I'm in my second year of University, but feel like I don't have any friends

Uni was one big fucking lie for 3 years. I thought everyone else on my course were all friends except me; turns out they would all slag each other off behind each others backs and pretend to kiss each others arses to their face.

Youre missing out on fuck all user. Focus on gym, try and get a gf outside of uni and just try to become happy on your own.

When you leave youll return home and never see any of those twats again anyway.

Finish your degree, go get a job, youll be fine.

That's a good point, there are plenty of societies at University.

And yeah pretty much spot on haha.

My flatmates were all nasty people, didn't attend lectures, didn't make that many mates in freshers.

I think I'll give rugby a go next term and see how much I enjoy it. I've got some good mates from football though.

I can always join some proper weird societies in third year/next term I suppose.

>ive got some good mates from football though

Then why the fuck are posting

ah mate sick

THIS is the response I was looking for.

I've become a full time NEET this term but at least I know who my real friends are. Some still make an effort with me, although 90% of them don't.

And yeah mate wtf you're absolutely right, I suppose it applies to sixth form as well (where I didn't have any friends).

None of the cool kids were friends either. They'd just slag each other off behind each others backs.

>I don't have any friends
>Got some good mates from football

So which one is it?

Because they consist of about 3 people that I play football with and that's it. I barely see them outside of that, and I don't really like going to clubs and stuff.

Suppose I shouldn't have said I don't have ANY friends.

But yeah I don't really see them outside of when I'm actually playing football, because i don't like going out, which I haven't done much this term because i'm injured.

Accepting that everyone like that is a fake ass bitch was a big part of growing up. You dont need that sort of negative energy in your life, fuck that.

Tell you whats good, hitting pb's and working on macro nutrient calculations and then watching a fuckton of anime

What do those people do when they're older then? Do they just stay like that, and have the same 'fake person drama' their whole lives?

Any idea what's different about anons in that sense? I've struggled with this for quite a while.

>I'm going to the gym a lot/will start playing football and rugby next term/yoga as well.

thats good, you already took the first steps into your own hands by putting yourself out there and in social context where maybe you get to know a couple of people.

maybe there are more groups or societies you can join where you get into social situations.

Thats exactly what they do. The context just changes as their life changes.

Do you even really want to be friends with these people? Like honestly do you want to spend your time with them?

Yeah that's what I've realised recently. I've spent my whole life trying to get them to do things that i want.

Then I smoked weed on my own for the first time really in about two years because i felt like it. Holy shit it was amazing doing things that I actually wanted while being high.

I watched some funny youtube videos then lay on my bed listening to Pink Floyd. When I asked my housemates to smoke with me we just sat in the living room, I asked if they wanted to watch a film they said no...

I suppose it's part of a root insecurity that I used to have in regards to wanting to be friends with everyone. I'm slowly dealing with that though.

iktf OP, bonded with none of my coursemates, noone from societies, none of my flatmates and noone at freshers the 1st or 2nd time.

Fuck knows, maybe i'm the problem.

I'm in London user, where are you based?

Wanting to be social and feel accepted in social environments is part of human nature.

Like i said just focus on doing things you enjoy on your own, keep positive people and activities around you.

Gotta go lunch breaks over peace nigga good luck

Yes, they stay the same. The bitching, the gossip, the self-absorbed fakery just continues in the workplaces those people move on to.

Anons are no different in the sense that the culture on Jow Forums is just as much of a collection of stagnant, compartmentalised echo chambers as the rest of the internet (and the world at large). Anons are however different in that they are anonymous - there is nothing to be gained by flaunting one's status, and any attempt at doing so is swiftly called out as a lie. Anons are more honest because usual rules of social conduct don't have to be followed here, but I think this honesty also extends to how anons treat themselves - so many normies are just as dysfunctional, anxious and depressed as we are but they are in denial of it and are in too deep in their commitments (such as careers, family etc) to take a step back and change something.

Also to OP, people you see once in a while playing football aren't your "mates". They're acquaintances.

up north mateee

God bless man

Well what are 'mates' then?

Meeting the "right" people is a rare event and people to whom it happens are lucky, it's really a matter of being in the right place at the right time. As much of a cliche as that is, I think cliches are cliches for a reason and are meaningful, it's only because they are so simple and get so often repeated that people tend to be so dismissive of them.

The best you can do as an adult is make an effort in meeting new people and being proactive in keeping in touch with those people and doing things with them (whatever that may be, smoking a j and watching a film, or walking your dogs together, etc). Friendships should then develop naturally - if you're vibing with someone you'll slowly grow closer as you spend more time together. I think in this case it's important to, as they say, "b urself" - it's an unsustainable approach to try put on a persona and engage in activities you don't enjoy for the sake of a friendship because eventually it will exhaust you.

You're not a NEET if you're in education, dipshit.

People who you spend time with, and enjoy spending time with them for no reason other than you enjoying their company. They're also typically the first people you'd share personal successes and troubles with to celebrate them / seek help, they're people whom you aren't afraid to look vulnerable in front of because you trust that they're not going to take advantage of you or dismiss your issues.

im based in north london (zone 2), uni in zone 1 north london. you?

West London Zone 6

What's it like living so central?

Manchester?
Oregano

i lived in central last year (halls). its okay, just expensive i guess. next year i'm either going to move to a 2 bed in shoreditch if my friend goes to uni in london, if not then just a 1 bed further north probably. i quite like my area though, very family orientated.

Sound like what I ended up doing. Been 4 years since I've finished at the time I couldn't wait for it to end. Probably one of the worst times of my life desu

imagine actually going to college in 2018 for anything other than STEM

how are you getting on now that you left? im lucky in that i have work lined up for when im finished so im just riding it out for the last year and a half.

I'm in a similar situation, considering getting a flat next year with a friend who I knew from before uni, but I'm starting to doubt it, especially the constant proximity.

Think I might try and move to Richmond if I can find somewhere cheap enough.

Were you from london before uni?

You should probably get a job, I'm in the same place as you and that's what I'm trying to do right now.

richmond is quite nice but if you're having to commute it can become a pain/expensive. i'm from norfolk, so no, but i prefer city life to the countryside by far.