I'm Unhappy

I'm unhappy Jow Forums and I have no reason to be.

I'm a 22yo investment banker in the US. I'm 6'3, ~170lbs with dirty blonde hair and blue eyes. I have a good family and a few good friends who I game with regularly. By all metrics on paper I should be happy, but I feel unfulfilled filling my free time with nothing but netflix, video games, and lifting.

The people who I interact with regularly are vapid or greedy and all of the women in my area are either gold-diggers or too career-driven. Meeting random girls on tinder or at bars has been a bust for the same reasons, nothing excites me about random hookups. Where do I find a good, cute, loyal woman who inspires me to be a better person? Do I just give up and look around eastern europe for some qt3.14 to save?

>inb4 chad/normie

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>22yo
>has job, gf, money, status, etc ++ lmao

10 year old baiter or actual pepega

Never said I had a gf. That's the whole point. Wouldn't know how to give proof besides answering finance-related questions. Not going to dox myself

>mfw he thought having money, good genetics, friends, vidya, etc will make him happy
best laugh all day

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Don't get me wrong, I'm not miserable, just feeling like something is missing. I've put a lot of sweat equity to get to where I am today, but I feel directionless.

you have dperession, go get an SSRI and get the fuck off this bored, normie.

I never understood how people can be successful at such a young age. When I was 22, I had my high school diploma, studied CS for 5 Semester which I hated and dropped out and I'm now 25 and study something again.

Many of my friends are also like that without any kind of direction because their fathers were always away to work and therefore got cuddled and didn't developed any kind of skill that would help them in future careers.

The most successful people I know had at least a mediocre success around age 35. But stuff like that I read here, being a 22yo successful investment banker? Never saw shit like that in real life.

Sorry, just wanted to contribute my view to those kind of threads, wish you luck OP!

I was lucky that I knew what I wanted to do early on in college, it was just a matter of making myself a good candidate. I know people who are my age and making more than me working in CS, never interested me though.

My life has been pretty structured up until this point with one goal after another, but now it feels emptier and the people around me more fake.

No, I mean in general, almost no one I know had any clue about anything because of the same problem: mom cuddled them so much they didn't developed valuable interests or skills in their puberty.

Well, one of my friends is a successful artist at age 22 who makes also millions with shitty plush toys, but he is a one in a billion exception and he got successful with something for which other people end in low paying slave jobs or get fired, so he lucked out, which is something you get successful in the artistic direction anyway, purely through luck.

If you are 22 in investment banking you are an intern.

Graduated from college a semester early. Been working at a MM IB in the SE for a few months. Most first year analysts are 22-23

So an intern. Good luck. Most burn out and quit in the first 3 years.

>I'm a 22yo investment banker
Bullshit
You are an analyst maybe.
Probably just an intern.
>others are vapid
I am sure all the mathematicians are opaque to you

We men are slaves of our biology.

It is impossible to be happy as a virgin incel, no matter how many friends, status, money or experiences you have. It all boils down to satisfying your genes desire to reproduce, everything else is cope.

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>I'm a 22yo investment banker
lol you're not an investment banker you are lowly analyst or a larping faggot

t. Associate in BB

Would you rather I have described myself as an investment banking analyst rather than just an investment banker? Happy to answer any questions that wont dox me, thanks for your input amigo.

The quants are good people (read: autistically smart but keep to themselves), but haven't interacted with them much. They're normally sucked straight into prop trading shops where they sit until they flip to HF.

nice man, proud of u

>eastern European

please don't fall for this meme. I have lived in Cyprus all my life where most of the foreign people are Eastern European or Asians. They are the most vapid non-traditional gold diggers you will ever find. Same with South East Asians. All they'll do is marry you to get citizenship then divorce you or make your life a misery

you're still very young(not trying to excuse any mental pain you're feeling), which I just wanted to get out there, so you don't need to rush into anything. also no don't do antidepressants as many suggested, as you've got the ball rolling already(only use it as a last resort if you're a completely broken person) -- remember, men don't hit the wall even in their 30s, unlike women.

also yes, no matter how good our cycle can be, that emptiness inside will still persist, you've realised that. the eastern european girl thing isn't such a bad idea, however, you don't need to go that far yet. what you should do to find a girl, is to find her through something else, through a hobby(which should benefit yourself too) just try things and explore; finding yourself at your age is more important. finding girls out in the wild they usually contain baggage and problems, which you don't need. finding a girl with mutual interests will ease you, which you'll want to better yourself and grow.

tldr; don't rush things as things are going pretty well for yourself, just let it happen as you continue on finding yourself, as you seem almost ideal for most. you don't want to be wasting time in and out of relationships, depleting money and energy. so tame that rush.

>investment banker
found the problem

some guys are like this. it also baffles my minds. some people are just way more successful career-wise.

>Where do I find a good, cute, loyal woman who inspires me to be a better person?

When you preface your question with this statement:
>By all metrics on paper I should be happy, but I feel unfulfilled filling my free time with nothing but netflix, video games, and lifting.

I guess what I have to ask is, what makes you think that being with another person will make your life better?

He's not successful (yet). He's an intern.

Alright, I'm going to lay it down for you. First of all, you need to ask yourself this question: What really, truly, unironically matters in life? And even more so, what matters to you specifically? How do you want to live your life? And what do you need to do to be happy?

Obviously if you have the answers to those questions, then your path is set. If you do not have those answers, then you need to find them. Here is a fork in the road, though. I could either tell you the objective answers, or I could tell you how to do your own investigation to find out more for yourself.

If you are more of a "I want to find my own answers", then the best shortcut for that is probably Ayahuasca. Go to Peru for a week or something and make sure that you explore both your inner mind and the outer reality of everything. For instance, this kind of testimony should mean a great deal for someone looking for the answers: youtube.com/watch?v=YqsdCqKQCLU

If you are more interested in just finding out the "pure answers", then I suggest studying what near-death experiencers (NDErs) have to say about the meaning life and the nature of the afterlife, and why we are all here voluntarily. An extreme summary of their message is roughly this: The purpose of life is threefold. First, it is to just enjoy it for whatever it is. Secondly, it is do whatever you want with it. And thirdly, to learn to love and to become a better being on the inside. This world is extremely imperfect, so learning to be amazing in a challenging world is definitely a challenge. But the person who is infinitely loving, kind, accepting, forgiving, etc., while being tortured, will quite literally explode from happiness in a better world.

Be as unconditionally loving towards everyone and everything as you possibly can be. That is ultimately why you chose to come to this planet. And do whatever else you want with your life, and don't let society and peer pressure tell you what to think and how to live.

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Unsure why you have a stick up your ass. What age do you think most people graduate from college at? Other people in this thread are actually being helpful.

Mate, I don't even have a college degree and I'm 3 years older than him, for me, OP is successful.

Nice brag now fuck off normalscum

>humblebragging
can we stop doing this

I think people are just pointing out facts and you're getting mad. If you are 22, you are not getting paid 6 figures, and you are not a hotshot. You're at the lowest rung of the totem pole. If you are still in investment banking at 30 then you can start calling yourself successful.

This is why you never buy into the money meme. Financial stability to chase happiness is as far as you can really get.

Nothing will "excite your fancy" like finding someone you truly love. Who the hell cares about random hook-ups, those are a diamond dozen.

You're unhappy because you were never content to linger in the valley of half-measures and partial fulfillment. This is the next stage in your growth, a yearning for love. When love comes into your life, unrecognized dimensions of your destiny awaken and blossom and grow.

It is strangely ironic that the world loves power and possessions. You can be very successful in this world, be admired by everyone, have endless possessions, a lovely family, success in your work, and have everything the world can give, but behind it all, you can be completely lost and miserable. If you have everything the world offers, but do not have love, you are the poorest of the poorest of the poor. Every human heart hungers for it. For if you do not have the warmth of love in your heart, there is no possibility of real celebration or enjoyment.

I don't think your life is as cold as this, and I'm glad you have friends and family at the very least. Friendship is the grace that warms and sweetens our lives.

i don't feel any pity for you. maybe stop being an ungrateful cunt and you will feel better

What other things would you like to fill your life with? When you have time and money anything's possible. You could write, learn to draw and paint, go hiking, collect things from a series you like, craft things, etc. If you're just sitting idly then of course you're going to feel like garbage.

Also OP, if you're feeling lonely I'd be happy to chat. My discord is Doge#9836. Maybe it'll help you feel a little bit better?