Would you be okay with your girlfriend having a lock on her phone so that you can't use it?
On the one hand:
>she deserves her privacy
>it would be kind of controlling to have that much access to her personal things
But on the other:
>there is no reason to do it if there is nothing to hide
>locking a phone to keep your partner away is suspicious and shows distrust
If your girlfriend won't allow you access to her phone, shes already fucking chad and its over user.
>thinking your gf will ever be loyal
Take the blackpill, user.
Why would you even be with them if you didnt trust them in the first place?
by trusting others, you only open yourself up for the possibility of not only being let down, but dissapointed.
Isn't trust something gained over the time knowing them?
yall are crazy lol
i value privacy so i would be a hypocrite to not respect hers
yeah, if you can lock your phone.
If she's kicking it with other guys then it allows you to kick it with other girls.
I have no interest in going through phones
If she cheats on me then whatever I'll just break up with her and realize she was a mistake
DTA m8 don't trust anyone
Would you let your GF use your PC without a password in turn?
It is okay for your girlfriend to have a lock on her phone as it is ok for you to have on yours.
You either trust her or not, and if you don't, it is a mistake to prolong this 'relationship'.
If you don't let your gf lock her phone you're a control freak desu. Back when I had a gf I locked my phone too, not because I was cheating, but because I had no idea what embarrassing shit would show up in my search history most of the time. I'd still check her messages sometimes and she'd check mine, but it was never shit like "You can NEVER have your phone locked around me"
Off-topic though, if she refuses to delete her dating app and account, dump her
Anyone who is so insecure (male or female) that they can't trust the person they love to love them doesn't deserve love.
If she doesn't trust me enough to let me go on her phone then yeah it's a problem. Especially since girls spend 50% of their time on it.
What are you lot on about trust? People are going to fuck more than one person it is human nature. Trust that she is going to get other dick. Trusting anyone not to cheat is fucking ridiculous and only setting yourself up for disappointment.
I guessed my gfs password, its 4200. She doesn't know that I know.
yeah, provided I microwave the HDD and buy a new one.
2/10 made me reply.
It doesn't matter how much sophistry you're ready to dump online. Trust is the foundation of every relationship and trying to go around it is setting yourself up for failure. Same for respect - it doesn't work if you try to force it on others.
You are a sad individual. Who hurt you? There's some wholesome wife material out there, boys. Don't listen to a nihilist robot.
Okay man, good luck with that. Be genuinely surprised when your gf starts taking other dicks.
Congrats retard, you got yourself filtered
>There's some wholesome wife material out there
Only reason to get married is if you want to raise kids in a traditional nuclear family.
I have an 8/10 shut in tumblr gf who thinks she's not good enough to get other dick. You gotta pick your partners accordingly, friend
I'd be okay with it as long as I can use a password on my phone too. My sister's ex used to try on her phone all the time, would constantly try to reset passwords on things he couldn't get into and just generally scrounge around and look for things on her phone while she wasn't around, it was kinda creepy. If your girlfriend was gonna cheat on you she'd do it regardless if you could check her phone or not.
either this is some next level baiting or you're a tripfag normalfag and you need to get the fuck off my board
You continue to appear to be intentionally missing the point. It is not about her taking the dick or not. Breach of trust is pretty clear concept for everybody and that would serve as a infidelity deterrent. If it doesn't then obviously she is no good.
In one of the cases it's a win-win, while in your scenario it is always a competition and stalking which always results in a broken relationship.
>In one of the cases it's a win-win, while in your scenario it is always a competition and stalking which always results in a broken relationship
I disagree. In your scenario you are bound to lose because eventually someone will be disloyal and the best you can hope for is not noticing. I don't expect monogamy so I dgaf if girls I am with are fucking other guys.
The girl I am fucking at the moment wants a boyfriend who she can then marry. She dates a bunch of guys but most of them don't get any play because she is looking for one to marry so doesn't want to come off as a slut by fucking them early. I fuck her most weeks and she tells me about the guys she is dating and their potential bf/husband potential.
Half of the girls I get with have actual bfs or are married. It is mental to expect women not to cheat. As much as guys can be lead around by our dicks, most guys can overcome it and think logically enough not to cheat if they find it morally incorrect. With bitches if you make them feel like cheating they will do it.
>gets cheated on by 5/10
>hurt so acts edgy on Jow Forums all day
>women are constantly on the prowl for dick, don't ever count on not getting cheated on
/b/ porn dump threads have a higher combined intelligence than you go back to your cocklust thread fag
Do I correctly understand that you are a misogynist? Yes/no question?
Depends on your definition of misogynist. In my experience if you give women certain feelings they are incapable of not acting on them. If that belief makes me a misogynist then I am. I don't hate women though, that'd be ridiculous.
to be honest it doesn't matter, people who cheat usually are smart enough to delete messages, often they regularly delete all their messages
that was my first reply to you
you sure have a short temper, tripfag
I mean I've never looked at my girlfriend's phone anyway so that's not the problem but yeah I would be a bit suspicious if she started locking her phone away from me. I would ask her why she's doing it and let her know I'm sad that she doesn't trust me but I wouldn't be overly confrontational or anything.
>Misogyny is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women or girls.
>be me age 22
>dating a short, thicc, qt3.14 7/10
>met via fb, mutual friends
>start dating, fall hard, she moves in with me
>ff 2 months
>notice she's started adding passwords to her pc & iphone
>ask, she says she's got nothing to hide, gives me all her passwords
>somethingssuspicious.mp3
>ff 1 week
>passwords are getting changed
>managed to break into her phone
>looks clean except she hadn't cleared her deleted voicemails folder
>voicemails from multiple guys, talking about meeting up
>she's a certified thot, been running around on me for over a month
>flip the absolute fuck out on her
>kick her out middle of the day
>pack all of her shit, tell her she has 2 days to leave
>doesn't have a place, she's left homeless, has to live in a hotel
>i've never felt better
long story short, if a girl isn't willing to give you full access to her personal devices, she's absolutely got something to hide. don't be delusional, don't get taken advantage of. you're not being paranoid, you're being realistic.
The same reason any MAN would want his phone locked, Privately searched things, chat messages with people, your bank account etc.
Do not LARP as if you ever had a relationship ever again.
Realize it doesnt matter and they just use it as a way to psycologically torment you
Cocklustfag
Then I answered your questioned.
If you don't trust your gf she isn't a very good gf and you're a bad bf
At what point in the post did I ever imply that I had a GF? Read the post properly before replying, newfag.
let me give you the healthiest and most realistic answer
>it's just as ok for the girl to have a lock as it is the man
>everybody keeps things that aren't necessarily relating to infidelity but are private, embarrassing, risque, etc, on one of their personal devices
>nobody likes their shit getting searched through
>nobody likes feeling or being watching with such scrutiny
>if you really can't trust somebody to the point of having to look through their things - you will NEVER be satisfied, something deep in you will constantly doubt your findings and search further
>you WILL cause a self-fulfilling prophecy if you keep hounding your partner about trust
>if you really don't trust somebody, cut them off, neither of you owe each other anything in the end
>it's not the end of the world to get cheated on, but it also is fucking gay - however that doesn't mean you have to be on your guard 24/7; never forget it as a possibility but don't let it control you or your happiness
now here's the extra goldpills
>you do not have to put up with anybody with a childish or shitty attitude
>you do not have to put up with a partner who wants to club or party all the time
>you do not have to put up with a partner with a high bodycount
>you do not have to put up with a partner that dresses provocatively in public
>you do not have to put up with a partner who guards themselves from you or gives you reasons to rationally question them
>for all of these standards - you can equally not be put up with by somebody else - whose standards you do not fit yourself
if you love somebody and they love you, and you sit down in a civil manner and discuss your problems, then things can be fixed, if not, then something is amiss and it's time to move on
maintain your DIGNITY, my fellow kangz, not your RELATIONSHIP STATUS, never, ever, ever be afraid to break up with somebody if that means protecting your own standards and your own sensibilities, it WILL pay off
>getting a GF in the first place to even worry about
I dunno, if I get a gf I think it may be good to allow us access to eachother's stuff, maybe it would keep us both in check.
Of course I have things I don't want her seeing now, so I'd delete them. And perhaps she'd do the same.
>if you really can't trust somebody to the point of having to look through their things -
How about having free access to their stuff leads to not looking at all? If they can't hide anything then there's no reason to look, you can still respect eachother and not do snooping even though you have the capability.
Then if you do have very good reason to look and they object to it, you know something may be up.
I just think it might be a good thing as long as both agree to it early on.
Yes. Without question. z9d.
My ex was exchanging nudes with at least 2 close mates of mine when we were together so I'm now gonna be so fucking wary of bullshit like shit like this... I don't think I could ever trust anyone again because I don't like to pry and I like to trust but I can't, and I refuse to check up... so fuck it... alone it is.
Nah I fell for that shit before.
Girl was real touchy with her phone. Refused to let me even pick it up and move it out of my way let alone go through it.
Surprise she was cheating!
If a girl wont let you see her phone you fucking drop her immediately
I have a lock on my phone, what if it's stolen? I'd actually encourage her to do so as well. I'm sure most people have conversations and things they'd prefer to keep private anyways. There's no benefit from getting worked up over what might be on her phone. If you're really concerned about it then break up with her. Being in a relationship is always a gamble. You can't make it work if you don't trust. Just don't trust too much and never care too much either.
Yes, because I have a lock on my phone, which is staying there regardless of what she says
You are correct, this is a faggot tourist who can't even tripfag, probably was rejected and pushed out of /soc/.
My boyfriend acts like this
I'm nervous but I try to give the benefit of the doubt
Guess what hes cheating or has some really degenerate secrets.
these days, no.
females pretty much live on their phones.
lets be honest everyone wants privacy, she is your gf not wife, she can have private chats with her friends or family or stuff she dont feel comftable you knowing or showing you
You have to lock your phones in case of losing them or it being stolen. Lots of people have account information on there for banks and such, the lock gives you a chance to secure them in case of loss or theft.
Nigga normies have locks on their phone because people keep important information and if they leave it open they can get hacked cause they put all their passwords n shit in their notes app, you know?
highest quality practical post I have seen on this board in a long time
in the two relationships i've ever been in (both when i was in high school or college)
the first time around i just let her look at my phone like a beta.
she ended up cheating and i dropped her
second time around i made it clear that trust goes both ways and it worked pretty well, I added her fingerprint to my phone and she did the same.
relationship lasted exactly 8 months and 14 days until we realized that we were literally polar opposites
I wouldn't mind unless she also doesn't want me to have a lock on my phone. People are people and entitled to privacy
If you won't let her lock it then you already don't trust her and what kind of relationship is that, worrying about her and just waiting for the day she leaves you
Right, I have to give up all my photos, data, apps, etc. to any random mother fucker who picks up my phone, relinquishing all security, just because my girlfriend feels personally offended that I choose to touch a fingerprint sensor to unlock my phone?
How cucked can you be?
I've got a password on my phone. I wouldn't mind one on hers
I'm of the opinion that you should know each others passwords for everything if you're in a commited relationship.
But two of my friends have been dating for over 8 years know and don't know each others passwords and i'm pretty sure neither of them has cheated.
If you're serious and uncomfortable with them having passwords then either tell them straight up or consider seeing other people.
Suspicion is never good in relationships.
Texts and facebook messages can easily be deleted. Just trust her unless she gives you a reason not to.
Yes, privacy is very important in a relationship. That means she can't see my stuff either tho, shit goes both ways. In all honesty I wouldn't look at her stuff even if she was fine with it because I don't want ANYONE looking at my phone/pC.
Is she actually fucking a guy in this situation? My girlfriend would be paranoid because I'm not going to date someone moronic and nobody intelligent isn't paranoid.