After years of isolation I have finally developed oneitis once more.
My best gal friend is an absolute joy to be around. She's always has something good to say, her laugh & smile brighten my day like none ever before.
We hang out almost every day. She tells me that she loves me. We have maintained that we are best friends though she also mentioned us dating down the line a while back. Since that time she became interested in a few different guys which didn't amount to anything beyond talking and disappointing her.
I want her to know how I feel but I don't want to damage what we currently have by professing my feels and them not being reciprocated. We have a good thing going already.
In the same breath, she drives me wild and the possibility of her feeling the same allost seems worth the risk. If I do nothing, I could lose her to another guy, which would be Xtremely Painful.
You niggers may not be experts when it comes to relationships, but yours in the only opinion I value. Help me weigh the pros and cons, my thinking might be distorted by this piece of poon
Signed, anhedonically depressed beta robot of 10 years
Evan Taylor
Show her nudes and then I'll comment
Noah Taylor
Please be kind robots I my psyche is very fragile I am coming off of my mood stabilizer cold turkey. I know its painful to read and I feel like a huge faggot for posting
Jordan Carter
Honestly, you just be real with her, open a line of dialogue, and make sure she has every chance to back out of the topic, and if needed, move on from the topic if it isn't of interest. It's only awkward if you make it - and it'll only be awkward if you sequester yourself and push these thoughts to the back of your mind every time you guys spend time together.
Oliver Lewis
cont, You can start off by mentioning that she was interested in dating when you guys spoke earlier, and ask her if she's interested in you in that way - don't profess your feelings here yet, it's very much an open experience to see if you're compatible. Nothing is more frightening than a ball of emotions that you have no chance but to stare at once it's blurted out of your mouth. Keep your calm bro, and take it one step at a time. Casual questions.
Jack Turner
Well yeah, you are a huge faggot for posting.
If you want her, then you need to show how interesting your life is completely separate from her. It sounds like you're dependent on her. Major turnoff.
Xavier Cooper
cont.2 what I mean by keeping the topic open - the moment she's uncomfortable about it, or has told you she doesn't want to talk about it, or doesn't have feelings for you, then don't worry, you'll still be friends, and know that that friendship won't go anywhere. As long as you have an open conversation that's non-threatening, there isn't much to worry about.
Jace Lopez
sounds like some normie problems, dont listen to any of us, why the fuck would you trust us? Why the fuck are you even here?
Negative. If she already likes spending time around you, then you can ignore any of the showboating this user is suggesting. Showboating is for insecure cucks that think they need to prove how macho or separate and individual they are when all humans are practically shambling messes under their skin.
Bentley Anderson
See first point in his post, he presumably only has us as a community, and ya' know, sometimes we have to deliver. Here's to happier memories OP.
Joseph Walker
>and know that that friendship won't go anywhere
bullshit, this poor bastard is in love and you think hes gonna believe just one casual conversations and a few poor body signals? No hes gonna be right back in the same place unless he pushes the point, theres gotta be clear conclusion either way.
"the moment shes uncomfortable" okay he has to guess when that is, then somehow interpret that along with all sorts of other signals shes gonna send accidentally or purposely later, and be confident enough that he fucking cuts off his love for her. Hes never gonna know for sure if he missed the signals unless he goes all out.
Telling you now, if his life revolves around her, which it sure seems to, and he's not getting it in then he is wasting his time.
Samuel Edwards
Youre Amazing. Thank you so much user
Duly noted. You think I should not seen her for a day or two? Not text her unless she texts me, that sort of thing. Thanks for not making too much fun of me here
Insult! I have been here since robot9000. I am your brother
Joseph Walker
It's not about not seeing her for a day or two. It's about having an actual life away from her. Actual hobbies etc
Levi Clark
If you act any differently than you already do around her, she'll know something is wrong, and that'll put out the wrong vibes. If she likes you for you, then this is the exact wrong thing to do. Don't pull the whole not talking for a day or two bullshit, it's a trope and doesn't work. Real honesty works the best in relationships, and thing's fall apart if you try to trick her around. Women are smart, and half of the guys on Jow Forums don't give credit to that fact, if you act any differently, she'll catch on, she's not stupid - she's a human being. She obviously means a lot to you, so do it right user.
Wyatt Scott
cont. If you're worried about seeming like you're interesting outside of what you do with her - I would say this isn't exactly a worry right now. Take it one step at a time, in the end, don't fall in love with a fantasy - people only get into relationships if some of their goals align. So - don't be someone you're not. If she likes you for you, then that'll lead to the most long term happiness you will get. You will drive yourself unhappy if you make her fall in love with someone you're not.
Liam Morgan
Just do it. If you don't the pain will eventually consume this relationship anyway. Once you catch feels there's no going back.
Jaxon Stewart
>this don't let the feels eat you up from the inside user
Angel Cooper
Make a move faggot. You want her and it's not going to go away. Either go for it now before it's too late and possibility push her away or wait until it's too late and let it build until it explodes and lose her for certain in the fallout while also destroying the friendship and buring the positive feelings in heartbreak, resentment, guilt, and jealously. Skip the tearful confession of love bullshit and take her to a concert as a date where you can dance close to her or something and tell her she's fucking gorgeous tonight or some shit. Making it clear it's a date is important though, you've got to call it that when you make the plans, she can't be left room to interpret it as anything else. Once you've got her there show your intent with actions more than words. If she shys away from your touch dont force it, just dance with another girl to make her jealous and of she gives you shit then go and make the move again. If she still pushes you away call her out on not knowing what she wants and only then is it appropriate to tell her outright you want her.
Brayden Diaz
This. The other dude he's replying to is a perpetual friendzone beta faggot too scared to stand up for what he wants. You might enjoy being "friends" but you've just got your feels suppressed and it will bite you in the ass eventually. If it all goes south you'll miss the shit out of her and it will hurt every day for awhile but it hurts a whole lot worse pretending you're ok and suppressing shit while she's fucking someone else, especially when he you start hearing her gush about him, he becomes her priority, and she starts blowing you off or is always "busy".
Jaxon Gutierrez
Boom. Anons been dropping truth bombs. Amazing Amazing. There's rarely any good shows that play around here. Fuckin may have to take her to an EDM show Amazing
