>early June my 30 year old sister is found unconscious in her flat, blue lighted all the way to hospital, codes along the way >it's grade IV glioblastoma multiforme, the most aggressive form of brain cancer >prognosis is that she won't make it to Christmas >her condition has suddenly deteriorated out of nowhere so I take a leave of absence from work so I can move into the flat she's been allocated to die in and help take care of her >she has 4 siblings including myself but it's only me and my mother that's trying to help, every single one of them is just off acting like nothing's happening and living their lives as normal >everyday I get up early to make her breakfast, feed her her meds, take her to bathroom, lift her off the toilet, help her wipe, help bathe her, help put her bra on and clothe her >her 4 year old son is having a hard time understanding why his mummy can no longer play with him and take him out places anymore, just have to keep telling him that his mummy's head is poorly >he keeps trying to kiss her head better for her >couple of nights earlier I'm on the fringe of falling into sweet blissful sleep when I'm suddenly jolted awake by a crash >she's lying on the floor of the bathroom in a puddle of her own piss >if I hadn't woken up she would have lain their until morning >wake up at 7:00 this morning, go into the bathroom and find the place covered in blood >"OH FUCK DID MY SISTER SNEAK PAST ME IN THE NIGHT AND FALL TRYING TO GO TO THE BATHROOM" >nope, apparently terminally ill people still menstruate >she's going blind in one eye now >last night, just put my sister to bed, climbing into bed myself to catch some Z's before she inevitably wakes up in an hour and I have to help her go bathroom >she's listening to videos on YouTube >how to beat brain cancer with ketogenic diets >use my pillow to muffle my sobs so she doesn't hear
I realise now that with cancer what it makes it shit isn't the death part, it's everything inbetween.
>IV glioblastoma multiforme She'll die soon and It won't be pretty until then I'm afraid. >I realise now that with cancer what it makes it shit isn't the death part, it's everything inbetween. Read a bunch of shit on exactly that, brain tumors in particular...for reasons. You're in for one shit show that I wouldn't wish on anyone.
im sorry op. get her high on weed. i know it sounds lame. best wishes to your sister and your family.
Ryder Diaz
I'm so sorry. Two people very close to me, my sister and father both died of cancer and it was terrible. I never went through what you are going through, but it was rough. My mother and I took care of my father and sometimes it was bad. You are an exceptional person for taking care of your sister, bless you. Some day you will be able to look back on all this and see it for the pivotal life experience it is. You will know that you were there for her.
Asher Perry
Life is cruel man... the best you can do is to make her last months as enjoyable as you can. Isolate yourself from those "siblings" of yours and never speak to them again after it's all over.
Too bad those of us clinically depressed can't just give our lives to those who actually want to go on. Maybe someday
Juan Davis
I'm really sorry, OP. She is lucky to have you there, and you're lucky to be with her now despite everything. You will be glad you spent this time together. Stay strong. We all die. We all come and go, and we go to the same place. Sending my positive energy, whatever it's worth. This also.
Isaac Wright
My father died of the same thing. Yeah, it was rough taking care of him. I'm sorry user. You're a really good brother to her.
Jayden Mitchell
Good luck OP. I pray God gives you the strength to get through his and ease her passing.
What's the plan with the boy? I take it his father's not on the scene?
Isaiah Hernandez
OP you nearly got me crying. cancer is the worst I'm sorry to hear this story. I wish it weren't true but I know this world is the fucking worst.
Ethan Smith
Oh we're aware that's it only going to get worse. Somehow. :(
Nah it doesn't sound lame, it's good advice. She's actually taking CBD oil for the pain (and potential medicinal properties), so most nights I send her off to bed with her morphine, her diazepam, a mouthful of CBD oil, and if she's lucky she'll get a glass of wine to wash it down.
Probably not a good idea to let her have alcohol, but she asks for it and it's not like I'm going to turn a dying woman down. As she already put it to me the other night "if I die then it's a better way to go than what's waiting for me".
Thomas Diaz
>she's listening to videos on YouTube >how to beat brain cancer with ketogenic diets Fuck this made me cry
Camden Lee
I'm sorry about what's happening to you OP, I hope things will get better for you
Jayden Barnes
I'm so sorry OP, you're a good bro ;(
Alexander Rogers
Sorry to hear that bro. Had a cancer scare myself recently, made me think about just how fucking horrible it would be. Wish there was something I could say that would help.
Christian Bailey
I'm numb and can barely feel emotions nowadays but I'm crying, what a nightmare. That poor kid. Stay strong.
Colton Hernandez
I wish you the best op. I can't even begin to imagine how hard this is on you.
Luis Price
Sorry I can't reply more personally because I'm a filthy phoneposter whilst I'm taking care of her, but I'm reading every post and just wanted to let you know how much it means to me that you're willing to take time out of your day to reply to and console me. Honestly tonight I just felt exceptionally worn out and really badly needed to vent, so thanks for listening.
Fuck, I can't empathise how badly I wish I could reach back in time and change things for you now knowing how bad it is.
If you're still around, I don't suppose it'd be too much to ask how it ended for your dad? I just feel like I need to know how much worse it's going to get, so I can prepare.
Father's a cunt who's legally not allowed contact with him. When my sister got pregnant by him was at a time in her life where she'd gone completely off the rails and acting way, way out of character. For years we all thought she was schizophrenic or had BPD, or at least that's what doctors assured us of whenever she was hospitalised numerous times for things like alcohol and drug OD's and all other manner of crazy shit.
Turns out nobody ever fucking bothered to give her an MRI. It was the fucking tumour this entire time, on her left frontal lobe, exactly the part of the brain that affects personality, cognition and decision making.
My mum is raising my nephew now, but she's 54 now so I've honestly no idea what's going to happen in his future. Whatever does happen, I'll step up if I have to. I always promised that'd I'd never have kids, but I'll do it for him because it's a damn miracle that such a sweet, kind, intelligent and conscientious kid was born from such a fucked up situation.
Alexander Parker
Why not just buy a gun and put a bullet in her brain? She's gonna die anyway, might as well save yourself the trouble. She's pretty selfish for not doing it herself and burdening her family (on top of the huge burden that will be raising her bastard son), but I guess you can take one for the team and do it.
Carter Phillips
Where is her husband?!
Parker Thomas
>Turns out nobody ever fucking bothered to give her an MRI. It was the fucking tumour this entire time, on her left frontal lobe, exactly the part of the brain that affects personality, cognition and decision making. Or she was just a typical fickle amoral piece of shit like every other woman and she got the tumor later on. Just because she's dying doesn't make her a saint.
Ryder Sanchez
watch your edge dude
Connor Rodriguez
Watch your sister pal
Justin Williams
jesus christ who shat in your cornflakes? she has a kid, doesn't he deserve to have his mom around for as long as possible?
Kayden Harris
This post messed me up. Now imagine someone lying to you and pretending that they have this type of cancer and are suffering intensely from it, and that person being the one you love the most.
Jaxson Sullivan
Yes, I'm sure letting the kid watch his mom die a long and painful death is worth the treatment cost and mental drain.
Jace Fisher
Yeah and suicide would be a much better option for mental health. Fuck off retard you obviously have never had to deal with anything.
Cooper Lewis
No, her oncologist said that she's had the gene since birth and was that this was an inevitable fate for her and that nothing could have prevented this.
After examining what they initially removed of the tumour he was able to estimate that the tumour had been developing for approx. 5 years, which is actually precisely how long ago she began acting out of character. The night she nearly died the tumour had reached a point that it had grown so large it was about to rupture her brain and skull.
Daniel Johnson
>FUCK OFF STOP DROPPING TRUTH BOMBS I DON'T HEAR YOU REEEEEEE No :^)
Josiah Phillips
>truth bombs
Stupid and delusional I see.
Dylan Baker
Shut up you dumb bitch. OP said she started acting out of character suddenly, it makes sense it would be because of the tumour.
You're so emotional and obsessed you need to connect your hate with every single women on the earth no matter who she is or her situation
Nicholas Roberts
Insulting me won't save your sister, if you think your time is worth that little then be my guest.
Thomas James
>Shut up you dumb bitch. OP said she started acting out of character suddenly Yeah, that's generally what happens with women, are you still very young?
Ayden Hughes
I'm not OP retard, just calling you out on your childish bullshit.
Jaxson Parker
>A 25 year old woman suddenly going off the rails and doing hardcore drugs and shit
No this is not common, except if you grew up in some ghetto shithole then I feel sorry for you. Most of the addicts and terrible decision makers are men than women anyway, yet I'm not a retard like you claiming every man is a drug addicted wreck
Carson Martin
>Yeah, that's generally what happens with women, are you still very young? [citation needed]
You must not be very familiar with women, user.
Wyatt Williams
Stop acting like your stupid retarded oneitis and hundreds of "rejections" mean you have experience in this field. You've never loved or been loved.
Benjamin Hill
Just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's bullshit, euthanasia is legal in many first world countries >I'm not OP retard >He's actually whiteknighting on Jow Forums Try working on those traumas instead of getting triggered at anonymous posts
Samuel Perry
The way people change with this sort of cancer can be more traumatizing than anything else. I'd kill myself as long as I still able to.
Leo Peterson
No, he's not whiteknighting if he is just defending his dying sister from an insensitive dickless faggot. Christ you're dense i'm so glad you're going to die alone.
Zachary James
Stop writing this, you are illiterate and have a pail for a head.
Christian Gray
>he's not whiteknighting if he is just defending his dying sister from an insensitive dickless faggot. Yeah, she would have totally died if these random words on a shithole website reached her ears, what a hero. >i'm so glad you're going to die alone. Even if that were the case I'll still live longer than your sister :^)
Jason Sanders
What's there to be sensitive about? Dumb whore ruined some poor guy's life and the kid's life and now she's dying, tough shit, people die, if it was a decent person maybe it would be worth crying over, but as it is, what's the point?
Kayden Ward
im so fucking sorry user, i just went through the same thing with my dad throughout March to September, and i'd never wish this sort of experience to anyone, even if it's the scum of the earth.
im so sorry OP. im so sorry.
Parker Kelly
>her 4 year old son is having a hard time understanding why his mummy can no longer play with him and take him out places anymore, just have to keep telling him that his mummy's head is poorly >he keeps trying to kiss her head better for her
No, its raining alright. Srsly tho OP, i wish genuinly wish you strength and best of luck and hope you can get through it. Dont hate your siblings for not being there
Alexander Bell
OP here and no it's not. Before this my sister had a job at an accountants (she's like a total math savant), was learning to drive, had her own flat. She really had her shit together, and in the span of less than a year she had lost her job, lost her flat, had quit learning to drive, was on benefits, has begun abusing drugs and alcohol, blowing up credit cards with debt, and hanging around a lot of unsavoury people. I cannot begin to communicate how extreme a change it was, which is why everybody's initial thoughts were that it was the onset of some sort of mental illness.
Aiden Foster
>he's >your You'll be illiterate for a long time.
Christopher Anderson
>job at an accountants >math savant Top kek, this is what brainlets actually think.
James Cook
Yeah I've seen that Dr House episode too.
Thomas Thompson
fuck yourself you limpdicked thinwristed faggot
why dont you shoot up your school while youre at it, i hear 9th grade's tough nowadays
Connor Russell
You're a good man user. I doubt i'd be strong enough to do any of this and I'd be like the other siblings. I hope there are still positive moments in your time together, and I sincerely hope you can find peace and fulfillment in your life following it.
Tons of edgelords floating around, but you seem like you're not trolling. They're just people that heard Jow Forums.org/b/ was REALLY edgy in 2012 and showed up a few years ago
>I-it's not me I swear Hey bro I think your sis just fell off the toilet, should go clean the mess don't you think?
Luis Richardson
>no husband she deserves it for being a roastie slut
Grayson James
Thanks man, it actually really does mean a lot. Really hard thing right is that because I'm 27 I don't really know anybody in my peer group that's experienced this yet so I have nobody to talk to about it. I know it sounds stupid, but knowing there are people out there who really, really do understand helps a lot. I just wish it had been different, for both of us.
Ethan Perry
Somebody else that I spoke to online about this told me that there was an episode of House that covered an identical scenario. Was the tumour also GBM/terminal? I might have to give it a watch.
Landon Jones
I understand just fine, had my mom go through 10 years of similar shit, dad through 6 years of similar shit, and guess what, you're just being a whiny faggot.
William Turner
>Where is her husband?! OP's sister is probably a single mom.
Nah, just came here to vent and get all of the negativity out into the open. I don't really care if you feel bad about my situation. Honestly I was an edgelord just like you when I was younger so I can hardly blame you for your callous attitude.
Word from the wise though, one day you're going to be put into a situation that finally makes you understand, just like I do now, and it's going to be hell, just as it is for me now. Good luck user.
Adrian Turner
>one day you're going to be put into a situation that finally makes you understand, just like I do now, and it's going to be hell I'll try not to make retarded posts on Jow Forums when the time comes, I hope I can succeed where you failed friend.
Grayson Ramirez
>one day you're going to be put into a situation that finally makes you understand, just like I do now, and it's going to be hell. I don't have anyone, just myself, so it won't happen.
Be strong user. You have to stand like a mountain rigid and robust. Even a single crack will break you to pieces. I couldn't relate a 100% with your situation but as much as I can, I'll pray for you and you're family.
Aaron Mitchell
Might as well kill yourself and end the whatever bleak existence that your family has left on this planet, user. It's a win-win situation.
Justin Campbell
this is so horrible OP. wish her the best.
Juan Hill
Oh, you don't need to be shy, commander. You know what? I'll just show you the objective thatyou need to capture. As you can see, the objective is really nice. Bring Her to me, and we shall gangbang Her.
OP, you're a good person for doing this for her. Your siblings are all shitheads for abandoning her and you in your time of need.
Stay strong, dude. Once she passes you'll be glad you stuck with her until the end. If you bail now or cop out, it will haunt you until the day you die.
>You must not be very familiar with women, user. You are on fucking Jow Forums, why would anyone be familiar with women? Oh, could it be...are you a normalfag? THAT'S RIGHT. You won a ticket to Facebook/Reddit, the choice is yours.
Eli Cooper
The deterioration is the hardest part. I don't know where you live, but if you're in the states, you could look into whether or not you're in a state that allows death with dignity - which is what they call assisted suicide. I believe California, Colorado, Washington DC, Montana, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington all have it. But the person would have to be capable of administering it themselves, so it would have to be done before they completely deteriorate.
Matthew Morgan
Fuck man I'm so sorry I want you to know I'm praying for you and your family I really hate reading stuff like this because it makes me feel guilty for being depressed and suicidal when there are people who clearly have it worse than me
Logan Lopez
This is a /ck/ meme
Ethan Collins
You're a good brother. I wish I had a sister, even if she ended up like yours. I had to take care of my mom for about a year while she was mentally unstable and would do a lot of crazy shit. People in public would be scared by her or sympathetic to me. That hurt the most, when people told me I was a good son, I nearly broken down crying.
Benjamin Cox
You don't know that they're shitheads. Not everyone can just drop everything in their life at a moments notice.
Juan Diaz
is she hot? does the cancer make her all skiunny and shit or does she still have some meat on her bones
Lucas Foster
That's fucked up op. I'm not sure what to say other than stay strong and try to lay to rest any stuff you've yet to resolve between you and your sister and spend what time you have left with her well. Best of luck to you with whats to come
