How often do you cry? About an hour ago, crushing realization washed over me and I just cried for a while. First time I was capable of crying in probably 6+ years. Is it bad to cry as adult men? Odysseus cried in the Odyssey, and many greek heroes are known to cry. What's your take on it?
Also:
>general feels thread
Post sad pictures and tell your stories.
Posting some random filler to boost thread
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Sometimes I think about this specific image and I realize that we are all this bird, and we're each other's concrete replicas. Even if we argue a lot, disagree on virtually everything and constantly piss each other off, you guys are all I got. Thanks for being there Anons.
I used to cry like once a week or more. But 90% of the time I'm crying for a girl (different one along the years) who isnt even remotely related to me romantically and/or sexually. Yeah, really pathetic right?
I've only cried twice in the last 2 months cause I'm forcing myself to man up
Today was a relapse day, unfortunately, although it was just tears, and not the mess I used to make everytime I cried
I could ask my so called best friend this right now but I'm too frightened of whst the answer might be
Mess you make?
Maybe once every 3 months. Always after watching a touching movie.
Cried over coco, fox and the hound and florida project recently
It's a frightening message to send. I can almost guarantee that if you decide to send it, you'll start on the path to improvement. No matter what the outcome is.
Havent cried since I was about 11. It just doesnt come naturally to me.
boogers probably
Haven't cried in 7 years. Get teary eyed over some things like sad movies and patriotism but that's all. Shed a single digit amount of tears recently over something relatable. But I think its perfectly ok to cry as long as you're not a pussy crying about pussy things and I wish I could do it.
I thought I couldn't too until today. I just broke down, you know?
Holy shit this thread is perfect timing, earlier today was the first time I broke down crying in probably a year or so. I dont know why I just felt so sad and life feels even more meaningless these days. This is a stupid reason but the reason why i started crying is that I realized how I spent the last 4 years doing nothing but studying hard for university and now I dont even give a shit about school. I wasted four years and gave up pretty much all of the hobbies I enjoyed and planned on learning just to get good grades. And now im just a talentless 22 year old and it feels too late to even try and pick up my hobbies again.
Also theres nothing wrong with crying, life sucks friend. Tell me how youre holding up.
Wow I'm pretty much on the same boat. Close to graduating, lost touch with friends and stopped my hobbies. I'm extremely lonely, with nothing to fill my time with.
Hey man could be worse. No hobbies, no school, no friends and never a gf at our age. just working to pay the bills and support my mom who i still live with. count your few blessings and hope you get a job with your degree.
I haven't cried in literal years... like 5 years? I get upset though, sometimes I want to cry because I feel like it will make me feel better but even when I get close my eyes will water up a bit and then just stop. Probably cried over the course of 10 years is less than 10 times, could be less than 5. The closest I've come to crying regularly is when I get sick and my eyes start running/tearing.
Better than feeling like a bitch who cries every other day. I didn't cry for about 4 years prior to this, just in desperate need of any release i guess.
Usually when I cry its something that gives me a sense of meaning. Either tears of longing for something I know ill never have. Something about it gives me a good feeling, not happy, but a sense of appreciation in just how beautiful all the bad things in my life have been. Even if the sum total of my life is a negative experience, and many of the things Ive tried to do have failed, I know just how absurd all of those failures are and how ridiculous shit got blown back in my face. Ive got a knack for attracting diagnosed sociopaths and borderlines into my life only to find out from their loved ones about it after theyve done something awful. I just tend to laugh when bad things happen to me, not because any minor inconvinience is a massive burden but how ridiculously unlikely these bad things are to happen again and again. I cant help but raise my head and ask for more just to see if there is a god out there and tempt his hate. I know there isnt, but its what little enjoyment I can get day after day of finding shallow betrayals of my friends. Everyones got a pity party story here, and I find telling them publically is kind of pointless unless you want pity points. I hope my sentiment resonates with people, because I think it can give you strength in places where you are entirely resentful of existence. The worst thing you can do in an existence of suffering is to allow it to make you a component of that suffering for others. I find that many people when they have something bad happen to them it only becomes an excuse to mistreat others or allow themselves to be a burden to others out of some sadistic thrill of misguided vengeance on people unrelated to their own suffering.
But no, men typically dont cry very often. Its a good mark of a meaningful moment that value can be derived from. So dont let them go to waste.
I've only cried 2 or 3 times in the past 5 years or so. Sometimes I almost start to tear up a little but I seem largely unable to cry for any reason. That being being sad, I almost cried today when watching a video about Satoru Iwata
Last time I cried was when I remembered my dad a few months back
When my father passed away on July 2017 I was crying every single night for 6 months straight. But now I do still but it's randomly, like when hearing Happier by Marshmello.
Its been over 18 months since I truly cried last, and I usually rationalize it with the fact that crying is giving into the stress, it's a sign that you've given up and can't hold it anymore. Last time I cried was when my uncle died, and I haven't had anything that was serious enough to warrant giving in yet. Lots of emotional and mental distress but if i cry it wins, so fuck that.
I cry few times a week because of the inability to be with my waifu. Its better now because I used to cry few times a day because of her
I wish she was only mine. Its hard to love someone who is desired by thousands of other men. I know I love her the most but it always breaks my heart when I see her being claimed by someone else.
God, I wish I could move on and forget about her. I hope this feeling will go away.
Probably 2-3 times a month for me, I work as a paramedic and with all the emotional shit I'm told to just let "roll off me" really builds up after a while and I just cry for 30-45 minutes before going to sleep. It's rough but I love the work, so I usually get through it.
Every day for 3 months since she left me.
What happened bro, if you don't mind talking about it...
I've started keeping tissues near bed now constantly, I can barely go one night without starting to cry violently
She just decided 3 months ago that fights we had years ago were so bad that she didn't want it anymore. 8 years down the drain. She was my first gf and me her first bf. We spent our 20s together, grew up together. Early 30s now and nothing to show for it. She was/is a neet with no rl friends. Gamed since she was young. Mentally we were in sync. We sort of fell in love at first "sight." She was the one who asked if I wanted to be with her.. Being the weirdo shutin that I was I didn't even know how to comprehend it. Anyways.. Where I used to wake up with a smile on my face and excitement for a new day.. I now wake up to a phone with no texts, no missed calls, nothing to look forward to except for drinking myself unconscious repeatedly. Gonna do this until I can find the courage to off myself. I still love her, just as I did when we first said the words to eachother. She still is my absolute everything. I can either live with this and writhe in agony for the rest of my life, or opt out early. Really my only 2 choices.
I cried last mid-October, and June, before those times I hadn't cried in at least a year and a half.
That's a tough spot, I can relate I had a girlfriend through all four years of uni. She felt like my everything everyday and we split each other apart from her telling White lies to get away from me... Maybe I smothered her with my issues or something but I was so hurt from being lied to I left. Sometimes I still feel like a fucking ass because she only got hotter and seems like she's doing amazing now.
But time heals all wounds wether it's a few months or years. I know it's empty right now but you'll pick up the pieces and find happiness bro. We all will at some point.
It's fine to cry, I feel like you have to let your emotions out every now and again
Iktf
I'm staying up until like 5 am every night for months now
Not reading or watching anything, just staring at the ceiling
It took me a while to realize that subconsciously I was still waiting for her to say goodnight
>How often do you cry?
It used to be rare, but ever since my took his own life I have a cry every few months it feels like. I'm working hard to improve my life, but the realization that my dad, one of most important people in my life, couldn't find a reason to go on weighs on me heavily.
It doesn't help that it's the holidays which only intensifies these feelings.
What if I told you we spent all those years long distance and we both were hkhv. Spent all our time talking to eachother. 24 hours a day. She didn't have a job, and I was financially stable without one, too. We were both too chickenshit to go see eachother so we made up for it with camming and whatnot. Some random guy is going to experience with her what we dreamt for with eachother for all those years. That's what haunts me. I went to see her a month or so after the breakup and.. We got along, laughing having a good time but nothing came of it. The regret I feel for not manning up and spending those years with her in person. I bought a ring and sold my place to go move close to her. To find a place together. She broke it all off soon after without even knowing what I had done. Told her, she essentially said "that's horrible but you'll figure things out." At this point she has me completely cut off. Like I said, drinking to fight the sobering reality that I lost my soulmate.
Go out and stay in some place where other people are around
Ask friends to come over
Spend some time with them
You're not alone user
Have you ever received affection from someone you didn't like?
Life's like that most of the time, a bit off putting.
whatever you fucking tranny
my mom abandoned me and my little brothers when i was still a small school boy. then my father and his abusive girlfriend, who hit my little brother more than i can count, took me in. after getting old enough i ironically also left everyone behind, havent had contact with anybody from the family, no drive for anything, no self esteem and life is only getting uglier. so yeah i sometimes cry
About once every month. Something I see or hear reminds me of how guilty I feel for being a worthless NEET and I can't help it.
Better to cry than to repress your emotions and let them fester in depression or rage or drown them in drink.
I never used to really cry until my best friend took his own life in June.
It's been almost daily since September when I finally started grieving.
The tissues on my bed aren't for whacking off.
Four, five times a month, usually in bursts of 2-3 times in a week, once or twice a month.
I usually cry in the car, I have a long commute, and don't have much else to do in there, so if I can, i try to hold together until I can at least get into my car.
Sometimes I cry in the shower or in bed, but I only cry in the shower when it's really bad. The shower is an important place of thinking that i don't like to give up, usually.
I had a breakdown not too long ago after I realized I was not good looking. I cried at my hopelessness because I soo badly wanted a cute girlfriend but now I am going to have to make due with fat and ugly girls.
I can't cry, I don't find the energy to cry, I feel sad, but I can't. Last time I cried was 5 years ago when the girl I liked told me that she viewed me as a pathetic virgin scum and that I don't deserve any kind of love. That time I cried because I felt like the only hope of me getting someone that really loved me was gone. And since then I have felt pretty much empty
I feel like there is no way a girl said that to you. It just seems really unlikely even if its a stacy, girls are not that cold.
She didn't told me directly, she texted a guy that I used to talk to in that time and she told him what she was thinking of me, after that he showed me the conversation and then that girl told me that it was true, and that was the way that she thinner of me, I look at it now and it seems stupid but somewhat I still feel empty
I havent cried in 6 years. I feel like i've lost that part of my humanity.
crying is for fags lol
i only cried when i was a little bitch and my dad was yelling at me but he's dead now so it doesn't even matter
The last time I cried was 6 years ago when the dog I grew up with died
You were a good boy, Lancelot
I feel like I'm about to shed tears pretty much every other day, but I usually suppress my feelings. It happens when I think about my life for more than 5 seconds, because it's extremely depressing. I once made my (male) therapist cry after actually letting out hard about myself for 15 minutes and it was only our second session. When I do cry I usually still try to keep quite to avoid embarrassing myself and annoying others.
The day I tried to kill myself two years ago was the only time since childhood I let myself cry the hardest, screaming and all. It sure felt great.
I cry sometimes. Not too often though. I wish I could cry more, in these past few years after really crying my heart out it was more of a mental respite and feeling good afterwards than doing hard drugs. Try to cry more, it's not for fags
Damn user, you seem like an okay guy, I hope you get out of the rut, I can only imagine what shit you must have gone through if you made a therapist cry. Hold on tight brother
Can you tell us some things about your life?
Didnt use the right word, I usually ran out of air and ended up sounding like a drowning hyena while crying, plus punching stuff, feeling my lungs kind of oppressed, and an aching throat. And of course , boogers.
But last night it was just tears
I might even do it, but oh the possible regret afterwards
Two years. I can't cry due to ability
t.schizo
As someone so sends short texts hours later its just a bad habit i guess i do it to literally everyone it doesnt mean i dislike you at all. Its just because i dont have an answer at the time and then i just put off responding.
I dont cry user, I bottle up rage instead and wait for my family to leave the house and start screaming like a banshee and headbutting the concrete wall.
Thats not the case with my friend right now tho. I have the strong feeling she keeps talking to me out of pity and nothing else. Things are just not the same anymore. Even if she replies "on time" its like she avoids me
I just don't enjoy things anymore and keep facking up basic tasks at the lab which I studied for.
If you want a more open relationship with your friend send the message and let your feelings be heard user.
Thanks made, I appreciate it a lot. I'm very lonely and the people who do know me kick me while I'm down.
Currently 21, diagnosed with depression when I was 8. My family has a history of harsh mental illness. My older sister killed herself when I was 14 and it fucked me up beyond repair. I am considered a 100% crippled by the state due to my wide range of mental health issues (depression, OCD, social anxiety, unidentified psychotic disorder, suspected high-functioning autism, suspected schizophrenia). I am living alone off of welfare, my parents despise me and disowned me. My younger brother abuses my regularly and occasionally steals money from me and I'm slowly dying in my own filth.
Also, this is all my fault.
in the same boat as you pretty much, also 22, also wasted the past 4 years
>Also, this is all my fault.
How?
ive cried 4 times in the 7 years ive been depresser all ot those times were very early in the cycle and now i dont have the fucking energy to cry, doesnt help that my parrot died recently and he always conforted me when i felt like shit
I don't cry often because I don't think I deserve to feel bad about myself, but sometimes when I start thinking back on my shitty life I have anxiety attacks and then I cry. last time was about 2 days ago for about a minute, time before that was 2016, can't remember the time before that.
You read/hear about repressed memories a lot but never really think about your own life in that way, but then when one pops up you start to realize why you are the way you are, about 3 years ago I suddenly remembered that my childhood was fucking weird. Got coaxed into routinely performing sexual acts at age 5 with a friend who was 8, then his friend who was 13 wanted to do stuff with me aswell, horrible stuff looking back on it, no wonder I'm generally hypersexual.
becoming proficient at hiding your true self is a must for someone like me it seems, I don't think a single person in my family knows I've been depressed for literally 8 years, age 14 and onward, my outgoing image (in my household, I haven't been actively leaving my house since I finished a year of college 4 years ago) is that I'm mentally stable and a standardly happy person.
been planning on killing myself for so long now, was waiting for my mother to die to do it but I think it might just happen when my dog passes
to add to this (sorry for the life stories)
It doesn't help that my family can't realize this on their own, it's been too long now for me to open up because of the image of myself I built up over the years. you might think this is bullshit but I opened up to them about my literally crippling anxiety (haven't gone to a barbers for a haircut in 4 years because of it) and they didn't believe me.
They love me, and I love them, but they love a different person than the actual me
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Glad I could cheer you up just for a bit.
And no, it is not your fault. You may have to battle some of your demons until the end of your life, but there is a huge amount of people who led fulfilling lives while doing that. Your depression might stay in the back of your mind and come out from time to time, but it is not an inescepable situation. I haven't had any traumatic events like that so I'm sorry if you think I'm larping but I did develop severe OCD caused by depression and it is repairable.
But first, you need to understand that it is not your fault. Watch Good Will Hunting.
I am aware that you are in an absolutely shitty situation and that it will take extreme strenght of will and a bit of luck to get out of it all, but you can still make it user.
Anyone who has ever beaten real depression, or at least learned how to control it and continue with their life will tell you that the time after retaking control is a state of bliss and that hardly anything can beat it.
You're still young. It's not all over.
>Odysseus cried in the Odyssey, and many greek heroes are known to cry. What's your take on it?
greeks were raging homosexuals, though.
I just don't. I don't even remember when I cried the last time. The last time I cried was probably around the time I played the 3rd Ace Attorney game. Godot had such a shitty life and only wanted to be with his waifu, it actually made me fucking cry a little bit and I don't remember crying because of many other games, only when I had nostalgia trips. I hate how something like that made me shed a few tears but my dog dying did nothing to me and neither did the death of a relative. I'm probably just too egoistic to care about anything other than me and things that remind me of myself.
I have bottled up my emotions so much that i can't even cry anymore.
oof
i've had to ask every single one of my "friends" this question before hahaha
unironically forever alone.
I cry with my girlfriend when she's sad or when I know she's in a bad way. I like it. It feels better afterward.
Just do it, brother. I never managed to go through with it and day by day it hurts more being alive. It's been a decade for me now and though I have a semblance of a life and a career, the spark in me is long since gone. You can still have awesome experiences and life does go on, but it really isn't worth it in the end.
I don't cry anymore. I just sink into my mind and cease to exist. I kinda just, space out.
Never. 18 now and haven't properly cried since I was 12/13. Not because I think I'm a hardened badass or anything, I just can't force myself to be emotional over much, and when I am "emotional" it tends to be displayed as anger instead.
Labs can be incredibly stressful places. What's your area of work?
I used to cry wishing I hadn't been born when I was an edgy teenager
Then I was THIS close to ending it but pussied out and the thought of my loved ones grieving my death crossed my mind
I can't do that to them, they don't deserve it
I hate living but I'd rather give them a tale that doesn't end with "and then he killed himself"
Nowadays every greentext or story about a parent grieving the loss of his child brings me to tears easily