Long Distance Relationships

I live in America, my gf lives in Japan.
She is planning to move to America to marry me someday.

YAY!!!! This is what I want to hear. I wish you both every happiness. It's SO hard loving someone and not being able to hold them everyday. Thanks for posting!
Lmao for real. Not all women are horrible dude. Like I said it took a long time to find someone special. But everything worth doing comes with risk and responsibility. I would walk your dogs for you and look after them user. I love puppies but I am probably a random psychotic nutjob.

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No youre just a fucking pussy whipped beta faggot who clings to any pussy thrown at them as if its the motherfucking arc of the covenant.

Anyways enjoy being ghosted and crying wondering what you did wrong or whatever dumb shit.

Love is about trust. And if you can trust them to be loyal and love you back then by all means go for a long distance relationship. Realistically you do want to video chat them and message them often. Always be on toes but not to where you are suspicious of them you know?
It can work, wish you the best.

Just lovely. Thank you. Yes I believe in her. We're kinda older so I think it could work.
Pure r9k. Thanks for the lols dude. I don't think you will find many pussy whipped beta faggots here. I know what you mean though. It could all fuck up. And if it does it does. Nothing more pussy than never trying buddy.

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>She's a little bit old for sucking off Chad
No one's too old for young Chad cock

If she does then I will accept it. There's a paradox if you love someone and they want something apart from you. You can't really not want them to be happy even if it means you lose out.
I'm really sorry you got hurt. Sounds bad. I hope you keep trying. If life taught me anything you can't give up. Sometimes you try your best and it is never gonna be good enough.

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>We're kinda older so I think it could work.
How old?

>had ldr for 3 months
>last weeks she even sent nudes
>suddenly ignored whole weekend
>tell me I don't know when to chill and ghosts me

Never LDR again. It's all fun and games until she runs into a guy she likes and is actually physically there to do shit with.

I'm a Europoor and my boyfriend is an Amerifat and it can work. However you should plan to see each other as soon ad possible even if only to visit. It's not easy at times and sometimes I feel the need to cry but he always makes time for me, we talk everyday so it helps stave off the loneliness. We've already looked into a K1 Visa so we can live together as a couple.

Good luck user. I wish you both the very best

Older. Not the age to be out every weekend and fucking around. Let's put it that way.
One of the reasons I fell in love with her is her sincerity. She is a really lovely lady.

Long Term Relationships don't work. Anyone telling you otherwise is a victim of survivor bias (and often lying to themselves). Statistically, it's proven that they will lead to you being miserable, maybe even both of you. If your mental health isn't absolutely remarkable, you can only lose. We read about success stories because they are so rare, not because they are common.

That is amazing. I wish you all the best! You are funny as fuck too. I can see how he fell for you.
Sorry to hear that dude. I won't rule out the fact she might leave me. But I get to come home to my country and meet someone else. It's hard to explain to someone how much love you can feel for another human if you really connect. Like I said it took a LONG time to find her.

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You can only hope for the best user. It's better to be possibly hurt than never try at all. Obviously there is plenty of obstacles in an LDR however sometimes you find that certain person that you never want to be without. There is one thing i'll way though. If you are in an LDR always have a plan to meet up for even a few weeks somewhere in the near future. It helps dealing with the wait time.

What you're saying is irrational. You have a 99 % of getting hurt, and a 1 % chance of getting what you could get IRL instead. Would you get into a car that would have even a 50 % of crashing just so that you might get a slightly better job at the end of the trip?

You sound smart. But I gotta try =(
>It's better to be possibly hurt than never try at all
This is what I'm thinking. Good advice about meeting up. Except leaving her is going to be unbearable.
I would get in a car with her even I somehow knew we would die. It would be worth it to be with her for those moments.

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>Sorry to hear that dude. I won't rule out the fact she might leave me. But I get to come home to my country and meet someone else. It's hard to explain to someone how much love you can feel for another human if you really connect. Like I said it took a LONG time to find her.
Believe me, I loved her so much (part of me still does somehow). We had been talking a long time before that, but she made the step to make it into an actual "relationship". I was planning on visiting her when she suddenly did a mental 180. She also told me she'd be prepared to move to my country since she didn't have anything holding her where she currently lives.
I'm not sure if everything was a lie, or she took the easy way out with a local guy.
Safe to say it left me a broken man. Lost my appetite for weeks on end and got dangerously skinny. When I think of her now I still get sad.
She was not a 10/10 in looks, but her personality made me ignore any flaws. Yet she didn't give a shit in the end.

Hope things work out better for you OP.

You're saying yourself that leaving her will be unbearable. Grieve over her loss now that it's still time. Ahead of you lies a ton of anxiety for every ounce of good.

Fucking hell that is brutal. But you know how it is. You build that emotional level until you are so in love you can't even think. I can't back out now. I'm really sorry you got hurt But everything that made her love you is still there. So let the right girl into your heart and you can be happy again.
I was very VERY careful with this lady to make sure we were compatible on every level. Like I said it takes a LONG time but it's worth it. Don't give up dude. Never give up. You deserve to be loved and happy. But be honest. That's the hard bit. You gotta share your flaws and if you are seriously meant to be you accept each other.
I can't grieve her when we are still messaging and swapping pics. If I live with her and it goes wrong I will have gained some life experience and some happy memories. I've been VERY hurt in the past and I won't give up.

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It was pretty brutal yeah.. The hardest part may be that you're just left with a ton of questions that stay unanswered.
Actually I've been talking for months with a girl this year. Wishing each other good morning/night. Talked openly about many personal things. I visited her a few months back, had an amazing time together. A week after I came back she was suddenly busy busy and contact has been mediocre ever since.

I'm currently in my late 20s and not sure if I can trust women anymore when they can drop you just like that.

But let's hope you'll be writing a different story on r9k.

imagine believing that a girl will remain faithful in an ldr. you're literally a long-distance cuck.

I'm a little older than you brother. But you have a wise as fuck mind. I can't explain why that happened and she probably can't justify it. After a while you learn to live each day as it comes and if you had a few good times with her that is all you get sadly.
I'll give you my top five fun relationship experiences so you can have a laugh!
> 1 Dating cute teen girl. Ex used to literally beat her. Did everything for her. Went back to abusive BF.
> 2 In love with girl. Slept with my best friend and humiliated me in front of entire school.
> 3 Meet nice girl. Fall in love. Walk in one day and she is fucking someone else.
> 4 Friends with a girl for years. Fall in love. Ruins friendship. I will never get over losing her.
> 5 The zinger. Live with girl. She decides it's over and literally makes me homeless like it's nothing.

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I believe in her. I believe in her so much it could move mountains. Sorry you only have experiences with those type of women. They are not all the same. Do yourself a favor and find the right girl for you. There are some really sweet girls out there. They need you as much as you need them. So go at!

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Last right girl made damn sure to let me know she does not need ME.

It happens! Check my top 5. .
We're all human. With complex lives and complex brains. Sometimes shit just does not work out the way you want. You only lose if you stop trying.

I live with my ldr gf from Jow Forums

Ama i guess

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how did you meet both online and irl

Met on a board thats not Jow Forums i dont visit this place that much anyway. She came over at my place and she called work and school off

And not /soc/ or shit like that*

I'm in a 2.5 year ldr with a girl in the Philippines.
We've both visited each other twice for a few weeks each and I'm heading over there a third time in two weeks.
If you can find someone you can trust, it's great, but I can understand that without trust, this user will probably be proven right.

I hate being in one. I love her but it feels like every day is a grain of sand in the glass before she finds someone else. Nothing she does would imply this, it's just my insecurities running wild like always. Which makes me paranoid that I'm acting like I'm not invested.

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I'm with you, OP. I'm in the same spot, weirdly enough.

It won't work. Just enjoy it while it lasts.

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Forgot to mention that I had to wait 4 years, not 3. Not that you notice the difference.

lots of people ITT are talking about how they will fail when she gets bored and wants to fuck chad etc
but whats really a bummer is saving up enough money to visit her, only for her to end up not liking you as much as she did over the internet
at least I know exactly why it failed, but that was because she was telling it to my face as I got back on the plane home
that was not a good plane ride home bros

I'm sorry friend, that sounds rough.
At least she had the honour to tell you to your face and not just ghost you after the fact but still, I'm sorry to hear that.
Where was she from if you don't mind me asking?

No, I did something similar over a year ago and all I got was hurt

I live in the US and she lived in Scotland
I was a dumbass kid who hadn't been beat down by life yet so I was incredibly optimistic
Pretty much my first girlfriend too, besides the other one who I learned after the fact didn't even realize I was interested in her.
My life is trash and for every year I spent thinking that it might not be I get a year in return of everything being awful.

all women are like that, you delusional cuck

Try what, looking for another bored girl that already has a BF but is keen on getting some extra attention? While having to filter out the gayfags and their "I am totally a women" delusion?

I'm in the same boat bro(aside from the job part) if you need someone to symphatize and talk to i is here!

Lol what is this Love hina shit. She loves you, for now, but there are two major obstacles.
>Meets Chad while you're away
If Chinese Brad Pitt or bill gates walks up and propositions her I hope you're ready to raise another man's child. If she's hot enough they will ask and she will jump
>She loves the idea of you at a distance, but the reality will disappoint her
Imagine moving all the way there only for her to feel meh about seeing you in person every day.

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>LDR
You have got to be the stupidest retard on earth to consider this.

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haha this. LDRs are based off of fantasy, and not reality.

Yeah man. It's so hard when you've been raised with the notion of being nice to women, treat them well, etc. But it's clear that women say they want A, but then choose B. Unfortunately I cannot change my personality to treating people like shit, so maybe being alone without falling in love is better. I wish I could stop being attracted to women.

>willing to die for her
>has never met in person
Sure yes this is not mentally ill, nope not at all.
To add in a more constructive fashion to what the other user arguing the 99% failure rate (which I would say is damn near accurate) physical presence is a massive requirement of a relationship. Consider for example military wives and how very, very often they cheat: because the man is not there and someone else is. That risk will only increase exponentially if you have literally never met. Bottom line this is a bad idea, you can be nearly certain it will fail, because she will meet someone in person (wether trying or not) who will pursue her and then you will be back here posting about exit bags. Cut your losses before you sink years into the cuckening user. You can meet girls IRL i promise.

Hahahaha trusting some jungle gook. You are the ultimate cuck. She has at least 5 other ((LDR)) guys she meets and is grooming to choose the best one.