After four years of being a sole provider to my unemployed parents, my parents finally have a job. More specifically, my mom has a job now. It's in a city government in Prince Georges County, Maryland. It does not pay that much but it's more than enough to pay the rent and the basics without my help. If they need help paying the rent it would be for 100 or 200 dollars. So the good news is that they are not in danger of being homeless anymore, if they can get their first paycheck next month.
The bad news is that she won't get paid until later next month. Believe it or not I do have a case manager for my situation who actually suggested that I apply for a crisis grant. That happened when I told the manager that we got a cutoff notice for the water bill, and the water fund that is managed by the WSSC was depleted until 2 weeks after the cut-off date. She told us that if I pay the water bill, she will help me pay the rent.
We tried to get it for two months, but the process is taking a long time to complete. So we are actually behind in paying the rent by 15 days. I do check back periodically though but the it does not speed up the process.
I've also applied for Social Security Disability, but it will take me 3 months to get approved. And there's a good chance I will get denied anyway and forced to appeal, even if I give them documentation, so it could be extended for a year.
My parents finally got a job after four years unemployment
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There is a job opportunity with Amazon with AWS I've been working on for weeks, but it's stuck in recruiter hell. So deep in recruiter hell that even the person in HR who tried scheduling in another unrelated job with Amazon for a Linux Systems Engineer can't reach the recruiter at all, so she is actively avoiding me and the HR person.
Today marks one year of unemployment from my tech job at the USPTO as a federal contractor. If I was not laid off and I was not screwed and dicked around by people that were supposed to help me and do their jobs from this date: recruiters, hiring managers, people who I networked with, even a startup manager. I would be looking forward to move out from my parents
I would be still have Verizon FiOS and would plan to restart my streaming plans. I would be looking forward to MAGFest and Katsucon. I would be looking forward to visiting NYC again. I would look forward to having my own place and be in control of my own life.
But sadly the damage has been done. Three of my credit cards are in default, and 4th already on it's way to defaulting. 5 months behind renewing my unemployment deferment papers for student loans. I get phone calls from credit cards, and from Verizon regarding their bills on a weekly sometimes daily basis. Also I have to work with barely any money coming my way.
And even then all the opportunities I could have taken: socially, economically, and relationship wise are closed. for the 4 years I've been forced to support my parents, I was not able to achieve any life milestones that most people take for granted. At this point it's irreversible because once you're 30, no matter how many times they insist that it's not true, you're not wanted. American society does not want people who didn't fullfill The Lifescript for any reason, even if it's outside of their control to participate in it.
Thanks for sharing and good luck
At this point my credit has been completely shot and will take YEARS to recover if I can get a full time job. Instead, I'm stuck at a Temp Warehouse job, it's on call so even though I'm scheduled monday via friday there are times that there's no work so I have to stay home. So in practice a 1400 dollar monthly paycheck is actually around 1000 dollars. The social security office actually told me I have to work part time, effectiely 1,100 dollars a month in order to be eligible for social security (SSI/SSDI). Since my temp job pays 11.50 per hour, going to work everyday they call me in will cause me not to be eligible. Essentially I can only work 9 to 10 days per month to be under the 1,100 dollar limit.
If GOP or Dems win the midterms, it will make matters worse either way. The amount of vote shaming and job shaming will just push me to even stop working entirely, give up working or having a life, and just be a shut-in for my mental health. The thought of doing so kept coming to me It would be a lot easier to do so if I had the money to do so, but I don't.
I'm right now suffering from cognitive issues along with worsening speech impairment, fatigue, and other health issues because my mind has been on financial and emotional survival mode for years. I've been suffering from this for years. It was even difficult to deflect or avoid confrontation with my parents when they ask for small amounts of money per week or ask me to buy stuff that I can't actually afford, it takes a lot of energy to do so. So at the same time I feel numb, completely numb. I'm unable to feel happy about the fact that my mom has a job. Even as I did express genuine congratulations to her, at the same time I was showing and giving mianzi or face to them. My parents life is looking up now, but mine is practically dead, more so with the slow collapse of socio-economics in this country which makes it difficult for people who don't have guanxi or already in the society to move up or maintain their lives.
A lot of people will see me as a good man,noble,great man for helping, but these same people will not help me on my feet either since I'm done financially caretaking, because they don't actually about what I went through or my parents at all. For the past four years I've been seeking help and explaining my situation, I learned that almost basically take things that are ruined for me for granted. Everything. So much that I'm practically alienated from american society, pushed away from it, and I don't belong at all and I can't relate to people at all who don't have to deal with the same situation I had to four years.
The only people I can relate to for all intents and purposes are caretakers who after their parents died from illness are unemplyoable, impoverished, and alienated from society, and anime convention goers. No seriously, anime conventions are the last places for me on the outside society so to speak, because everything else has been politicized, cliqued up, or closed for those who are outside The Lifescript. For me it's the only escape from a world gone politically insane since November 2016.
If my parents got this job when I still emplyoed or if I had a job with any job with a decent wage, I would be celebrating. But I'm not. The only thing I can do is just tell my story and ask for help, and just exist so other people won't be upset.
nice blogpost but i can't help you
i was at otakon this year though, wanna talk about that
Do your parents have any major medical issues or disability?
No. They couldn't get a job anywhere in their area because no employer wants to hire anyone over 50. Not even the local walmart, mcdonalds, or dollar store would.
Age discrimination for people over 50 is rampant.
Fine.
So yeah I did went to Otakon 2018. Took plenty of photos and videos, some of them are on YouTube. Especially this group of Cells at Work cosplayers.
I didn't know this was tumblr
I meant to say Age discrimination against people over 50 is rampant.
God I can't think straight anymore. What is wrong with me
CaW cosplayers felt cheap to me. There are entire hordes of them. Oh well.
Were you cosplaying as anything? Any cool finds in Dealers/Artists/Gaming?
It isn't discrimination. It's basic common sense that a 50 year old person with years of unemployment comes into your dollar store or mcdonalds for a job, there's something wrong with them. Nobody with proven gainful employment record tries to work entry level mcdonalds or some shit. It's toxic. I suspect bullshit, your parents were likely scumbags and you are in denial about it.
businesses go under or are relocated or bought out
hence people get unemployed
if you don't have any higher education, then there aren't many jobs you can apply for
if a 50 year old dindu woman applied there, you wouldn't blink an eye
but if it is whites, then you think they are white trash/criminals/complete junkies
just think about that for a sec
I'm not going to Justify Argue Defend or Explain further why my parents could not get jobs for the past four years. All I can tell you is that they done everything they could.
Further more, the days where you can get any job by just walking into a employers office are long gone.
I was cosplaying a Black Rick Sanchez on Saturday.
I didn't bought any thing much. Just manga and a Dog Hat.
As for gaming, there was a game called Scot-to. It's very similar to beer bong except with paddles around the actual funnel. You bounce the ball on the pad in front of you and towards the funnel to score points. There was also a Resident Evil 6 PachinkoSlot Machine as well.
Yeah, I haven't seen you. Sad.
Tokyo Attack got their hands on that one right before the con. My friend (who isn't into arcade games as me) liked it as well. Apparently got the top score on it by the end of the con. Haven't verified. I was kinda disappointed that most of the rhythm game cabs weren't running on any kind of server. Still played a lot of Sound Voltex since the lines typically the lines for it dissipated quickly.
Are you a DC/DMV local? Any hopes of going to Otakon 2019?
I also wore a One Piece's Chopper Hat with a Psycho-Pass Raid jacket (MWPSB Police Jacket) on Friday and Sunday.
None of the rhythm game cabs are running on any kind of server because Konami has blocked anyone from a IP outside of Japan from connecting and has placed C and D's on anyone running a emulated server.
I am a DC/DMV local.
Any hopes of going to Otakon 2019? Unless a miracle happens soon it's going to be never.
Your parents are white, elderly and have no assets or anything to show for themselves. You are right, that is exactly what it is. Nobody wants to say it and everyone knows it. Everyone knows that in an equal playing field, blacks will always consistently underperform. A 50 year old nigger bitch applying to your mcdonalds is less of a liability than a 20 year old nigger and you better hire at least one nigger if you don't want Schlomo to put you in the breadline. You are doing exactly what they hate and abuse you for by helping your parents, you are taking the hits, trying to make things work, you live in fear, you follow the rules, you take the beating. And you will work harder and get screwed, and the niggers will naturally fill the prisons you are forced to pay for.
Schlomo charges us 70,000 dollars on average for every spic and nigger he can imprison. What would your SSI be? Lol, you'd be lucky to get even a penny and thats after you have to work for your handout.
My parents are actually Black-American, and I'm Black-American as well. And even then they could not get a job at Mcdonalds.
Still doesn't ring a bell. I have awful memory, though. I didn't really talk to anyone at the con, so it's not as if I'm just forgetting you. Given that I can typically afford one con per year, it still makes me sad that I don't use it as an opportunity to make friends. It's nice that I got to talk to some artists and people in gaming room lines, but it still made me feel a bit melancholic. Still had a blast overall, so I don't mind.
Doesn't really matter. Tokyo Attack just doesn't want to run any bootleg servers on cons. Snow Phoenix always does, though. Konami hasn't handed out a major c&d since psun. I understand why they don't do it, but still sucks. I gave up on playing IIDX at the con because of it. Whatever.
I only went to this year's Otakon through some coincidences. Thankfully, I don't have to deal with any extra fees besides the pass and the transportation now. Pretty cool. Haven't had much time to check out the area since moving, though.
I remember some people with Jow Forums patches, but not these lads. However, I do remember the HK.
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Go to any of my recent videos and go to my Discord link.
As a matter of fact, let me make it easier for you: Here's a video of me taking photos and vids for 30 minutes: youtube.com
joined, though i probably will bail since i don't like using discord
will check out the videos, interesting. maybe ill even spot myself somewhere.
You ended up on the wrong side of the bell curve then. Sorry about that. Welcome to nightmare mode.