CW: sex
Hey here's a fun fact (rant):
Sex is just an activity.
It's just people smushing their genitals together, and it's one of many many ways humans might want to spend their time.
It can be great, it can be boring, it can be painful, it can be paid for, it can be abstained from, it can be not wanted, it can be lifechanging, it can be meaningless, it can be hilarious. Just like literally any other activity.
Stop assigning fantastical/spiritual meaning to sex as a whole. Stop assuming everyone has it and wants to have it. Stop pretending 'virginity' exists.
Stop this "sex makes us human and is sacred and intimate and you give a piece of your soul to every person you fuck" bullshit. That may be YOUR personal relationship to sex, but it is not fact, and to pretend it is is harmful in so many ways.
It's harmful to ace folks, sex workers, assault survivors, and particularly women in general since this opinion directly ties to misogyny and the idea of women "losing their purity" when they fuck. It's harmful to men who are taught to seek sex like a prize, whether or not they are ready or informed or even want to have it. It's harmful to queer, trans, intersex and gender diverse folks who might not have the kind of sex you'd expect. It's harmful to people who never have sex and never will, and it's harmful to people who fucked eight guys for breakfast today.
Perpetuating a society that links any kind of personal worth to your sexual activity is FUCKED. I don't care what religion or sex ed or your mum or your yoga teacher or the girl who slut shamed you in high school told you. Stop it.
Sex - whether you have it, how you have it, how much you have, if it's paid for, if you have one partner or a thousand of each gender - has no bearing on your soul, your purity, your integrity, your value as a person, or your humanity.
Normalise the idea that sex is just a goddamn activity