to present cases effectively?
Mason Young
>they think it's a scam to make people retarded zombies
They're right. You really don't want to fuck up your brain with the shit they give you, some of the effects permanently rot your brain. My advice is:
-First and foremost take care of your health, eat properly by that I mean veggies and proteins, avoid sugary stuff, drink plenty of water and sleep well. Do regular exercise too, I don't mean to become a gym rat or anything like that but a long +10km walk on weekends should be enough. Doing this will help diminish some of that anxiety.
-Try some supplements like iodine and magnesium if you feel you're lacking them. Also try some herbal "medicine" like St Johns wort, haven't tried it myself but apparently it helps with deppresion plus it can sort of block some estrogenlike agents.
-Try to take note of addictive like activities you do, think of porn or compulsively using imageboards. Why? Because this messes with your brain reward circuits.
-This will sound painful but you need to understand that a weebesque lifestyle is not always compatible with real life, much less with a career in law. Sure you could learn to hide your powerlevel, but before you do that you need to be able to pass off as a well adjusted person with typical interests. I don't mean to become a neurotypical that watches GoT and NBC all nights, this is just temporary to make your transition easier, you can always go back to your old hobbies and interests but putting them on hold will make the transition easier.
-Finally you must lose fear of failure. Sorry if this sounds like bee urself but think of it this way, sooner or later there are things that you will have to do and time is unforgiving, if you do them sooner you have more time to recover and failure is inevitable at some point so don't think too much about it. Think that not doing something only means the consequences later will be much harder to fix. This is the opposite of what I first said, let extreme fear drive you to action.
Landon Howard
I always study because I'm afraid people are going to criticize me if I don't, especially my parents since they seem to have really high expectations (or at least they pretend to have them). I guess not? dad says I don't need to work yet because nothing I could do right now is going the be useful for my CV, but I always feel I'm not going to be able to work for someone anyway due to my anxiety. I don't rationalize it or anything, I just think about it and get sad.
I didn't know what to do, dad recommended it and I didn't hate it. I also did some career tests and shit like that.
>Isn't law like the chadd-est field of them all, where you pretty much have to be a god tier social communicator to present cases effectively
I believe that's really exaggerated, user. Sometimes you just do paperwork, and you actually need to have arguments supported by the law if you ever get into an actual trial. The idea that you're solving crimes everyday and you just need to win the judge with your great oratory only happens in TV dramas... I think.
I hope you're doing better now
Jonathan Morris
>but I always feel I'm not going to be able to work for someone anyway due to my anxiety. I don't rationalize it or anything, I just think about it and get sad.
that sounds like unconcious tendencies to self-sabotage, but I guess as long as you try to follow
it should be successfully repressed
best of luck, I wish you peace and happiness, neet user with phd out.
Brody Hill
>I hope you're doing better now
Getting there, bud. Getting there. Having a job isn't all that great.
Brayden Hill
Wait, protect you? Can you explain this, the only way I can think of them doing this is somehow threatening the other person's parents or convincing the other person to be locked up for a while to "Scare" them, or taking away the self-agency of the other person, like taking away their car keys or the like
Ethan Morales
What are you talking about user, who's "the other person"? I don't get bullied ever since elementary school if that's what you mean. I just meant that they help me with everything, they cook for me and tell me what I should eat and shouldn't, they tell me how to go to the places I need to go. I'm twenty but I still feel like a kid, and everything feels so good and convienient that I can't say no to it. But I still have a bad feeling, I know it's going to backfire at some point.
Ryan Garcia
"other person" I assumed by protecting you I mean they also defend you from people treating you badly, sorry, I was thinking of something else
*the other person I mean is your harasser, sorry I just misunderstood aaa
I wasn't trying to be rude or talk down to you, thanks now I understand