This is something that has been in my head quite a bit lately.
I'm in my late thirties and a kissless wizard, have no friends and never really done anything in my life other than getting a degree, work and a few solo trips (which were invariably boring). I also have no social media.
In the unlikely event that tomorrow I had the courage to go out and meet people and actually be successful (other than a few pathetic attempts on Tinder I really haven't even tried), what could I possibly say to explain my history? If I go on a date with a girl she is going to want to know about my social group, hobbies, link-up on facebook, if things move forward the subject of past relations is certainly going to come up. If I tell the truth, it's almost certain she will find me a creep and run away. Even with normal friends this would be hard to explain.
Moving to another city and claim I haven't had time to meet anybody might help, but still a lot of things would be hard to explain (and that's not counting that I'd have to get a job in another city or country which would be extremely difficult for me).
Have you, or anybody you know, been successful in turning your life around as a social outcast past the age of 30 or even 25?
Is it possible to stop being a robot and have a normal life past a certain age?
i'm in my early forties and things are looking terrible for me, user. i used to have hope. i don't even have that anymore. 40 is the magic number. do it before you turn 40.
sure if you like, get really rich/a life changing surgery/really rich/find a lot of money/kill someone and assume their identity
sure it can be done
(((normal life)))
Don't be such a fucking (pic related)
Best option is Grindr and be gay or realize you are possibly gay, give it shot
god i wish i could get a hologram AI gf like the one in that movie
I'm 28, and I already feel like it's too late for me.
Personally I feel like the cutoff is like at 25
I always assume most people here eventually moved on and had semi normal lives (there a reason us oldfags are few). They somehow manage it, there has to be away.. Ive actually thought that older groups (women or men) might be more emphatic about it
Dude they said the ps5 is doing to some crazy stuff. I hope the Japanese figure some good waifu shit.
As a anti social mess, this is my nly hope.
I was a NEET from 18-23. 25 Now and things have turned around compared to before but I'm not quite there yet. You really have to hold yourself accountable to grow. Sure, it matters whether other people let you in but you have to try to get in in the first place.
If you're worried about being seen as a creep because of social media, just tell her that you're into living outside of "the phone screen" or some fake deep shit. That and control the conversation, which I know is hard as someone also relatively inexperienced in social matters.
Funny thing is I have money. I've a good salary and since I don't do anything I end up saving most of it. Yet I've no Idea how to capitalize that.
I'm probably too old to have the chance, but some of the younger guys here might have the chance to have an Ana de Armas virtual gf.
Also start by getting a group of friends that you don't expect anything from. (I don't know how you'll get them, that's up to you) Once you get in with them tell them about your circumstances but no one else. Once you learn some social knowledge keep that shit in your back pocket but only for people you trust if you want to give it out.
I've only told maybe 5 people out of all that I met in the past 3 years of my life as a NEET.
>Personally I feel like the cutoff is like at 25
Damn right, you lose too much neuroplasticity after that point. You can't make any major changes to your mind anymore. Unless you're left handed or ambidextrous.
Social media, is a tiny part of it. If you are in your thirties, how could you possibly explain never been having a gf or even being on a date, or having no friends.
Still, I'm glad you are pushing through. You were just a NEET or were alone as well?
Are they committed suicide, or finally got kicked out of their parents house and became homeless
>Social media, is a tiny part of it. If you are in your thirties, how could you possibly explain never been having a gf or even being on a date, or having no friends.
See my post here I started out by finding friends, especially female friends that I only thought of as friends and went from there. I know it's harder to do as you're older but you're gonna have to go to some social clubs or unironically find some sort of social hobby or meetup. I know that's really faggoty advice but you should make some quick friends now and then just say something about leaving your old friends behind or having to move all the time.
About the lack of gf. No one really says anything to me because they assume I'm normal. I was asked for the first time last week if "you talk to your exes?" I kinda told the truth by just saying when I'm done with people I don't talk to them which wasn't a lie. It might be easier to mask in today's hookup culture that you havent had a gf. "Something something girls couldn't commit to me" blah blah
>You were just a NEET or were alone as well?
I was basically a hikki. No friends outside the internet. My only interactions were family or once in a while I'd see some old friends from high school by accident. My cat died and I could do nothing so I knew I needed to make a change.
Are you trying to imply that normie men in this day and age all get a 1950s housewife? That pic is from a movie, man.
I'm trying to imply that I'd really like a 1950's housewife, specially if she looked like Ana de Armas. This day and age its almost impossible, as practically everyone here is aware.
I've thought of group activities (hiking, which is something I sometimes do alone), but never really followed through. You are probable right that is practically the only way to meet people if you are out of school and are not changing jobs, still it's not something I'm particularly confortable with.
Funny how her name is Joi.
>still it's not something I'm particularly confortable with.
That's our problem: staying within our comfort zone. If we're comfortable we won't change. You gotta do what makes you feel uncomfortable, fampai.
HRT will help you with your issues.
Kill yourself, unironically and originally.
>I'm trying to imply that I'd really like a 1950's housewife, specially if she looked like Ana de Armas. This day and age its almost impossible, as practically everyone here is aware.
Remember to let her lock you in chastity.
What's the matter, do you hate gays and traps?
I don't want to become one and that would not help anyone's problems here, in this specific thread.
>I don't want to become one and that would not help anyone's problems here, in this specific thread.
Funny memez lawl
>If I go on a date with a girl she is going to want to know about my social group, hobbies, link-up on facebook, if things move forward the subject of past relations is certainly going to come up.
let her talk.. be that mysterious fun guy who likes to do fun things but don't talk much. Girls love that shit
>let her talk.. be that mysterious fun guy who likes to do fun things but don't talk much. Girls love that shit
Sounds pretty autistic user, or am I just another NPC?
What does handedness has to do with neuroplasticity?
talk to your real female friends regarding that and they'll tell you that's the way.
Females when first meet you makeup this elaborate character of what you are in their heads. You start of as Statue of David based on all those stupid programming shit they've been fed all their lives and with each stupid (truth) thing you reveal about yourself you chisel a piece of rock onto that David until you're just a lump of rock and they are bored with you and move on to next "chad". Let them make assumptions of what you are in their heads and live in that fantasy, be vague about your answers.
I'll keep it mind, however, while that may work on a date, eventually you'll have to give actual information. Also, actually playing the mysterious, fun guy (and also confident, I guess) seems like a pretty tall order for me and most people here.
>your real female friends
We're on Jow Forums for god's sake. I'm just another incel autist. That is too much man.
by that time you've already fucked her and she is not emotionally attached to you, enjoy fucking her every way possible until she gets bored or you get bored and about 2 years later relationship ends.
Do you have any interests or hobbies? Why not meet people with the same interests in a club?
Let's say I do manage to screw her. Is it reasonably to expect that just due to "attachment" she'll remain attracted even after realizing I'm a loser with no circle of friends?
The closest thing to a hobby in my case is hiking, but were I live It's only worth doing a few months a year (the rest of the year is to hot or too dry). Something I've considered is mountain biking, my boss does a lot of it so I could get in through him, but his group is mostly people in their 50s or late 40s.
>she'll remain attracted
>realize im a loser with no circle of friends
why does that matter? just fuck her and then ghost. women are worthless man. if you want companionship find some male friends or a dog. women are a set of 3 holes and nothing else