Are you afraid of love and intimacy? where does it come from and do you have a plan to resolve it

I fall love much too early, and too strongly. Often by the time they reach that same level Im totally over them. It makes me feel disgusted with myself and guilty for putting them through that.

Not really a fear. More like I don't see myself doing something like the sex, being a 28yo virgin. When I talk to women, sometimes my mind wanders off and thinks "imagine you were to have sex with her right now". For some reason I can't phantom the thought. Sex is something that happens in movies and something other people do. Not me.

It's like being afraid of sharks in a landlocked country.

>Often by the time they reach that same level Im totally over them
i'm really curious about your situation. do you get into relationships like this or is this just a pining thing

Same here. I see no solution., .

i feel like i'd just push them away somehow with my own lack of confidence that i can be what they deserve

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Actual relationships. I wish I was able to pace myself. I know love isnt some limited resource that can be used up, but that could still potentially help.

I'm afraid of making the person suffer.

i'm afraid of this as well

why do i know that op is either a woman or an extremely effeminate male?

I don't think there's anyone outside my family capable of loving me, therefore I'm terrified of the thought of it happening. Just doing anything romantic makes me uneasy, it feels like missing a tutorial and trying to wing it.

>why do i know that op is either a woman or an extremely effeminate male?
well this is r9k. it has to be one of those things

I'm afraid that I'll be exposed as a terrible person
I have no friends and I don't know how to talk to women. Fembots and women on here and on Twitter and various other shitholes say that people like me are terrible people.
I think they're right. If they weren't, why don't I have any friends? Why can't I talk to people? Why don't I have a girlfriend?

I wish a woman would give me a chance. I just want to make one happy, or at least have someone to talk to. But I'm afraid that I'm just a terrible person. I don't deserve love if that's true. I deserve every bit of sadness I feel.

What if you just think you're a terrible person because you grew up with irrationally hateful people, and because you refuse to open up to anyone else you have no way of knowing it's not true?

I can't trust no one so I can't get attached. And I know I will never fully experience it.

I'd rather work 50 hours a week.

Indeed I am. I've tried to overcome it but it's hard. I just get disappointed in everything. I try to get close to people but it ends up being disappointing, no one really cares. Everyone is concerned about themselves. Just trying to get use to dying alone because that's what the inevitable is

>are you afraid of love and intimacy?
No, just of approaching and that first getting to know awkwardness.
Every time that somehow works, the rest is no trouble at all and nearly happens by itself, be it with RL or friendzone endings.

I don't want to be abandoned again. Time is my only chance at resolve

I wish I could buy a small condo. Instead I have to live my bachelor life in my room in my parents' apartment.

op with the wholesomeness lol

>are you afraid of love and intimacy?
Yes
>where does it come from
I don't know
>do you have a plan to resolve it
I don't know how

>Time is my only chance at resolve
great optimism user. we're all gonna make it

I am. It stems from my mother leaving when I was 4 for a year, and otherwise being neglectful for the rest of my life. It's a subconscious fear that I must be truly broken for something as unnatural as maternal abandonment to occur. The hardest part of it is the fact that I can't reason my way around that. I know that I'm not the reason she abandoned me, but I'll never feel like I'm not.

it sucks when you realize it's not your fault but still feel helpless. i'm sorry user

Yeah, I think it came from my mom used to treat me like a surrogate husband
nothing illegal, she would make me take her on "dates" and be really weird and petty about chivalry, basically force me to be a romantic partner
She did this under the guise of "teaching me how to treat a lady" but it just ended up turning me aromantic

same, every time I get close to somebody, something cosmic fucks up and one of us has to leave, then we just drift apart, lose contact and never speak again. Been six years now since the last one, and i'm still not ready to trust anyone enough to get close to them

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>where does it come from
My parents are in a loveless Asian marriage. It was an arranged marriage. Although, it seemed that my mother may have been enamored by him in the beginning.

>do you have a plan to resolve it
My current gf is very affectionate with me so I am learning to handle it.

love doesnt exist

intimacy is short lived. both dont lead to anything

Strange huh, even when you know a girl is showing interest I still can't bring myself to go to the next level. This stupid inhuman fear of something that simply does not exist, I know that I can only ruin things if I do nothing.

I honestly don't know why I want to suffer. Other people can take the leap of faith, take the risk and I'm stuck here.

This is probably the definition of the NPC meme never wanting to take risks and thus staying in a constant state of melancholy due to lack of achievements.

The only thing that can take of this is actually taking the leap of faith and being vulnerable. If you want to take anti-anxiety meds while you're at it, why not?

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do you have a source for the paintings?

>are you afraid of love and intimacy?
It leads to sex later and I have a really small penis that I don't want anyone to ever see.

How small user?

oarinfg

Like 14cm, but pencil thin. Literal needle dick.

>tfw want to love and be loved back by a gf
>tfw always assume the worst when someone tries to get close because betrayed in the past

I think you've fallen for the dicklet meme user.

I've felt this way long before memes were even a thing.